Topic: Dealing with low self-esteem (Read 335 times)

Of course, it is a mental problem. Actually, in the most of the cases I have seen from people who have claimed to have self-edteem problems or showed symptoms of not having a healthy self-esteem, those were people who were going to some kind of psychiatric treatment (antidepressants mostly), which would imply low self-esteem in many cases is to the cause of the problems, but actually a consequense which comes from more embedded issues (which are not so understood by people around those who suffer from anxiety or depression).

The best way to deal with it is to first try to reach out to people one can trust and talk about what one feels about one's own being and the intrusive thoughts on our worth. After building up some trust and talking about our problems, then it would be time to sell for professional help and visit a psychologist or psychiatrist. Even though mental problems and the consumption of medications of that sort is highly stigmatized, it is no excuse to allow our situation to get worse than already could be.

Just my two satoshis on this matter.

Never lose hope.

First of all learn to respect yourself.  If you can't respect yourself, others won't respect you either.  Why should you consider yourself inferior to other people?  You know you are good and your lifestyle is better than other people but why should you suffer inferiority.  Enjoying inferiority is no longer a question.  If you can't respect yourself, you can't respect other people.  Seeing yourself as inferior to others is also a kind of mental problem

When dealing with low self-esteem, it is important to be nice to yourself. Self-compassion is the discipline of acknowledging and embracing our defects and imperfections with tenderness and compassion rather than harsh opinion. It's not about being complacent or not wanting to grow, but about being kind to ourselves when we make errors or fall short of our goals. We may be as kind to ourselves as we would to a friend or loved one.
A relatively easy method to start practicing self-compassion is by using empowering statements such "I am worthy of love." However, it's not just about self-esteem, but also about the pressure to live up to society standards and expectations, since this may be so overpowering that it leads individuals to lose sight of who they really are and what they truly want.

Yeah low self seteem is something we can not do without,but we can eradicate it by developing our self also and above all develop your intellectual quocient and lean to be bold to speak for your self,why because low self esteem can kill your abition because it comes with fear,so people with low self esteem should try and develop them self in what they love doing believe God,and stop thinking about your background God does not look at your bckground to bless you.

You're right, low self-esteem can be very damaging for children when they grow up, but unfortunately they experience it because of the attitude of adults towards them when they were children, how many adults prefer smart, beautiful, handsome children or from families with a good economy and ignoring poor children and so on so that they are formed into rejected individuals so that they become low self-esteem.
Parents or adults must be able to accept children or young people in all circumstances and provide support for them to develop into confident individuals.

Low self esteem is really something we should take critical measures to eradicate from our society as it is really telling negatively on the children of this generation, low self esteem can make a child so timid and naive is not properly attended to, which will deny the child a chance to socialize and interact with friends which might have been of great help and benefit to her in one way to the other.
Low self esteem can kill the dream in a child in such away that the child won't leave up to expectation as compared to when he was to socialize and know period.

People with low self-esteem are some of the luckiest people in the world. Why? They don't have that much pride. It is pride that often makes people fail... Proverbs 16:18:
Pride has to do with thinking of one's self in ways that are lies. Low self-esteem has to do with humility, the realization that one has little strength.

The best thing for people of low self-esteem to do is to call to God for help. God listens to all people. He will help the truly humble (low self-esteem) people to be stronger, for real.

Whoever you are, if you have low self-esteem, look at the gift God has given you that you are humble. Turn to Him with your whole heart, and He will lift you up, and He will maintain you, as long as you remain humble with Him. Consider Micah 6:8:

Few of the ways we can deal with low self esteem are

1.Is to equip Oneself With the right and useful information and skills,
 
The Holy Bible did advice that we study to show ourselves approved, that a workman that needs not to be ashamed will rightly dividing the word of truth,

  the first step is to get the right information and skills and equip ourselves with a lot of it

2.Second step Is to learn how to express ourselves with few words and a display of bold and friendly charisma by mimicking the people that we fancy their pattern of speech delivery,  it will help in shaping us to find our own pattern

3. Thirdly is to place value on oneself by setting out personal goals and achieving them ,

Succeeding in life in different fields helps to get rid of our low self-esteem because success will put you on the spotlight and you will become a beacon that people will look up to and that will increase your value in the society.

