Topic: 2020 one of the most negative year in my life ... (Read 500 times)

Whatever the case maybe, always look on the brighter side. Just always be thankful thinking that we are still surviving this pandemic. And hopefully a vaccine will resolved this crisis so we can all go back to our normal lives.

You have to blame no one,or nothing here because all of those happens to you are your own mistakes.

you pay dentist in advance when you can pay them upfront when the fixing happen.

you lost my Job because you are not competent in the position.

You choose stupid girlfriend ,Imagine you have been with Her bnot knowing the attitude and character?

You gambled on your Own foolishness and don't blame your depression .

Every person has their own struggles in life, We just have to learn how to deal and face with all problems to stay up for life challenges that might come along the way.

In life, s#!+ happens when you least expected it to occur, that's for sure.  
And it will only get worse before it would get better.
Be strong, because there's always light at the end of that tunnel.



Don't worry, there's always a silver lining to any problem or situation. What's more important is that you've learned something and this will only help you get stronger, as you continue your life's journey with a new perspective and purpose as well.

Even though it is a negative year, I have learned a lot of things on life. I have learned to value every second. I learned to give up some good opportunity in the dangerous city and just be with my family in our province. Moment to spent time with them cannot be replaced by anything in the world.

I do not say negative, but year 2020 is really a challenging year for me. Yes I have so many plans this year and it turns into nothing. Well I know it is not only me. But also the whole world. Well I have no choice to what is happening but to cancel all my plan trips, keep saving and earning money

Actually I wouldn't see the girl leaving you just for your wealth as a negative thing, in my opinion, it is her loss. In the end, you'll be the stronger one of the two.

Keep your head up! There's always an opportunity ahead especially when everything is looking a bit somber.

Never take depression because It's a horrible thing that can stop your life.
My suggest:
February solved: There is no need to identify with it because very soon the days of pandemic will end and we will return to normal life again. So stay home and do all your work.

March solved: You may know that there are a lot of jobs in this internet world, so you can work in this internet world from home and earn lot of money.

April solved: It was your personal matter to come and your perception was not so strong that so you could not recognize the right person. But you can try to find a new girlfriend again. I can say for sure that the next girlfriend will love you more and of course selflessly.
In the end I want to say that you should not stop and move forward with the pace of your life and i hope the good days of your life come back very soon.

Don't push yourself to hard, you can start again and make thing right, Life is full of trials and worst things is expected to happen.  Don't give up, time will pass i know you can still be happy and make things back to normal.

life there will always be a test for being poor or rich would be an option for you if you keep trying and never give up, you no can get rich if you continue to play at the casino then useless money you get for this hard work it will be depleted because gambling is not will change your destiny and it makes you in trouble if wealth and your money is lost because of gambling you will be poor and it's your own fault if you poor are lover and friends will leave you better you start from early trying the best to your life for the future better.

As long as you are still alive, there's hope. That's what I always think of whenever I want to give up. Also, if other family members are relying on you, how can you lose hope? You need to be strong for them. This is just another challenge for all of us. If you will give up, you lost in this battle of life.

It feels like the end of the world, but it isn't, not at this point at least.
I am deeply sorry for anyone who is in trouble because of current world conditions.
But I also deeply believe that its going to be okay in just 6-18 months

I'm sorry about your condition.  You should stay away from friends and couples who only see what you have, they are only parasites and are not sincere with you mate..

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btw, 2020 is the worst year for almost everyone in the world, the worst thing that I experienced this year was that my family and I could not worship and holiday as we had planned..

I am glad you have come back to accept the fact that now we must return and surrender to those who have and give us life. with you to read the Holy Book and praying, you begin to surrender everything to Him so that all problems can have an answer, at least as bright as the hope that you will go through can be channeled and hopefully there is an answer to the solution, but still the hard work of yourself must also be carried out.

now everyone is experiencing something like you because the corona pandemic is plaguing, and maybe you should also give thanks that it might not be as difficult as the others. because it can be ascertained that is more difficult and more miserable than you, can certainly be very much.

OMG, that hits really hard. I feel sorry for the things you’re going through.
I can tell it’s not easy because I have been through similar things in life and I’m working really hard right now get myself back up.

I might not be happy now due to the things I have passed through in life, but I still know that they have taught me a really good lesson. But, I am still happy that I had to go through all these things while I’m still young, so there is still much time for me and things are starting to work out again, just a matter of time. There is always hope no matter what we are going through. And I am happy that you have chosen to understand that.

I am terribly sorry about all of your loss but 2020 doesn't sound like that bad for you at all. You figured out on January that your dentist is not a good one and you should find a new one, since you have been waiting since January I am assuming it is not a root canal operation (which would be required urgently and not wait for months) so you could find another one when this pandemic is over and get rid of the bad one.

