Topic: Ever had the urge of just trying to get a win for your ego? (Read 841 times)

I actually do same thing anytime I'm losing money because it is always hard to see the money you have lost and then back off I know some people do back off immediately they incur such loss but me personally I don't back off immediately, I will continue to try untill I feel like I am doing  myself more harm so at this point I will back off that is to say that I won't play again for the main time or I will reduce the amount I was using to bet which is still not good or advisable. Accepting this or not is someone's business because even if you don't accept you are doing yourself but on the other hand admitting it won't make one stop it, rather one can just start to work on their self from then but it is always hard like I said earlier because it like there are forces behind it.

There is nothing that works on that track..
Tried with favorites for each way, tried with CD winners each way, tried horses outside the handicap for the last win, tried with jockey/stable combination, the inconsistency is out of this world, for 20 races no favorites win and then you have 5 3/1 and 4/1 in a row winning, whatever works on other tracks simply fails here, time after time.


Again, this was not about recouping loses, it was about winning at least once, no matter the sum!

I would rather accept the loss than feed my ego and keep losing  . A smart gambler knows when to stop and when to push forward.  If we have lost a significant amount on a game, we should try to back down and reflect on what went wrong. That at least is the better thing to do.  I have seen people getting irritated and triggered (I had experienced this and had learned my lesson the hard way) chasing losses in order to recoup the bets that had been lost and at the end lost even bigger amount than the amount we are chasing.


Just let go and make the next session a fresh start. 

Like everyone we all have ego even if we dont do gamble.

- Go out and accept that you failed is needed in my opinion, I mean to know we are bad at this But if you have spirit to learn from the mistake I believe there is always a way
- One win is never enough atleast for me hahaha but other person always has different sight


God I hope I can be one of it but it is hard really hahaha.

We are all guilty with this one on which at the time or moment that you are experiencing loses then you will be having that kind of urge or mentality that you will be that trying out to recover those loses and you will be having those kind of mindset that your next bets will really be something that might be winning on which this is the reason on why you will really be that considering out on betting even more because once your mind will be having that kind of thinking then you will be definitely be betting even further. Therefore, it will really be just that depending on you on how you will be able to handle up these conditions. There are really those situations on which you will be having that kind of impulsive feeling because of such situation.

When you are really that dealing up with gambling then make sure that you are really that wary into the possible situations that you might be able to face on. When you are really that having some issues about your emotion then you will definitely be having that huge problem when it comes to gambling because this is where people do find out that big big issues when it comes into this aspect because at the time that you do deal up with gambling then be prepared for the loses that you do have been able to experience. Dont chase up your loses because this is where problems that do start to come up at the time that you will be that becoming impulsive.

As human beings sometimes we prioritize our ego, sometimes I do that just because I want to get one win for myself but I still keep it in mind that I'm not supposed to exceed my budget else I'm shifting to irresponsible gambling.

Because I'm just playing this to satisfy my ego but if I've not exceeded my budget I'll keep playing just to win so I will feel really good about myself but if I exceed my budget I slap myself out of it and tell myself  today is not my day I'm not winning this today maybe I will try another day that's just it.

If you don't discipline yourself you'd shift to irresponsible gambling, it's not just about saying we will be disciplined with gambling this new year but taking action, if you don't consciously make effort to discipline yourself you will see yourself gradually falling into irresponsible gambling and addiction which is not what we want as gamblers.

No, I don't and stop shilling that on my topic!


And how do you know I don't have limits and allocation for funds? Also how do you know I'm an addict?
Have you actually read what I wrote, it was a day with no races, I had nothing to do, and I knew I was going to lose, I just didn't want to end the day with all bets lost and wanted a single win without any financial meaning in the last race, and it won, a surprisingly 3.5 euros or god knows how much it was.
So, how did you came to the conclusion I'm an addict without self-control?

Someone who prioritizes their ego will probably never be able to become a responsible gambler if they still can't get rid of the ego in them. This ego can appear even when we can get profit or more precisely greedy, and in my opinion these two things are not much different but what is clear is that those who can't control themselves definitely prioritize these two things in themselves.

The way to be able to defeat the ego is that we ourselves must have good self-control so that there is no excessive behavior in gambling, although I know this is difficult but this is very important to master if we really like to gamble.

I won't lie sometimes I have the urge to keep gambling until I have a win just for my ego which I know is a bad gambling habits but I can't just help it sometimes. When I have this urge, what I do to make me feel better is to try out another game with a lesser money and play the game. I'm with my senses and I don't make the mistake of continuing with the present game that have caused my so many losses. Sometimes I can control myself and resist the urge to try to get a win but for when I can't, I always make the bets with a wager not worth that much to me. Some will be lying and saying they don't do the same but there's nothing wrong with admitting that you're not perfect. After admitting, that's when you can correct your mistake and improve yourself to become a better gambler.

You're right as you have said it, but we must also know that we have our own choice to make over every conditions of life, to either take it as it is or crave for change over it, if we lack the ability to control our moral self, then its something we can work on and build over it, try to put in some efforts to see that things works as we wanted even right from how we are gambling, instead some will only be deceiving their own self for nothing to later serve as achievement, all because of their inability to maintain a cause on self control from their way of gambling.

