Topic: Family first.. (Read 220 times)

Family first is an idea that across nations as well as periods of time. It's an outdated idea which underlines the significance of our connections and their impact on our lives.

Family is the safety blanket that saves us when we tumble, the foundation that keeps us steady when life becomes tough. They are the people that love us unconditionally, understand our differences, and accept us for who we are. When we value them, we strengthen those relationships and build a support system that can get us through any type of weather.

But don't forget that valuing family doesn't imply sacrifice.

everyone have where they are comimg from,its the family.
family first because its our foundation,family first because its where we go back to when we find no help outside.
family is to be considered first in all we do because it will be part of us till eternity.
in all we do, we are to remember where we are comimg from(family) because we are making a name for the family. family shoudnt be overlooked for anything because without it we wont be in existence at the first place.
family is something we should always have in mind when making decisions,because as an individual anything we do have either negative or positive impact to the family.
caring and taking good care of the family should be one priority, family is everything to the society what the society is to the family. whatsover we can right in the family will be right in the society. thhe family is the testing ground for any norms of the society, therefore we must take our family first above everything.

There will be no other people that shall be concerned with the family that you've made. It should be you, your wife, and your husband, that should take accountability for the family that you have. You may have your brothers, sisters, and parents but still, your own family is the priority. Regardless of what you're working for and with, they still should take your time and have a bond with them. Time is truly so fast and it is passing by, you'll never notice that you've been working for years and yet you haven't allocated a lot of time to your family. Protect your peace through your family and always give them the time that they deserve just as how you've given time to your activities and work.

I agree with this because family should be your first priority be it a man or woman no exemption, it is important for husband and wife to take the utmost responsibility in making their family a good one, be a good example to others out their for them to imitate your family and learn from it.

Charity begins at home and home is the family. Your family is your root. Therefore, most of the characters that you portray in the society is a product of your background, and that is the family.

The importance of family can not be overemphasised. If something happens to a person, like accident or even in the case if death. It is the person's family that is contacted first, not friends or colleagues. Even in the case of inheritance, sometimes long lost family members are contacted. So it good to maintain family ties.

Also in the nuclear family, being the husband, wife and children. This is the most integral part of family life, so being together and having time for one another is the most important. Children can easily go astray if the parents don't spend time with them. Husbands and wives should always make plans for quality time with the whole family.

In the real sense, family will always comes first because they are the ones that will only accept you for who you are and they are willing to stand by you unconditionally, but note that not all family are like that, some family members are ready to throw you under the bus at any slight opportunity, those set of people don't even care how you are faring.
Me as a person, I don't only recognize blood relatives as family, any one that loves me unconditionally,  to me he or she is my  family, an those set of people are my real bloodline because it is only them that can make me go out of my way.

If the family is not properly managed and the husband and wife do not give each other valuable time then there will be trouble in that family. To spend time with loved ones, the two meet with the consent of the family. All these troubles are hidden in the three factors of underestimation, waste of time, anger that leads to destruction. But I want everyone to spend precious time with loved ones in the family so that a family can survive if the husband and wife are addicted to deep love. People's needs are constantly changing so it is best to stay together in a family. Family is an illusion that can never be forgotten. Arrogance, underestimation, waste of time, anger if these are avoided from within a person will surely lead to a happy world.

They say we do not choose the people who we come to life with as family, but life itself chooses them for us. Sacrifices are made for family but it does not mean that you should permit yourself to be taken advantage of just because the person is family. Also family is not only by blood similarity, there are some people that will come into our lives in the course of living that will become family, we should be able to treat them like family and not outsiders.

It is fair. I had kinda forgotten that was also a possibility, that good times come, there are savings jobs, security so one decided to start a family and all goes to hell because politicians being irresponsible.

I guess, it is kind of inevitable for many, thanks for pointing it out.

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Well, I am the kind of person who would not blindly follow one religion when comes to matters like having children or personal finances, but I get it is different according to where one lives.

