Topic: my mum want to make a lot of money, money can fix everything, me hurt not import (Read 404 times)

i re-read the OP and all of his responses again..
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and my first opinion last week was that his mother would not let him use the income he generates to repair the truck so he can work more to earn more to progress the family without the risk,
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but now after re reading all his responses he seems to be trying to find excuses to give up earning money at all.. thinking that working just for a clean house and meals is not worth it.

he is not interested in idea's on how to convince his mother the truck needs repairing. he just wants to state that the truck is the reason he should stop going to work and how his mother tells him to keep working

i think the OP is new to adulthood and doesnt realise all adults should be generating an income.
stop blaming the mother for telling him to work. and just plan how to overcome his own objections like the supposed risk to life(by fixing the truck) and then work continuously to progress the families prospects

reading his other topics. he talks about blaming his youtube entertainment obsession for raising his dopamine levels to not feel pain, meaning he has no excuses to take it easy and stop working. he wants the pain so they he can have reason not to work

doesnt he realise people even if he pretends to have a bad leg. there hare people with no legs at all that still work.. so dont play games acting like a bad leg is reason not to work or a bad car...

jsut get the truck fixed and work your life into prosperity

Op may not have written his thread in the sound of the event happened. He may have done it out of his reaction. Reading the thread, you'd think Op's mum is raising her voice on OP every single time, which may not be true. And we all are expected to respond to the thread using the same tone Op added to his write up. But the fact remains that we are not presently in the place where this occurs. Women, especially mothers repeat complaints to their kids in a way that now sounds harsh to the child. They wouldn't allow you a breathing space. In all conversations, she'd endeavor to bring up the same matter you've been thinking of solving all night long. It now gets to an extent where the child gets fed up with too many complaints and starts to react angrily, as the conversation with his mom pisses him off, and when sharing his experience he'd then try to off all the stress the mother's complaints has been causing him.

I think it's one reason OP's tone on his mum sounds like he's got a helicopter parent that doesn't give him freedom. From the context of his writing OP happened to be the good son who wouldn't say anything when his mum is talking. But, it would have been better if OP mentioned the risks of driving a broken-down truck on the streets. Mothers don't seem to understand risks, they want to get what they want regardless of anything and imagine all would be right. Hence, risking the life of the child, however, no situation is worth rushing. I'd advise Op not to rush things, and act whenever he feels like it because he's the one at risk, not the mother. If anything bad, God forbid, happens, his mum would also feel a greater pain. For the love, always give her listening ears, then make plans on how you can solve the problem. Remember don't stress yourself a lot, if the problem seems to be bigger than you, which I don't think so, look for different tasks to keep you busy.

It's a very very weird topic, and a very very weird message. I have to say that something that we need to focus on and we need to do a lot better personally. Lets assume that this is not really a thing that should matter and we could consider this as real message and I believe that we should not consider the problems of people as fake, but if we take it for real then if she is telling you to make some more money then it's probably not for greed but because you do need money, and it's true that everyone needs money.

If the truck is the issue, find some extra work and you should not really focus on the truck and find some other odd jobs and make that money somehow and it will definitely benefit you, then you can fix the truck and do better.

In our subject, it's not just any other people but it was the OP's mom. With that said, they are in the same shoes. The OP's position is driver, and her mom understands or already knows this. This is why she is commanding the OP to drive the truck. OP didn't say that her mom is only going to use the money for her personal needs but it is said the money will be used to fixed everything. Therefore, I think her mom also cares about him.

It's just that the truck condition isn't good and it's dangerous to continue using it. All can make a mistake, but each deserves a chance, especially if the person has a special connection to us. For now the OP needs to disobey his mother and fix the truck first.

sometimes people don't understand our position because they are not in the same shoes as us. they only care about their interests and problems, they don't care about us as the people they expect to work with. all they expect is how we can complete the work without asking how we are or how we can complete the work. people like this are selfish and actually not worth working with.

i understand that your mother needs money and has many things to pay for, but isn't your safety more important than the money? if she feels that your safety is not important and is more concerned with how you can make money, she has actually lost the motherly figure within her.