Normally we gamble to win, we don't gamble to lose. However, we can not take because of our favorite team and be losing our had earn money in gambling. I think it was back then that we normally have that mentality of not betting against our team.

But for now everybody gamble for the winning not for any favorite team again, after all them too are also playing for their money. So I don't see any reason why one would choose to gamble for a favorite team that you have already known that they can't withstand their opponent.

Actually its not a gift but rather a trait, it is really just that depending on a certain individual on how they will really be able to make out that kind of control because there are ones who do really mind that much about on the consequences and they do really just that focus too much about on the positive things and not really minding about into those negatives. Speaking about urges then it is really that differs into each person because not all will really be having that kind of ego and really that sensible into the actions that they are taking. On the moment or time that you will be doing gambling then make it sure that you do really just that make use of the amount on which you can afford to lose. Make use of the amount that you do have in your pocket and dont chase up on your loses.

Usually people do have that kind of issue when you do have that kind of urge on trying out to chase up your loses and believing that the next bet or roll will really be a win. We all gamblers who do have that kind of experience when we do engage with it because there are those conditions which we do have that kind of approach and its really that important that you do really know on how to deal up with these conditions. Gamble for fun and never make yourself that having that kind of urge because you are really that wanting to cover up your loses. Chasing up loses will really be that your main issues because on the time that you will be having urge then expect that pile of mistakes will happen.

if we always lose to our ego, then we will never be able to be a responsible gambler, because we will always think about gambling just one more time just to satisfy our desire to win, but this is what often happens to many addicts, they always follow their ego and say that it is not wrong to gamble just one more time, and what happens is they cannot control themselves and become addicted to gambling.

we must be able to control ourselves and not lose to our own ego. set limits and always accept whatever losses we experience-- no need to gamble like there is no tomorrow, always see the limits and obey the allocation funds that we have set before.

Meanwhile,self control is a gift and not everyone has it.Well to me,that's an intentional pressure to oneself,you should know how to balance your emotions with everything that happens around you.Your emotional intelligence should be able to depict that you're trying to self sabotage your potentials,Otherwise why would anyone want to disregard themselves crazily.
There should be a limit to things,however,If anyone feels pressured and unsatisfied over his/herself,then you should take a break from gambling a little.

Buddy you're very right, pride comes and end with different unforseen expectation and as humans we wouldn't know if our pride will end us  to the good side or the bad side but I think the holy book condemned pride that's to say that pride itself is not actually a good character to be portrayed by an individual that understands this facts
In the aspect of. Gambling, yea no one wants to lose but anyone that doesn't put losing as an inevitable occurrence in gambling, I think such person should be seen as noice in gambling and such an individual may likely end up to continue chasing loss which I see as unrealistic, for every gambler, be it newbies or old takers you must understand that every event has the way they operates and you must put this things into consideration if you really don't want to go astray in the system, when a gambler lose more especially a huge amount such gambler is expected to take a break though is not easy but it's worth doing to prevent such gambler from going off lane, there is time for everything so it is in gambling, time to lose and time to win but the mystery behind gambling is that no one knows when he or she will lose or win and i think this should be more reason why we should be more calculative and know when to say no when we are gambling irrespective of our pride or ego as we choose to call it.

Problems with jumps is that horses are at higher risks, so you don't run horses for the sake of running unless it's some Gold Cup, and if you do enter a horse you do it at least to get a place, so he will be 5:1 , 8:1 max, the ones that are over 10 are usually the ones that won't finish the race at all, unless we talk 3yo.

Ironically your tactic would work better exactly on sand/poly short races with a lot of newcomers, but god I hate those unpredictable races.


Well, there were only 4 races left and some tracks are at most once every week, so probably the next day (as it did happen) there would be a jumping event, and those I nail pretty often, not that I can make a living out if it but I'm never concerned of one draining my wallet.

Yeah in the USA race sizes are smaller than they used to be and smaller fields mean lower odds.

But I found bet limiting was helpful because it cuts losses bigly.

What will happen to your ego if you lose another bet in a desperate attempt to feed your ego? If this possibility has potential to make things worse, it's better to just give up and quit for now. Gamblers with a high ego can find themselves in delicate situations, where they spend more than they should and in very short periods of time. An injured ego can even lead to chasing losses at some point, so it's essential to control your primitive impulses to not be controlled by them.

The balance between primitive impulses and self-control plus inner-guidelines results in a healthy and functional ego.

I mostly bet on jumping, for 5f or 1 milers races yeah that could be a tactic but in jumping there is little chance of a 10:1 to win, it's even worse than the odds reflect, I tried once backing outsides for each way but lost continuously.

The annoying thing with Lingfield and Chelmsford, even Kempton sometimes is that they always have either a day where everyone comes to the flag just in the order of the odds or it's messed up so badly nobody would have ever guessed it, they had three Tricasts over 100s and one over 300!


How do I have more chance to lose than to win if I'm taking my bet on the favorite at under 1.2-1.5 odds?

for real, i should start doing that myself as well, but i can't help it.
Man United and Man City specifically, always lose when i bet on them to win and always win when i bet on them to lose.

i'm starting to believe those two teams are cursed, or maybe it's a skill issue on my part.

