Topic: Crazy week. I lost a dear friend and I lost my job (Read 640 times)

Sorry to hear about the challenging week you've had. Losing a friend and facing a job loss is never easy. Your perspective on finding meaning and happiness is admirable. Wishing you strength as you navigate these changes and embark on a new journey.

Its almost a year to the day of originally posting this and I just want to say that there is a light at the end of the tunnels!!

One year ago I had so much happen so quickly - and it was a very long and testing roller coaster of a year 2023 was. Keeping up with all of my bills and providing for my family all while trying to reinvent myself basically and finding a new line of work that I could be proud of and make enough money with (that also wasn't too far away from home.)

I almost had the perfect segway into a new position making like 20% more, getting a company car and everything and the 8th interview in the lady misinterpreted something I said and I didn't get the job lol. That pretty much monopolized my time and the rest of my PTO because I was interviewing already when I made the OP still- maybe 4 or 5 interviews in so after I didn't get that after I was so sure that I was going to land it I basically took a month and a half off to just breathe and plan my next move, I was looking for new jobs the whole time. I went on to strike a deal with a fellow hobbyist "friend" who had a gold and silver coin business that I worked in for a time before but I was never willing to fully quit my job and go in on it full time. This was something that I am truly passionate and so I had the chance to work in that area for nearly 5 months where I learned so much- I had the chance to familiarize myself with AI there as he had it completely tethered to his "backend" systems. I soaked it all in and had a very great time but the truth is that working for this man was truly very stressful and not very fun. He was the biggest micromanager ever and they monopolized my time. When I needed to take time off even if it was important they didn't really care about me or my family it was all just about the money lol pun intended. They also didn't have any benefits what so ever. I was pretty much dying to get out of there after they were literally crushing my spirit,  I did an amazing job there too and I worked my ass off  and my sales were through the roof, it was just in the end there we didn't exactly part as I would have hoped. Its a long story, but in the end the important thing is that I did what was best for me and my family. The best for me was finding yet another job, this time through a friend with a recommendation and for a very reputable company. They sent me out to the Midwest for training for a week, which was awesome! I made a lot of great friends along the way and after the training it was evident that this company truly cared about their employees and they had amazing benefits and everything! I went in there and broke the sales record in my second week for the fastest sale. I was there for a total of 3 months when I realized that I just hated it and had to find something better, something more aligned with my interests. That is when an opportunity literally landed in my lap with a phone call for a tech company that I had a keen interest in before and had actually looked at a position for 3 years prior. Well it turned out opporunity comes knocking like it usually does and so I ended up taking their interview offer and landing the job. Taking that positon back in the fall was a game changer for me! The benefits are the best I have ever had! I have the best boss and the best flexibility that I have ever had in a job. I have been working there now since then and I have to say that I really did find what I was looking for. I am now doing something I care about, making a difference, and I am even doing it alongside some of my family and even my friends now. I somehow managed to find exactly what I was looking for it seems, and I am so grateful to God for all that I have and all that he has shown me in the past year, especially the hard times because it has made me the person that I am!

Life really is incredible and if there is anything that it has taught me in the last 12 months it is this: Things are never as they appear, always read the fine print & ask all the questions you think of even if they sound stupid, you'll be thankful you had asked them and gained the clarity and fully understood. Don't every trust anyone for their word, make sure you have an agreement in writing, even if its a literal piece of paper you have them sign with some small description of contract. People always want to see a return on their investment but you have to watch out for signs of greed, aurgumentative personalities ( I mean always have to be right- egotistical), and micromanagerial tactics that are way over the top. If you ever find yourself in a situation that you are dealing with people like this and they are your boss - just get the heck out of there and find something better.) Some people in your life are only there because of something you share in common, whether that be a certain habit or a certain place you hang around with the same people etc etc. Sometimes you just have to break yourself free from situations and people like this because its most likely keeping you from growth by maintaining a constant state of either comfort of familiarity. In the pursuit of taking something you are passionate about and trying to turn this into a business first make sure that you consider that you may become so consumed with the end result after you turn your passion into a business that you may start to lose the passion for it in the first place, which to me doesn't seem worth it. Remove yourselves from such situations and allow yourself to breathe, find a better way that you can turn your passions into more lucrative opportunities on your own terms and don't let anyone hinder your growth in this stage.  I have learned that family is always the most important and they will always be there for you to lean on no matter what. They got through all of these hardships with me and as a result we are so much stronger! Thank you all for keeping up with this and for sharing your thoughts, I means a lot. I am in such a better place now and I am thankful for all that God has given me.