It's obvious that your mother is blinded by the power of money. Although it's undeniable that money is the most in demand basic commodity these days, but we should also realize that not everything can be bought with money, like safety and security. You only lived once so make sure to value your life and protect your safety over the greed for money. Most probably, a heart to heart talk with her can resolve the issue.

They say mother knows everything and mother knows best for their children. But based on what you've shared OP, its like your mother turns the opposite. But everything will work and change for the better, as long as you both understand each other's feelings and situations.

I think and on the other hand after all it is your mother, and she has the right to tell her son to help her in any way including earning money for living needs or to pay for something maybe. Are you the only child in the family? If you are then I would consider it normal because no one else can do it except you as the only son.

On the other hand I understand that the situation is quite stressful for you and maybe you feel a little uncomfortable with your mother's will, but the other thing is that I think this is a must that you have to do, only the truck seems to be the only tool for your family to earn money so it is quite natural I think if your mother insists on telling you to immediately operate it to earn money, On the other hand, I think in this case there is a bit of a concern for your safety in that the truck you have is not qualified or suitable for driving, and I think you can explain that to your mother by saying that safety is more important, and after that you can fix it first and then you can start operating it if it is suitable for use.

That's your mum, how old are you and your mum is? It seems that she needs money so give that to her, is it going to be a long drive? If you can't agree to her then ask her a bit portion of that money that she'll earn. It's not going to hurt you to ask since you are her son.
Anyway, I am guessing that this drive and earning money for both of you have been done already. So, if it was a city drive then it was manageable but if it was a long drive then you have to do all of the repairs and ask her to cover some of it since she has used it for some business.

Does your mom has a lot of loans that she's being buried already and need to pay all of them? Because I don't see any reason why she needs a lot of money, or else she's having a high greed for money which I think is not good at all. And for that to make it happen, you have to compromise your safety over the last money you can get despite of the danger that could happen to you if she insist you to ride with that old truck.

What you need to do is to talk to her seriously. There's no other solution to that so she will stop nagging you for that last money. Money can still be gained in the future, but life doesn't have a rewind so make sure to live your life well. Safety first over love of money.

It doesn't sound like the job you have driving this truck guarantee you a lot of money in counterpart, otherwise you would have extra money to repair everything on your truck. Maybe it's time to find another job? A safer one! Isn't there anything else you can do to bring income to your family?

Health and physical integrity are always above money and material goods! These are the most precious treasures and gifts we received from God! If your task is potentially harmful to your life, don't do this! However, it can't be used as an excuse to not work on something else. It's not a reason to remain in a comfort zone expecting the world around you will solve all your problems magically.

Explain to your mother you can't work with the truck, because it's damaged, potentially damaging you as well. But tell her you are going to look for side jobs and other opportunities on the local jobs market you can make an income from. Also, you can say you are open to suggestions...

And let it clear you will do the best you can under your currently limits and possibilities. Forget about that bullshit of having to make a lot of money.

I think the reason is the money itself, we know that this world runs on money, so if you lack it financially you will probably suffer a lot. People don't value their life or the others cause they are still there, they know that you won't be leaving this world any time soon so they are being careless. We should not let our guard down as accidents may occur at times, which I hope not, but eventually will come so we need to be ready and try to be cautious every time. From OP's post, we know that a parent should know what is best for their children and would do anything for their safety, I understand that having a financial problem is hard, but it would be better to prioritize the lives of your loved ones

From what I understand, you both have the truck but because she wants money to fix things, she is asking that you drive the truck to make money. Well, I can’t say much on this because I don’t know how much the truck generates for you guys, but if the money is too small, look out for other legit means of making money. The word today has increased opportunities (I think), so, you can learn a new skill that is in demand and be valuable with it. Hopefully this is something that can help you.

Getting money is hard these days I know but one should not enhance his desire so much that he ruin his life to earn money. Money comes and goes but life of a person if once end then it never comes back.

Some People never think about the life of others but wants money, I don't know why there give such importance to money instead of humans. If they start honouring human instead of money then this world will be a great place to live.