Many people like you where they realize that when they are never win, they want to urge to win for their ego. They still trying to win even if that's mean they must place more bets without thinks that gambling is not about win and lose but how they can enjoy for playing gambling. They don't remember that in gambling, they will have more chances to lose than winning the games so they must realize that when they are lose their money in gambling, they should accept it and not trying to urge to win. That can make them lose more and more and that can change their lives if somehow they become addicted to gambling. However, they must break the circle to realize that they must leave gambling for a while.

I once followed my ego and it did make me lose control of myself including the amount of money that was indeed lost quite a lot, actually we should not refill our casino wallet balance if the previous gambling has ended in defeat and no matter you have a lot of money that might be enough to bet, still depositing money back into gambling when you have experienced a defeat is better not to do because this has the potential to last in the long term.

I think that the behavior like you said is most likely everyone who gambles has done it, including myself who has done it, but with that it made me aware not to repeat the same thing again.

I am a former horse player.  got hooked back in the sixties and lost many many many many times.


I quit the ponies.  I can give you a bit of advice. Never never never never never bet a horse under 10 to 1.

and bet smaller amounts then you bet now.

Never bet against yourself .

I e pick a horse place 5 or 10 pounds (I think you are UK)  watch the race lose move on to the next race.

Just bet win
Just bet 1 horse per race.

if the track has 10 races bet at least 10 to 1 shots.  Just one win that day and you break even.

Whenever I have a losing streak that goes for more than 10 bets ( even if those bets are being placed in 1 month because I don't gamble a lot ) , I do feel the urge to win just for my ego to will better but I don't chase loses but I do understand what OP tried to say and I know that feeling. Also , in my case when that losing streak ends , it feels better ...but sometimes you lose the next bet instantly so this circle goes on and on with random cases when I do get a winning streak that usually doesn't last long...

The rules of gambling are take your loses and winnings sincerely, no second thought of going back to refill your loses by aggressively trying out more options.

If you do not earn as much, then don't attempt to stake with huge amounts that can cause financial bankruptcy.

Gambling is not a competition with whom controls the biggest profits, fun should be experienced gambling but the worst to happen is losing everything out of feeding ego and having scratched the surface of quality lifestyle.

It's not easy for most gamblers to accept the fact that they have failed and move on without trying to prove a point and shift blame, but in such a case I will just accept defeat and get done with it.

The more you try to prove yourself, the more you will end up losing more; maybe this time there won't even be any near winning.

It's better I let go than to spend more money trying to prove to myself what I know I don't owe myself any explanation for failing.

Of course, and since nobody heard screams, it won  
https://www.sportinglife.com/racing/results/2025-01-09/chelmsford-city/838009/its-never-ordinary-at-bet365-handicap

I mean seriously, a horse that has won his last two races on the same track and distance and was upped only 1 pound in weight against horses that never won on CD, I would have banged my head against the wall if that had happened too. It won by 3 lengths, comfortably, and my misery ended.


And where is the fun? I'm gambling for fun not doing something that is more stressful than my actual work!


They play against Southampton, this is your chance  

Quite well you are aware how really bad you are at the event, so bro quit it! As a sports bettor I really love to run off from any market that I discovers it has many times I have tried it not go in my favour, I just switch to something that have proven to work most times in my favour than it doesn't.

I understand, sometimes we want to think that by been persistent and resilient at that particular unfavourable game or market we might find breakthrough somehow, but may I remind you, you would be losing a lot of money all of the time of trying to persevere at it.

In as much as I don't take gambling as an income source, I really do love to win and catch my fun at same time but when am losing repeatedly for the day quitting is my next option to try again the next day.

Usually emotion will put you into the brink of misery because the tendency to follow your desires will be there. Hence, you more than likely will continue to play even if you have no more bankroll so you either borrow money or use your other money not for gambling purposes. This will eventually pose financial trouble on you.

I try to never gamble if I feel that my actions and deeds are guided by emotions.

To understand this, there is a simple test - I ask myself the question - "Is it true that I have emptiness in my soul?" If the answer is "No", then this means that my actions and deeds are guided by emotions.

When I gamble, I try to forget that I am a person. I fully concentrate on the process of the game itself. A person can really indulge his ego (while doing thoughtless, and sometimes completely crazy things).

But if you concentrate exclusively on the process of the game (and not on your personality), then your actions will be subject to logic, and not emotions.

Some people try to always win to impress others or try to show that they are better gamblers. I had a friend that has this mindset, sometimes he doesn't play to win but to show off to others that he is skilled in gambling forgetting the fact that he's just lucky. Approaching gambling with this mindset can make you lose money. This shouldn't be an ego play, you must have a target and specific target of what you want within a space of a week or a month. It doesn't matter if you lose they will always be goods days to recover, but when you notice that you start having too many losing streaks then you have to take a break.

I always have to stop myself from putting bets on Man United losing, so there's that.

Things like this is why I stopped betting on Champions League / Europa League football.

Pride is one of the assets of human life and as a result of this, people either become rich or become poor. No one wants to lose in gambling and here everyone wants to win so those who do not reduce the strategy and the amount of gambling bets after losing are the big losers. You should consider gambling as a long term activity even after losing a few times and you will realize that losing streaks and winning streaks are part of the game. But definitely do everything with strategy because good times and bad times will come so luck is needed to win gambling bets. So you will keep winning more whenever your luck is on your side.

