Totally what I was expecting.
It's a complicated one.
Basically I am just trying to merge two internal networks at different locations using an openVPN service on a device thats inside network #1.
If my network #1 had a server instead of a router; it would be one step less complicated... but i would still have the issue of the VPN's network, separating both network #1 and network #2 from being able to freely see and talk to devices on each other.
Since being on network #2 allows me to communicate to devices on network #1 (they are on the outbound to the internet so to speak), It adds a layer of confusion that you can't ping a device that's on network #2; from network #1. The only way I can do that is to ssh into the "router" pc for network #2, and from that terminal, I can ping and talk to the devices connected to its ethernet port... and that's pinging a network #2 device from network #2.... not what I need.
Part of this configuration goal is for farm maintenance. Part of it is so that my family can access my countless terabytes of media and whatnot from their home(s) when It is able to be set up the way I want it.
This task isn't for the feint of heart.