If a child share all these circumstances to his mother politely then may be she understands this matter and then not put burden on his child. There are lots of other ways of earning so try to adopt another one but don't play with your life.

Ignorant of acknowledging when one is going wrong is always accompanied with excuses and usually unrepairable if one is not sighted and endivoired to understand its paths.
Mom could be right or wrong but deep in, you know way Is right to do.

Money can fix everything but not at the detriment of yourself and others to make it happens because nobody gets all the money in life at a stretch.

Tell your mom to calm down that you and her can't risk you both life because of how desperate she is to make money. Is someone that has life will hustle for money not the way round when someone has lost his or her life in a mistake that would have simply avoided.

My suggestion to you at this time is to keep telling your mum that the truck is not in order and there is no way someone would risk his or her life on it because of the belief that money can fix everything. Life should come first before money

It is not that your mother is doing anything bad. She is actually highlighting the reality. It is not possible to do anything for money. As life goes on, money is no substitute. But you should work hard knowing the goal. You should not get involved in any work in the dark.

To hell with it all...!!!
"Money is not everything, but everything needs money. And it's true that money can't guarantee us happiness, but when you don't have a certain amount of money, it's hard to live a happy life, let alone smile. So earn as much money as you can."

A mother certainly wants the best for her child's life. And a mother who is not financially well-off, they really hope that one day their child can change the family's condition financially, so that their life can be secured. But it is difficult for us to get happiness, if the measure of happiness is the happiness of others. Because I also feel quite uncomfortable and a little annoyed when my mother tries to compare me with other people's children. Even though I have tried to do my best for her. It's just that in the process I often fail. And I really hope that when I fail, I get a support system from my mom, not comparing me to other people. It just made me even worse.

you fear for your life but still not willing to repair the truck..
do you see how you are not helping yourself

repair the truck.. get on with your life and prosper by doing more jobs without avoiding jobs due to fear.

repair the truck. it will pay you back later with more risk-free jobs. economically and socially its a win win

risking my life away? can I deny it? I had experienced near dead circumstance not once but twice! I was nearly commit a deadly accident due to brake system failure on the road down the hill, I was so shocked I was able to survive by avoiding falling down the hill to my death, but would I do that again? of course not! Not only I survive the near-dead-accidents, I'm also in denial that I didn't dead but someone else close to me dead instead during the lockdown, just like in a war where the dead soldier die for us by taking the bullets while allowing the remaining soldiers to live through tomorrow, this is chaos, a total chaos, words cant explain the military complex we experience today! which make the sub-prime crisis look like a total pebble in comparison.

ok then do nothing and just cry like a baby about how your mother wants to work you to death or risk your death just driving to work
you are driving yourself to be bottom by doing nothing

if you dont want the truck fixed, then fine.. just dont complain and blame.
if you are working then, the money is handed to YOU from the customers. if YOU then hand it to your mother but dont get things fixed to allow YOUR life/business to prosper while the funds are in your hand. YOU are the one enabling your mothers behaviour, no one else

if you are not interested in fixing your business tools, and instead prefer to feed your mother. then YOU will drive yourself to the bottom

doing concession and all the shady thing in life? this is really not my cup of coffee btw, I want to live a productive life not going to do the trivial thing in life for what? for clean house and cooked meal, is it really worth it to race to the bottom?

Not all people have enough money for their daily usage and needs even though its a must for some changes and needs to be fixed, they just check it out if still capable and then afterward if still can they will neglect this for a while because it's not their priority to have this. We have different perspective in terms of parenting some people tell not it's the parent obligation to have support still with their children but somehow people keep saying once the children ready meet the matured age they must need to provide on their own because this serve as a lesson to their life and not become dependent to the people.

It's all depends on how to approach with the situation. If you leave with your parents it's a must you need to work and contribute to your house or if your solo you must provide all the things on your own.

Honestly, I'm quite sad to hear that there are still many parents out there who force their children to earn money for them, even though parents should be the ones who are responsible for their children until they are adults and really able to make money, but do you just live with them? just your mother, if yes then it is actually very natural for you to be responsible for your parents including your mother, you have to take more initiative and not be lazy so that you can make money very sincerely.

animal do animal thing. huh? but why. is wife always do this too??? why blackdragon is so frustrated?