When I was starting out, I tried to recoup or regain my losses, but once I realized that it's not going to work in my favor, I stopped doing that. I just leave when I realize that I'm losing and things are going bad; gamblers should not mix their bets with ego; its going to be disasters waiting to happen.
Bet within your allocation; if you lose, then call it a day. Never extend your allocation because of your ego.

With that kind of mindset, your ego won’t easily get affected. When you treat gambling like a regular job, you’ve likely gone through it all, and once you’ve learned from those experiences, you won’t repeat the same mistakes. The real issue is the lack of discipline. Without it, whether we’re winning or losing, we’ll never find peace of mind. It’s like gambling becomes endless as long as there’s still money to bet.

One thing I’ve learned is that chasing losses only leads to disaster. It’s a trap that’s hard to escape, but avoiding it can save you from bigger problems.

Before determining and making a bet, it is indeed better for us to analyze every possibility that exists, we can look at the history of the match, conditions and also the ability of the two teams before we choose which side to bet on, just like you, I personally have often made objective choices in betting, in fact often it actually makes me get ridicule and laughter from friends when I am against my favorite team in betting So far , because I also think my favorite team has a small chance of winning and as a gambler of course I also don't want to lose money , because  bet on the favorite team that has a small chance of winning, the favorite team loses of course makes me disappointed but at least I can win the bet.

I respect your opinion about gambling, but we have different approaches.
Maybe for you, it’s just for fun, but for me, it’s more than that, as it’s a way to increase my income too, call me ambitious, but that’s my perception of gambling, and it’s not something you can easily change.

What’s most important, though, is learning how to be disciplined, and can be done by avoiding reckless actions like chasing losses or being unable to stop when things aren’t going our way.

I have experienced all three of these many times...too many times.

The first scenario is certainly the wisest move, it's smart to take a break and cool your head. It saves us from making a wrong decision and losing money.

The second scenario is a double-edged sword. I have tried many times to "come back" with a last bet, and sometimes that works, but many more times I just lose that bet as well.

The third scenario is already a tilt, the moment when we are in fire. And I have found myself there perhaps too many times. As in the second scenario, it's a double-edged sword, but this time the risk is greater, the sword is bigger, and if things go the wrong way (and chances for exactly that to happen are pretty high) the damage will be greater.

So if you can take a break and chill...a new day will come and new betting opportunities will emerge.

It was happened to me in the past where I really want my favorite team/player I bet to win.

But, I've learned from it, it's not good to hope my favorite team/player to win while the opponent is way too stronger. Hence, whenever I want to make a bet, I consider to be more objective to weight both opponents, I don't mind to bet against my favorite team/player as long as I'm sure the opponents can beat them.

Who fights and runs away when facing defeats lives to fight another day, no need to satisfy your ego by continuing, the defeat might become severe. It is advisable to take a break from gambling when we're on a losing streak, it shows that you're not being lucky and continuing to gamble can be disastrous. Taking a break will be the best option to clear your mind because nobody likes to lose, it affects most people negatively. I advice friends who gamble not to take it too seriously, they should use amounts that they can afford to loose and take a break when they're getting bored.

Your words reflect a very important and correct approach to gambling. Indeed, the key point is a strategic approach that allows you to minimize risks and control emotions. I agree that it is important to perceive gambling as a long-term process, and not as an instant opportunity for luck. The emotional component, including the ego, can greatly influence decision-making, which in turn can lead to irrational actions and unnecessary losses. Gambling, including betting, will always be a part of human nature, but approaching it as a long-term strategy with risk minimization is the right way to make this process more rational and, possibly, profitable.

What did you expect. I have also been like that before but my situation is still different because I know very well about the sport but I was losing and keeping losing. What that people should take note of is that the loss is more when someone is losing already. It makes the person not to think appropriately but only thinking of how or ways to recover back losses.

There are indeed days or moments on which at the time that you do gamble then you do have that series of loses on which no matter what you do or how well you do make out some analysis into your bets or just simply sticking with the favorite but turned out to be a losing bet then that will really that snap out our patience on which this is something that very normal when it comes into this matter. We do know that there are situations or conditions on which we do able to experience this one and its true that it comes into that time that you will be trying out to chase up that single win after a series of loses and thats why you do really end up on having that more even loses. This is why it is really just that too risky when you dont have that kind of good self control because at the time or moment that you will be having such reactions then you are really that bound to incur even more loses and we do know that regret is always at the end. You will definitely be having those regrets and eventually learn with those mistakes. Good for you if you do able to realize up things accordingly but there were people who are really becoming impulsive and becomes naive into their decisions and thats why they do really end up on having some problems financially. If you dont really like for this thing to happen into your life then it will be that better that you should really be that mindful about into the actions that you are really that indeed taking. Just have fun and dont chase loses or something that in speaking on making yourself as a winner. On the time that you will be having that good control then there would be no problem that you would be having.

I experienced this kind of troubling situation before and end up to almost massive loss. I always want closure when I’m gambling so it’s either I hit my target profit or reach my stop loss threshold on my bankroll.

The problem is my game gets stuck on a win-lose loop that makes me unable to move forward or quit the game. In the end, I just decided to walk away after setting a fixed number of bets which I should quit no matter what is the result.

