Topic: Damaged salary (Read 556 times)

But it's hard, I woke up I had a really bad feeling, the feeling that I was doing "dumb" for 7 days, everything went away. I feel guilty and don't blame anyone else, but I don't know the burden of letting go of this ugly past.

Time is the absolute thing we can rely on specially on this. We cannot deny the fact that it is totally devastating to loss a money by the reason of time ONLY and we are the responsible one from it, it is not from techinical or other out door factors that cause to me to loss such money but me itself whom are responsible to loss money because of my recklessness.

^ It's not all about gambling, it's about you how to manage in gambling to your self. But that is not what OP meant. Something like regretting your decisions and stake and when you see your paycheck it was just a loss. This is all about self-discipline and it should have a limitation that only places a bet that you can afford to lose not to spend your whole salary in gambling or else, repentance always comes at last.

Not really sure what you mean. If my company starts to miss my paychecks I would just bail as soon as possible. Missing paycheck and losing money is not the same. I guess to are comparing this with losing all your deposit in gambling.
If you "feel" like gambling is harming you, then stop gambling. Tell your family and friends about your problem and let them help you! Time will help you cure, but its of no use if you go back to gambling again.

Past experiences whether good or bad give you teaching and when it comes to money very vital one should take a moment to think and see how we could have done it better or the ways so as to avoid in future which will help not to repeat same mistake ahead .

Gambling just for the source of fun and not source for income because not all the time when you are gambling, you will win those games, better to control yourself in playing gambling because you are taking a risk just for playing. One of the proper things to avoid too much loss in betting is to set a limit or amount of value needed to play, and then it those lose better to take time to earn another money just for playing. Don't gamble every day. It is just an addiction for losing and giving your payment to the other person. If you are still want to play better to takes time to study gambling, search for some techniques and methods to do to win the game.

a bad feeling when losing is normal, but don't drag on thinking about it. we must remember that money can be sought again, the most important thing is that you must learn from experience not to repeat the same mistakes. rise and enthusiasm to get more money.

everyone has a different way of dealing with the problems they face, and you will not be able to reach out to everyone's feelings one by one..  Personally I don't think too much about what I did before, I let every loss I get, I think the lost money can I get again but time can not I get again...  I would only waste energy, time and maybe get sick if I kept thinking about the money I had lost.

More talks less action.
That's how life works. There are more opinions coming from those people who do not really tried to gamble in a way where you almost lost all of your money or those people that gambles who do not doing the same thing as they said.

But, what their opinion is really well said, but it is really hard to apply especially to limit and to control yourself.

but it is easy said than done right?

tons of people here in gambling section posted the same idea that we must be responsible gambler,control our self when playing,bring enough money for playing ETC,but the reality?majority of those who says that positivities are not doing the same thing that they say,instead they are a terrible gamblers in real life,or some are not really gambler and so that easy for them to tell some good story because they dont know the feeling of being one.

Are you talking about you have lose all of your money from your paycheck because of gambling? That's what you mean? If that's the case then you must be responsible about this happenings because you the one who plays and gambles the money so before the gambling or the play starts, you already know what would be the possible outcomes of the gambling it's either you will lose or you will win. When I lose a huge amount of money and it is because of gambling in which almost all of the salary I have get was put into the gambling and lose, it is really sad and depressing because I don't know yet to do but I tried to debt on friends so that I would be able to have extra money.

It happened to me a few months ago where I used my crypto salary in gambling. It brought me a terrible feeling and I have been through a rough situation which I'm really regretful of. From then on, I tried to put limits and to discipline myself. I learned how to allocate enough funds for staking and I tried not to be too greedy. We only have to control things well.

If you're pertaining to gambling then its really hard to lose everything you had because of it, realizing your mistake in the end can cause anyone to become depress and desperate on how to get it back especially if its an important money thats meant for your family's needs. Despite this we have to think positive on how to resolve the problem and move on. Sometimes losing everything is an eye opener to change ourselves to not become addicted or not to use a money that we cant afford to lose.

You will only have that feeling if you are gambling not within your means, and you pour amounts to bet that is beyond what you can lose,
I experienced that twice and it's a big lesson, because the feeling is hard to accept and hard to deal, but I decide to treat this as a lesson in life, and in gambling that you should only play within your means.

Half is too much, I think a little percentage is fine from salary since gambling can be used to make yourself have a fun time.
Of course, OP should have realized that he earned his money through his hard work, and it should be used in his own needs or in his family. Using it only to gambling is not a wise decision.

some bad ideas when playing gambling is to use money from salary and borrowed money. I have lost so much in gambling, but I have never felt pain, because I gambled from free money that got it not with difficulty.

