Topic: A burden I bear within. (Read 240 times)

I have had to read many suggestions and opinions of people about this issue am having but this git me think very hard knowing I wouldn't like or want anything that should worsen the situation either now or in the future more than it is right now. I can help to see them have it hard the way they are financially but I think based on this I just have to let my results speak for me and am sure that will in some way drag them to me rather than the other way I was about to go to them, and it will be easier for me to then introduce or talk about bitcoin to them after our relativeness issues must have been resolved.
Thanks alot to everyone for the contributions and advise.

Try to find your own niche where you can sell yourself apart from cryptocurrency...

First i understand this is mostly common with Africans especially Nigerians, Correct me if i am wrong.
From my experience as a citizens to what have been happening around the neighborhood, coupled with my mum involved in a polygamous family as well, that is, she happened to be the first wife of her current husband after the Death of my late Father.
The current husband got married to their two wives and same issues was among them though is been long i visited them but they always called for the hardship among them to assist with the little i could do for them to sustain.

Currently, the both wives don't greeting each others talk less of their kids even coming close to one another, which they thought of being chased spiritually by each others ( you should understand what i meant by that), so they don't allow coming close due to that reason.

You may have good intention towards them but what would be the orientation of their mother seeing you guys coming close to each others or possibly seeing you making progress among all your brothers. What do you think could come into their minds at this point, I am answering this question based on African reasoning; Others may not see it the way we are reasoning it but.

If i may know, what is your position in the family?
Your mother the first wife?
second wife or the third wife?

Now listen, If your mother is the last wife i suggest you don't show yourself up to them because there is this much hatred always apportioned to the last wife which is being transferred to her children despite being same Father. Likewise to the second wife, All less your mother is the first wife and you happened to be the first child being first Son of the family then you can use your influence as number one of the family to pull them together and you are very much free to put all of them together to introduce them bitcoin and possibly show them this forum so they could get vast knowledge and read more broadly.

Please keep note that as a polygamous family you don't share your success story to the rest siblings to avoid much hatred and evil eyes from their mothers.

Goodluck
Padav cares.

Love rules,only if you guys see yourselves as one and not rivals. You should take a bold step and walk up to them telling them that you have realised that you guys are brothers and needs one another to grow. Play the sacrificing and tolerating part of the reconciliation, so that you can use this to win their heart. It isn't easy at all to do this because most times,it is their mom that do mislead them and gives them wrong advise. If things doesn't work out,just forget about introducing them to bitcoin till you have built a peaceful and happy relationship with them. Moreover, if you care so much about bringing them to the forum,you can do that by giving either their friend or someone close to them the link,so that they can register and learn directly from here.

We do appreciate on being kind and consideration on your half brothers situation in terms of living on which sharing up opportunity and not leaving them behind or minding your own self which would be mostly the case of most people and even myself would really be doing such.It is really that on how you would really be approaching on them, despite of the erring because of family issues then it would
be better if it would be casting aside and would focus out on how you would make things a bit better in terms of income or other sources which you could really benefit.
For those who do boast and stood with their pride then leave them but to those who do show up some interest then let them learn.

actually the first step is to try to get to know your brother more deeply while pushing cryptocurrency a little, don't go straight to the point of targeting bitcoin and the benefits you get from it
after being familiar and like your new friend explaining in detail how you can be financially free from bitcoin itself,
because the approach with family is very different from friends out there when it comes to money and crypto itself

You can later introduce bitcoin to them if your family is already working well. For now, just learn to avoid things that will trigger the issue on your family. You cannot expect them to listen and agree with you especially when it comes to volatile investments. They will only think that you are only making the situation worst and that you want them to easily lose their money from useless investment.

You don’t have to be too hard on yourself. Maybe you could spare a little time fixing your relationship with your siblings first, if it works, then good, but if it’s not, then wait for some time until you can see that your siblings are already giving their attention to you. If that happens, maybe that will signal to proceed to your real intention and share about them about bitcoin and bitcointalk forum. I guess if they will see your sincerity in helping them, they will always accept your offer or suggestion with a grateful heart.

You have a good heart OP, your brothers might be very lucky for having you. However, with the present issue in your family, it’s the best thing to fix your family first and regain the good relationship you have with your siblings before. I think it won’t be too hard since you were good before so work for it, and once you regain their trust again, then you can start introducing bitcoin to them because because by that time, they will surely lend an ear to you and appreciate what you may be doing for them. Maybe the process takes time but definitely, reconciliation with family is always worth the wait.

Exactly, if they don't like you before, they will like you even less when they out of naivety lose the money they don't have on btc investment. My opinion is, to try to make amends with them if you can and not discuss btc for now especially when the relationship is not smooth. Maybe when you all have trashed your differences and are able to make amends then you can hint to them about btc.

