I don't know what happen in this scenarios since I don't have any experiences with this.
All I know is that there are a lot of discussions since my friend always told me that. When we will be having a get together, his wife will always tell him to never ever gamble the money he has since they have other expenses to spend that even though he won't. He doesn't gamble that much but if he does, it is really a problem.
Topic: Gambling effect to husband and wife (Read 512 times)
The husband needs to tell the wife where he used the money. The wife needs money to prepare their daily life, and if a wife is not working, and depends on the husband's money, she will always ask for the money. That is why the husband and the wife need to be honest with each other, so if the husband or wife has a problem, they can solve it together. The husband needs to control himself in gambling and always remember that he has a family, and his family needs money to continue living. As long as the husband can manage his money in gambling, so he still has money for his family, I think he will not get a problem, but once we are involved in gambling, we need to get extra careful.
Therefore, prioritizing your wife or family is what should take precedence before you spend money on gambling, don't put gambling first in this case because if that happens, then your life will suffer. Always use a healthy and wise mindset, you have an obligation to take care of the family so gambling is another game that you don't have to do every time.
For me personally, while all can still be limited where the money for daily needs and where the money is spent on gambling events like the above will not happen.
Remember gambling is not to get a lot of money but instead to spend money.
Don't force something out of control.
Never engage to much to the point that you will lose your control and use your savings which is allotted to your family. If you can perform this activity in a moderate ways and treat it as stress relievers then you can continue but if you are already using huge amount of money then assess back and observe you might already into deep addictions which is very bad to you and your family. Remember gambling is not to get a lot of money but instead to spend money.
Don't force something out of control.
For number 2 I guess it isn't for the husband but more often it's for the wife but that could be the case if the wife is the one that into gambling addiction. Well, if gambling for an instance is the one that supports the family this kind of situation may never happen, as you said if it just gambles moderately and not intend to lose the money for saving and day to day expenses no problem will arise.
Of course gambling has a stop and do not lose too much money is acceptable but this is very unlikely. Most gamblers cannot stop before losing all their money, so gamblers always run out of money.Money in a family is always a big concern, so most gambling players will receive complaints from their relatives.
For me personally, while all can still be limited where the money for daily needs and where the money is spent on gambling events like the above will not happen.
Remember gambling is not to get a lot of money but instead to spend money.
Don't force something out of control.
Remember gambling is not to get a lot of money but instead to spend money.
Don't force something out of control.
of course a wife will ask where the money is spent if indeed the capital we use to gamble from the wages we have to give to his wife and children. I think the wife's decision to ask that question must indeed be conveyed to the husband expressly because after all the wife has a very important role in managing finances. a professional gambler can certainly manage everything, and can arrange which money must be used for gambling after fulfilling the main obligations that must be given to his family
in past when i become a gambling addict?i try to explain to my wife as soon as i go home that i lose again,because in that way we don't go long argumentation and there is a time that she already accepted my explanation and instead of confronting me?she find a job and just let me do my things but always advising me and lighting my way ,so after some years?i realized my mistakes and follow her advises .
You should be proud that you have a very understanding wife, it's hard to find someone like her, wives is the one looking for the welfare of the family and he knows all the expenses, she cannot be quiet for a long time if the needs of the family are not met.
Being alone is one of the reason why people get addicted to gambling. If you want to sustain a relationship, talk with your partner, take the consent of him/her for the amount and time you spend gambling. It's not just about managing the family but also restricting you from getting addicted to gambling. It's your money but you can also spend in some better ways.
Well, its just my observation though.Going back on topic where its normal for our wife to seek out for our income.
Yes, it is normal but we also need to have some money for ourselves and for enjoyment. We accept the fact that if you're married, you a family to live and help them survive everyday. But you also need to entertain yourself to prevent stress that includes your own money. Although, your family can also be a source of happiness for you, that maybe enough. But I guarantee you that you will seek more content on the things that you're used to like gambling.
Our wife needs time and caress and if you do consume all of your time either on online or offline gambling then its just a normal
reaction.
reaction.
That's not a normal reaction because our wife should not feel that way. Always prioritize your family before anything else, they're the one who are always there for you whenever you're down. The gambling will disappear and vanish, but your family will stay with you forever no matter what. Moderate gambling will do just to have some fun just to control your salary.