If you're a responsible person, it wouldn't happen, but when you're not having self-control and yet, you're an irresponsible type of guy; gambling the entire salary is a possible. The most addicted gamblers only worked for money, just for gambling lucky betting without even thinking the value of their salary on how hard to earn by your own sweat. Always prioritize family budgets, and if you can't avoid betting for gambling then have it 10% of your salary as occasional allowance for gambling to minimize it.

true  .  this is why there is an advice called gamble only what you can afford  . when you have a good salary earnt from your job , just take only half or amount that you can easily forget whenever you loose  but never ever gamble all of it because you did work hard for that money to earn it and its pretty much weaking if you can loose it all in an instant  . i do also have a job but i dont like to gamble my salary because its only small and my work is tedious  .

Never gamble your whole salary it is not wise enough to do. When you lose everything it feels you are down and cannot move on easily. The decisions to make when at lose do not be desperate instead, plan to move forward and the next time do not gamble if you cannot afford to lose. We know in gambling it’s either you can win or lose, and also luck may come or not in your way.

I don't see your point. Your seeing a bright side of there is someone lost more than how much you have lost. It is not a bright side, it is something that an individual can take to risk. Every individual does have their own level of financial capability, and if the only money you can risk is the same as the amount of your paycheck, it is just the same as some other gambler who lost even their car or house due to gambling. They are capable of it, and that's how it is.

There is always a solution to that, borrow money if you already loss your salary.

I experience that in the past already, I have my salary by the end of the money and I really need to gamble because of the urge, so I decided to loan my ATM card to a certain lender and promise to pay the loan when my salary came out by the end of the month, unfortunately, I also loss that borrowed amount so basically I am left with nothing by the end of the month since I promise to pay, what I did is just ask for a loan again and that time it will be long term one, I guess that was for 6 months equal amortization and the lender agrees, but the feeling is not good if you are paying on a monthly basis on the amount that you even didn't enjoy.

lesson learned, never gamble what you can't afford to lose, and always be a discipline gambler.

Lossing all your paycheck which I assume your whole month salary is somehow a pain in the ass, but let's look at the bright side of it, considering there are people who just lost everything (car, house, and family) not just in a single stake, but an overall total amount of losses. Consider it lucky if you still feel remorse after lossing a paycheck than lossing everything in the long term. That's a scenario to ponder.



If you were able to read the whole thread you will easily notice the OP did clarified his statement above to relate everything in gambling.
https://bitcointalksearch.org/topic/m.53188390

Important advice: invest/gamble with amount you can afford to lose. Bitcoin/Crypto trading is a better than typical gambling though (especially luck-based gambling). Holding is one of the things that make it better, assuming that holding is not possible in gambling... So the "hold" probably don't apply in gambling discussion

I think every gambler has experience this sort of "all-in" in gambling, it depends on how you're going to react on it. Others find a way to get over it on a day, while others takes time, learn from their lesson and vow not to experienced it again. I'm also on the same predicated before, lost my months' salary in casino, and soon it was really a hard lessons for me not to gambler all my money, and I understand what others are saying, "play what you can afford to lose".

Yep, sadly this can happen when you lack experience.
I know exactly how is this, from my experience.


If you have a family you know that any action, good or bad, has its consequences.
Family can help. Friends can help too. Maybe some can lend you some money here and there to loosen the burden until the next paycheck.
Usually one month is not enough to compensate the loss, especially if others also depend on that money (in my case at least that was not the case, so your situation is more difficult than mine was). So you'll need help (you can also see it as a test, to see who is friend and who is just buddy). Maybe ask your boss give you some money in advance.

Getting nervous and depressed is normal, between certain limits (!), but you have to think on solutions, that'll be a first step.


Play more with your kids if you have. Go out more. Go to events, for example sport events. You may find some where you don't have to pay to enter. Concentrating on the game/contest can take your mind off from your problems for a while. Do sports until you get too tired to even think. Go fishing if you have friends to go with (don't go alone, because then you'll be alone with your thoughts). A risky option would be to dive into computer games, but then you may neglect your family, and that's also not OK.

Basically avoid staying alone with your thoughts. If you didn't manage that and you're alone, simply do sport if you have nothing better to do.

I have been in such situation only one time in my life when I gambled all the money I had and lost all of them.The feeling is a great sadness that surrounds you and you think that all is lost.After staying laid down on bed for several hours I borrowed some money from a friend of mine and continued my life routine.I thought a lot and decided to always set a small bankroll to gamble which I still do this day.That situation helped me to not become addicted like many others.

