Topic: Adulthood is a scam, wish I could stay young forever (Read 946 times)

@CryptopreneurBrainboss,

#Adulthood is a scam! but wait a minute, have you taken time to ask kid's in your neighbourhood some of their desire!

I bet 35%-50% of these kid's will tell you that their #1 desire is to GROW UP into a mature Man/Woman in order to leave an independent life free from parential control & restriction(s)

As a kid back in those days, i used to avoid my mum because i taught she was being too strict toward's me when compared to other parent's.


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The irony of life, we all wanna grow up when we were kids and when we grow up we all wanna go back in time. I see my nephew (8 years old), he is so relax and free from all sort of worries. I wish I could go back and start enjoying my kids era but life is so cruel on my this desire

Being on adulthood is not a scam. Life specially on adulthood would sometimes bring you problems which is considered as a normal occurrence. These problems or crisis serves a a challenge of how you can handle real life situations.

what if you could stay young 4 ever?

Oh boy, I turn 39 this year and middle life crisis started to hit on me, too bad I do no t have the money to buy one of those expensive cars or a motorcycle... I feel bad than when you are my age things might be more difficult; that's why I keep believing in movements such as Bitcoin, we have to change our ways, and I think this is good starting point.

But yeah, adulthood is scam 

Instead of telling your kids not to get too excited about being an adult, a better thing to do is to teach them how to handle stressful and difficult situations. How to avoid them and set themselves up for good things.

You're still young so you probably don't have much experience in these things.

Hoarding Bitcoin for them is also not a great strategy. Give an in experience kid Bitcoin what is he going to do? Continue having fun, not learn how to avoid terrible decisions, and then no experience on how to solve them.

Life is too hard to live unless you had huge balance on your savings.So better to die soon rather than staying here and getting hurted.


Its my personal experience and I wish my death hit me soon.

nah it's not the adulthood. it's called "capitalism". if you "stay young" you just transfer your burden to another one.

I think the root is freedom and responsibility.

As a child (assuming you are lucky enough to have a good childhood) you don't have the responsibilities, and can live a carefree life with everything provided for you, shelter, food, warmth, safety, parents to provide for every need. And this is true for teenagers and often young adults as well.

What you don't have as a child is freedom. Not really. It is your parents who decide what you can and can't do, where you go etc.

Whereas as an adult you get complete autonomy. It's up to you whether you work, where you go, where you live, who you spend time with, whether you have kids of your own etc. And with that comes total responsibility for your own life (and that of any dependents). You need to earn money, cope with stress, assess risks, make vitally important decisions.

The cusp of adulthood is probably that sweet spot where you are starting to get more freedom as you become a legal adult and your parents give you more and more autonomy, maybe you go away to university or something - and whilst you complete your growing up your parents still take many of the responsibilities away, so you have both freedom and no responsibility. But it's only ever a transitional phase, and it can't last!

After i finished reading the book Rich dad and poor dad, I came to realize that as a kid it doesn't matter of what your status in life is, the great thing to develop is to learn to be financial literate. It is normal to experience what OP said. So in other words, while young we have to educate our self how money works for us:, "who has gold makes the rules" (Quoted from the book), this is the taste of life. And Op is currently into it.

That's the problem.

Money.

Being an adult is fine... If you had unlimited money. When you're a child, money doesn't really matter since you don't need to pay for things like rent, utilities, taxes, food, or college tuition. Give me $1 million and I'd be just as happy as I was back then.

I think Jay Z and Mr Hudson has a song like OP's title.


Hey l like your post. And it is true if your adulthood or ageing is turning out in a better form or gracefully. You won't feel any worry about the grey hairs if they are coming out.

You won't feel like you are ageing when you are enjoying your life in the way you wanted.

One good example for happy life is...Read my user name.

Haha indeed it is. Especially here in the United States I feel like we are forced to mature and be an adult as quickly as possible. But age is also just a mental state so I would like to say stay young forever

I can compare the OP's predicament with what Michael Jackson went through before his demise - His childhood was snatched from him by fame. Little wonder that until his death MJ had sentimental attachment to kids & toys.

We can't bend back the hand of time. We grow up and draw nearer our graves each passing day. And for daddies, it isn't easy facing daily expenses.

I bloody LOVE being an adult.

I absolutely despised childhood and everything about it. It was a grotesque, constricting time and when I look back there are things about it that still amaze me. Why do what a blatant asshole tells me to do just because they're older? Including travel, school for me was from 7am to 5pm and then there was an hour or to of work to do at home too. Who the hell would take a job with those hours?

I left education at 18 or so but should've left at 4 or 5. Ever since then I truly cannot think of a single thing that school gave me to draw on. I learnt to read before I started school. Everything useful or enriching I've learnt after has been sought out and shoved in by me off my own back, and most of it during school too.

Much of what 'adulthood' entails - marriage, children, debt, obligation - is a conscious choice. None of that has ever been part of my life and it never, ever will. I didn't have more than $200 in my bank account for many years but I didn't care as there was always something to eat and somewhere to sleep, even if I didn't know where it was going to be at the start of that day, and I've long trained myself out of meaningless expense.