If your money is not enough to sustain the daily needs of your family then, I will suggest not to gamble. Family first before anything else, put them into your priority not a second option. That is why we always say here that "only gamble what you can afford to lose" not just your entire savings or your monthly salary. Gambling will destroy your family's relationship just because you are lack financial support to them. The husband and wife should have a plan and the wife will always keep the money because they know how to budget and what needs in daily consumption.
in past when i become a gambling addict?i try to explain to my wife as soon as i go home that i lose again,because in that way we don't go long argumentation and there is a time that she already accepted my explanation and instead of confronting me?she find a job and just let me do my things but always advising me and lighting my way ,so after some years?i realized my mistakes and follow her advises .
You should be proud that you have a very understanding wife, it's hard to find someone like her, wives is the one looking for the welfare of the family and he knows all the expenses, she cannot be quiet for a long time if the needs of the family are not met.
in past when i become a gambling addict?i try to explain to my wife as soon as i go home that i lose again,because in that way we don't go long argumentation and there is a time that she already accepted my explanation and instead of confronting me?she find a job and just let me do my things but always advising me and lighting my way ,so after some years?i realized my mistakes and follow her advises .
When there is lack of financial support from the partner there will be always issues in any kind of relationship and more often in husband and wife.I do experienced lot of issues with lot of disputes from my neighbourhood for some reasons like gambling,excessive addiction to alcohol and other stuffs but as an individual everyone should know their limits and stick with that,never lose your long term happiness for short term pleasure.
It's heartbreaking for a wife to know that her husband is very much into gambling, to the point that he cannot provide enough food and basic needs to his family if this continues it's only a matter of time, that they will end up a broken family, so if you love your family, minimize your time in gambling and don't spend too much money.
When I want to gamble, I always use my spare money and my wife never knows about my gambling because my wife does not like me playing gambling all the time.
Of course I would prioritize my family over betting that I always put my free time with my child and not gamble when it does.
When there is more money and have my free time I will bet with spare money.
Of course I would prioritize my family over betting that I always put my free time with my child and not gamble when it does.
When there is more money and have my free time I will bet with spare money.
3. They always get into discussion
Getting into discussion is not bad. It is actually healthy because you get to talk and tackle the problem together. All these problems you pointed can be avoided by being honest with your partner. Your partner should know that you are gambling. If she knows then she can help you control your gambling problem. Nothing can't be solved if there is honesty and openness in both parties in a relationship.
The only problem I can see is if both are addicted to gambling and no one is left to control the other.
I think the following are some of effect in a releationship
1. Wife always ask where the money goes.
- this is a normal question , but once the husband got hook in gambling we heard this very often
2. Husband always checking where he is going.
- i know what you are thinking this is a question from wife if her man is cheating, but when her husband always give money she knows the salary, and found out he's in to gambling count this in
3. They always get into discussion
- this is one of the most common things we always hear from husband and wife , and its regarding money
I think this is the top things when someone into gambling wife always had something to say and ask
as a friend my recommendation is that like in a liquor advertisement drink moderately in gambling
always have in control be happy but don't waste money.
what do you say
Another important thing is to keep good communication with your spouse. You shouldn't lie and hide your gambling activity to your spouse. Be honest about it, and if your wife is against it then talk it through. Lying and hiding things are the recipe for bad relationships. Also, I think it's better if both party in the relationship have their own account separated from the joint account. This personal account should be use for personal things, like gambling. 1. Wife always ask where the money goes.
- this is a normal question , but once the husband got hook in gambling we heard this very often
2. Husband always checking where he is going.
- i know what you are thinking this is a question from wife if her man is cheating, but when her husband always give money she knows the salary, and found out he's in to gambling count this in
3. They always get into discussion
- this is one of the most common things we always hear from husband and wife , and its regarding money
I think this is the top things when someone into gambling wife always had something to say and ask
as a friend my recommendation is that like in a liquor advertisement drink moderately in gambling
always have in control be happy but don't waste money.
what do you say
You wont get any problem if you have discipline and limitation when you gamble. Meaning you know how much money to spend when you play and never compromise the money meant for important needs because if you do then the problem with your wife will start from there.
If you're a family man you should priotize the welfare of your loved ones and never gamble using your salary, only use a spare money. Its fine to gamble sometimes but with moderation.
