Just putting this here for anyone who may be looking for or needs this info.
This site has good recommendations for anonymous crypto exchanges and lists which ones allow XMR.
https://kycnot.me/ The easiest way I found is just buy bitcoin, swap it to xmr then send xmr to another exchange to swap back to btc and just like that, the public KYC/paper trail is broken.
I haven't tried all of it yet. I've have Bisq which is decent but for a beginner it's challenging. It connects via Tor which is awesome.
I'll give updates as I try some of these other apps/sights and post on them.
Other notable examples not listed on that site are the Ingcognito wallet/exchange. However larger amounts over a few hundred USD worth of crypto will be hit hard with trading fees. Cons is it's only for smartphones. It's relatively easy to use, just get two phones. Swap btc for xmr, send xmr to either an address you own outside of the app (best method for max privacy) then send from there to your other incognito wallet on your other phone and swap xmr back to btc. I'm bad at math but seems like the fees for this all is around 10% possibly?
Atomic Swap is also a thing. But I haven't calculated what percent of fees it are.
I haven't used it yet but Majestic Bank claims to have an Exchange fee of only 0.5% which would be very good. Also the most convenient.
I hear that either Trezor, or Ledger, have a built in swap feature and allow Monero transactions. Which will be great if they do.
I think privacy is a human right so idk if this is the right place for this topic but I wanna spread the word on how to remove the all seeing eye of Sauron and its 3 letter alphabet mafia gang friends from seeing your crypto transactions.