Luckily I escaped on this death loop considering that I’m wagering huge amount that time.

I don't think everyone have such ego you're thinking of it nevertheless that hunch of gambling is something that can't be died up so easily and and approaching gambling with strategy is not really a necessity to me and at such everyone sees things differently and that's why we have people that gamble for fun and for making money out of it and mind you you're perception about having long term gambling seems outrageous cause the tendency of being into addictions is close.

Selfishness has very bad impact on success, prioritizing ego will only complicate, slow down and destroy what we have planned from the start and so in the end we can only regret it.

There is one experience that I can't forget and this happened some time ago until it lasted for several weeks, it was bet that made Manchester City the favorite in every match, taking victory with fairly convincing odd but in the end they always lost even the best result was draw in almost every match.
Selfishness in the belief that Manchester City is my favorite team, after some time I did prefer to take bet with safe option but every previous failure always sucks when I remember it.

I myself think that those who gamble with their ego or follow their ego are a group of people who gamble with the aim of not having fun but with other reasons, perhaps to seek profit or want to recover previous losses, because when we say ego, this leads to the negative side where something that is done based on ego will usually end badly.

But the right thing is that we must have a fairly correct goal when we are going to gamble, for example by always being able to limit ourselves so as not to be excessive, there are quite a lot of cases that occur and I think it cannot be eliminated just like that.

I believe that playing for your ego means playing for fun. In fact, what does ego mean? It is a certain internal conventional personality that you do not associate yourself with and which is very infantile. It is something like a small child. This small child just wants to play, wants to experience either positive emotions associated with winning, or just excitement. When he loses, he feels the desire to win back. Our adult personality is more rational. It plays either to win and must use rational strategies for this, or to play with an exploratory, that is, experimental purpose. This means that when we place a bet in order to satisfy our ego with a win, we simply play for fun.

Funny because I do the same thing when I bet on New Yankee at MLB. They keep losing whenever I bet on them as favorite while winning when I don’t place bet with them. This shit hole keeps haunting me over the years that makes me stop for real after 2 consecutive years of same experience.


I do all 3 but in process on this arrangement.

1. or even one step higher, try to recoup the bets
2. try to get at least a bet right to have at least one win for your ego
3. go out and just accept that you failed miserably at an event you know you're really bad at

I've tried letting my ego do its thing, man was it bad. Idk if it was just really an unlucky day or something but chasing that win I wanted pretty much went the same as if I've tried to recoup my bets in terms of results lol. After that I rarely let it get to me and in cases that it does, I usually limit it. Maybe after 2,3 losses of letting it go its way I just accept that I'm fucked for the day and just go out and touch some grass instead (or the next day, if not possible for the current day).

Oh I just maybe interpreted it differently. If theres a good weather go out and breath for a while. I think you arent the type that will keep this hard loss forever mate.

So did you bet after that? Haha still trying to get a win for sure. Im jealous of your boredom time, since you can go out to make bets and refresh for a while then suddenly turn out to be stressful.

An ego stroke for gambling just seems like desperation to me but in the end the desperation to win is not such a bad thing. You want to win so bad that you risk it all! Sometimes we have to risk a lot but never risk it all! If bets have ever taught me anything always save some of your money for "the road" save a little bit to get you through at least another bet or string of bets!

Same here, boredom is a devil. Sometimes, gambling becomes the outlet. Alone, I'm often able to resist, but I know all it takes to shatter my defenses is a little nudge from a friend and gambling starts. Money is lost. There'll be a little regret in the end. The consolation is that you enjoyed it.

So, I guess it isn't really bad to give in to the urge when boredom strikes for as long as betting is done moderately. No need to chase a win let alone recoup your losses.

Who hasn’t been in a similar situation?

When I’m in this situation, I often feel the temptation to try to recover my losses, but I know that this can be dangerous and lead to more losses. However, I also feel the need to prove to myself that I can win at least one bet to safeguard my ego.

My approach is to try to stay calm and not let my emotions get the better of me. If I’m on a losing streak, I usually decide to stop for a while and not bet anymore that day. This helps me avoid further losses and avoid falling into the trap of trying to recover my losses at all costs.

However, if I’m feeling particularly confident about a particular bet, I may decide to make a small bet to try to win and regain some confidence. But it’s important to remember that this should be done with caution and not with the expectation of recovering all of my losses at once.

I will probably pick the 2nd choice. "try to get at least a bet right to have at least one win for your ego"

It's not actually rare for me, this mostly happens because I just want to win so badly that sometimes I make bad decisions. Still, if that next bet will lose then I am really out.
The thing about ego is, that it's difficult to control. It's like an urgency that we must get our revenge even if it looks very wrong to others. I think I had my share of a clouded mental decision because I just don't want to accept my loss.

I guess every gambler have that kind attitude the only difference is the time of stopping, some may do it again to some may stop already. I remember doing that but end of lossing again and again, lol so i stopped then try different approach and strategy.

Chasing profits is a big fallacy and has gotten down many people. This is one of the most common ways to lose everything and so many people go down this path.

Why would it have to do with ego? It's just a misguided thought process that many people follow for sad reasons. I'd rather see people play with small amounts than trying to compound the amounts they bet rather than risking amounts of money that could make them lose everything.