February pandemic started is a whole global thing, it is not just about you, it is about all over the world and every human.
March, there is over 10 million people lost their jobs just in USA, there is over 100 million all over the world, it is horrible but it is what it is right now in the world.

April, good that she broke up with you because you shouldn't be with a person who wants you for money to begin with. May- June that is your own fault, shouldn't have gambled all of your money, that is literally a mistake you did upon yourself that nobody else is guilty about.

I feel sorry for you, mate. Life can be so hard sometimes that there are times that you don't know what to do when you always fail in your life. I feel the same thing mate that I also experienced terrible things this year of 2020 that I have to sell all of my holdings because both of my parents lost their jobs before lockdown, so it just happened that we all used our savings and my investments to provide all of our daily needs this community quarantine lockdown.

This has to be the most insightful post I've read today. Firstly, I'm sorry about how things turned out for you this year. It hasn't really been a good year for most people. I'm talking about lost jobs, death of loved ones etc.



I've always know this fact. In life, nothing good has ever came easy. There was efforts and some struggle that went in before it yielded results. This is something must people don't learn. They just want to be rich quick, with little to no efforts.

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In spite of everyday that has happened, I really think you shouldn't give up yet. There's always room for things to get better ; for things to change. We just have to keep moving. One day at a time. Don't forget to be grateful and celebrate small wins too (like the fact that you're still alive.) not many people have life right now.

Above all you have listed, there is no way for you to surrender. Just think about the street children, they have no foods & clothes, unsustainable life, abandoned by parents and have no permanent shelter. I feel you buddy but we are now in pandemic. We can`t avoid this things will happen to us. We are all amidst of negative situation in life. Just to be thankful that you are breathing because a lot of people are dying but us? We are still alive and kicking.

Just focus on your goals and don`t mind that girl. I believe that there is no word FOREVER.
If you are depress, breath for a little while and imagine how beautiful it was when you are on top seeing your past.

Be positive bud!

I'm very sorry to hear your journey, man. It must be very difficult for ya to get over with those problems. I couldn't say anything positive but that's life, you can't take away the negativity alone... the duality .

Not all the time, man. You must work smart sometime though, and it is way better than working by blood, and sweat  .


Exactly, man. You don't have to give care pretty much about everything. Not saying, you must not think about it all but it is good that you knew where to dwell; might be something that'd make you grew better.

If by chance you have spare money, try reading Mark Manson's book "Subtle way of not givin' a ..." & "Everything is ...", well, if you haven't got any you can search some free e-books about it around the internet but don't ever forget on buying one later to support the author as well, 'cause it is a treasure after all  .

It's about self-help books, and I know it would help you a lot given the situations you had, and the possibilities you might encounter sooner. It is kind of odd but the book has too many interesting inputs in it.

'Poverty is like punishment for a crime you didn't commit.' - Eli Khamarov.

This is truth OP. This year was pretty good for Jeff Bezos, he was making a lot of money but according to him, nothing is never enough and he decided to cut fees for amazon affiliate members while his profit was skyrocketing.
This year was pretty good for The Walton Family because they made a lot of money via Walmart and other businesses they run, food and other necessary things were the most selling ones in pandemic. And without doubt, Pharma, that is a big business, saw massive profit and will see for a long time.

If you are poor and are happy with it, then why not? What's the purpose of living? To be happy, yeah?
But if you aren't happy with it and just want to give up and adapt on situation, NEVER! Do what gives you a pleasure but don't harms others. This is one life that you have. Once gone - gone forever. No afterlife and bullshits. Never fall on your knees because you didn't achieve your dreams before this moment/seconds.
I want to remind you Thomas Edison's words before he would invented: I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.

I feel sorry for you. But dont be so negative. At least you have learnt a lot of things which you have sorted out. Just try to do your best, learn more more and more and you will be successful. There are many things to do on this world and as long as we know how to stand up straight, we can do anything we want. 2020 is truly a mess to all of us. I have lost a lot of money during covid-19. Right now im trying to make everything back to normal. Dont give up

It's not as bad as it could be. It is better to sit at home than to Wake up in a world where WW3 is ongoing and you are called to be immediately sent to a battlefield .
Will be better times in our life and this is a fact. This year has made it clear that you can work not only when you have a full office but remotely, so at least we have a new trend. A lot of people will stay at home, therefore the disease will go away and a lot of positive changes will happen.