I think your mother is too much. But that's how a mother is, she always encourages her child to continue working and earn money for life's needs. Especially if the family's economic situation is not good. So whether it's rain, heat or storm, it certainly won't be able to stop someone from continuing to make money. Therefore, it seems like you have to be able to strengthen your mentality. Because if the conditions are very, very unfavorable, your mentality and patience will definitely be tested.

Money is good but it can't fix everything there's the side that is psychological and emotional aspect that money cannot touch. I don't know but your mom and you because your values systemare different. You can help your mom fix her value system and help her have a better understanding about money and the physical and psychological aspect surrounding it.

I believe money is not everything but with lots of money, you can do almost everything. And probably this is where your mother is getting her mindset. But the worst thing is, you are her only way to make it happen, and it's sad to say that money is more valuable to her than the safety of his son. But maybe if you open your concerns to her, she will also learn to adjust and prioritize you more than her longing for money.

Safety over the greed for money. If you can explain it well to her, she might probably change her way of treating you, heart to heart talk is what you both need the most for now.

It sounds like you're feeling a sense of frustration and perhaps unfairness in the situation. It's important to find a balance between meeting family expectations and taking care of yourself. By having open communication and working together, you may be able to find a solution that ensures both financial stability and personal safety. If the situation becomes overwhelming, consider seeking guidance from a counselor or mediator who can offer support and help facilitate the conversation.

I still sense some kind of emotional pressure on your words. However, don't let yourself be propelled to do what may hinder or cause an accident. Your mom wants you to drive a scabbed truck, what if the truck got spoilt in the middle of the crossroad what would be your faith at that moment. I would say it is risky, money is important but at this stage she needs your more. Gradually save up some money and fix the truck then you can go out and make some money for the both of you.

Let your mom do it for you. If she is always after with the money and profits, and your safety is her last priority, then she is not a good and responsible mother in the first place. However, judging your mother is not my thing, but if she is nagging you to drive the truck knowing its bad condition, then you might lost your life in the process just to save for that one last money.

Not all risks should be given consideration to be taken. Sometimes you also have to evaluate it first before you decide to take the risk. But with your situation right now, you are putting your life in danger if you follow your mother's order, so tell her without offending her that this time, you have to save yourself first than to regret it later.

What I understand from the story is, you want to make your personal money by working on your own and not the one your mum is forcing you to. And if that's the story like then I will also support you because there nothing like making your personal money to support yourself and not depending on parents or spoon feeding from them. Because you will not stay with them forever so earlier is the best. But I will advise since your mum has a truck, you have to start from there because definitely she will give you small amount of money at the end of every trip.

And when you have gotten some reasonable amount then you can use it to start your own business and live independent life. Everyone start from somewhere.

Accidents do not care for the victim, and the good plans they have before they meet the accident. Mum believes that nothing will happen to you, but that can be wrong, she can be wrong because you can die in the process of trying to make that one last money, and instead of having more money to fix problems, there will now be more problems that require money. Safety is necessary to be considered every time and the risk should always be considered while trying to make money. Not all risk are worth taking because some can actually take your life.

I feel so bad about you cause honestly I was in the same position as you were a few years back.

The nagging and the constant feeling of making you feel like you should be listening to them instead of taking care of your welfare is just something you can't bear sometimes. In your case, I say you should look into fixing said truck first, no matter how much it would cost since at the same time, your mother should know as much that taking care of your main source of income should be paramount at this point. You inform her that if she wants you to keep driving the truck on her behalf, she must fork money enough for the truck to be fixed cause at the end of the day this would prolong the truck's lifetime anyway and would help with making sure that you guys stay afloat.

At this point you can't leave her alone, she's still your mom, but if you guys want to stay together and afloat, a lot of compromise and talking to will be required.

That's for you to decide already, between your own safety or one's profits. But of course, you have to think your own welfare first, you can make money almost all the time but you can never get back your life again once it's already gone. If your mother still insist to drive the truck, then I hate to say this but tell her to drive it for her own self so she can realize how risky for your life is if you decide to keep driving a malfunctioned one.