Also, that fragment of the book does not mention or takes in consideration that there are bad women which could make their husband life's miserable, obviously there are other written norms about marriage in religion, but we cannot discuss about this topic only keeping in mind one single commandment or divine advise.

Personally, I do not believe much in the feasibility of family relationships in my life, but on the other hand, I am aware of their importance in forming a balanced society capable of coexistence.

I say I do not believe because my experience has taught me that everything that I can reach in terms of ambitions and achievements in my life can only be achieved without asking for help from family members or even friends. This may seem strange to you, but it is the truth, believe me.
Through this experience, I came to the conclusion that family relationships may be the best way for people who are unable to solve their problems on their own or in constant need of various types of assistance (such as those with organic disabilities, for example).

Life is worth living when you have those to spend your happy moments with; family.
If you fully focus on building your career and wealth without servicing or playing out your role to your family, the bond becomes severed and trust me, a broken home takes its own toll on your finances as well.
So, generally i feel those that have the best lives as those that keeps a perfect balance between business and family.

There are quite a number of things that pushes people into getting married, these may include;
Societal pressure
age barrier
religious believes
procreation etc.

Some people believe their finance will turn around once they get married since the holy book states that, "who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from God..." so these anticipated favour has pushed many people into marriages without proper plans.

However, you would agree that there are those that have actually created this fortune for themselves after getting married through hard work with their spouse. Hence, a certain percentage of the people with plenty children suffering in poverty and hardship directly reflects ignorance and maybe unwillingness to work.

Despite all these factors, i believe a man can start his own family whenever he has the resources and willingness to take good care of them.

some people will abandoned their family just to make others fine, their will not provide for them none care for them. that is wrong, your family should be your priority in your decision making and actions plan. because when you land in trouble is your family that will come first before any other person. we must respect and care for the family first. this the only way we can have a better society.

We are related to people sometimes by blood but that does not make them family!
There are certain things you would go through as an individual and seek for some sort of assistance from "your family" and get non whereas strangers or friends will be willing to move mountains to get it done. I consider family as those that can stand by you through thick and thin and not those just related to you by blood.

As you have rightly said, the circumstances vary for individuals; If money (work) gives you peace, go for it! If the bonds you share with people gives you peace then go for it as well.

Families that are not toxic and play their roles in giving hope and strong love to each other are worth giving your life and spending your time with them the time and that's the kinds of families we always want to have especially when we do help each other by doing good things. When the kinds of families you are living are those who always down you or if something went wrong they always put the blame on you, you won't wish to be with them forever rather you will strive to look for another company that will gonna live happily with you, this is why most people when they finally found their lifetime partners, they will mostly find another place that is far from their families to live a peaceful happy life.

Some of us got married when the economy was good. There were jobs everywhere and our local currency had value. My salary used to be enough to take care of my family because of the strong purchasing power of our currency. But years after, things began to fall apart and life started becoming difficult. My salary has not been increased for many years in an economy that is going through hyperinflation. I never though that my country's economy will be as bad as this that's why I had more than two children.

The economy of an individual or nation is unpredictable so marrying because you are financially stable is good but don't forget that you can lose the money. If you feel that you can live a fulfilled life without marriage and children, then you can decide not to marry and enjoy your life. This is because marriage and childraising are expensive.

Your opinion is good but you don't have to see the world in that pattern. Based on your topic, "Family first" if something that we don't need to out on concentration to just like myself because your family can always come against you. They can even hurt you and not bother about your feeling or who you are to them. Everyone has different opinion here and is not bad.

Family is everything, family should even be our essence for existence..

You've said all that's ought to be said, advice given and no stone is left unturned.
It's left for those in this situation to do the best the can.