In my opinion you are too carried away, life must be enjoyed. I understand your feelings, I was in your position when in 2012.
I will give you a little advice on what you experience, as follows:
- You go to the dentist and ask for your right to be repaired, if there is no news, you must be proactive.
- Everyone feels a pandemic, calm down you are not alone.
- Jobs can be sought again, most importantly you are healthy.
- There are still many women who are more suitable with you, lest one woman ruin your life.
- Money can still be sought, just as great as Warren Buffett often loses.

Starting from zero is what you have to do, as long as we are alive don't ever give up chasing dreams. As long as you have not given up
you have not failed yet.

Life lessons you should still learn is this :

1. You are still alive!

2. You are still willing and capable to work. (Many with disabilities cannot work, even if they tried)

3. Governments look after unemployed people.

4. You are still healthy. (Corona virus is everywhere)

5. You got your faith, so you are not alone.

6. There are many fish in the sea, even for the unemployed. 

7. Friends are more valuable than Girl friends.

Hope this gives you inspiration in this difficult time... I know several people who have clawed back after worst setbacks and they made a huge success of their lives. (desperation triggers creativity)

Good luck and remember there are always people who care for other people... even on this forum. I hope 2021 will be a much better year for you. 

Well you're not the only one who suffered an unfortunate situation this year, because the virus itself is the worst happened that all of us experience and still continuously existing. But despite of this we need to think positive and learn from those unfortunate situation, many says 2020 is not a good year but for me its a year that we look forward because our daughter is born last february and its a blessing for us.

Well, this is how life is in the world. Every human being will be given a test by God. And being grateful is the key to success

I think it's not only you who feels this. many people lost their jobs, and some even went bankrupt because of this. Well, so far, recovery is still ongoing. it's just that, I think not to continue to decline with the situation. however, we need to adapt to this and start all over again. the crypto world is a perfect fit for such a beginning.

 there is still no pandemic on january right ? its okay if your dentist postponed your appointment if there are heavy reasons like covid or family problems on his side but if not then you should follow up it and report it , idk if that dentist can still scam next time   .
 
you lost your job on march and that is because of covid ?  well many people lost thier jobs too not just you .

about your girl , you found the wrong one  . she's a gold digger if he acted like that   . so dont cry for her  , there are still many fishes in the  sea  .

lastly , it was your own fault why you gamble and ended up loosing all your savings . why gamble when you dont have a job yet  but you said money is nothing   . so why cry  ? you must be thankful that your still alive instead of complaining

I am deeply sorry from your lost. Many of us will borrow a leaf from what you have put up here. It is very uncommon to see someone that have gone through all these but still sounding bold and share what you have gone through. Depression is like a sickness that when you don't leave it very fast you might be consumed. I will advice you not to always isolate yourself and be brave to always speak up to people that are also going through hard time so as to encourage them. For almost 10 years I had suffered and couldn't afford a meal a day. Sometime I work around the street maybe I can find something on the ground but I never give up. I strongly believe as far as I'm not dead, there is still hope.

Sorry to hear about you hard fact of life what you have gone through in this year. I hope you get more strength and overcome all difficulties in life and be back to normal once things settles due to pandemic situation is over. You are very strong as you have accepted it the way it is and want to work and get back on track. There is a saying that when such bad things happen too quickly there is something good hidden behind it. It is that ray of hope you need to catch and figure it out which will change your life and believe it will be only for good. Also, this is the time when your girlfriend if she really loved you should be with you and she left just because she loves money, so you are all safe now because you identified who really deserves to be in your life and who should be out.

"April ... Girlfriend dumped me for good do to fact i am poor  and she was only interested in money" - you should be happy that this happened now and not after many years or marriage. You should be glad that you are free from that traitor.

Anyway, I'm somehow sure that all your problems are temporary. This of all this situation as a restart of your live. You have an opportunity to start all over from blank page, but with huge bag of past experience. Don't spoil that chance bro.

The best thing you could do right now - set a goal and rearrange priorities. 

We are living in the same planet, and as you experience hard ships in life, don't forget that there are people who are struggling worse than you. You just need to keep on track so that you will not have a hard time to overcome those trials. It is normal to rest or give up, but make sure that you will recover from that downfall and continue again once you're ready.

Life is not a race, you should not rush it.

Just take it slowly and step by step progress will do. If your problem is in terms of your money or asset, always remember that progress is still a progress. Don't give in making transactions and never think of negative vibes that can affect the way you live your life. Especially that you are the one who are responsible with yourself. Be OPTIMISTIC!

That's alright, at least you did not ended up marrying that girl because she is not right for you, if she's after your money then forget her.

This is a bad decision gambling can't help up solve our depression and it will make things more complicated and worst. This is the result of thinking under your emotion we always tend to do something out of our control, which is bad.

