Topic: Does your significant other or spouse know about your gambling? (Read 121 times)

There’s nothing I hide from my wife, so she knows I’m gambling. Honestly, it’s probably for the best as having someone to keep an eye on me in case I get addicted and need help managing it. I’m a family man now, and in our culture, it’s like two become one. So yeah, she knows I gamble, and she also trusts that gambling won’t make me do anything reckless.

This has been. Asked for how many times now of I can remember it right but the answer keeps spreading that some is yes while majority is no.

Because this is a serious matter that wife's mostly does not like their husbands to become


me? YES SHE KNEW BECAUSE SHE ALSO KNOW RHAT I CAN MANAGE TO KEEP BEST IN THIS AREA
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Does your significant other or spouse know about your gambling?


Of course. She knew it was a gamble for me to get together with her in the first place.

I see no reason hiding your gambling activities from your partner or spouse if you are gambling responsibly. And I also make my partner aware of my wins and losses, after all I'm just gambling on my extra money. Otherwise, if you aren't open to your partner about gambling, this may lead to a situation where your partner will keep you asking where your money goes, and it's more annoying hearing that especially if you are currently in the streak of losing.

It's better if you tell your spouse that you are into gambling, and just gamble responsibly so that it won't create problems on both of you.

It does not really matter, once priorities are well placed then it does not change anything for a gambler and how he treats his family.

I'm not married yet, but have a family and i tell them about sports, sometimes about my wins that happen at the least moment of expectations and there has never been any issue raised on addiction or spending much time gambling, your spouse has the right to know, it is not a crime to gamble and should never be a secrete. Relationships are built on trust and giving her details on how funds is being managed and that left for your gambling activity is necessary, let it not become a time of accusation when you've been doing it hiddenly then your spouse get's to uncover the secrete and make it look like you hid because that has been the channel out of your income.

I’m not married yet - and my gambling habit is not something that anyone should be alarmed about because I am not a frequent gambler; my partner currently knows that I gamble, so it’s not a big deal letting them know.

The only time anyone would hide their habit from their close ones is when they know that such habit is generally not accepted or when that relative is someone that is of the judgmental nature and will definitely view with a different eyes after being told that they are involved in gambling activities but if they are the neutral ones who don’t take things personally then I’ll be free to talk to them about it.

Sorry I’m deviating a little bit but I think the point I made above is a general reason why people don’t share their gambling habits with their close ones.

Didnt we talk about this before on here? I vaguely remember some back and forth about gambling and how it can impact relationships. 

Anyway, Im not married or nothing, but if I was, no doubt I woud wanna be straight up with my partner if I was into gambling.  Honesty is so important, right? It makes for a solid relationship if you can share that kind of stuff openly.   

Big ups to you for keeping it real with your guy about the gambling thing.  Means you got a good thing going.

Yep, we don't need to divulge it, some environment does not accept gambling well, it is better for me to enjoy it for ourselves either but in gambling because it is the art of gambling.
The couple is as close as any if he does not tolerate gambling will only be a fight that will not be ended, and may make us stop gambling because it prefers our partner, that is not what I want.
I prefer to say my gambling to the person I know that he also gambles to maintain confidentiality.

There has been a thread already about this and yes for my case my wife knows but only what I tell her. I tell her that I only play bonus money and from the jobs I do online I have to play 15 dollars because I work in a casino and all sort of such lies but the core concept is true, she knows I gamble and she is not against when I happen to win in gambling. Also she knows that I take part in different tournaments, poker tournaments and she likes when I win some extra money, she only keeps telling me to stop spending so much time in gambling which she is also correct as I keep spinning the reels in fun mode nowadays, don't spend more money in slot machines and that is a great achievement for me.

For me personally, I tell my spouser about the gambling I do, but I don't always tell, just spills. Sure, She gave a negative response by telling them that it was too risky for my future finances, but nevertheless I still explained that I was doing gambling is just for entertainment, and keep self-limiting. Usually, I often tell my spouse when I win, and I give her something from the win, even so she still gave me warnings and directions to keep limiting myself.

