Topic: Gambling destroyed me....advice me what to do now..? (Read 853 times)

Just to clear the things,i never asked for any donation.I was very tensed just thinking what to do.Bitcointalk is a place where i spend some time so shared my problems here.Thank you for the replies and your concerns and now i am locking this thread,just pray once for me that i get out of this trouble some how,that may really help.
Thank you all

i just read OP story that actually you are given second chance to your parent but unfortunately you could not use this chance with wisely and stuck on the same hole and currently is not much you must do to prove yourself just be honest to your family and ask for help to them to stop this addiction because you could not do this alone needed somebody else to do so but first of all the strong intention is one of the primary factor if you want to stop gambling

i agree with rehab or go to professional medication mate i think 26.5k is really a huge amount and your addictioon cant be stop by your own will since you will keep chasing that big lost and try to recover it and it will results to another loses so better to accept the fact of addiction and surrender yourself to rehabilitation. its for your own good mate so accept the consequence.

Honestly speaking, I can't do that to my family,that's just not right. But since you did it already, suffer the consequences, If I where you, I'll tell them the truth than keep it. You should pay it back later. Explain it to them clearly, there is no way better than that. That's what you get when you gamble a lot and without thinking twice before acting.  Ending your life? think twice. Better start to rehabilitate your self, that's addiction.

If your story is true, my goodness, you really into addiction. In the first place why they entrusted a large amount of money to you? Did you think twice when you received it? Or you are really happy that you received the money that you can make a money from it? They gave you a chance for you to change your image for them but you missed the opportunity to prove them that they are wrong about you. Hope you can settle the situation of yours, I know right now your anxious regarding on your problem. Just tell them about your problem might the will consider your status right now, good luck brother.

That's a huge problem dude, however the truth shall prevail. You have to be honest with your parents and admit you have a gambling addiction, as parents they will understand because you are their son, maybe you need a break dude and if your parents decided you rehab you, you must accept it openly.

You will not live a good life if you will not cure that disease.

ti is good that you are admitting this and have come to the understanding of your fault but at the same time since your problem is not a simple case of self control to stay away from gambling, none of us can help you out with your severe case of gambling addiction. i suggest you seek some professional help for that.

Everyone of us here gave a common advise and that is to quit gambling. But it's really upon on you if you're really willing to give it up and fix your life with your friends and love ones.. it's never too late to walk back on the right path as long as you live you still have time to do it.

You did not want to learn from your past mistake, I think you have a bad addiction already. You should start to stay away from gambling as soon as possible. I know it will not easy for you, but you should try it. Otherwise you will get more and more bad losing in the future.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss, but suicide is NOT an option. It doesn't even matter how much of their money you wasted, they still love you. A professional needs to help you with your big problem, I don't think we can. Look for a psychiatric somewhere around you and speak to him/her about the problem you're facing. This can be solved very easily. But first off, give all your money to the person you're giving with (IF YOU TRUST HIM OR HER!). Let them hold your money and tell them not to let you take any money for gambling. But be sincere to them, don't invent excuses to go to the casino instead. Gambling can destroy your life in a very easy way, don't let a stupid stack of paper take over your life. Stay safe!

You are very addictive, friend. You should improve soon because it has been very detrimental to you and your family. Maybe you should stay away from gambling in total, looking bustle with your family like a holiday or doing other activities that can make you forget about gambling. The most important thing for someone who wants to quit gambling is the intention in itself, require the strong intention to be stopped. Enterprises harder and ask your family to help you to get out of gambling.

its a big problem for you and my advice is you must stop to playing gambling, don't use your money for gambling, build new habit that will make you forget gambling forever, make relation with new people around you but not with people which have habit in gambling. don't forget to still pray to GOD because only he that can help you in any situation. my pray to you sir and i hope you can start your new life with better condition.

Not at all. He is seeking some advice because he can't control his urge to gamble, So how can be the only person to help him is himself if it is uncontrollable, The best suggestion to OP is to seek guidance to professional psychologist or religious leader to gave some meaningful advice, I think all the advice on this forum is just for the sake of signature earnings. I experienced what OP feels that's i'm suggesting what method i used to rise up again from ashes of failure.

No advice can save you.  Just do  what you should do I.e, Tell everything to your parents. And one more thing, as I said in my previous post,  Empty mind is the house of evil. Keep yourself busy, get some job so that you will only concentrate on work only.  This will help you to ignore and forgot your gambling addiction.

You should be honest with those that is most close to you. You need not tell all of them but one or two. 1.5k usd is not a lot and i believe you can earn it back within a month or 2. You can even take a bank loan.