So I'd say people have to get things straight in their head. Somehow it's not healthy to gamble amounts that could hurt you. So many people in gambling fall for this. It's not about ego. It's about being compulsive and it should rather be avoided than discussed.

Oh, I can remember a few moments in the past when we gambled in the hostel room. Most times we have our ladies beside us, and then it pushes us to gamble to win more, so they feel we are very good at winning. You see us betting on our tuition fees more often; we use our feeding money to gamble. However, that was in the past when we were still young adults trying to impress the opposite gender just for ego. Now I understand that gambling is a personal race. We win or we lose; we get to bear it. Ego can lead to more loss if we prioritize it when gambling. Gone are those days when we chose to starve to win in bet. Now, live necessities comes first; only 1% to 5% of my income is spent on gambling

It is a common trait for gamblers to try some experiments by betting unusual amounts out of curiosity and hoping for a miracle to happen. However, experiments can fail or give good results. Usually a gambler does this with mental preparation and is willing to lose money. However, for people who are loyal to the same management, they rarely do this to avoid ruin. This is caused by bad circumstances or experiences when betting large amounts or other reasons

But placing bets does not require the bettor to be proficient in the sport he chooses to bet on. I have friends who prefer to bet on ice hockey matches even though most of them have never seen the ice in their entire lives. Quite the opposite, my friends who bet on hockey matches do so out of their inner ego to make profits even in games they know nothing about because there is no other explanation for their choices. The same applies to slot game enthusiasts because they know that these games are programmed according to algorithms that do not allow for big wins and the percentage of loss in them is much higher than the percentage of winning, and despite that, they can easily become addicted to them in defiance of the simplest basics of logic.

I tried it several times, and the result is not good. I end up losing all I had when gambling. You should protect your bankroll, and ego should have nothing to do with it; pushing for a win is not a good idea. There is such a thing as bad days, and the best counter on this is to make a shift or come back some other times.
Never push something on a chance-based platform, or you will get disappointed.

Probably if you're a frustrated gambler due to consistently experiencing losing streak, your mindset will be like this. But if you know that such gambling bets can never guarantee secured profits, then you don't have to force a mindset like that. Instead, win because your strategies are working, and you know how to manage your bankroll. Winning should never be based on your ego, that could only lead to future addiction.

Egos are most of the time misleading. So I don't think it will be an edge for you if you are trying to win for the sake of your ego. Gambling outcomes are said to be unpredictable, however with skills and strategies on you, your chance of winning the bet increases. So win your bet because you know how to play the game well, and not because your ego tells you so.

I think ego comes from emotion and emotion can play a huge dangerous role in gambling. It does in most cases. I have lost every bet I have ever made based on my ego.
And even if I won two or one, I can't remember it now.
And I have seen many people who have lost huge amounts of money by betting only because of ego. So I would not recommend anyone to gamble based on ego.  And besides, I always want to suggest everyone that whenever you feel like you are placing a bet for your ego, then you will understand that you have lost control over yourself. And I would say at this time to take a break from gambling as soon as possible for that period.

What I expect that people are saying is to stop gambling and accept losses. Gamble responsibly and only spend the amount that we can afford to lose. And controlling our emotions is very important...

But this is the reality happening. We continue to gamble as we think we still have the chance, and luck awaits us. Usually, we think that our last bet will be the winning bet. And we fail again...

How does games that depend a lot on luck make your ego look better?

I would expect that why people get a rush when winning from a bet is because they had a lot of say in the analysis of the game. If their ego is fed, it’s probably because they were betting on something and the other was like “no way this is like this” and we get competitive. So, yeah many times where ego is involved.

Number one is the best option; the last two are bad if you apply it in gambling. Ego should not have a place in your betting; its best that you use your common sense and just quit and just comeback or change the games that you are good at.
All those who chase their losses and eventually lose are driven by ego, who thinks that they can still win and recoup their losses and that one bet leads to another that ends in a series of losses.

Its a natural thing for us to have a urge over something and when it comes to gambling in particular, we must be able to control the urge or feelings we are having towards it, if not we may arrived at where we may not wanted, the most interesting and at the same time annoying of it all is that, the more we keep on moving in the same direction for that urge with our ego to win, the more difficult winning becomes, if we want to proof all these right, then we should seek advise from the experienced ones from gambling under the same influence, they will have more to tell from how they have been dealt with by their pride.

At bet sports I don't do it but a slots and casino I do it very often to be honest. Because the outcome is instant.

I usually accept my fate. If there's nothing to bet on that I know, like, understand, am good at, I don't bet at all. I have a similar approach to every other thing in life.

When I can't find a decent job, I don't try to get anything just to make a few bucks and feel miserable about it. It's not worth it.
It's important to find yourself something to do. OP is bored and looking to make a bet, but if he had something that would take his mind off betting, things could become much simpler.

Trying to satisfy your ego works only for a very short time. Usually boredom and urge wins and you will make a stupid bet again and again, eventually ending up feeling worse than when you were only bored.

The last time I checked my ego had never brought food to my table. Neither has it paved the way for any good opportunity for me to make more money. Just like how having greed is dangerous to a gambler same way having ego can be dangerous. Both can lead a gambler to his doom early. It's a bad habit and I have never tended to win for ego. Most times I win big in gambling I don't tell people around me. Same thing when I lose. All things are kept to myself so I don't see any reason to ego.

