Topic: Bought a new expensive car - wife wants to drive it (Read 3430 times)
What is more for you your wife or the car...
id just let her drive it, and then ask her cook me 7 course meal.
I did some research on your car and I noticed it is currently the most powerful Porsche in production. Nice work.
any pics of your awesome car? 
It's your decision ... but is your wife is not your girlfriend i would say let her drive
Dude the car is yours. Don't let her drive it, just explain why you don't want her to drive it.
What car did you get?
Porche Panamera Turbo SDid you tell her before you bought it she wasn't going to be driving it because of her crappy driving?
Has she got her own car?
If you answered yes to both the above, don't sweat it and keep her away from your car. You can always placate her with expensive jewelry.
Has she got her own car?
If you answered yes to both the above, don't sweat it and keep her away from your car. You can always placate her with expensive jewelry.
She has her own bmw
Err dad?
Many other familys are rich too lol.
Just saying ahaha.
Is this you? My family also has a bmw and a panamera
you guys must super rich..
Thanks for editing my post, but know I wouldn't claim to be rich, just knowledgeable with money.
Id say just let her drive it, but like the catch is for 5 mins lol.
If you simply say "No Honey" it's mine....well then you are starting the process of a loooong hard marriage with resentment.
What is a marriage? it's a partnership with a piece of paper to prove it. Just because we have personal money, it doesn't mean we don't share it. It is essentially money we can use at our sole discretion. That way I don't complain about her buying expensive shoes and purses. And she doesn't complain about me buying sports equipment. We treat each other great. We spend lots of time together. We respect each other.
Yes technically half my personal money is hers and half her personal money is mine. But since we don't plan on ever divorcing and we have an established framework for how we handle our finances - personal money is personal money.
Just to reiterate, I'm calling it personal money only to identify it as money we can each spend without having to consult the other. But that doesn't mean we don't spend it on each other or for shared costs.
On top of increased biweekly mortgage payments that come out of the joint account. We both pre pay lump sums on the mortgage from our personal money. It's never equal, but we both put in whatever we feel can. We max out our prepayment amount every year.
Not sure why people need to judge my marriage.
The quote "I've worked hard, saved a lot, and invested well to be able to comfortably afford a nice car. I take really good care of the car and consider it as a reward to myself." sounds selfish. You married her and marriage is all about sharing your life and all it's experiences both good and bad with her....Isn't it?
You forgot this part :
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Well, when we got engaged she made substantially more than me. When we had our money talk, I figured we would have a joint account and everything goes in there. She felt that wasn't fair. So we ended up going the route where we both put an equal amount into the joint account each month. All shared expenses come out of the joint account. We would also have our own personal accounts. With this arrangement, she had a hell of a lot more spending money than me.
Over the years, I've closed the gap in terms of our salaries. However, I've made quite a bit in my investments over the past several years. Now that I've got a decent amount of personal money, I decided to use it to buy myself a nice car. So really, it is my car, paid for with my money.
Over the years, I've closed the gap in terms of our salaries. However, I've made quite a bit in my investments over the past several years. Now that I've got a decent amount of personal money, I decided to use it to buy myself a nice car. So really, it is my car, paid for with my money.
Its how we agreed on money. What if i ask her to use her LV bags to carry my electronic junk?
What car did you get?
Porche Panamera Turbo SDid you tell her before you bought it she wasn't going to be driving it because of her crappy driving?
Has she got her own car?
If you answered yes to both the above, don't sweat it and keep her away from your car. You can always placate her with expensive jewelry.
Has she got her own car?
If you answered yes to both the above, don't sweat it and keep her away from your car. You can always placate her with expensive jewelry.
She has her own bmw
Err dad?
Many other familys are rich too lol.
Just saying ahaha.
Is this you? My family also has a bmw and a panamera
you guys must super rich..
What car did you get?
Porche Panamera Turbo SDid you tell her before you bought it she wasn't going to be driving it because of her crappy driving?
Has she got her own car?
If you answered yes to both the above, don't sweat it and keep her away from your car. You can always placate her with expensive jewelry.