If I were you OP, I will not feel regret when I get lose or something to make decisions that make me lose. First, I only gamble that I can afford to lose not just my entire balance that comes from my salary. Second, I'm strick on my decision of what I had decided to stake, win or lose it would be fine. Think first your family or even your self for the daily budget needs and then, set amount if you have extra money to gamble. Of course, if all your salary will lose from gambling you will feel depressed.

Overall, it needs self-control and self-discipline.

In the first case you should never risk your whole salary in gambling. That's the silly mistake which most of the gamblers make. If the gambler is unable to understand the risk in gambling, he should not be playing it . I normally try to gamble with a limited amount and it is a very small portion of my total earning, and in this way even if i lost the amount, it will not have much effect on my overall life and income.

This topic should be in the altcoin section and maybe what he means by a paycheck is the bounty rewards which he should receive but miss the opportunity because of some unknown reasons, I experienced that on so many occasions I missed a lot of bounty rewards, because they announced when bounty hunters are not aware.

Yeah, Relax and unwind is the best way to cool off the stress of losing in gambling. There is a tendency to lose more if a person keeps gambling in an unstable state of mind which is actually what
the casino wants because more human error is present at that condition. In my own way, I play games that I love like DOTA and Legend of Zelda every time I lose significant amounts.
I already tried going on vacation after the big loss but it didn't work. It always breaks my mood every time I remember it so I always end up being scolded by my girlfriend for killing the vacation mood.

honestly I have never experienced anything like what happened to the OP, my salary has been allocated to pay a lot of bills and usually only play gambling with the results of bounty or when there is more money from trading results.

For those who have experienced something like this, it would be better not to think directly about how to return the money that has been used in gambling, it would be better to take a break a day and start thinking of ways to get money back, when our minds are clear we can find an ideas to recover funds.

Time is always the best cure for gambling since you can change the way you spend but for me there's other things that felt worse. Money can always come back while there are other things that can't be cured with time like health related problems.


For some gamblers who can't stop themselves after a bad gambling session that's one way to lose their hard earned money. Sometimes they would even ask for more or extend their loan if they lose it. 

you know what is happening to you but the problem is you dont want to admin that stupidity and your greediness covers your whole character.
now think another because it does happened already
you wont forget but you can tell yourself in the mirror and don't wait untill things comes worst .
lol don't be stupid to give advise when you cannot apply to yourself because who will listen to you when you can't even stand for it.

If something like that happens, there is nothing that can be done more than regretting what we have done.
You certainly know the risk of betting in gambling, defeat and victory is certain, it is only we who determine in the game of gambling.
Losing, in gambling for me all I can do is, stop opening gambling sites and go on a vacation to calm my brain for maybe two or three weeks, then I just decide to stop and keep playing.

I don't see the direct relation of this OP to the gambling but I want to relate it somehow. Damaged Salary could be achieve if you have too much debt to other people when you gamble too much. Your salary will be cut especially because you need to payback them. Thus, implying that in gambling, for you to have a stable salary is to control yourself and void borrowing money from others just to play and have something to bet.

Losing everything at stake is indeed the very worst feeling at all and sometimes it can lead to stress and mental breakdown to some people but regardless of what is happening you should always think that everything happens for a reason and that there will really be a time that you will be able to win. Bitcoin now is struggling to even reach the $10k mark again but I know for sure that it will surely bounce back so we just have to be positive and patient.

No regrets. Because I'm a person with strict decision. Like once you bet and lost, move on. Because in the world of gambling, you need to be strong, you take the risk and you should able to accept what are the consequences once you lost.

I think you felt like that is because you didn't afford those lost, like they are huge for you to put in gambling. I also felt that sometimes especially before I lost my 1month paycheck for just 1week of gambling.

If you managed to lose your entire salary to gambling, then you either have a gambling problem, or you just acted very irrationally once (unlikely).

Most gambling platforms have a disclaimer warning you to address your problem gambling... They're not trying to send you into debt or ruin your life.

Here's the one from crypto-games.net, take a read and act on it.

"What if I can't stop gambling?
Gambling can become an addiction that can have serious negative effects on your life. If you lose more than you planned to, please check these sites for information that can help you: Help Guide, Wikipedia. Or, you can contact us and we'll block your account and/or IP address. We truly value our players and do not want our Casino to negatively affect their lives."

After a big loss there is nothing to do besides learning from your own mistake to not commit it again in the future. All the depression, angry, sadness, desperation won't help you anyway, it will just make things worse for you as individual.
Change the way you see gambling and its meaning in your life, then you should be fine. Remember that it's possible to gamble without compromising your entire income on this activity, you just need to be a reasonable person.