Sometimes, we need to be heard out also than just trying to follow a single person's orders all the time. We are responsible for our own life, so at least your mother will be able to realize your safety first over money and greed.

play your mothers insecurities against her

imagine you do landscape work at $30 an hour for 7 hours a day ($210)
you can get unbranded inexpensive tyres for $50 each ($200 total)

so on monday you do the work get the money but instead of going home you drive to a garage
you phone your mother and say you are stranded, the tyres finally blew and a garage quoted:
"tow truck callout $150, tyres $100each totalling $550' but then say
that you had a smart idea you can push car to a garage you seen that will fit cheap tyres for $200 total

and although it means no spare income today it makes truck better to do extra jobs tusday-friday to make up for it

thus you are making her feel like you are saving her money and putting the effort in pushing a truck for miles
(but shh she wont know the truth)

then next week get a real quote for coolant fix. but also ask what the worse cost if not fixed and radiator/engine finally blows
then next week call your mother with another sob story about being stranded and getting the worse quote but you can get truck to a garage for the lesser quote

again explaining how a more reliable truck can mean you can regain losses by working more jobs for the rest of the week in a vehicle you no longer fear

Don't question your parents, they did everything they could to get you where you are today, who knows what they would have scarified to get you the education you had or the life you had to make you the person you are today. She might be wrong in what she tell you to do but don't challenge her to her front, if the truck is bad take it for repairs yourself without letting her know. At time it could be that she knows the truck is bad but her way of telling you to repair it, is to tell you to drive it. Parents don't like giving information directly, they speak in parable and expect you to understand them.

She needs you to work for the money, at least she understands the power of money. Money is very important in the society and when you have it you have solved most of your problems. Do you know what it means not to have money problem, when you have money to not worry about those problems, it gives you more opportunity to concentrate and solve other non money related problems. She's right telling you to go look for the money because you should have been the one taking care of her at this age and not her still sufferings for you to feed.

She has done her part as a mother, it's your turn to do her the flavours of making her life worth living so if that discomfort you, you shouldn't mind but still do. You'll be getting more blessings for taking good care of your mother and providing her needs for her. Keep your fears aside provided you aren't going to get yourself killed, go all out for your mum.

I clearly understand that English isn't your strong suit hence why one could find this post confusing.

I understood you however and I can suggest that you do well to fix the truck instead of thinking of abandonment for a new one. As you have rightly thought OP, you may have to engage in order business outside of the one your mom currently has a say in, so as to meet up you investment plans for the future.

so why don't you fix the truck?
this seems to be the most logical solution for both of you and your money since you don't wanna disappoint her. family is family, you can't just give up on them.
leaking coolant means the car could overheat. just ask someone you know about mechanics, these are the guys who can do some patches to solve minor problems.

money will always be what you need. though its never the fix for all but its what you can have to make your mom feel secure. shes trying to push you to do something productive.

Unless and until you have the money to buy a new truck and if you do not have any other source of income, you must drive the old truck and make money. Money is important and probably the most important thing in the world. If you have it you are the king, if you do not have it, no bloody one is going to think about you. Your mom has seen more realities than you. So trust her when it comes to money. The moral of the story here is, money is important and money can fix most of the things.

Well, in this kind of case, it is really more important to repair any damage to any vehicle even if you get a license it is mandatory to keep checking the condition of your vehicle to avoid any accidents. But from your post OP, seems like you and your mom have a problem financially that even a simple damage needs to be bypassed to provide all of your needs. If she would fix the things you have mentioned which might cost a lot then maybe for a day you won't be able to provide some of your needs like food, bills, etc. But as a parent, knowing that you would put your child into part of your work, it would be better to ensure their safety and convenience, I suggest finding an alternative way to have a source of income that is safer.

There's a phrase "Many of Children A Lot of Sustenance", that's why there are some parents doesn't care with their children and use them to make money. No doubt money is the most important thing in this world, if you have friends and good family, they're either set boundaries with you or criticized you for lack of financial. But if you rich, there are a lot people who want to become your friends and even become your family.