Has she got her own car?
If you answered yes to both the above, don't sweat it and keep her away from your car. You can always placate her with expensive jewelry.
She has her own bmw
Err dad?
Is this you? My family also has a bmw and a panamera
Wife is more important then car..
Give her the keys.
Here's how you approach this with a "Win Win"
Explain to her how you feel about the car and why you are "Worried" Simply tell her that you while you are worried she may "Ding" the paint you value your marriage to her and love her above the car and it's value.
This will make her put your cars safety a priority and take better care driving it and give you a +1 in the marriage.
If you simply say "No Honey" it's mine....well then you are starting the process of a loooong hard marriage with resentment.
The quote "I've worked hard, saved a lot, and invested well to be able to comfortably afford a nice car. I take really good care of the car and consider it as a reward to myself." sounds selfish. You married her and marriage is all about sharing your life and all it's experiences both good and bad with her....Isn't it?
P.S. if she dings your car after this Quickly DIVORCE her ass......LOL just kidding.
Here's how you approach this with a "Win Win"
Explain to her how you feel about the car and why you are "Worried" Simply tell her that you while you are worried she may "Ding" the paint you value your marriage to her and love her above the car and it's value.
This will make her put your cars safety a priority and take better care driving it and give you a +1 in the marriage.
If you simply say "No Honey" it's mine....well then you are starting the process of a loooong hard marriage with resentment.
The quote "I've worked hard, saved a lot, and invested well to be able to comfortably afford a nice car. I take really good care of the car and consider it as a reward to myself." sounds selfish. You married her and marriage is all about sharing your life and all it's experiences both good and bad with her....Isn't it?
P.S. if she dings your car after this Quickly DIVORCE her ass......LOL just kidding.
let him drive ,Remember... Happy wife, happy life
OK .... now its her car.
That explains everything. Of course, you wouldn't care about the scratches.
Btw .... its a nice car. I can hardly wait till I get my license.
"idiot" now. Looks like I touched a nerve. Yep .... definitely .... whipped.
That explains everything. Of course, you wouldn't care about the scratches.
Btw .... its a nice car. I can hardly wait till I get my license.
"idiot" now. Looks like I touched a nerve. Yep .... definitely .... whipped.
Its a fucking car.
I have an unmolested 69 mustang. I can't exactly go buy a new one, even similar ones are hard to locate. With drum brakes on each corner, bathtub like handling and 400 hp, my gf still mostly drives it and there have been a few close calls.
And yes the more we drive it the more scratches it gets..big deal, that's what paint is for.
I have an unmolested 69 mustang. I can't exactly go buy a new one, even similar ones are hard to locate. With drum brakes on each corner, bathtub like handling and 400 hp, my gf still mostly drives it and there have been a few close calls.
And yes the more we drive it the more scratches it gets..big deal, that's what paint is for.
I call bs on this.
I bet you are nervous as a kitten when she drives and you hate every minute ... lol. You hate every scratch and dent she's put on your baby but you are too " ...... whipped" to say anything. LOL
where did i say i wasn't nervous, yes im whipped thats why i bought it for her birthday present??
The day I bought it, notice the 2011 on the permit.
Any more questions idiot?
Get back to your hot wheels
Its a fucking car.
I have an unmolested 69 mustang. I can't exactly go buy a new one, even similar ones are hard to locate. With drum brakes on each corner, bathtub like handling and 400 hp, my gf still mostly drives it and there have been a few close calls.
And yes the more we drive it the more scratches it gets..big deal, that's what paint is for.
I have an unmolested 69 mustang. I can't exactly go buy a new one, even similar ones are hard to locate. With drum brakes on each corner, bathtub like handling and 400 hp, my gf still mostly drives it and there have been a few close calls.
And yes the more we drive it the more scratches it gets..big deal, that's what paint is for.
I call bs on this.
I bet you are nervous as a kitten when she drives and you hate every minute ... lol. You hate every scratch and dent she's put on your baby but you are too " ...... whipped" to say anything. LOL
Its a fucking car.