I think what is more important is how you going to overcome your addiction. That is the root of the problem and if you dont solve it, the problem will keep coming back. You should consider getting professional help.

Almost all the needed advice are already said here.  Just be strong and tell your family the truth. Face the consequences and show them that you are willing to change. This may take time but doing first step to change is the best option.  You can start looking for a job if you don't have one, if you have, you can loan the money you lost that is for your sister's wedding.   It maybe hard but believe me once they see your remorse and effort to change, it will soon get better.

I advise not to gamble anymore! Chances are you will lose more and more if you decided to gamble again. Just try to recoup it through working for it!

That's totally nuts dude losing almost $26,500? But don't worry as long as there is time, there is hope. May I know if you are working? Because that addiction can be done if you are doing some other things that can kill your time. And why not you are the one the take the full responsibility of taking care of your father's situation? Just show your full effort to sustain the care that your father's need and I guess that is the best thing you can do with your current situation.

You're fncked up dude!!! Why do that? You've experienced it before, losing too bad and broke... Then here comes your sisters wedding and yet you still do that? Well, I suggest you go outside, breath, then  think a lot, are you going to lie to your family and produce money to replace what you've spent, or are you going to tell them the truth and accept what they will tell you? I suggest you go with the second option, remember, if you are going to lie, you are just going to make your addiction worst and keep on doing it...  

Never ever think about suicide, that's pathetic...  

Very true there isn't much we can do to help him because he could still gamble even if we give him advices like stop gambling , dont bet what you can't afford, etc. I doubt that he would even bother reading all of our posts because of his huge problem. The only person who can help him the most is himself.

i will suggest you to start with starting . You should start earning from beginning and save your money and don't try to gamble with your btc/money .
Once i was addicted to gambling and made much loss but now i left gambling with my btc . I am making gambling with free faucet only

No one here will really help you. Because our words you read on your screen has not enough power over you. You can only seek real help IRL.
You don't need to diagnose  your condition - you already know that you are addicted gambler on the path to self destruction.

That is why you need to reach out for professional help from your family, friends or in the worst case some non profit institution.
Heck even if you go to some AA meeting it will benefit you - as core addiction elements are always the same with every addiction.

20k -25k gambling you have been lost through gambling , that's quite big amount of money for gambling and you lose it.
Don't bother to play gambling again (and don't make some crimes to play it again likes post above) , better to replace your gambling activities with the useful one like working or searching additional source to earn (signature campaign you currently do).

This is not easy to do it , but do it slowly and keep on the track for hiatus on gambling (and it works for me , I can maintain myself)

A big loss is enough for people to stop doing gambling. $20k-$25k is not a joke amount.

There is 2 possible outputs whenever people loss too much while doing gambling; one is to stopped since they already experienced too much losses and another one is to chase all the losses which is not a good idea.

If in people's case that they want to chase the loss then it will just put a person in too so much pressured to gain all the losses. That pressure will result them another round of so much losses.

You able to post like that meaning you are still thinking. Talk to your family and tell them everything. They are the ones who can help you most since family is the great foundation of our life. Good luck.

everyone ever made mistakes and yours is kind of big, the first things to do is you need to responsible what you have done and how you are going to fix it, the best things is to be honest to them and apologize and work hard to repay the money, but if you are in need of the money then you need to find a way to borrow the money

gambling addiction is not a small things, as you can see it has destroyed you twice you need to have more determination to cure it, after this you need  stay away from gambling forever

You really need to go to meetings you have betrayed the people you love and your self.
All you can do is say sorry, and try to make up for your wrong doings in your own way.

sad story man, I think like other posters have said you gotta just go cold turkey and quit.
Maybe as you get older and over time you can gamble responsibly again but it sounds like
your best bet is to take up golf or another hobby to fill the time/void thats missing from gambling.

It's not simply as you said wtf, Once someone become really addicted with gambling (example like OP right now), it's very hard to stop.
He did it (stealing) .Read the whole of OP's story first, is it too hard read that?

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Not sure about some advice, for the first thinking based of your story, i thought you are begging on here for $1500 (i know you never asked about it).
All you can do now just listen to ajaxmoor's advice, it's the best way (you should be ready if your parents don't want talking with you again)

I'm sorry to hear your story. I'm not sure what I would advise - if the temptation to gamble is so high the possibility of completely cutting off from gambling (cold turkey style) may be too difficult for you, I got addicted a while back and for me - I set a limit of $1 per day to play with - which meant that I could still get my fix, but I forced myself to never go over the limit - and in the end I got board with the gambling sites as the $1 was not so exciting.