Adulthood is not a scam. The societal conventions that most people swallow and mindlessly pursue most definitely are. The whole solar system and beyond is waiting to be tapped if you figure out the approach that works for you.

I think we all miss our childhood days,
The days where we don't have any problem except our toys or friends.
When money isn't important to us, Funny cause back when we were young we want to rush the time to be an adult to do things on our own to live on our own.
But now look at us stress on our work and bills not to mention that we have to keep track of our money because if we over spend we would be in trouble for sure.

I also feel the same the never ending pressure, Deadlines and the bills .
It sucks to be an adult wish that we could just be kids I promise I wouldn't skip school anymore, I wish we could turn back into just being a careless and hopeful kids who enjoys their time without worries.

What would you do if you knew the cure for cancer ? N could probably stay young n healthy forever ?

In my defense, I wasn't expecting it to be this hard so I didn't observe carefully if not I would had notice it earlier just as you did beside we're humans and we have different learning capacity. It might have taken you just months but might even take others more years than it took me lol

For me, besides the expenses problem for being an adult. One of the opportunities that I wasted while I was young before, opportunities for learning while I'm still a student before because last year, I just hired on my first job and I found how difficult it is.
When I was a student, I am not really into learning, not focusing while on the school and sometimes skipping classes. When I got hired, on the first day, I told myself "If I just focused on studying or learning before, I couldn't face this kind of difficulty".
But, I'm still thankful, I know it's still not too late to learn even we are adult now. Life must go on.

Not that i agree with your thinking, in fact adult life is more boring and complicated, but it depends on each country, cultural structure, many factors, yes to buy bitcoin for the future always be a good bet!

I feel you. At least you're still young though. Once you've reached past your thirties, it's time to start regretting. I bet there are many out there *cough*likeme*cough* willing to trade ages with you.

Until then, live it to the fullest! Hodl, travel, read some book(s), go pick up some sport or interest or find some ways to generate passive income

Life goes by very quickly and nothing can be done about it.
When we were little we dreamed that "Here I will grow up and become an engineer, designer, driver". But having waited for majority we accept this world not as it would be desirable in the childhood. There are constant problems that need to be solved, to look for money for life and take care of their loved ones.
Yes, this is certainly not what we dreamed of, but damn it here, too, there are many advantages of which in childhood did not even dream of.
If we talk about the income which is not enough it is true, but no matter how much you do not earn money will always be enough.
If you get $ 500 you will miss them, if you get $ 1000 you will miss them too. and even if you start to get $ 5,000 you still will not be enough, because when the money is the requests are quite different and it does not matter that when you were 18 years old you had enough $ 300.

The most of us are lucky, we born in normal families at middle class parents. I would gladly accept back to someone took decisions instead of me and so on. My childhood is totally careless time without a matter for economical crisis in the country.
But the are family with bad kind of parents who do not care about children. I guess for such kids it's better to grow up and care about them themselves on the way they find it better instead of to be depended from bad parents.

The biggest problem with adulthood from my opinion is money. When you turn into an adult you immediately have to take responsibility of yourself, finding a way to make money in order to sustain your living,unless you were born into a millionaire family and don't have to work for money until you are 30 or so when you parents die.

It's taken you 6 years what I've learnt in a few months.

All I end up eith it paying for stuff and going "did I really need that". I need to stop earning money and live off my student loan entirely and then the principles of money can disappear somewhere again. I'm guessing the downhill trend it's taking now will last for a while lol - I also don't know what I have money wise because I diversified everything i only know for January when I need to calculate profits/losses).

I have less of an enjoyment and less of a freeness to life. Sure I can go wherever I want whenever I want but it's not everything... I cut down on food spending by eating fairly bland stuff too and chucking things like garlic and pepper in to give it some sort of flavour (which is definitely a cheap way to go about it ).

I could do with something new and innovative to look into like I had with bitcoin..

@vapourminer I agree with you about the school thing. I didn't find it particularly helpful after a few years (up until about 10 it was useful and then beyond tha tit just became a case of learn this word for word).

childhood overrated? no way. there are limitations but on the whole i loved mine.

no real responsibility. no learned risk avoidance so anything that looks like fun just Do It ("hold muh chocolate milk" moments: anything you survive, was fun, and if it resulted in less than a few non essential body parts being damaged or removed was all good. plus you now had data for a better run later), and even then you now had a baseline of fun vs damage probabilities. free money (allowance). free food/housing/limited transportation. imagination has not yet met reality, so dreams and wild ideas are a big part, and who knows where that will lead one later.

i mean all you had to do is obey the house rules the parents set down. mine were reasonable. of course i disobeyed the ones i thought were ridiculous. sometimes i even got away with some of it although much later in life one of my parents would spring the "remember when you did when you were..." and i would be like "uh you knew about that??" "of course" would be the reply. never underestimate the parents observational powers or their network of informants friends.

anyway, childhood is arguably the most important learning point in your life. experience and pain  are good teachers. books/school sometimes just dont cut it vs the real experience.

disclaimer: everyone who knows me, without exception, says i have never grown up. high praise to me.. even if sometimes they didnt mean it that way.