These will help to reduce your low self esteem.  Thanks

You are right about looking for ways to improve but how many of those with low self esteem will want to go that extra mile to improve themselves. They will rather want to stay and remain in their shells. It is worse when i see grownup men with families acting scared before others because they have lost their sense of worth. Low self esteem is a destroyer.

Remember, that human beings are actually fragile creatures. human weakness is actually not only in terms of physical, but also mental. humans have innate traits from birth, humans always face critical conditions that often lead to depression, despair, as well as taint and sinful acts. humans are destined to be in a state of lamentation. humans are destined as creatures, places of wrong and forget.

This indicates that no human is perfect on this earth. no matter how strong, great, will experience a decrease due to situations and circumstances or association. in the context of this discussion is, Dealing with low self-esteem. and I think, this is one example that I say that humans are weak creatures. and this can happen to anyone, even when we are in the lowest point in life.

And like the points Op said, a way to build high self-confidence by upholding self-respect with sheer determination. I just want to add.  as weak creatures, both physically and psychologically, humans have the opportunity to improve these weaknesses. human reason is an advantage that can be used to overcome in any case, especially for dealing with low self-esteem. at least, there is effort to be made. build positive relationships, hang out with the right people, ask questions, even discuss with someone who is over in this field.  with common sense, a person will do something to correct his weakness. so that he is free from low self-esteem.

I discovered that people with low self esteem are easily angered because little things gets to them. I was like that until I begin to love and care for myself more. I don't let people's opinions about me define who I am. I am good just the way I am.

While growing up, I had low self esteem due to my complexion. I was able to deal with mine when I got to love and not take people's opinion or word about me to heart.
I'm very proud I overcame mine.

It depends on the way we accept it and how it's been applicable to us, low esteem could come in different forms and in most cases we feels inferior about ourselves in certain situations or conditions in life and deprived ourselves from that right to push forward to defend ourselves out of the situation or to make a change, we must not let low esteem get us out of luck and our right to living freely and getting fulfilled, in the same vein we must not as well get too much overconfidence in ourselves because it may lead to pride, but the worst we could do on ourselves is to remain silent when our voice is needed to be heard or talk to much when we needed to be silent.

Dealing with low self-esteem you have to let go of those your regret full life of the past and focus on the present.
Low self-esteem can cause someone to involve in evil act,it can make someone to look not responsible and it will lead you to limit yourself from your peers too.
Dealing with low self-esteem it should start from your heart first and also watch the kine of peers you are with.
You can deal with low self-esteem when you are always keeping yourself busy, try not to be alone and also try not to get close to fake friends too because they can make you move from up to down.

Making yourself a good room to study books on how to fight it from our life today,regardless to what ever you think that bothers yourself try not to be alone always.you need to go how and have fun with others and now the social media has made it best to us to see everything easier.you can just go in to your phone and try to watch tiktok and some other valuable web the make people laugh and so on.

Another way to handle your self Esteem is to get committed to self development and growth. You have a low self esteem because you do not feel good about yourself and your status. You can feel better by committing to improve yourself in those areas that you have identified needs improvement, be it your finance, exposure, social life etc. Having sufficient money to afford whatever you want is a morale booster that improves your self esteem, if you have a poor financial status, you will need to work on it.

Environmental factors are primarily responsible for low self-esteem; I was a victim of this years ago, and I must tell you, it was a terrible experience. I think parents should do more to engage their children in public speaking from an early age. I know this will help boost every child's self-esteem.

Excessive negative thoughts can make a person worse off. he felt that he was worthless and completely useless. because of that, he often hurt himself by telling himself that he was useless. from those words came the thought of committing suicide because he felt he was so unfit to live.

when in fact what he said was wrong. everyone has their own advantages and disadvantages. Never compare our life with others. because different people have different storylines in their life.

if we observe our surroundings, all have their own abilities. be yourself.

if you are too negative in life then you will not be able to find happiness. positive and grateful everything will be beautiful.

we can't please everyone. because not everyone likes the same things, and not everyone hates the same things.