This is how I resulted to be a high stake gambler eventually. Most times I see myself gambling huge amounts, it’s mainly because, I started chasing after my losses. What became the result, a high stake gambler. Putting out those huge amounts was no problem no more as I already knew how to suck it up and go for another run. When I lose, I have another go and at this point, it’s chasing after my losses because, I so don’t want to let my money go. Reducing the games, sticking to just one or two of that and doubling the stakes. I often win but other times, it’s a huge mistake and a loss.

Isn't that the recipe for disaster? You're talking about sports betting but this applies to pretty much every gambling game. Quite a long time ago I was playing crash on a well-known casino, I was achieving a few minor wins and had stacked a semi decent amount of money, compared to the money I had spent. The game starts and it crashes on a really low multiplier, something like 1.05x. I'm a little pissed but it's all a part of the game, isn't it? Second round starts again, I've already doubled my bet, it crashes again, right from the start. At this moment I'm getting pissed off. I go for round three, I'm not accepting defeat, I'm doubling my bet again (4x since first round), and guess what, it crashes again. I'm pissed, extremely pissed.

I learned an important lesson that day, sometimes it's better to accept defeat, since then, I've been a lot more careful to not get carried away, even though sometimes it happens on sports betting, it's a lot more controlled than the case I mentioned with the crash game.

This was common when we were playing mainly at gambling shops, then ego was one of the major attributes of gamblers. Everyday we gather at the shop make predictions and anyone whose prediction comes through was usually celebrated as a pro, so it was easy for ego to infiltrate the process and as usual, people will insist on playing until they win or are burnt out. I will not forget the arguments about clubs we support in which many people bet with such sentiments even when they knew that their clubs were not in good shape to win the match. However, online casinos have made all that history because gambling are done in private and anyone still exhibiting this ego is simply fighting against himself.

Yes. I'm almost sure that it has nothing to do with real chance, but the day I feel that it is not my day I usually quit and try to focus on a different thing. You can always try another day, with a better disposition than after a losing spree.



Yes, we are all humans and we have our egos, and I won't claim that I haven't done it before; with mixed results.



No, definitely not at least in my case.

I don’t want to sound as if I’m advising someone to chase after their losses because that’s what this option looks like - but if I was ever in your shoes this is what I would have done. I would have reduced my bet and go for the one I know or believe are the most likely to give me a win and this time I won’t make multiple bets but just one because sometimes losing multiple bets might give you that feeling that you’re starting to lose your touch so I’d just make one bet and make sure I win so as to satisfy my “ego” and also to remind myself that no one is perfect when it comes to gambling.

I think this topic doesn't apply only for sports, It apply for slots and casinos games too... I have been stucked with some slots games in the past like Nitropolis from ELK, that slots is a money eatir, the animations are cool but getting a big win is Just imposible.

And with sports I get some bat luck with the end of Conor McGregor, he used to be an easy money bet, but in the Last fight he makes me lose money.

That was the first line, take the loss go out, it's actually nice weather outside, and just let it go.
Which was a sound plan, and I am glad I didn't take the bet on the first race on Chelmsford:



Now if the favorite in the 20:30 Carlton which is twice CD winner in last 2 races isn't finishing in the top 5 everyone around here close your windows cause you're going to hear some screams even if you're in New Zealand 
Oh, it's a 2 euros bet, don't bring money into the discussion, this is just my ego wanting to win.

Well mine is kind of a crazy story. Manchester city has always been a very reliable team for anyone who place football bet. Manchester city gives everyone great opportunities regardless of if you take them straight win, over or even first half win, but not too long ago they have had a bad run of form and honestly that cost me alot.
My friends has been telling me to avoid them but still I believed in them and I always take them fast forward to last week I finally won with Manchester city vs westham as my last game. That win was really for my ego and it really gave me joy.

There is no reason for all this as a gambler it's always better to accept defeat than allow our pride and ego destroy us ultimately. Gambling is very simple but if we attached so much value to how much we would win makes it looks like a bad activity, the major thing are to look towards the fun moment we are having while gambling and when the money has been exhausted then we quit but if by any means while gambling and we stake money to it and win then fine it's a plus to our overall gambling moment but shouldn't allow our ego control us where we can't know our limits.

Or add
-move on and accept what was loss.

Its quite frustrating what you had in there, maybe not in the nick of time? Or totally random unlucky day.

Ego is something we must balance and cant say we should just let it go but the harder we think and cope with that the more get frustrated.

Hearing a 19 bets without a win is really something we cant sleep it about. I get you on that part but nothing much to do but accept. Better luck next time mate

That will never be an option, only an option for addicts lol 

Definitely accepting defeat for the day, perhaps I'm not in competition with anyone nor the house. If one continues trying to prove your ego it will only end up draining your little risk-able fiat or crypto so will rather give up for the day and try again next time.  Ur if you're confident on yourself enough you can try to make a recovery only at your risk.