I have an unmolested 69 mustang. I can't exactly go buy a new one, even similar ones are hard to locate. With drum brakes on each corner, bathtub like handling and 400 hp, my gf still mostly drives it and there have been a few close calls.
And yes the more we drive it the more scratches it gets..big deal, that's what paint is for.
I have an unmolested 69 mustang. I can't exactly go buy a new one, even similar ones are hard to locate. With drum brakes on each corner, bathtub like handling and 400 hp, my gf still mostly drives it and there have been a few close calls.
And yes the more we drive it the more scratches it gets..big deal, that's what paint is for.
A car is made to drive. If the choice is either it sits in the parking lot or my wife drives it somewhere... My wife gets to drive it.
Of course, if I want to go somewhere myself my wife can take her own bloody car.
Of course, if I want to go somewhere myself my wife can take her own bloody car.
Nobody says the car isnt being driven ...
Everyone value things differently.
Yeah, it is your car and your call. I just gave my opinion and I guess you're right that I don't value my car that much.
Obviously I am not you and my wife doesn't have a licence to drive so I can't really relate
. If I were your I probably wouldn't let her drive it either. Heck, she has a BMW? What is she complaining about!? 
Thanks OP for giving me another reason to not get married 
If you're wife was reasonable and intelligent she'd know exactly why you'd think twice about letting her borrow a new car let alone one that's expensive, if she hasn't she sounds pretty arrogant. I'd basically say "Sure you can drive it, but you're the one paying for the damn insurance if you crash it again" but that just depends on how much you want to stay with her lol.
If you're wife was reasonable and intelligent she'd know exactly why you'd think twice about letting her borrow a new car let alone one that's expensive, if she hasn't she sounds pretty arrogant. I'd basically say "Sure you can drive it, but you're the one paying for the damn insurance if you crash it again" but that just depends on how much you want to stay with her lol. A car is made to drive. If the choice is either it sits in the parking lot or my wife drives it somewhere... My wife gets to drive it.
Of course, if I want to go somewhere myself my wife can take her own bloody car.
Of course, if I want to go somewhere myself my wife can take her own bloody car.
Nobody says the car isnt being driven ...
Everyone value things differently.
A car is made to drive. If the choice is either it sits in the parking lot or my wife drives it somewhere... My wife gets to drive it.
Of course, if I want to go somewhere myself my wife can take her own bloody car.
Of course, if I want to go somewhere myself my wife can take her own bloody car.
What car did you get?
Porche Panamera Turbo SAnother question? If you don't trust your wife even if it is so petty thing like driving your car - why are you with her?
Its not about trusting here. She dinged my bumper by going too deep into the parking spot in an underground parking lot. She's also had it dinged in a parking lot while the car was parked. She's not a bad driver, but not a good one either.
Did you tell her before you bought it she wasn't going to be driving it because of her crappy driving?
Has she got her own car?
If you answered yes to both the above, don't sweat it and keep her away from your car. You can always placate her with expensive jewelry.
Has she got her own car?
If you answered yes to both the above, don't sweat it and keep her away from your car. You can always placate her with expensive jewelry.
She has her own bmw
At the end of the marriage, she will likely own 80% of your properties life savings. Get used to it now and let her drive the car.
Would you rather her fuck up your car or your relationship? 
The way I figure it, my wife owns 50% of my "fun" car. If she want's to drive it, I trust her enough to, and will ungrudgingly deal with whatever improbable outcome that results. Same way I would understand her allowing me to drive her "fun" car if I desired.
Well, when we got engaged she made substantially more than me. When we had our money talk, I figured we would have a joint account and everything goes in there. She felt that wasn't fair. So we ended up going the route where we both put an equal amount into the joint account each month. All shared expenses come out of the joint account. We would also have our own personal accounts. With this arrangement, she had a hell of a lot more spending money than me.
Over the years, I've closed the gap in terms of our salaries. However, I've made quite a bit in my investments over the past several years. Now that I've got a decent amount of personal money, I decided to use it to buy myself a nice car. So really, it is my car, paid for with my money.
