the key to lasting relationships is to be yourself
1. trying to act more wealthy then you are is setting yourself up for failure, when that high status becomes the expectation you cant cover
2. starting relationships on a lie doesnt help either
3. acting overly interested/confident feels pushy, fake. sometimes its best to not exaggerate feelings or appear false
just be yourself where you are not even trying, feels more genuine real and something someone can get to know better and trust
things only get toxic when you are living a lie or cant communicate openly because you fear how the other will react with the truth
That is the conclusion if the whole matter as you just speak alot in my mind. Just as it's clearly stated when the foundation is faulty the building will definitely collapsed, so it's to relationship when the relationship have some errors of lies failure is set to be inevitable. Try to be who you are not just to impress your relationship, as many do just know you have dig your grave more deep than expected conclusively frank1 have analyze allot that any should not fall in in as much relationship is concerned.
its not just about lies. its about setting bad expectations
ive seen guys that rent a sportcar/book a 1 day test drive of a sports car, on a particular day they know they have a hot date.
they realise they like the woman they had the date with and want a second date. and end up either having to pay extra again to re-rent the sports car to keep the ruse alive. or come clean and ruin the chances..
setting a bad expectation wont help the relationship. if you dont actually live the sportscar lifestyle and cant afford to own a sports car, dont present yourself as a sportscar type of guy. be yourself find a woman that has the interests that align with your real self.
if your a nerd. find a woman that likes nerds. if your energetic find a woman that likes your energy.
if your a carnivore find a woman that likes meat too, dont be someone you are not. live your true self
the other part is confidence. when you give up "trying" to impress... other people stop seeing the fake facade try to push. they stop seeing the subtle presentation of you holding back.. and they see the real you, not the one hiding something.. you instead effortlessly just be normal and become real to the other person, someone they can trust because they see you are not acting a role.
the best line ive seen work that made a lasting relationship.
she was trying to quietly sneak out of bed in the middle of the night a couple times to go to the bathroom.. so just saying to her "all woman fart, if you need to fart just let rip. as long as you make me a bacon sandwich for breakfast..." laughter began and she was there in the morning with a bacon sandwich. no sneaking off after that
woman think they need to present themselves as models that dont do normal human things. the sooner they realise they can relax and be human the better.
the best relationships are those where the person you are with is like your best friend. you can tell them your secrets they know how you think, you can tell them anything or do anything and it feels normal, where you both dont need to act a certain way infront of each other