I agreed with you, for each family to be unity and love, family can never be compare to money, business or work because the bounds is blood stream likely to be framed as one which nothing should breaks. I love seeing a lovely families fills with loves, happiness and joy. They usually shares ideas, business and careers. They promotes education of family members, you can see a colourful life together weather wealthy or otherwise. But dear, there is more to it than what you see and heard, many families are living in broken homes, nobody is relating with each other because they're many circumstances behind it. Like you mention a man impregnated the wife's friend, this things happens always, marriage is another heaven and hell to learn that's why some do not last while others do.

But I also encourage love in the families, we should experience this unusual strength for each other, add a colourful and blissful time together for social events, shares ideas, worries and help each other. Makes life colourful at home even when people try to rumpled it outside.

I still believe that even though family is important and we should start a family when we can. I do not think doing it when one does not have economical safety is a good idea, though.

Why would I marry and have children if I cannot even provide to myself so I can live in a comfortable enough way? That is why it bothers my mind a bit when I see people living in poverty and in the outer limits of the cities and still having children that they cannot even send to school.  It does not sound like a good plan in my opinion. 

Would not be easier just to stay single and only being responsible of oneself in the meantime?

In some cases, the economic condition of a particular country affects the family negatively. Due to inflation, unemployment, and other economic problems, most parents are forced to work very hard to be able to pay the bills of the family. In my country jobs are difficult to get, so most employers take advantage of their employees making them overwork while they receive meager pay. My neighbor is security in fast food and he works for 14 hours but he earns less than 50 dollars a month. His wife have to turn to petty trading to enable her to support the husband to fend for their children. So most time both of them are not at home.

The area I am not comfortable with is when parents prefer to spend time with friends or on phones instead of spending quality time with their children. I feel sad when parents are not giving their children quality time because they want to earn more money they can spend on luxuries. Others feel that keeping huge sums or investments for their children is better than raising them properly, so they focus on making more money instead of preparing thier children for the future.

Family is the bedrock of every society, and as such deserves to be placed first before any other thing. But that doesn't mean one is ought not to give priority to his work or career, because from what I could understand by the story O.P just gave above, I will like to say that marriage is meant to be an understanding between two parties, of which thou money is a basic necessity, spending quality time with family members & good sex with partner is one thing that should never be overemphasized, because from observation, I could sense that's the big mistake this hardworking woman made, of which her husband took advantage of by impregnating her best friend.

So, in summary to all this, don't say because of money you regret your family, or neither will you say because of your quest to building a loving family, fail to look after money. But always try to create a balance between both two.

Cheating is a choice and I understand where the man has come from on why he did that to cheat on his wife's friend. But then, it's a matter of personal choice and he should have talked again to his wife before committing cheating. Going with the family, it's true that we should value our family, we do work hard for them but also need to remember that work isn't everything but family is. As long as you get to survive and have your basic needs with your salary or from your business, don't forget to give the attention that your children and your spouse need.
It wouldn't make you late to work if you spend a couple of minutes cuddling your with your spouse, talking about the weekend and places that you want to visit during your rest days.

Op you have spoken well, we should always put our family first in what ever we are doing which is correct, parents should always spend time together with their children, it's always a way to know your children more and it gives them (your children) the opportunity to be open to you people as parents, parents (husband/wife) should always try not to miss work with family activities, when it's time for work, you work and when it's time for family, it should be family because both work and family are both important, I believe even if there's much love and understanding in a family, money is still so much needed and that money comes through work.

Parents (either husband/wife) should be able to speak to themselves if they are not happy with what is happening between them in their home, if your spouse is missing work with family, you as a husband or wife have every righteous to speak, air out your griviances and make peace at the end, this will sure give a lead to a better and understanding family, everything is not work or money, but money is so much needed for the family to be better....
Both work (money) and family is important to us, so make sure you create time for both

When we talk about family, we are referring to our beginning or where we come from.
whatever we do or become in life,family is something that can never be forgotten.
therefore anything we do we consider and remember our FAMILY FIRST. Its our root, no matter where we get to in life,we will still return to our family at the end.