Well, We all have our own stories of failure, this is very common since we are all human and if you make mistakes you have to bounce back after that. I just hope that you already learned your lesson and you must apply the things that you've learned from this bad experience and use this as your motivation to reach your goal this time. This pandemic is a test of our character, be more responsible and don't lose your track in this market.

This is the bad result of the pandemic (well, the worst starts here base on your story), and most of the people are experiencing a lot of problem but one thing is for sure, you will survive on that situation.

Look at the good side mate, and I'm happy that you learn a lot from that experience. You should always remember that there's always hope so never stop fighting and never stop learning. Anyway, forget about the girl who are just with you for the money, you deserve someone better.

Sorry about all the bad things that had happened to you, mate. But our destiny all depends on our actions. You have posted all your lessons that you have learned in your previous wrongdoings. Life is also unpredictable, but if we tend to fight and had a courage to stand up again, then we will survive and move on.


All those struggles and problems has all the answers. If you lose your job because of pandemic, then find a new way how to survive. If your gf dumped you because of your unstable job, then you dont deserve her. You have family to lean on. And lastly, depression will make your life worst if you dont fight it. Just like what happen, to you. Hope you'll get better and start all over again.

Obstacles will come in the way of life and we should try to move forward without getting frustrated Those who will leave you in times of danger have never used you for their own benefit. So never take failure for granted. Good times come after bad times Without giving up you will start doing something new as much as you can Be successful However, the year 2020 is having a negative impact on the lives of almost everyone so it is not wise to give up If you do something good you will get back everything that was left to you.

That's life, people need to suffer or experience struggle to test his strength during downfall. They say life is like a rollercoaster, it go up and down and up and down. You need to deal with that and once you surpass that kind of trials in life then its time for you to relax and prepare for another lesson. It requires a lot of courage and effort for you to overcome those obstacle in all of the aspects in life. Sometimes, you need to take a break and breathe so that you can relax and become more ready once you continue your journey in life. Once you become successful in life and you have a lot of money, don't forget to keep your feet on the ground and help other people grow and encourage them to become successful too.

True mate. Don't let others limit what you can do and don't let their judgment affect what you can and can't do. It's not only limited to being poor tbh, but it's also being unaffected when they say that you can't do it, but if you trust yourself completely, whether it is a failure or not, just do it. I've had my fair share of being affected by what others have thought of me, leading to a series of really bad consequences that I myself judge to be regrets of my life. Even now, I still get affected, but I try not to, slowly anyway. But try not to be a self-centered ass along the way .

Also, no need to wallow in depression, especially right now where even standing back up is especially hard due to the recent events. You should continue living your life, being broke isn't the end, breaking up with your gf isn't the end, losing your job isn't the end, consider it as a new start.

January: Export transactions stop because the majority in Vietnam and China 1 week before Chinese New Year and 2 weeks after Chinese New Year are holidays.
February: Getting information on the export of shellfish must be postponed due to the covid-19 pandemic in China. I have 60 tons of shell stock in the warehouse.
March: Pandemic starts to hit my country.
April: Pandemic continues even more victims.
May: China is in green status, requests are coming from China just to keep production running so there is no need to lay off employees.
June: first export of shells to China & Vietnam after the pandemic.

During the pandemic, of course, income dropped sharply and I was committed to keep buying shells from fishermen at reasonable prices according to demand conditions. In my country, the costs of schooling and courses for children remain even though the learning system is online. The key to dealing with all this is the habit of daily living, I do not teach the hedonic lifestyle to the family so that during the pandemic they remain happy at home.

January to April situations is bearable yet to think that you arent the only one who do experience hardship or problems in life and each one of us do have corresponding problem that needs to be solved out.It may differ on each person but it is just on the same aspect on where we do need to endure and find out solutions.The only thing where do make the situation even worst is that you do gamble
all of your life savings which is a wrong move. Your GF dumped you because you dont have work and dont have much money but you do make the situation even more worst by doing gambling.
Your problem isnt an easy one but everything does have a solution and give ourself some time to think carefully and realize on the mistakes that we have done.Its never too late to start up once again.

Everything that happened in our life ,there is a reason behind. And you will not understand what reason it is until you found out through your the events that occur in your life. You will not stand unless you stumble. You will never change unless you make a mistake.
But after all pains,frustrations and failures in life,don't give up. Change your life and strategy. Do good and be good. Stop in Casino,stay in crypto. Keep on moving. Like here in crypto,despite of loses or mistake in doing trade or investing ,still try to make profit. Just go on while you are still alive despite of pandemic.