I will prefer to accept my defeat rather then putting more money in gambling to benefit the house. Gamblers who lost everything in betting are the ones who keep on putting money in gambling to either make up loses or satisfy there ego. In this process they lost everything to the house. It's very important that we must understand the consequences of putting money blindly in gambling. If you can't accept your loss and keep control over your emotions then better stay away from gambling. Gambling should be for fun only not for satisfying your ego or cover up loses.  

It was never about the money, I still have self control when it's R4/5 races on poly!
The thing is how damn did I lose 19 bets in 6 races! I just wanted one win, not that it would change something in terms of $!


Money was never the issue, the problem is the frustration of knowing you're bad on low-level horse racing that runs on either poly or sand and you still try to do it because, for god's sake its gambling, how in the name of god can't you get even a 5% bet right even if you put them blindfolded, it's randomness, right?  

But anyhow, I missed option 4!
So, I want a win, I want desperately to just win even if it's once cent, I don't care about the odds, so can anyone guess based on this picture what I did?   This is the product of pure boredom!

haha it’s probably a bad thing to admit but we do sometimes bet so that our ego gets fed it’s the truth maybe not for some people but definitely the truth for a lot of us nothing would satisfy our ego more than winning a bet and making more money

does this mean we should do it though? frequently? no is my answer especially if you are already way past your budget sure the potential win would probably feel so good but once you lose it will destroy your confidence and your wallet so it’s pretty risky

Then what is ego for you?

try to read this.

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-the-ego-2795167

That's what I usually do. I accept my fate. I  know perfectly well that I could have failed even at an event I knew I was really good at, so, bad luck is bad luck, maybe next time. That's an ideal situation of course. Sometimes I want to have at least one win for my ego, but that's so wrong. Guys, never give up resisting that urge.

Well after failing miserably and you accept it then this is enough reason to not get back anymore in gambling. The fact is though that many players keep coming back despite knowing the fact that they are trying insanity, the same thing all over again and again and expecting different results. This is the real problem most people do not get back and accept the fact that they failed, they want a come back and an affirmation of their own and their ego is what drives them into this. This also led me into it for years but from some months now I am happily living without depositing more than 10-20 dollars of my own. That is what most people should aim to do, to accept the fact that they are not good at and should not try again.

It is a quick way to get poor. Don’t get obsessed over any money issues. Don’t get obsessed with gambling, trading, making money in general. Just take the right steps and money will be running towards you. You don’t even go to it.

So when your ego takes the control of your common sense, it means you getting obsessed with gambling.

Then it is going to end badly because you are not following any common sense anymore. You are wagering money like a monkey at that point. How could that end good?

Don’t do it.

I think i will tuck my tail firmly between my legs and do just this, if i try to recoup what i have lost, i will lose more and on and on it goes. I love football gambling, and there are many weekends i try only the EPL early kickoff game, if it fails, i quickly try to pick some of the games for later that day, and guess what, it mostly fails. So for sometime now i try not to play only the early kickoff game, lol. I am sure it is just superstition, but it keeps happening, so time for a change, lol.

You stated it yourself that you are really bad at the event, unless it is fun for you watching the races and you wouldn't mind throwing some funds at it again, I don't think you should bet again at what you don't know much about.

I would not bet just for my ego, if you are experiencing serious losing streaks, that means you may have to loose a very big sum just to feel good and win just once. For me it is a very irrational thing to do. I better accept the defeat and preserve my funds for other important things, but who knows, your next bet might land you a big win. So do what you want.

Also, it depends on the allocated funds I have left for the day's gambling session. If I have more left for the day, then why not let the fun continue?

If you have spent money more than you want, just not only go out and just accept that you failed miserably at an event you know you're really bad at, also make sure you do not bet for now and cool your mind. That is how gambling and betting should be. If I were you, I will not even think of gambling at all for now. Gambling is fun but I hate too much losses. But if you are still within the money that you can afford to lose, you can continue having the fun. But beyond it is not fun at all.

That is not even ego in my opinion.

Everyone has an ego, but we need to approach gambling based on strategy because that’s the only way to minimize risk. Of course, no one wants to lose, and it’s a human nature to want to bounce back. But remember, sportsbooks are open 24/7. You might lose today, but there’s always a chance to win tomorrow.

Treat gambling like a long-term activities, and you’ll understand that upsets like losing streaks and winning streaks are part of the game. If you go into it knowing there will be bad days and good days, your ego won’t get in the way because your approach is strategic.

The goal is simple: win more than you lose. With the right bankroll management, you’ll see success in the end.

I had a topic like Do you have a team or player on which you keep losing bets no matter what? and I obviously stated in it as an example the race track at Lingfield  My money pit I should know better not to touch again!

Now that most tracks in UK are frozen and Lingfield is on poly it's one of the few that run, so, out of boredom I played, they had 5 clear favorites under 1/1, one was 1/6, you can guess what happened, all 6 bets on favorites lost, all 4 bets on placing from the 3rd horse lost, 4 EW lost, I won't even say tricast cause, well, D'oh!!!

So here I am, bored to death and I'm looking at the next Chelmsford City race and I feel that I should both stay out of this for the day and also just place a damn bet to win at least once so, my question for the other bettors, what do you do in such a scenario
- go out and just accept that you failed miserably at an event you know you're really bad at
- try to get at least a bet right to have at least one win for your ego
- or even one step higher, try to recoup the bets (no way I'm doing that)