Well, im not really that doing gambling too much but i do make out this stuff occasionally on which my wife now or been long time girlfriend does really know everything about me. She doesnt really like gambling, so do I because we do know that it is really that something that wont be worth on spending your money into and it is really that much better that you should be that spending on the amount on which you can afford to lose and if ever you do spend up something big then it will be wise on spending into something useful or beneficial. Somehow its not really that bad on having that kind of issues when it comes to gambling as long you do make yourself responsible.
Even now in my marriage life on which even i she do see that involving into some slot games on where she will really be that asking out on why i do play gambling? which there are really some times that do want to spend up some few bucks on testing out the game on which it isnt really that bad at all. The moment that you have go past beyond your limits then it will be that basically be the reason on why people do mess up their lives because of too much expectation towards it and this is something which is really that not good at all. Gamble for leisure needs or entertainment then you wont really be finding up any issues in regards to it. If you do find yourself having that kind of huge problem then it will be that basically make you desperate and might find up even more bigger problems ahead.

even though you gamble what you can afford to lose, you are supposed to inform your partner except its a situation whereby you don't love your partner to the extent of getting married to her, whatever you're doing make sure that you have limitations in gambling, and ensure you gamble with precaution as I said earlier...if your spouse don't support what you're going and also protect you on that, that means she not your own, and that is why you suppose to disclose your gambling with spouse

I feel bad to hear such a statement that gamblers are better scammers or thieves as you make it sound in the first paragraph of your comment above, haven't heard such stereotyped assumptions about gambling before, and I mean. No offense but I won't agree to that claim.

Those who use money meant for home up keeps for gambling are irresponsible gamblers and I don't think we will find such people here in this forum for the reason that most gamblers here are well informed about the danger of gambling without control and also how bad it is to allow gambling interfere with your responsibility to your family.

Your partner should be aware of your gambling activity. Since I don't gamble with more than I can afford to lose, I don't think it should be a problem. Maybe there will be a concern or complaint if it is affecting my finances negatively.  We are supposed to be open to our spouses or partners, so they should know when I win or lose. Your partner should be the best person to disclose everything about your finances to which means they should know the truth about your gambling events and outcomes.

Though we all have our rights to what we keep private within ourselves or what we share with others including our family and significant others. But for me, I think the best thing to do is to share your gambling experience with your spouse and allow them to hve knowledge about what you experience in your gambling. This is because gambling is a highly addictive game and requires reasonable amount of control and awareness.

Sometimes we become so carried away with the amusement that comes with gambling until it gradually gets into an addiction. When you have a life partner who's aware of your experience, they are able to gauge it for you especially when you're crippling into addiction. But when you hide it from them, you find it more difficult to get rid of any challenges you get during addiction.

Anyone that is not addicted to gambling can tell his wife about how his gambling. I do not go betting more than 1% weekly income on gambling. So there is nothing to hide from any of my family because I do it responsibly. No one will be concerned if you gamble responsibly and not wasting money on it. Also it is important for you to be the bread winning of your family so your wife will not have to say anything.

Typical behavior of a gambler. You talk about wins, but not about losses, afraid of being criticized for it. Why do you talk about wins then? Probably because you want to change your partner's approach, but when the losses come to light it's going to make it even worse, because not only you'll be criticized for losing money, but also for being dishonest.

In my case, my wife knows about it, but she's OK with it as long as it doesn't damage our budget. I gamble with less than 1% of what I make every month, so this isn't a big deal. People have much worse habits.

I don't have problems before me and my wife gamble the same time, I mean we go to land base casinos with our friends and families so we are all good. But there could be issues if you are playing and your wife doesn't agree with your gambling habits. So maybe you can hide your gambling activity from here so that there will be no discussions whatsoever.

But it's better to reveal it to her, so that there will be no arguments and explain everything to your self. The only thing that I see negative is when she does not agree or maybe she will be caught off guarding with your gambling. I saw once post that the wife didn't know that the husband was into gambling until it's too late. The husband lost millions already and there are people that he loan asking him to pay. So it might create friction and we can only hope that they will go on their separate ways.