The most tragic and worst year of my life was 2020. It was dark in my life before the year 2020 started.

I quit my jobs in early January due to problems with the upper level boss.

Then i took the exam for government job in February. the result of this exam were supposed to come out at the end of February.

The result was supposed to be given in March but it was not possible due to Corona

Unemployment continued to rise in April, and sickness rates continued to rise.

Because of this on pity i just had saving that have already been spent, because i don't have a job.

For all these reasons, my life has now become your word. I can't understand what to do or what not to do?

What i learned the hard way:

the only good way to earn in is life is by working : blood ,sweet and tears

Do not care what people think if you are poor ( you do not need friends that judge you based on how much you have ,they are toxic)
Do not speculate or gamble
Do not try to find money or to become rich
Do not believe in the "American dream" it's fake
The higher you will rise the harder the fall will be  
Do not care if other people have more then you, be happy with what you got even if it is nothing
Make sure when you ask a girl out you have zero money in your wallet , and if she accepts to go out with you on a date take zero cash with you ( this way you will find the  truth)
Do not climb the" mountain" in life without building concrete stairs first
When in economy books you will see "inflation" , do not get scared of it it's not your problem
Do not care if you will be lonely when you will be old and nobody will take care of you if you will be sick ( we come from earth we go back in to the earth)
Death is the great equalizer ( no matter if you are king or a beggar sooner or later you will die )
Be good as the world is full of darkness  !


 

So you lost a tooth....hopefully you've got some spare ones you can still use, and you sound young enough that I'm fairly certain that's the case.  There are people walking around completely edentulous, so don't let that get you down.

Agreed.  If you have to gamble, now's the time to be doing it in the stock market--or in crypto, for that matter.  Going to a casino where the odds are stacked against you might be fun, but in the long run it's just a mechanism to increase your misery.  OP, stocks are probably going to keep booming, so if I were you I'd open a brokerage account and get cracking.  Going back to whatever holy book you're talking about is your personal choice, but if you want to make money stay away from gambling and focus on investing.

I really don't know how old you are, but this is just part of the life and most of the time it doesn't go on our way. Just think about those homeless people around the world and don't know where to get  the food they going to give to their family. And there are a lot ways that you can survived, move on and continue with your journey. You just have to be strong and don't think about the wrong that you did, you, but keep on moving on and be positive and strong.

I believe that if you do good things and do the right thing, nothing bad will happen in your life. And if something bad happens in your life, it's a reason to think about what you're doing wrong.

This is the only stupid thing you did. All the others were out of your control.

From May to June all stock market around the world was recovering. you should have bought stocks, or bitcoin, or whatever.... but to gamble?

Many people will arise much richer from this world crisis. It is still time. There are a lot of opportunities around. Deliveries, home office, etc there are many areas in the economy which will grown, generating a lot of opportunities in this "new normal" we will be facing soon.

That's must be a most devastating story i have encountered that every month you suffered great loss and i felt sorry for you buddy and hopefully you get yourself back up despite all that happened into your life. After this pandemic you will find a new chapter in life and that's the start of the new journey you will have. For the moment, focus on yourself doing you love or doing bounties for a while just to make something not to think too much about the heartaches you've been.

Here is how 2020 went for me :  

January ... lost my tooth went to dentist ,she should have fix it ,payed money still didn't heard from her not even now
February... pandemic started
March ... lost my job
April ... Girlfriend dumped me for good do to fact i am poor  and she was only interested in money
May - June ... Lost all my savings at the casinos after lockdown do to fact i entered a depression

It must be a dream ,it's not real ! nothing makes sense anymore ...

F money ,F power ,F fame ,F all materialistic stuff ... i am going back to read the Holy Book as i did something wrong ... and i don't understand what i did ...





What i learned the hard way:

the only good way to earn in is life is by working : blood ,sweet and tears

Do not care what people think if you are poor ( you do not need friends that judge you based on how much you have ,they are toxic)
Do not speculate or gamble
Do not try to find money or to become rich
Do not believe in the "American dream" it's fake
The higher you will rise the harder the fall will be 
Do not care if other people have more then you, be happy with what you got even if it is nothing
Make sure when you ask a girl out you have zero money in your wallet , and if she accepts to go out with you on a date take zero cash with you ( this way you will find the  truth)
Do not climb the" mountain" in life without building concrete stairs first
When in economy books you will see "inflation" , do not get scared of it it's not your problem
Do not care if you will be lonely when you will be old and nobody will take care of you if you will be sick ( we come from earth we go back in to the earth)
Death is the great equalizer ( no matter if you are king or a beggar sooner or later you will die )
Be good as the world is full of darkness  !