Maybe it will be a little confused if I lose money in gambling, but it won't do anything crazy. because every time I gamble the money I use is money that is ready to lose. not money that can make you despair if you lose in gambling.

If you know you're going to be upset about the amount of money you're risking and thus could potentially lose through gambling, just don't gamble in the first place or set a limit so that you're less unhappy in case of a loss. Always plan for the worst, especially if you're gambling. I typically always save a part of my paycheck and only gamble a small amount of it so the losses don't affect me much, and I suggest you also do something similar if possible. You're not going to get that money back, so learn from this lesson and move on.

How hard is that when you've to turn nothing just in wrong thinking and wreck everything you have been holding. This is happening to many gamblers but they accept such mistakes cause maybe this is a way we have to learn. Of course, it is really disappointing and making us to believe that we can double our money in gambling but it compromises in the end. That is why we should have to think about what we are doing and knows what is the possible result we've got in the end.

I understand where you coming from mate, believed me I have been in that situation many times before in my life because of gambling. Lost everything that I have work in just one day so the feeling is very difficult. You feel stressed out because you know you needed money to like let say pay the bills, put food in the table.

So I need to think very fast, like go and pawn something or borrow money to your friends. But I completely change because I don't like that feeling and learn to prioritised everything before I go on my gambling habits.

Losing your hard earned money is hard to accept especially if it is already listed as your budget money for the entire month and here you are playing then suddenly it's gone. This must serve you as a lesson for future gambling experience because stopping right away is not that easy especially if the scars that left to you was still fresh. So you must gamble only with the amount that you are ready to lose next time.

Gambling and investing have one rule in common:

You don't invest/wager more than you could afford to lose. If you lost everything, that means you took more risk than you should have which is the violation of the most important rule.

Read some stuff about "risk management" and you'll do alright next time.

If you're going through a difficult time (losing good money is never easy..) then just take it one day at a time, speak with people around you, avoid isolation and get back into a 'groove' so to speak. Step by step, the pain you feel now dulls (but never forget it or the mistake is deemed to be repeated).

At first it started thinking I couldn't lose, so after a few rounds I lost a small amount of money, and since then everything goes to hell, I was in transition I didn't know what happened to me.
I was always grateful to be alive and well, being a family together. But I don't know where I'm so nervous and sad about material things, I got depressed, it never happened to me.
How to turn my attention to other things, how to forget.
I know that over time it will slowly go into the fog, but now it is very difficult for me.
And I advise everyone that they are not trying to get some lost money back.

The statement is misleading. I thought you missed your salary's paycheck.

Ok, to make it clear, you used your salary in gambling and you messed up and wrecked at the end.

In the first place, it's gambling. It's the consequence of doing gambling. You have to accept that you lose even how hard it is.

You know to yourself that losing money is not easy to endure so why end up doing gambling? You take the risks of gambling your money to expect something good in return although the other way around happened.

There is no other way to do but to MOVE ON. Next time, save your next salary into something good.

Depends on how much you lost. If the amount isn't that big, I doubt it that you'll be feeling worse. Is this a gambling-related topic? or you've lost a lot with your last gamble op?

Whatever you're going through right now, I wish you to overcome it as soon as possible.

Thanks for clarifying it out because i do have the same question after i do read up on whats being posted first on op.So you do pertain with losing all of your 1 month pay by gambling.You would surely mess up and panic out
specially if you do know that money is already allocated for your monthly expenses+needs etc. and then you suddenly lost it all a short period of time thru betting? You would really go into that desperation mode
and since people do have different will and things on mind then circumstances do happen will vary on each personals view and reaction.

I've lost, long time ago (1994, I think), all the money I had for a month.
Basically most I've lost trying to recover the initial loss
It's bad. Depressing. And you can easily go further down the hole.
You have to stop and get your mind busy with other things.
Sometime in the future, maybe in a month, maybe in years, you'll look back to this as an experience.
Sometime in the future you'll understand how to play and have fun with smaller amounts you can afford to lose.
At least that's my case.

I'm talking about how hard it is when you lose everything at stake, what feelings you have, and what decisions you make.
That's exactly how I feel, and I had a strong desire to reach out to these people

I am not sure what you mean. I really hope that you posted by mistake in gambling, since the other option would be that you've been gambling with money you clearly didn't afford lose, which nobody should do.

Was there a worse feeling than when you missed your paycheck?
This topic is for everyone nervous and angry because they lost their money.
Losing money is not easy to endure Was there a worse feeling than when you missed your paycheck?
I just feel that way, angry, but I'm strong enough not to make desperate decisions and continue to ruin.
Is the best cure time?  Wait a while to get things back in place.

For all of us who have lost, HOLD!