I hope you manage to find a way out. Be honest with yourself and take some time to reflect on life.

Its the wrong place to seek help to start off but I will try to help you out.

I am hoping you are currently working as it is easier to dig out of a hole when you are some what distracted and work is great for that.

Not knowing your family and how they react it is hard to truly get the heart and help. But you have mentioned you have burnt bridges so that at least
gives a idea that they did not completely shut you out and see the addiction to some extent as not you.

I recomend you go to a gamblers anonymous or even AA,you do not need to keep going but it helps you see that you are not alone in this fight.
Know it has a weak track record but you can at least try it out,it might work and if it does great.
Start working out and go for a walk when you feel like blowing off some money. Its really that you are trying to break a pattern and gambling is a repetitive conditioning. So it takes time to break the hardwired urge to gamble. Reason I suggest walking as it has worked for me with my wanting to blow up and rage at people.

You are going to get through this and I suggest help because suicide is very prevalent with gambling addiction. There is a light and you just need to go one step at a time towards breaking the habit.

Wish you well and never forget that it is easy to slip,its what you do when you slip that matters.

Hey brother, I know things seem completely fucked and like there is never going to be a happy day again, but trust me man things will get better. I know those are the lamest words you probably want to hear right now but you have made a HUGE step, you may still be hidden behind an alias but you have announced to the world in some form that you have a problem and that you are sick of it controlling your life. As you know there is no magic words to fix what is going on with you and your life, although all of us at sometime wish we had that magic stick to beat the crap out ourselves with a things would be all good. You can only face up to what you have done, take the emotional punishment that your family is putting on you and even though they are hard on you show them you deserve another chance. Don't beat yourself up for the fact that you have a problem at the same time as your father & sisters issues, you did not choose to be an addict and you did not cause your fathers health problems or your sisters marital issues. Yes they help to add strain but those are things that you did not cause. Point your addiction out to yourself and if you need to others daily, you cant stop an addiction unless your willing to put the effort in. And a gambling addict anything can turn into a bet.

Mathew 6:34 is a great verse

Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient to the day is the evil thereof.
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Take it ez brother, if you need to chat pm me, sometimes i dont see it but dont do nothing stupid. You may be in a bad place but it will get better, may not be today or tomorrow but you just have to let happiness back in.

What gambling game actually you are addicted i agree that quitting only you is too hard to quit.. I think it can help your friends to stop or quitting in gambling or your family it can help also. Addicted or too much play in gambling can badly effect to your life everything in our life taking too much has always have bad effect..

You can also try to find new hobby change your lifestyle.. if you have a willingness to change you should need to find what is the best solution to your self because if we are just saying that we want to stop and we are not doing action.. we can not change it..

quiting gambling alone is very hard, i advice you to visit to  psychologist, even normal  psychologists knows how to make you stop gambling, if you willnot do it, it will ends very badly for you.

just gather strength  and go to psychologists

good luck

Simply quit gambling, i think you lost great amounts and you have to take the lesson and stop gambling before stealing or making some crimes. You should force yourself to forget gambling forever

You must assume you had gambled with those money, before they find those, isnt a easy way to left those world, gambling makes anybody who loose control to ruin fast a life, i had lost something like 1500 euros in the past but i were able to stop.

There is no quick way out of it. Just apologize and set things right in your life. The only option to not lose their trust for now would be to borrow the money(which again you said is a problem because of trust issues).

You and everyone have to keep in mind that gambling is not a place to push all of our money into but only a place of entertainment so we do not need to put all of our money but only have to play for entertainment.

Gambling has slowly destroyed my life and I am in worst situation now.In past I had lost about 20-25k usd in the gambling about one year ago and my family known because that addiction I started stealing things from my house.
My parents stopped talking with me and I had to face many bad times,no body was trusting me after that.But in one year I slowly got their trust back.
After few weeks there is my sister's marriage and my parents given Me about 1500USD to deposit in bank account and they said use them in some expenses to be managed by me.But now my gambling addiction I lost all of them again.
I am in huge trouble now I don't have anywhere to go.Sometimes thinking I should commit suicide but I want to live my life.But now if my parents know which they will in some time,they cannot face that specially my father who is a kidney patient under dialysis and already alot of Tension with them due to sisters marriage and my father's health.
What can I do please tell me I promised my self that I will not gamble again just god give me one last chance
Please help me with your advise and only genuine person post who are giving advice from their heart.