"Follow what our own hearts say, not follow the hearts of others"

"The way to live a delicious life is not to see the pleasures of others"

Low self-esteem is associated before or after more forceful mental situations, so although it is true they are pathologies that are treated and can be controlled, it is a complex mental state.

And in this sense, it is difficult to diagnose or know that you have low self-esteem, it does not come alone and it is easy to confuse it with other situations that usually end up in the diagnosis of your friend, your partner or mistakenly the same person.

In the long run, the classic recommendation of going to a specialist ends up being the best, but depending on where you are from or even your culture, people end up rejecting consulting an expert.

Most times, low self esteem can be attributed to lack of funds and resources, maybe you are not doing well financially and you see a friend of yours doing well you now become intimidated there by reducing your own self confidence and self esteem.
Low self esteem can also be caused by constantly staying away from people, most reserved persons normally have low self esteem, even in marriages constant abuses towards your partner can take away his self confidence.
Parents have a part to play in restoring that self confidence in their children,  couples have the same part to play in restoring the self confidence in their partners, friends have a part to play in restoring the self confidence of our friends. You and I have a part to play in restoring the self esteem of others by not looking down on anyone. Respect should be served amongst us

Low self esteem can affect every part of one's life.However, by taking care of yourself, you may raise your self-esteem and lessen the impact it has on your day-to-day activities.

Self-affirming and self-care practices are not universal. Some things to try are:

using positive affirmations while in a state of mindfulness and meditation to let go of the past and cease worrying about the future daily journaling, self-care, use of stress-reduction methods like deep breathing, and physical exercise.

This could be partly true, generally we have to try to confirm to what society creates
as the norm and this can be difficult for people with low self esteem but it's not necessarily
the cause.

The early years of a child's development are crucial. Teaching children to be able to deal
with problems such as bullying for example are extremely important, if those lessons are not
learned they can manifest into mental issues and the most serious is suicidal thoughts.

Overcoming the issue of low self esteem will certainly help with positive friends and family
and may need professional help.

The reason you are having this problem is that you are trying desperately to fit in to a general ideology which is growing more and more absurd with each passing day.  For such people it may be effective to kind of wipe the slate clean-ish and get a new intellectual start while analyzing how you got nudged over into your present state.  I'm not saying it will work for you, but it's possibly worth a shot.

I agree with you, one must build himself up, you don't need anyone to do it for you. 
Low self esteem is man made,  it's wasn't given to us by our creator. God gives us the spirit of boldness. But because of oppression and wants. Some humans feels they're not worth something. 

Low self esteem people, compare them with others. They forget that human beings are born with a special gift. If your gift haven't been tapped you have nothing to worry about than try to discover ur gift and deploy it to the world.

When you are 90 years old, with no hair, no teeth, wrinkled skin, dilapidated muscles, withering bones, weak thinking ability and memory, etc., etc.... then recognize that you are the best, lol.

If you don't recognize that Jesus GAVE to you as a GIFT all the goodness and ability that you have, and that He is the answer to getting it back after you have thrown it away, then you are living a lie in your self-esteem.


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You are already given many gifts when you come to earth and are designed to see things in a certain way. These sights are gifted in their own way and Blind too. Blindness is where the real gifts lie. When you can feel instead of see, you can find anything/everything you desire and fill up on. It gives you fulfillment and peace within. The blindness is eternal and yet can lead and uncover bigger purpose and light to awaken within you. Knowing blindness exists can ensure unlimited success for you and those around you. Be in the blindness.

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Sometimes low mood is one of the factors and it makes one to compares his or herself negatively with someone else. It can make some to even think of suicide because is like you think you are from a different world and things are not going your way.
People with low esteem may feel that guilt that people will stop liking them for doing anything or to maintain a boundary. Unhappy childhood where parents are having one problem or the other can critically affect the child to even relate children around. Sometimes people may even think such children are witches because they act odd.

Yea you need start by seeing yourself as the best, don't think about what people say about you negatively,  See yourself as the best version of its kind and don't feel intimidated by anyone, interact and communicate with people, you know sometimes staying indoors kills someone's self esteem, so coming out and meeting people will also help deal with it,
And I don't think going for cosmetic surgery has anything to do with self esteem, as self esteem has to do with who you are from the inside, while cosmetic surgery has to do with you wanting to be more Beautiful, the truth is before anyone else believes in you you have to start by believing in yourself.