I agree with you on this part. We all have individual personal peculiarity because not everyone actually has a family and for some, the word family is just a compound word that carries no relevance or intimate relationships between the individuals involved, just like you have rightly pointed out that family should not be one-sided and it supposes to be the foundation for support of each member and care for one another that is the ideal family setting.

Unlike some who do not even have a family to relate with so to them money could become the best companion and since there could get some level of happiness from what their money can aff afford become simpoimportant we set our order of priorities based on our individual differences.

To have a loving and caring family is the best thing that one needs. Being there for each other in every good and bad moments to give advice and console each other will help a lot. Another thing is that what if they don't make you happy,every time that you are with them? Will you force yourself to endure and build the love ?. No,it will be difficult to stay in such place or to be with such person. Whatever it is that you know will make you happy,either your family,or your work, you should go for it because life is short. From your story maybe your neighbour and his wife weren't made for each other,that was why the marriage didn't work.
   In marriage,understanding and love play a major role in the family. Love can tolerate, endure,understand,sacrifice and so many good virtues that comes from love.

In general, your statement makes perfect sense, given that everyone lives in a family and that everyone has family ties. Unfortunately, this is not the case for everyone and some may find themselves living in a fatal loneliness (I am one of them) given that my relations with the family were severed for a long time. It is not possible to determine an order of priorities that applies to all people, since our ideas differ according to our circumstances.

Well, family first. But have you ever thought about what it would be like if that family did not consider you as valuable as you are? Do you think it would be useful to spend time and effort betting on a horse that most likely will fail? I don't like the idea of what is more important, family or money. Each has its merits and shortcomings, and they cannot be arranged in order of priority if they represent two vital elements in an individual's life. Personally, I do not see any of them fit to be a priority, and if I wanted one of them badly, I would accept the other despite its disadvantages.

   Family should be put first in whatever engagement that we are involved in. Putting work or business (money) first before one's family should be discouraged. Some persons see riches as rest of mind and happiness, as long as they can provide for their needs. On the other hand some people see riches as properties and investment, this is what makes people who fall in this category see money as everything. So many homes are broken and so many marriages crashed out because the husband and wife give more time to their source of income rather than their spouse. Instead of creating little time to spend with their families to build a stronger bond, they devote all their time to their work or business. Many fathers hardly have time for their children,even when the child has as presentation in school or has a role to play in school or church occasions, they hardly show up,all in the name of work. This shows that most fathers pay more attention on their own selfish interest not putting their family interest first.

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   At weekends, instead of staying at home with their families, there is always an excuse to go out and chill with friends or to have fun. Before you know it,the family value will be lacking because the head is not always around to play his role. Providing for your family is not enough as a man to show that you care for them. Sometimes their kids might end up missing the value of a father's care and advice. This attitude can also lead to the woman not comfortable with the man behavior and might file for a divorce,due to the fact that the family's love is decreasing and not increasing. When a child is raised up by a single parent his/her life wouldn't be the same if a child that was raised up with both parent.
    My neighbour is so much dedicated to her work and gives less time to her husband. Her husband is very rich and has so many servants in his house,this shows that she lacks nothing and can be properly taken care of. She goes to work very early and comes home in the evening, and she wouldn't even do anything but working with her laptop. He complained to her but she didn't picture his feelings,and continued with this for long. His love for his wife started depreciating and he was tempted by his wife's friend who knows that he lacks his wife's attention and took advantage of him.

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Finally, he got her pregnant and had no choice but to bring her into his matrimonial home and it was then that his wife realized the shit that she caused in her home. It was too late for her to fix things, so he divorced her and got married to her friend.
My little advice is that we should try and give the required time to our love ones so that the family lover will grow deeper and the family bond will be stronger. A happy man is a healthy man,and a healthy man is a productive man. There is time for everything.
Gracias.