What a tragedy, it's very painful mostly at this time in our nation loosing a job as well as dearest person is so painful, if your not smart enough it can push someone into square one, mostly now that getting a job is somehow difficult. But one thing I believe is that in all thing life is Paramount no matter what a man loss being alive is better because things can't still change in your favor and you have what you have loss double if it's property loss but life is not possible. My last word is laid it off from your heart to avoid emotional Truman.

Life is always making plans for the next step, don't be too relaxed with what you have, make a plan b just incase what you are having for the moment is not working fine it will be very easy for you to switch to plan B.  If we learn to get prepare for life I don't think we will be taking unaware about things. I know it not that easy to get things easily but their is always a difference when one is prepared,  atleast it won't be as a shock when things go wrong.

I can't imagine how heavy you feel right now, losing your job is really depressing but you have a 7 years of experience, it's easy to get a better job because you already have experience. But when you lose a friend, this is the hard part especially if you are super close and you think of him as a brother. I hope you are okay and can think clearly about what to do next. You will always remember that when something is lost, something better comes

Sometimes I feel unhappy with my job too. Many things bother me, I've worked at this place for 5 years, they say it's the maximum time to stay at a company. But I move on, the important thing is to always have a plan B, whether with investments or business ideas, so that when the day comes to leave (this day will come), you don't feel completely lost.

Life sometimes can be uncertain and most times one is faced with multiple sad occurrences and no proper explanation to it but you'd have to brace up and encourage yourself.

Losing a loved one and a Job as well is a clear example of situations never predicted and never anticipated but it has happened. You should find solace in hope for a better tomorrow and accept the loss of a loved one as part of the realities of life. I know it hurts but you can't bring back a loved one who's gone.


My condolences man

This is the only thing and a better thing a person always care for, its families for which he bear difficulties in different situations even I have seen many people here in our country  who are very poor even they found it difficult to find one time dinner for theirselves, but they are still working hard to feed their families even in this poverty and in the age of inflation in our country.


The only thing which they tend to work is their families and they way they are working is so hurting and even in the hardest surfaces and in the hottest weather mostly. So, I mean from this, that this is life we can have some bad times even and we have some good time also, but in both of the times we have to be very consistent and never leave the right path we have followed.

Keep grinding away pal & like you say, you’ll get yours one day. Hope the new job is going well & things are looking up. I see you’re still pretty active in the forum, good to see.

Fit in to life that is full of mysteries my dear. Strive to be the head and not the tail so that you can be defensive and be reliable if challenges comes else if you keep to being the tail, when the head is eventually cut off, you as the tail also goes down.
I whisper you the energymatic ability to inhale courage, keep fit and UPs to face the storms of today and enjoy the rhythm of tomorrows echoes of joy.

You may have a role model but don't put confident in man but believe on yourself that somedays the follower becomes a leader. Everyone is timeless at all costs and tomorrow is unpredictable.

Sure responsibilities are considered and that is why people are attaining and accepting the displeasures at their work places because they just want to work and provide for their families else, best job one could have is that which you have passions and develops fun and comfortable doing without undermining how much paid and the state of working under pressures.

Sometimes failures thought us that we can do far better than that, that's why many people says don't quit ever, if you are quitting for just of the one reason, then there are many other reasons too through which you have to carry on and you should have to work on your plans. We can make plans but we have to be prepared for the worst situation sometimes.