If you're a family man you should priotize the welfare of your loved ones and never gamble using your salary, only use a spare money. Its fine to gamble sometimes but with moderation.
i can feel you bro,since once i become a very engaged gambler and yes,we almost argue everyday about monetary things and sometimes it turns to exchanging hard words .
but i am so lucky because my wife did not give me up,instead he continue to guide me to make better choices,and this until i realized what i am missing in my life,since then i start to spend more of my free time for my family and just gambling once i feel like wanting to enjoy.and sometimes me and my wife just play cards to satisfy my needs on playing and that is so enjoyable.
but i am so lucky because my wife did not give me up,instead he continue to guide me to make better choices,and this until i realized what i am missing in my life,since then i start to spend more of my free time for my family and just gambling once i feel like wanting to enjoy.and sometimes me and my wife just play cards to satisfy my needs on playing and that is so enjoyable.
Why generalize with the husband the one gambling and the wife the one asking questions. Could be vice versa tbh. Anw, I agree on the talks of others about its how you control yourself, the amount you bet, the greed you have, but if its in terms of family talks, the one where the wife is actually included, it's a lot better to start with talking about it. Families get destroyed by jealousy and distrust because of not talking to each other about problems, about hobbies that maybe seen bad in the eyes of others you know. Gambling isn't a bad thing. It would be, if your using the funds of your family like the money to be spent on everyday expenses. But if your family knows your gambling, they could allocate money into it, albeit small.
Being a husband and a father is a big responsibility. If you're already in that phase, you should know how to manage and allocate your money and income. Gambling can be addicting but if you're a responsible husband and father, you will prioritize your family than gambling. This is what some people are forgetting. They always think that they can get their money back if they won. But no. In the first place, you shouldn't use the money for your family expenses in gambling. Everyone's free to gamble but it's only fine as long you have extra money. Don't use the money for your family in gambling because it's your family that will suffer.
A woman and wife are really practical when it comes to money, they always think of the family expenses, from food, Transpo, bills and all. They become really good at math when it comes to money. And as a gambler, discipline is a must.
A woman and wife are really practical when it comes to money, they always think of the family expenses, from food, Transpo, bills and all. They become really good at math when it comes to money. And as a gambler, discipline is a must.
It is all about how you can control yourself and knows the limit to spend your money.
I mean you must know how much the money that you can use for gambling. You also need to know when you are better to stop playing it. Once you can manage it well, I think it is no problem if you want to play gambling. For me, the problem is only once you forget anything because of gambling addiction.
*Remember that always make a priority for the family. Gambling mustn't make you forget more important things.
I mean you must know how much the money that you can use for gambling. You also need to know when you are better to stop playing it. Once you can manage it well, I think it is no problem if you want to play gambling. For me, the problem is only once you forget anything because of gambling addiction.
*Remember that always make a priority for the family. Gambling mustn't make you forget more important things.
Wife will make trouble for sure either you are gambling on real life or online. There would be two different problem, if you are gambling real life then mostly time you will late to return home especially on night. Of course she will fight with you if continuously happen. Other thing about money, perhaps she will ask about your money if you lost. On the other hand, even she will make trouble when you will gamble continuously on your pc/phone. Because you can't spent time with your wife, so she would depressed. Overall it's not very easy task to convince wifi if you are gambler. Most important is, you will not able to spent enough time with your wifi and that's the main reason she would angered.
Just a little bit OT. Are you in mobile which some words posted I do suspect were autospell?Wifi = Wife
Angered = Angry
Well, its just my observation though.Going back on topic where its normal for our wife to seek out for our income.
Our wife needs time and caress and if you do consume all of your time either on online or offline gambling then its just a normal
reaction.
It is common for a wife to asks where our money goes. It's our duty to be their provider and from the very start we know that it's our responsibility to do so. Like the known quote of "Happy wife, happy life".
Provide things for your wife and family so that she won't be a hindrance to your hobby as you gamble but don't go far and become addicted.
Provide things for your wife and family so that she won't be a hindrance to your hobby as you gamble but don't go far and become addicted.
Wife will make trouble for sure either you are gambling on real life or online. There would be two different problem, if you are gambling real life then mostly time you will late to return home especially on night. Of course she will fight with you if continuously happen. Other thing about money, perhaps she will ask about your money if you lost. On the other hand, even she will make trouble when you will gamble continuously on your pc/phone. Because you can't spent time with your wife, so she would depressed. Overall it's not very easy task to convince wifi if you are gambler. Most important is, you will not able to spent enough time with your wifi and that's the main reason she would angered.
Have you ever think what is the result of gambling for husband and wife?
