That's what people call, your difficulty in judging and guessing the nature of someone so that it makes you confused when that person makes, behaves and gives something (Merit) not according to your expectations.
This human has an astrological nature, which is often said by others is a mysterious trait or other words that are difficult to guess in their actions, you cannot blame them for others. the possibility also can happen for you, Merit does not have to be given to those who have good posts, Merit can also be given to who they like.
If that's the problem- Merit, so you have to be able to accept and understand, that person. 'facts' what happened.
When they like to do freedom, you can't do the same thing as them, because they have thoughts that are full of surprises.