Sorry if some people triggered with my words, but that's the reality.

In this day and age, no matter where we look, money is really part of our survival. The problem is that most people have a hard time finding money because they also have a hard time finding a job. That's the reality that we have to face in our lives as well.

That's why, when you are an employee or we have no choice but to follow our superiors because we are paid, that's the way it is. Let's not expect that there will be a fair fight. In short, I agree that money can fix everything, but not everything can be fixed by money.

Reading this looks like a very asian culture which parents push their offspring to their limit for the money they need. I have a mum like this that keeps pushing me to study and work at the same time just to help her on saving money that she is giving to his mother(my grandma) and her brothers(uncle). She is thinking of me like a tool to get income even until now that I have my own family she still demanding me to give most of my salary to her which I already refused.

Parents should be the one providing for their offspring and I really hate being a victim of poverty transfer from parents to child. Parents shouldn’t start a family if they still have some backlog burden on his parents and siblings.

Obviously this is quite a difficult situation. But no matter how difficult life is, we have to keep moving forward and keep working to make money and also to survive. But maintaining life safety is the most important priority. Because what is the meaning of money if we can't enjoy it. But there are times in life when we don't have many choices and can't even choose. In this situation of course I can't comment anything. But if it turns out there are other safer options then make money from there. What you can do in a situation where you can't choose is just to be more careful.
Believe me, your economic situation will get better when you start living your current life better and remain patient and grateful for what you are doing now.

Any freight transport loaded with cargo is doubly dangerous, because the braking distance increases and the load on the vehicle also increases. And in the event of an accident, you can receive fines and penalties. But transport services are profitable everywhere, why did they bring your car to such a bad condition?

Its looking hard but try to understand that this hard time will end soon and I have saw numerous individuals who are now rich people who first did some hard work like you. The inflation is so higher that your mum will definitely force you to earn more and more therefore don't take it as stress.

Other thing is your health which is most important and your mum should understand this thing that if you become ill by doing such a hard job then she will spend all earned amount on your treatment therefore she should understand that money is important but a person's health also matters alot.

May be there is no job opportunity for female where you live and perhaps she is working at home to manage home activities so there can be lots of reason behind her strictness so I will suggest that understand the condition well and don't think bad about anyone

I dunno if this is some kinda symbolic tale or what, but it sounds like your mom is puttin' a crap ton of pressure on you to drive this busted truck, even though it's basically a death trap.  She's also makin you responsible for rakin' in a truckload of cash, which ain't fair one bit and  it ain't right for her to put you in this position.   

I'd suggest you to have a heart-to-heart with your mom about how this makes you feel.  Explain to her that you're freaked about drivin' this piece of junk and you ain't down with the crazy amount of responsibility shes droppin' on your shoulders.  She's gotta find some other ways to make bank, and she cant keep this money squeeze on you.

Seems like the main priority of OP's mother is money rather than the safety of her child, One way to distinguish a typical Toxic parent just like Human ATM and Retirement plan, Toxic parent's doesn't care how would you feel, they didn't even bother to ask you if it's okay for you to do it, what's important to them is money, more more money to come. if you ask me, they should not wait for something bad to happen to their children before they realize that what they are doing is wrong.

That's how money manipulates our mind. Everything includes money that's why it is very important to all of us because we can't live without it and Let's be realistic here. However, based on your interpretation, Seems like your mother doesn't even thinking about the situation and how you will feel, what's important to her is to generate an income even if it cost you harm and damage. give yourself a time and break for now and try to talk with your mother and just say all your thoughts about the way she treated you and how you really feel because sometimes they didn't know that it is too much for you. last thing, just set a limitation to yourself and learn how to refuse sometimes.

Understand you mom that money is really important, but also try to make her understand that the truck is not in good condition and if you push to make a round trip for it then you might get a problem since it could possibly broke down in streets then might face certain violation or worst you can put the life of other people in danger. Maybe you mom doesn't understand the truck condition that's why she think its fine to drove it for last time so a proper talk and maybe try to point out the issue personally then tell her that this is the issue that need to fix immediately. I know its hard to correct some people that doesn't understand the situation but its your mom so be calm on discussing the situation and try to make her know the condition since for sure everything will be fine with the issue you want to raise.