We can't say that there will be only happiness in our lives, as happiness is also a part of life and sadness and struggles, up and downs always comes in every person life. There is no one in this world who can say or who can confess that he didn't even sad a single time in life. Because these all things are strictly bound to the human life. In this way we should just move a step forward with positive thinking even in the hardships.

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May his soul RIP.

As for your job, you can get a better one some day.
Or go into a business if, you have the capital.

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Regards

Everyday is not a Christmas day brother. Life is so challenging and god always gives us new challenges. Take a break for a while. Do what you like most in these days. Watch movies, listen to songs, play some games, sober, hangout with friends and etc... Then start your life with a fresh beginning. May god bless you!

I'm truly sorry for the challenges you've faced recently. Your courage and faith in difficult times are inspiring. Life's unpredictability teaches us to value every moment and prioritize happiness and relationships. Trusting in God's plan brings you peace. Your potential and positive attitude will lead you to meaningful endeavors. Best wishes for a fulfilling future.

Thanks for your concern m8, all of you.  Things are looking up. I did take a job for the last 3 months working in something I was really passionate about which was gold and silver coins, it was a telemarketing gig selling rare coins to collectors. The business owner was a friend of mine but the hours were too late to be present with family or anywhere else, he was over demanding and micromanaging to the max so I decided to quit. Another job fell in my lap, had it lined up before I quit.  They value their employees so much more, big company, big benefits and commissions with a decent salary doing consultant work so I just started that gig and right now im pretty excited about it. Still barely scraping by as I'm not bitcoin rich, not even close but I'm gonna get mine some day!! Lord willing. It's gonna be a lot of work, but it's gonna be worth it. The best part it that it's fulfilling and I'm actually helping people get into a better position, literally. The job is in recruitment and I work best with people so it's a natural fit for me.

OP is quite active on the forum especially in the Collectibles section. It’s been a while since he posted in his thread, it was quite a moving OP. Would he good if he checked in here to update on how he is doing.

In any case, I hope he’s OK & is having better luck.

Loosing your job can be depressing and frustrating when you begin to think of how to get another job, but on the better side of things, it is a better opportunity to get a better job.

Just remain expecting a better job, and it will come.

I’m really sorry to read about the awful time you’ve had this week. Life can really suck at times, it doesn’t seem fair. RIP to your friend, such a tragic loss & waste of life. I hope his family can find peace in time.

The job news sucks but you will find a new job. You seem a really positive guy & that makes a huge difference during times like this. You will be OK & find yourself a new job. Nothing will bring your friend back but you will always have memories.

I hope things get better for you soon, buddy.

Am sorry about your loss.. know how it feel when you lose someone dear to you.. I once felt this way when I loss my dad he was like my backbone I was very sad but with time I gradually moved on but he still hold a space in my heart.. Accept my condolences

As for your jobs there are other opportunities out there as long as there is life there is hope for you..

Accept my warmest condolences mate, may the soul of your friend rest in what it deserves far from this wicked and troubled world.

As for your job loss, I could feel the excitement to start life afresh and better from your write up, that's good, life's too short to let little things disturb our peace, when there's life, the definitely is hope.

So, with just a little effort here and there, I believe you can bounce back better and stronger and this time, please ensure it is something you love just like you've said in the post, do not let the love of money rub you off your peace of mind, no amount worths that.

To your first part on Justin, Amen 🙏 thank you man those are very kind words. Still so hard to believe someone can throw their life away in an instant and not even fully comprehend what they’re doing because they’re on drugs.