Of course, if we make gambling a hobby or a place to pour ourselves out to find entertainment, a partner needs to know our habits, both bad and good habits in our lives so that there is openness, and when addiction comes to us, we can ask for help from him or he realizes that we are addicted to gambling, then we will always get emotional encouragement from our partner so that we can reduce gambling, this is very positive if seen carefully because the partner is a life partner who needs to know all our affairs.

Gambling is not bad something, its obvious that a gambler is better scammers and also better thief's, so I believe that we don't to think that gambling is a bad thing, I will not hide my gambling to my girlfriend or my wife, only thing I will do is that when I start bearing children I will not expose my gambling engagement to them, knowing that children can emulate it at early stages, the most important in gambling is that we should gamble with precaution so that it will not affect your living.

So people hides their participation in gambling to their spouse because they're not doing the needful at home, and they prefer gambling more than their family, so that's the area a male gambler have disagreement with the girlfriend or the wife and entire family.

Everyone has the right to have fun as long as it does not interfere with others. So I see nothing wrong with people gambling as long as it does not cause problems for them, their families and people around them. If a person notices that gambling leads to problems, he should stop gambling altogether and find other entertainment because his psyche is simply not ready for entertainment that carries financial risks.

My partner if he knows gambling then he will be angry because he views gambling as negative so it is better to gamble secretly and not know how to place bets, so he will not tell how much he wins/loses only I know.

The important thing is that there is no greater suspicion then this can have a problem because it only spends a little on gambling so everything is fine.

It all depends on the individual how to respond to it but gambling will be considered more negative if they don't know.

Personally gambling is not a bad thing and as long as we can maintain moderate gambling or control ourselves while gambling then there's nothing to hide towards our lovers. As a matter of fact my fiance knows I do gamble, when doing prediction and is around me she would say change this team I don't trust them before the game would cut off. Most times I don't keep telling her all time but whenever she comes around would have to tell her or if she sees me opening the site she would say you stake game today? Okay lemme see the options you picked if they are favorable to you.

I gamble responsibly and so it has never crossed my mind if bringing it up with my significant other than it is going to cause a conflict. It is only those who gamble irresponsibly that will avoid any gambling related conversations because they know that they are going to be guilty of the negative ills that  might be discussed about gambling. However, even if you gamble responsibly it doesn't mean you talk about it at any chance you get. Keep the don't ask, don't tell policy with your significant other and others

I am married and living with my wife and kid and I can boldly say that I have overcome the stage that gambling will be interfering with my family life, in the early stage of my gambling days, I was confronted with case of mood swings and lose of concentration when I try to gamble while at home, so from point I hard to set boundaries and make some adjustments that eventually helped me out of the dilemma, and at this point both my wife and kids give me the space anytime the noticed that I am serious on my phone or PC regardless of what I am doing that point in time.

I have heard a lot of stories about how gambling has destroyed many relationships, but what I also noticed is that those who find themselves in such situations are those who try to hide their gambling activities from their spouse, I think it is better to let your wife or girlfriend know you gamble so that they won't disturb you unnecessary out of curiosity.

When I have a big winning, I always tip my wife from the winning, and let her know it is her share of the gambling winnings.

I gamble sparingly but it still gets brought up often as my partner is totally against it. I only talk about the wins however , and give some tips to quieten down the complaints.

I never actually bring up my gambling to anyone either as it is mostly insignificant, it just leaks out a couple of times.

- Jay -

I think one thing that I am curious of is the percentage of folks who gamble who are either married or in a long term relationship and how it affects that relationship and how the gambling is percieved by your significant other. What does your spouse have to say about your gambling? Have they or would they respond negatively or positively on this subject? Do you keep them informed on the wins and losses? or just the wins? haha. Are you honest with them about your gambling or is it something that is completely under wraps? Personally I've kept most gambling to myself as its usually a very small amount that is insignificant and therefore not really worth bringing up. However, If I had much larger wins, or losses. then surely I would keep my partner in the loop. What is everyone's take on this?