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I think the following are some of effect in a releationship
1. Wife always ask where the money goes.
- this is a normal question , but once the husband got hook in gambling we heard this very often
2. Husband always checking where he is going.
- i know what you are thinking this is a question from wife if her man is cheating, but when her husband always give money she knows the salary, and found out he's in to gambling count this in
3. They always get into discussion
- this is one of the most common things we always hear from husband and wife , and its regarding money
images are from google
I think this is the top things when someone into gambling wife always had something to say and ask
as a friend my recommendation is that like in a liquor advertisement drink moderately in gambling
always have in control be happy but don't waste money.
what do you say
images from google istaka
I think the following are some of effect in a releationship
1. Wife always ask where the money goes.
- this is a normal question , but once the husband got hook in gambling we heard this very often
2. Husband always checking where he is going.
- i know what you are thinking this is a question from wife if her man is cheating, but when her husband always give money she knows the salary, and found out he's in to gambling count this in
3. They always get into discussion
- this is one of the most common things we always hear from husband and wife , and its regarding money
images are from google
I think this is the top things when someone into gambling wife always had something to say and ask
as a friend my recommendation is that like in a liquor advertisement drink moderately in gambling
always have in control be happy but don't waste money.
what do you say
This situation between wife and husband was very unpleasant to see, problems took them too difficult while being affected of gambling. As a gambler, you had chosen to take the responsibility between family and your hobbies with betting. Though it was with the involvement for money, if handled fairly it won't be worst in the long run and your family will stay stronger without any problems about gambling.
See, if the 3rd one was actually the first to be considered, none of the rest would happen. But instead, the first thing that occurs is the wife looks for the money which was used for gambling (which she did not have knowledge of), then proceeds to want to know what the husband is doing all the time with the money, and bam. It's always the discussion that is late, why can't that be the first to be considered in every event. With the discussion, the wife would know what happened to the money, the husband would explain why he does that, and no mistrust or whatever would friggin occur.
Gambling has a negative effect in marriage or for husband and wife because it can lead to divorce if one of their partners became addicted to gambling and all of their savings is loss, that is why if your partner is gambler you need to guide him/her just to be safe because both of you will end up bankrupt.
my recommendation is that like in a liquor advertisement drink moderately in gambling
always have in control be happy but don't waste money.
what do you say
always have in control be happy but don't waste money.
what do you say
Moderation is indeed the key in gambling. And not only from the funds/money point of view (which is lately expressed a lot - good - ), also from the time point of view (which seems to not be discussed enough).
If too much time is spent in gambling one can lose his friends (become a stranger) or can arise questions in the family (is he cheating?).
And the comparison with the liquors is good. Gambling is still "nice to have" now and then, as long as it's done with moderation.
When you gamble and you lose control of how you gamble, your wife will not respect you for this and you will lose control of your relationship with your family, so many relationships have been broken because of gambling, and this is something every gambler should be aware of, learn from the others bad experience and not from your own.
if we hide something from wife will ultimately have a negative impact on a relationship, especially about finances which I think is very sensitive. I'm sure most wives will forbid their husbands to gamble because they don't want to take big risks that can lead to addiction and even end up divorcing.
Taking your partner in confidence is the best thing in such cases. If you play gambling without telling anyone, then it will be a shock for the family when they see you lose big amount or surprise if you manage to win big amount. Also Husband should not be addicted in gambling and give proper time and finance to the wife and kids.
if we hide something from wife will ultimately have a negative impact on a relationship, especially about finances which I think is very sensitive. I'm sure most wives will forbid their husbands to gamble because they don't want to take big risks that can lead to addiction and even end up divorcing.
Your analogy sounded incomplete because you assume that its only the husband that can be gambling. Although, this is largely true as gambling has been associated to that gender but we have seen series of cases where the woman has been the menace of the home as a result of gambling and even some times the woman might be responsible for falling cheap of scams in the name of gambling or not taking a calculated risk thereby losing much money at once than all of the time the husband has engaged in gambling combined. Uncontrolled gambling is not good for anybody and that should be the message.
For as long as everything is done moderately and no other responsibilities and expenses are affected by the gambling hobby of either or both spouses, I don't see any problem at all. Problems arise when gambling is consuming more money that other expenses are affected, or consuming more time that family is neglected. Other than that, gambling is tolerable.
What if both the husband and wife are involved in gambling ? In that case no one can blame each other as both are playing the same games. In case any one of them in involved in gambling, he should get permission from his/her partner so that both know the risk involved in gambling. Also wife can help husband in making decisions in gambling games.