It is hard to start a normal conversation to a family member that you have been distant to, specially when it also involves money or way of earning.
There are times that they would feel somehow disrespected even though it is not your intention,
For me the best way for it is by sharing it through your social media you could post on how to earn online something like that, and if they like your idea they are the ones who would initiate the conversation.
I've done this before I don't want to directly invite my family members into crypto so I shared some cryptocurrency related post, then some of my auntie and even cousin's ask me about it.

It's hard to start talking to someone who you have issues with and not any of you have something in common. The issue is too deep actually, you would hate each other to the bones. One or all of them would be surprised if you initiate and they will suspect you going to scam them if you talk about BTC investment.

The timing would be good if you are celebrating something like your birthday might just be a good time to invite them first. People don't want to strike up a fight when there is a celebration. Start by being friendly first.

Adult children someday fly out of the nest. If I were you, I would go my own way; everyone should have their own way. Until you achieve significant results in Bitcoin, all your good intentions will do nothing for your brothers and have no value. People want to see proof; moreover, if you are now in a bad relationship and tell them to invest in bitcoin, which is a very risky asset, and if your ideas do not go the right way, you will quarrel with your brothers even more.
Let people decide their own fates so as not to blame you for the future.

Lol, indeed he has a bigge things to resolve first.  Since he is not in good terms with his siblings, he should fix it first before advancing to what he intend to share. 

Any comment, suggestion, or advice will be taken for granted even if it is for the good of the person if the mutual relationship isn't good.  So my advice, the same as what mk4 stated, forget about introducing Bitcoin for now, fix your relationship first.  And when all is well between you and your siblings, then it is time to go back to your original plan, informing them about Bitcoin.  Hopefully, you are able to know the way to bridge the distance between siblings.

The first move I suggest you do is to try to build a good relationship with them, just set up a family meeting for discussion (I don't know your position in the family but if you're the first child this would have been easier if you're not then trying to first make peace with first child that he can assist you in the setting up the meeting. ) When you successfully set up the meeting to make peace and settle all your differences make sure you check up on them regularly to build more connection between you.

When you feel you're close enough then you can safely introduce the concept of Bitcoin to them teaching them how it works and how they can go about their investment please make sure they know how risky it is to invest in bitcoin so they won't start claiming you when everything goes haywire.
It's great to have a sibling that thinks good of you and wants to help and see you succeed.

Circumstances aside...Here is some advice if you do decide to share. The first thing you need to do is absolve yourself from any liability by being extremely clear about the risk involved. Be clear that a long-term strategy is a strategy that is more likely to win than any other one as well. From then onward, things are hard to explain in simple words. The best thing to do is to put on a video that does the hard work of explaining for you. It is a hard thing to explain, so use the tools that have had many hours put into their creation that are designed to help explain! The classic What is bitcoin (v2) video is a great place to start to spark some interest and initial understanding. I'm sure that you can compile plenty of videos or material that helped you when you started as well!

It is so easy to screw family relationships up completely when money is in the middle.  Your relationships are already in a bad position.  Do not make them worse.  If they do not trust Bitcoin but trust you and screw up financially after your proposal, it may cause irreparable damage to the relationships.

Bitcoin is not for every one.  If you feel like they have no ears for you and your thoughts.  Keep them for yourself until things get better.

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Regards,
PrivacyG

It's easier to talk to your brothers and sisters from the same father before proceeding to have a talk with their mothers. With that approach, you probably have a bond already with them and they are much more accepting than the mothers.
But do observe if things have calm down and neutral, if they're all good and like that then pursue what you think is right about having a talk related to bitcoin and if you think that the aura isn't good to proceed then you may just try again sometime in the future.

Sorry for your lost. It seems that your siblings have been affected by your father's death but it doesn't justify to have a proper job to pay their expenses. I lost my grandma due to pandemic and my mother and I had no choice after she got buried the next week we have to work and pay for the funeral expenses. I think from your siblings they are dependent to your father when he was still alive because a year of not engaging on any paying related jobs or any services is just a bad decision especially to a grown up. It might be hard to find a well paying jobs but as we know there's a lot of opportunity there outside if we try seeking it.



Giving them an idea on how they can earn is a good motive of yours. It's up to them if they will listen and learn how bitcoin works since there's no guarantee that you'll profit, if you don't have any idea how volatile the situation of the bitcoin. You also said they don't have any payable jobs so how can they invest in bitcoin? It will be bad if they put their life savings there in bitcoin always put the money that you afford to lose. But introducing bitcoin forum just like this it could help them to have ideas in how can they engage to a good paying job. At least you tried to help them to make a move in this situation even in bad terms with the family, they might thank you for giving them suggestion and ideas for them.

