Topic: 2 year old - Cries himself to sleep every other night - page 3. (Read 4144 times)

this is good. also in doing this, gradually reduce the amount of verbal communication each time. eg. first time you return talk and explain blah blah blah time for bed, etc. next time it's just 'blah' and eventually it's just silence and only motions to put them to bed.

Random advice.  We have a 2.5-year old.

1) Create a buffer of reduced distractions for an hour or so before bedtime.  That means no TV or other stimulating excitement before bedtime.  You must set the atmosphere.  Quiet time precedes bedtime.

2) I actually avoid sugar, close to naptime/bedtime.  I consider it crack cocaine.  No sugar within 2 hours before bed.

3) That sippy cup should contain milk or water, not juice or soda.

4) Create a familiar routine that slowly, inexorably, heads to bed.  Do the same thing, in the exact same order, every single night.  Bath, jammies, bottle, toothbursh, get into bed, songs/stories.

It may feel like you're being a military drill sergeant at first, but toddlers find comfort in familiar routine.

5) Staged crying responses.  If the fuss starts immediately after you leave the room -- or even before you leave the room.  Give it 30 seconds, then return, comfort and love, explain the routine in simple terms, leave.  If the fuss continues, wait 60 seconds, return, comfort and love, leave.  If the fuss continues, wait 2 minutes, etc.

The basic points you are trying to communicate is (a) mother and father are still there, but (b) you aren't going to give up on putting him to bed.

And sometimes it's just plain hard work.  For a while, we wound up camping out in the room for an hour or more each night, as our daughter got used to the new routine.  We would be in the room, during this time, but would not respond to efforts at play or interaction... being as boring as possible, breathing deeply with our eyes closed, pretending to sleep, ourselves.

Wanna take a guess?

before or after sugar treat?

Use it before bed.

where i'm from we call that a cavity.

For this, you may want to give some buffer, otherwise you'll have to deal with hyper child when you actually want to sleep. I'd say about an hour. Maybe more.

All the previous advice is great. An old home remedy is a small sugar treat at bedtime. We called it sugar coma.

If it really gets bad, consider seeing a pediatric behaviorist. It may be some behavioral problem if your current solution isn't feasible/working long term.

If you can get either of them to say bitcoin as their first word, and film it, I'll flip.  

thanks, something to show the wife.



sometimes i want to do this.... but in the end its not necessary. closing the door and letting him cry is just as effective.


^^ future bitcoiners

<3 I love the little adams.

Dereck


Frederick


Frederick has no problems sleeping 

A child who respects, instead of fears, them?

My dad used to tell the story of when I would cry before bed every night.  Finally he said "I'll give you a reason to cry" and promptly spanked me.  After that I went to sleep every night without crying.

Of course some parents nowadays know better than their forebears and would never spank their kids.  Their presumption brings with it its own reward. 

We got a Gro-Clock for our 2 1/2 yr old after he started not wanting to stay in bed when his sister was born and he moved to a twin bed. It's helped.

How can you start a thread like this without a picture of the kid?  I wanna see little Adam Jr.! 

ya that's what i end up doing... sometimes i read him a story and he falls asleep. but past few weeks that has not worked at all, and he ends up crying for 5 mins and then playing in his room till he falls asleep.

so this is normal... ok good to know 



we are on the list to see some specialist, thank god for medicare.

Then let him. The trick is to do all that right before bedtime, so he's all tuckered out when it's time to go to bed. The twins may be my first kids, but they're not the first I've had to deal with.

Yep get the hearing checked immediately.  Some kids don't talk until later.  Not a huge deal.  But get the hearing checked, just to be sure.