Did you tell her before you bought it she wasn't going to be driving it because of her crappy driving?
Has she got her own car?
If you answered yes to both the above, don't sweat it and keep her away from your car. You can always placate her with expensive jewelry.
Has she got her own car?
If you answered yes to both the above, don't sweat it and keep her away from your car. You can always placate her with expensive jewelry.
Another question? If you don't trust your wife even if it is so petty thing like driving your car - why are you with her?
Same way I would understand her allowing me to drive her "fun" car if I desired.
*Hey baby, I let you drive my fun car, now it's my turn to drive yours?*
You have to let her drive it sometime so what the hell let her take a swing at it while it's covered with insurance.
What car did you get?
Every car I've ever owned - I've let my wife drive. She's always put a ding or two in them. I recently bought a really expensive car and my wife wants to drive it. I really don't want to let her, so I told her that I'd have to think about it. She is pretending that she's not mad at me, but I know she is.
I've worked hard, saved a lot, and invested well to be able to comfortably afford a nice car. I take really good care of the car and consider it as a reward to myself.
If you were me, would you suck it up and graciously let the wife drive the car? or try and explain to the wife why I don't want her to drive it?
I've worked hard, saved a lot, and invested well to be able to comfortably afford a nice car. I take really good care of the car and consider it as a reward to myself.
If you were me, would you suck it up and graciously let the wife drive the car? or try and explain to the wife why I don't want her to drive it?
What car is this? And just let her drive. If she destroy it let her buy a new car for you. Simply as that.
Let her drive it but let her get used to it first driving around a parking lot or something. But you know what you should do really.
At the end of the marriage, she will likely own 80% of your properties life savings. Get used to it now and let her drive the car.
id go with the car and just get another wife
Would you rather her fuck up your car or your relationship?
relationship at least your car will be safe XD and if you have a nice car its easier to get a younger model wife to XD
seems like a business transaction, like hey! I got married to you! everything yours is mine now!
like wtf?
like wtf?
your married, why did that happen? better give her the keys quickly!
Would you rather her fuck up your car or your relationship?
hell no dont let any woman near a nice car. i let my mum drive my care once and needed a new bumper. my sister hit my car with her car. woman are a danger near cars. buy her something expensive and pretty she can play with. but for the love of all cars dont let here near it.
yeah that seems a way better plan. Just buy something pretty and distracting to say fuk off to the car lol.
just curious what car did you get?
hell no dont let any woman near a nice car. i let my mum drive my car once and needed a new bumper. my sister hit my car with her car. woman are a danger near cars. buy her something expensive and pretty she can play with. but for the love of all cars dont let here near it.
You deserve it.
Your hard blood sweat and tears for this, why allow someone to enjoy that moment lol. Even if its your wife.
You can have her drive it in a open parking lot and reduce the risk for dings?
Your hard blood sweat and tears for this, why allow someone to enjoy that moment lol. Even if its your wife.
You can have her drive it in a open parking lot and reduce the risk for dings?
The way I figure it, my wife owns 50% of my "fun" car. If she want's to drive it, I trust her enough to, and will ungrudgingly deal with whatever improbable outcome that results. Same way I would understand her allowing me to drive her "fun" car if I desired.
you must have good car insurance, and it depend also from your wife driver skills too
Every car I've ever owned - I've let my wife drive. She's always put a ding or two in them. I recently bought a really expensive car and my wife wants to drive it. I really don't want to let her, so I told her that I'd have to think about it. She is pretending that she's not mad at me, but I know she is.
I've worked hard, saved a lot, and invested well to be able to comfortably afford a nice car. I take really good care of the car and consider it as a reward to myself.
If you were me, would you suck it up and graciously let the wife drive the car? or try and explain to the wife why I don't want her to drive it?
I've worked hard, saved a lot, and invested well to be able to comfortably afford a nice car. I take really good care of the car and consider it as a reward to myself.
If you were me, would you suck it up and graciously let the wife drive the car? or try and explain to the wife why I don't want her to drive it?
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