Childhoods are overrated, humans have tendency to get blinded by nostalgia.

However, thing I liked about being child is being free from societal expectations. When you become adult society wants you to behave in some way.

Hahahahhahahahahahahahahah forget it man! There's no going back now 😂 Remember, what we don't have we always wish for and aim for.. So like they said, be careful what you wish for 😄

Lol hoping to get my life figured out before I get to that stage. Thanks to bitcoin.

To others, thanks for the advice and encouragements never knew this topic will be considered decent. I was even thinking of posting it on Off topic board as it has to do with me just fustrated and redirecting my anger into words.

I remember when I was still is school and I would get a bad grade or didn't feel like studying my parents would tell me 'Your only Job is to study! We will take care of the rest, all you need to do is study and do your homework'.
It took a few years before I understood the importance of what they were trying to say and how easy life was when you have a mum and dad taking care of you and doing everything for you. 

"Some day you will be old enough to start reading fairy tales again". - C.S. Lewis

Thanks for the sagely advice. I have 2 of the 3 things going for me, so far so good. There's really no getting around bad neighbors besides moving, you're certainly correct about that, and you can't very well wait for them to move first.

To OP: you hit the nail on the head. I stayed in school for as long as possible to avoid growing up, but alas it is inevitable. Don't discount your chances of making it out of the rat race. Also, just remember that money isn't everything. There's plenty of people that have it made and are still completely miserable (a lot of them are on this forum, lol).

Remember the times when we used to play outside as kids, playing games with friends, eating and sleeping, without knowing the harsh and dangers of the world? Those are just some fragments of my past and innocent life.

Adulting, is indeed scary. I have to embrace every decision that I make including all the consequences it follows. I have made bad decisions while growing-up, I regretted most of the things that I chose not to engage myself with, and I missed a lot of opportunities that could have made my life easier now. But all of those experiences and regrets taught me an important lesson: the only failure is when I stop trying/striving.

OP, change is the only thing that is constant in this world and we do not have any choice but to follow it. The world will never revolve around us but we adapt depending on the situation.  If we live by the shadows of our past, then what would become of our tomorrow and future?
You are right. Expenses are piling up, bills everywhere, debts incurring, and obligations that we need to meet every now and then are a pain to deal with but this is just the start of life. Do not let this sway or deviate from what your true goal is. True success starts from the mind and slowly from your actions.

I wish you guys good luck in the future and may adulthood bring good health to everyone.

it might sound a bit weird , but i do prefer my Adulthood to my childhood, maybe because I have not had a pleasant childhood.

it feels good to be totally independent and make my own decisions, the increase of expenditure is certainly a problem, but as Jetcash mentioned you can fix it by increasing your income ( work smarter ) .

just wait till you turn into your father/mother.

Growing up is a choice a choice that you made as an adult I truly believe that keeping that inner child as well as acting as a responsible adult is the most meaningful and full life that one can live. That inner child will bring joy to the times that you need it but the adult point of view will make sure that you are actually doing something in your life and progressing. There is nothing worse than seeing someone who is completely one sided. Either a adult or is completely serious about everything or a man child who doesn't take responsibility for anything both of these types of people regret life on their deathbed. "Oh I wish I had more fun...all I did was work" or "I wish I saved enough money up so my children could manage on their own".

Don't ever be one sided people always strive to be the most diverse and interesting person you can be and then you will have a fulfilling life that you can look back on and be happy.

This thread reminds me of a quote from Mark Twain:


The difference between knowledge and wisdom is often lost on youth.  If you're middle aged, can I still refer to myself as an adolescent at 47?

Your past life, including childhood and adolescence, contain the experiences that you draw on to maximise on the pleasures and benefits of your current life. I'm just hitting middle age ( I'm 77 ), and I've learnt that there are 3 things to avoid in life - debt, ill health, and bad neighbours. You can even arrange your affairs to minimise the effects of a rubbish and dishonest government such as the current one in the UK.

In order to remain debt free, there are only two options - increase your income, and/or reduce your expenditure. I'm a great believer in hedgerow cuisine. It's much healthier, and it's free. Nettles, dandelions, ground elder and wild garlic are great sources of minerals. The odd road kill pheasant or deer can make a real gourmet meal as well.

I'm reminded of the old schoolboy joke - What is the definition of adultery? - The state of being grown up. 

It has been just 6 years (18-23) into my adulthood and I'm already regretting growing up. Don't get me wrong, it feels great been able to take decision on my own without been yelled at but why does being an adult feels this hard. Things I could do before I could no longer do them as I need to adjust to being called an adult. Back in the days I could manage equivalent $300 for weeks but now it finishes even before I received it. The expenses is just too much. Being an adult kinda sucks. Tell your kids growing up let them not get too excited, adulthood is just a scam. You get enslave to expense. Although you can help ease the pain by planning their future and what better way to do that then educating them on bitcoin and start hoarding coins for them.