Your mum should understand that while try to chase money, she should also care about her safety. She doesn't need to force a bad truck into the road because it may become collateral damage to other road users.

Money is good but the love for it is bad as it leads to evil because you can take wrong decisions as a result of the chase for it. Health is wealth and the need to be alive is a more important goal to securing the future. Moreover, your mum would have been aged and should pass over certain responsibility to you regards to how to make money. She needs more rest and since you have volunteered to take up the business, she has to consider that you are younger with energy and can face challenges more than her. She only needs to build trust with you, guide you from the background with her experience.

do tell her that health is as important as money you are her child but I’m guessing that she treats you almost like as if you are her employee if the truck has already damage, driving it would just make it worse and would most likely harm you and your business in the long run your mother needs to reevaluate her priorities

Yes, money is important because everyone needs it, but human life is more important than money. Don't say that just because your mom said it, you can tell her that it's too dangerous to drive because it's broken. Talk to your mom properly and you can also find a way if it is still possible or not so you know what to do.

Your circumstance is difficult, thus you deserve recognition. You must choose between safety and profit. Money matters - it's life's oil. But at what cost? Most importantly, your safety is precious. The truck's condition? A recipe for disaster. Overloading it for one last payday is risky! A direct risk, not simply any risk. It's risky and unjust. It's your life, your health at stake, not hers. Not someone else's finances should determine whether you drive that truck. I know your mum wants to be rich. Who doesn't? Economists know that money cannot buy happiness. Insurance expenditures, legal concerns, and, most importantly, your health? Each has a price. Here, risks and rewards must be considered. What's important here? Choice is yours. Your safety, your choice.

when on a low income money is needed and many repairs are ignored because bills are the priority

from the sounds of it:
your mother wants the bills paid to ensure continued security of living in her house. so she lets the maintenance of the truck slip due to not affording to do both bills and repairs

what you need to do is to calculate the most priority repair.. im not suggesting steal the entire months income to buy a another truck. but work out whats the smallest amount possible to pay for a repair that will de-risk truck problems. such as making you feel safe to drive it

can you take equipment out of the truck to make it lighter.. is every extra weight of the 'overload' really needed. .. thats one free option
tires and coolant are next on the list.
look to find estimates of costs for not new, but legal replacement tyres(enough tread) and cost out the fix for the coolant problem
is the coolant leaking from the radiator, the coolant tank(reserve/bottle) or a pipe. as that can make a huge difference to cost

negotiate with your mother that fixes are needed. and you have found the cheapest solutions. inform her that if the truck stops working, there is no ongoing income at all, and a new truck is more expensive than the current fixes, so investing a small amount of income to fix the truck, will keep the truck(and you) alive to support getting more income

remind your mother.. money does fix everything, including the truck

no one allow you to reject, do you not know it is very unacceptable to reject a request from a woman? do you not know how shameful it is to reject a proposal and everybody else laughing for the failure, do you not understand woman? You owe me the money, pay up the taxes, a lifetime of taxes money, do you get me? Pay it up!!!

What I can take away from your story is probably how important it is to make money. And this does not look at the situation or conditions. Whether in bad or unfavorable conditions, money still has to be found. But the important point I can get here is that working hard without knowing the conditions is indeed good. But if it could endanger lives, that's a different story. This of course must be avoided. Because what is meant by working hard without knowing the conditions, does not mean you have to risk your life. So it is certain that personal safety must remain a priority.

my mum want to make a lot of money, money can fix everything, me hurt not important.

So the truck is broken, the coolant is leaking the tyres is flatten and it is overloaded and dangerous to maneuver, but mum keep nagging must drive the truck for one last time and make the one last time money, must make a lot of a lot of money, money can fix everything, she said it, must drive the truck, she order me to drive the truck, it is she tell to do, but the one who would drive the truck is not her it is me, she want to make a lot of money but the one who would go and earn that hard earned money is, I need to work for that money not her, how is it even fair? Is it a priviledge? What is up???