Its very hard to have this situation because high chances both would be broke in the end or they do simply lost money in longer runs which those
money should be spent out for their childs future but instead they do make it as a habit.Your partner should really know on what are the things you are
into so that you can support each other when problem do arise.
In my view?this is not the cause of gambling because this is about the persons attitude why he got hooked from gambling.
But what you have said are all true because the problem arise when a man/woman starts to get hard in gambling and the issues will come always and sometimes end up breaking apart ,mostly the wife leaves the husband for this reason.
But what you have said are all true because the problem arise when a man/woman starts to get hard in gambling and the issues will come always and sometimes end up breaking apart ,mostly the wife leaves the husband for this reason.
For as long as everything is done moderately and no other responsibilities and expenses are affected by the gambling hobby of either or both spouses, I don't see any problem at all. Problems arise when gambling is consuming more money that other expenses are affected, or consuming more time that family is neglected. Other than that, gambling is tolerable.
What if both the husband and wife are involved in gambling ? In that case no one can blame each other as both are playing the same games. In case any one of them in involved in gambling, he should get permission from his/her partner so that both know the risk involved in gambling. Also wife can help husband in making decisions in gambling games.
Not really I think if we as husbands can manage money, where is money for wife, where is money for household needs and where is money for us * husbands
those who have problems with their wives I think they can not control and continue to waste their money unknowingly because they have lost while gambling.
I only play with the leftover money if I lose I will not return the same day
those who have problems with their wives I think they can not control and continue to waste their money unknowingly because they have lost while gambling.
I only play with the leftover money if I lose I will not return the same day
For number 2 I guess it isn't for the husband but more often it's for the wife but that could be the case if the wife is the one that into gambling addiction. Well, if gambling for an instance is the one that supports the family this kind of situation may never happen, as you said if it just gambles moderately and not intend to lose the money for saving and day to day expenses no problem will arise.
Effects would be severe if you do already compromise the money which are intended for expenses and savings.Its normal for our wife to ask out on where's your salary and what are the thing you've been spending.They would find it out no matter how hard you do hide your gambling activity.
If you do let yourself being controlled by addiction then you would really come to this point where big problem arise between you and your wife/family.
The risk is that you might even lose them if you cant able to feed or raise them properly or buying out their needs.
It isnt bad to gamble but everything should be on moderation.Your wife wont really be that angry even you do gamble as long you do know your responsibilities as a father and a husband.
If you do let yourself being controlled by addiction then you would really come to this point where big problem arise between you and your wife/family.
The risk is that you might even lose them if you cant able to feed or raise them properly or buying out their needs.
It isnt bad to gamble but everything should be on moderation.Your wife wont really be that angry even you do gamble as long you do know your responsibilities as a father and a husband.
For as long as everything is done moderately and no other responsibilities and expenses are affected by the gambling hobby of either or both spouses, I don't see any problem at all. Problems arise when gambling is consuming more money that other expenses are affected, or consuming more time that family is neglected. Other than that, gambling is tolerable.
Have you ever think what is the result of gambling for husband and wife?
images from google istaka
I think the following are some of effect in a releationship
1. Wife always ask where the money goes.
- this is a normal question , but once the husband got hook in gambling we heard this very often
2. Husband always checking where he is going.
- i know what you are thinking this is a question from wife if her man is cheating, but when her husband always give money she knows the salary, and found out he's in to gambling count this in
3. They always get into discussion
- this is one of the most common things we always hear from husband and wife , and its regarding money
images are from google
I think this is the top things when someone into gambling wife always had something to say and ask
as a friend my recommendation is that like in a liquor advertisement drink moderately in gambling
always have in control be happy but don't waste money.
what do you say
images from google istaka
I think the following are some of effect in a releationship
1. Wife always ask where the money goes.
- this is a normal question , but once the husband got hook in gambling we heard this very often
2. Husband always checking where he is going.
- i know what you are thinking this is a question from wife if her man is cheating, but when her husband always give money she knows the salary, and found out he's in to gambling count this in
3. They always get into discussion
- this is one of the most common things we always hear from husband and wife , and its regarding money
images are from google
I think this is the top things when someone into gambling wife always had something to say and ask
as a friend my recommendation is that like in a liquor advertisement drink moderately in gambling
always have in control be happy but don't waste money.
what do you say
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