Low esteem means to hate yourself or feeling that people are better than you. It is related to inferiority complex. It is the drive or wish to be like someone else. I believe that people that go for cosmetic surgery or those that try to change the color of their skin have low esteem. High esteem is loving yourself the way you are even in the face of criticism and mockery. Why would somebody want to change his sex or reshape some parts of the body.

The first step to break free from low esteem is to appreciate yourself they way you are.
Second, you must know that you are unique.
Third, you must have the consciousness that you posses gifts and abilities that most people don't have.
Fourth, understand that no-matter how you act or look people would still criticize you.
Fifth you must be strong to withstand criticism, just understand that what people say are their own view and not the general opinion about you.
Sixth, Stay around people that appreciate and encourage you and not those that talk down on you.

     

You just need to have self-contentment and all you need is a contented and secure life which truly no money can buy. If you are contented with any little things you have and you are secure from any dangers every day, then you are contented and you don't need to think about whatever is in people's minds. Just like how the story of the donkey goes, people always have their own opinion about you but that's not really counted because you truly know yourself and you can still make things work without listening to them as long as you know it's the right thing to do.

 Oftentimes, these individuals who deal with low self esteem are usually introverted and try to keep to themselves to avoid being criticised or judged wrongly. Some suffer this hurtful experience right from childhood and hardly share with peeps for fear of not being understood. Some even resort to having eating disorders or stress eat.

 Yeah, before healing takes place, one has to be ready to let go of those hurtful and debasing thoughts. Reading books on how to boost low self-esteem helps. Constantly reciting positive words could also do the trick too.

For one to increase his self steem needs to appreciate himself/herself first. Without that appreciation, you'll be dwelling into negativities on this world and to those words that have been told to you negatively.

A person that can easily be affected by what others are telling him/her will certainly impact their self steem which will turn to be lower.

Don't be affected by what others word, if you're confident of what you are right now then improve yourself and don't let others bother you. As long as you're not stepping in other people and you're being productive with what you do and your attitude, you have to keep it up.

Choosing wrong people to hang out with is pretty much worst thing you can do your self-esteem. Luckily in most cases in life, you can choose your own friends.

But even in healthy relationships you still need to do most of the heavy lifting and emotional work yourself. You need to work hard on yourself and with your feelings for that healthy relationship.

People with low self-esteem often make the mistake of getting hooked on pity as fish out the complementaries from people around them. Occiasionally everyone likes some comfort but for people with low self-esteem that's like heroin. They still need it. Even more then rest of people

But as it takes away their problems and makes them happy, they get hooked, specially when they don't need to do any work for it. (except to hint and sort of beg for compliments), But not by asking, just by insisting how am ugly or loser, etc they think they are themselves.

This however is counterproductive as self esteem doesn't come from inside themselves. They need a another person giving it to them constantly. And in a worst case they don't see how heavy and taxng this behaviour is to their friends. Lifting someone up constantly isnt healthy. If they don't pull their weight, it gets too heavy and those new friends are sadly leaving too.

 Self esteem is the way we regard ourselves, the values we place. Its normal to criticize ourselves once in a while, but where low self-esteem creeps in is where we constantly degrade ourselves or judge negatively.
 Low self-esteem constantly leaves one feeling inadequate; always striving for perfection. This attitude can sometimes push one into depression, hopelessness and even entertain suicidal thoughts.

 I've seen peeps who go out of their comfort zones just to lead a lifestyle which they believe is acceptable by their peers and lose themselves in the process.
 This is so sad as most people dealing with low self-esteem find it difficult to appreciate themselves, always downplaying their positive attributes and abilities, regard themselves as inferior to their peers and so on.

 Although there are ways to help peeps dealing with such a feeling such as
- building positive relationships
- appreciating and complimenting yourself and all that. But it's looking like it's not enough because whether we believe it or not, it is slowly depriving us of active and innovative minds that have been held prisoner by low self-esteem. Your input would be appreciated.