I didn’t really have a choice and in honesty I was fired. Being laid off just sounds so much better doesn’t it? I wish i was laid off I would have a severance package. I feel like I definitely deserve one with all I have done for that company, but they were fine to let me go even so. It’s unfortunate but its honestly a blessing too because I really dreaded that job.  Despite being an attendee at Presidents club in November and still closing business a lot of business up until my firing it all comes down to the numbers they said. I’ve been there for 7 years, and my tenure had no weigh in this decision. I believe I was fired because a certain Bitcoin ATM company stopped paying their bills and pretty much cost my company 3.5 million dollars. That same company being my franchise partner for a BTM. The last 6 months of my life have been a whirlwind to day the least! I had to pivot and find a new partner for my ATM, which is set to launch next week. Life insurance has been good hitting it hard and setting appointments so that’s good. I am considering starting a pressure washing business in my neighborhood where the HOA has now made it a requirement to pressure wash the driveway and there are 400 houses in my community. I have confidence that I can take advantage of the opportunity. I have been hard at work so I have not been on here as much as usual. But I can tell you that I am most definitely positive and trying to seize the day every day! There is a light at the end of the tunnel after all, I do believe it. I will keep you guys posted with the progress. Your support means the world.

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend Justin. That must have been a terrible shock and a huge loss for you. Losing someone close is never easy and it takes a long time to heal. You should be proud of yourself for holding onto that unexplainable peace during such a difficult time. Justin was a positive influence in your life, and it's great that he was able to bring so much encouragement and positivity into your life in such a short amount of time. May his memory live on and bring comfort to his family and loved ones.

As for your job loss, I can understand that it must have been a tough decision for you, but it's good to know that you have a plan and are actively looking for opportunities. You are right, it's important to do what you love and to surround yourself with people you care about. Starting a business or finding a better job could be a great opportunity for you to find more happiness and fulfillment in your career. Selling life insurance on the side is also a great idea and I wish you the best of luck in your job search.

It sounds like you have a positive attitude towards the future and that you are excited for what's to come. That's a great mindset to have, especially during difficult times. Remember, this is just the beginning of a new chapter, and you never know what amazing opportunities and relationships await you. Please keep us updated on your journey and don't hesitate to reach out if you need anything.

Take care, and lots of love to you.

Its wild to think that so much can happen in one week. Someone that was near and dear to me passed form a fentanyl overdose, which is just so wild to me and i'm still in shock. Someone who I thought had their ish together too. On top of that I unfortunately was laid off from my job on Friday.

I have a very unexplainable peace in this time. I feel like most people might not feel the same way that I do about all of this. Of course I am crushed by the loss of my friend, Justin. The best way I can describe my relationship with him is also found in scripture in the bible, "Iron sharpens Iron" RIP Justin I know that he is with God in heaven now. He gave me more encouragement and spoke so much positivity into my life, more so than most of the people that i've known, and in such a short amount of time. May God be with his family and loved ones.

As far as my job, I knew it was coming so this did give me some time to prepare. As far as the future right now, it is very uncertain. What I will say though is that I do believe that it is a blessing in disguise. I really didn't love my job, I hated it actually. What tied me down was the money, of course. I have a family to provide for. But now I have applied for unemployment which will give me some time to figure out what I am going to do. Maybe start a business, or find a much better job with better pay. Certainly I will be selling some life insurance on the side, since I have my license to do so. I also have things that I can sell, so thats good. Its just a job. There a soooo many jobs out there, so I'm not worried about that.

Mostly I just want to do something meaningful, something that I love and care about. I'd love to do it with people that I also care about and can form deeper relationships with. That is what is most important in this life. Its not money, its not the job. Its about being happy and forming amazing relationships with people you care about. Hopefully, if you're lucky you can manage to kill two birds with one stone and find your dream job working alongside your best friends. I know its out there, and i'm searching for it.

Lots of emotions have been felt this week. Leaving a career of 7 years, and losing a dear friend all in the same week. It really puts things into perspective for you. Don't let your job define you because it can be replaced, also you're not promised tomorrow! Wild ride. But now is just the beginning of a new chapter, a new journey. And I am excited, I am ready, and I will be looking forward to whatever the future holds. Please wish me luck as I continue in my job search, and morn the loss of my friend.

Lets make every day count this year in 2023! Remember anything can change in an instant, and today you could take your last breath. So don't waste it. Thats all I have for now, but thank you in advance to anyone who read this. I welcome all thoughts and comments. Please be respectful. Thank you.

Cheers,

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