I have a suggestion for you. You can wait till your family sticks together again or let your brothers come to you first.
If you go to them and introduce bitcoin, which they probably don't have proper knowledge, they surely ignore you, so let them come first so that they will give value to your suggestions.

Introducing them into bitcoin for buying is not possible because you already mentioned they wre struggling to pay their own expenses so we can't think about making investment from their point of view. But introducing them into bitcointalk can open their eyes because here they will read useful things which may not found in the other platforms so they know importantance of money and how people are making it around the world and also signature campaign can do some financial help just something is better than nothing but keep in mind their goal should be getting information not just make money from signature campaign.

Ofcourse if they truly needs a change they should be able to oay a listening hear to what you have to offer but ensure that you don't overexergerage the whole thing about bitcoin and the forum to make it look like a quick method of making money, let them understand it's a currency that requires learning and with patients,
 

If they truly see the outcome in you then they will always wanted to give a try out o bitcoin but your past relationships with them also matters because you can't expect them to trust you just like that without first having a good rapport being a family together before.

I agree with your suggestion, the first step that OP should take is to build good communication with his siblings before starting discussions and introducing crypto to his siblings.
Because I think in terms of what OP is experiencing it is more important to try to improve his relationship with his other siblings and family first before helping or giving financial advice to his brother.

I feel that the problem you are experiencing seems more complicated than what you describe, because in the past, a close friend of mine also experienced the same thing as you regarding polygamy and inheritance problems with one father's brother but a different mother.
OP you have good intentions to help your siblings in your way but it will be meaningless if you always think about the doubts you have and don't immediately try to start communicating with them. In my opinion, if your intention is unanimous to help your brother, you must have the courage to take steps and be ready to accept the risks involved.
Eliminate all your doubts and have good communication before you finally try to introduce crypto or other financial advice to your brother. If later it turns out that you experience rejection from them, it will again depend on you, whether you want to keep trying or stop everything you are trying to do.
You will receive lots of suggestions from all the members here and it might add to your confusion. All of that is for you to decide because you yourself know better about the current situation than everyone. I hope you can solve your problem soon.

First you have to work on building a relationship with your siblings, before coming at them with bitcoin investment or bitcointalk forum. They wouldn’t pay you no mind because y’all aren’t in the best of terms. Family can be difficult, especially a polygamous one. Everyone suspects the other person means them harm, even if that wasn’t the case I still wouldn’t recommend you mix business and family. It won’t end well in my opinion.
I have read threads about people asking similar questions or already doing what you have in mind.

I managed to convince my senior dad to invest in BTC
I helped my dad bought some Bitcoin last night

Let me first commend you that you have a good heart, if it were to be another person, they will never get to wish their siblings from other mothers well, let alone tell them the way to make money.

That said, you don't have to worry your mind about doing good things, just spit it out, call a spade what it is and let it relax your conscience.

If they like let them embrace it, and if they don't, so be their lot.

Mate you already have bigger things to resolve — screw bitcoin for now lmao. Also noting that friends&family and volatile investments never go together well.

I have some sort of burden within my mind and I don't know how to go about it and with the kind of approach I should use to initiate a dialogue and be sure of being given a paid attention to what u have to say. Alright, this is it...
Am one folk from a polygamous family. My Dad (now late) married three wives of which things seemed to have been going smoothly among the wives and we the children from different mothers while Dad was alive, but an unfortunate events sets in disrupting the peace immediately after Dad's death. More than a year now we all of different mothers have not being in talking terms owing to inheritance issues that sets in. But this isn't what burdens me at the moment.

The actual burden is that, for the past months now I noticed how my other brothers some who are not yet engaged with a any payable job at the moment struggling through with some difficulty catering for their selves based on how harsh the economic situation in the country current is. And I have been wanting to talk to them about bitcoin currency and perhaps bitcointalk forum too, but  hey,  my fears is that they might not give me audience based on how things are within the family. Not that  my awareness and familiarity with bitcoin as a digital currency has made me rich but at least to a notable extent despite with the associated risk involved it has really been profitable to me financially through which I have used to finance and pay some bills. And in same vein I feel it could be helpful too to them knowing and taking part in it. Of which I'll gladly guide them through to the best of my ability about the process.     I don't propose to convince them into buying the idea but I only intend presenting it to them and the decision to get along is completely left with each one of them.

But the emphasis here is my fear on how to approach them and engage them in the discussion that their attention would be deeply captured to give me a listening ears to what I have in mind since we're currently not in good talking terms due the family issues on ground.
What do you guys propose I do or how to go about it!. Or should I just look the other way!