Topic: Have you decided what you want to be? (Read 323 times)

the time or context in which the person lives most of the time ends up dictating the person's choice and what the person should do Is accept that choice and move on, for example in your case, you need to accept that you are on this path and with that do the best and become happy, life tends to play many tricks on us, today you may even hate it or not feel good about this choice, but tomorrow you will be in some company where they are happy in the same profession you studied and you will not remember that you once had doubts about that choice

Before one decides what he or she would love to be, let take career for example. You need to see that particular career in you , when you are see it in you, you will be convinced that's really want in life and you want force yourself on it , you flow with. Their is this energy you will have you to work towards it and to make good decisions.

Decision-making skills can be hard for anyone to exercise when you are dependent on your parents and dependent on the wealth of your parents.
When we were kids we were asked by our teachers what we wanted to be when we grow up, I answered I wanted to become a doctor. I still wanted to when I was in high school but at that time my parents already broke up.  My mind can't adjust to the given situation and am just undecided on what to do. Learning to clear your mind and forsee what you wanted to be can be difficult when there is no light inside the tunnel.

I end up working for someone. Glad that I survived. This is why I trained my kids to decide even just in buying in a fast-food restaurant. I let him pick his choice of food and ask why he picked it.

Exactly,I notice that most atimes we don't spend times to look at and think about what we really want to be,we spend times on some other things that won't necessarily help our life in anyway.

Taking a critical look,visualising,imagining,and forshaowing how your future will look like,and spending more time to shapen and investing in your future is the most ideal thing for a man.

Most of the people tends to be confused at those times at such young age. Some fall from that category and some don't since they already decided what they want to be. In your case, it is not too late for you to bloom the way you want it to be. Find an inspiration. Why don't you find something that you love to do or something that'll interests you, there are lots of things that you are about to discover.

Explore you're capabilities and learn more about yourself and maybe you'll discover something more of it. Take a break and think about it, take a list what you want to do. Try leading a new path and do new things maybe you'll find interest in them. If ever you've failed, try again don't give up keep on moving on and from then on maybe you'll find what's for you.

Finding a reason can also help you. like for example, Why you choose this field?, do you enjoy doing it?, does it satisfy your standards and needs?, does it make you happy ?. The most important thing is that you enjoy what you're doing. Just take it slow.

In life, deciding what you want can be the biggest challenge. There are so many ways to enjoy life the simple decisions you make can lead to vastly different lifestyles and outcomes. What one person may hate might be another person’s dream. Spend some time thinking about what you want and out your energy towards it.

Yeah I got that :-)-----*my only answer looks glib


There are aptitude tests people can take to help figure out what type of career would best suit them but in all seriousness...
Too many people will have an opinion on what you should do or should want to be.

I have found that I've been good at many jobs that I didn't like doing and didn't make enough to earn a ("good enough") living doing some of my favorite jobs.

I thought I wanted to be a Social Worker or counselor at 18----actually not good choices for me. I wish I had known you could make money in the field of Social Psychology.

First responders come upon some serious situations---lots of mental toughness.
The reality is that you may have to just work to make a living while you figure it out.

P.S.
Congratulations on your degree!

Make the world a better place.

Actually, no. Who I want to changes every time I re-evaluate my life at every point in time but what I want to be has never change- Which is to be HAPPY  . I do believe most people all over the have yet to figure this out as well. It changes with the different curveballs life throws at you. 

Many factors actually. such as passion and hobby. or because of the level of education in a certain major. because of the fact that there are now job opportunities are seen from a graduate that hinders someone's dreams if it doesn't match the major they take, just like me took economics education but my current job is more on web developing, which is very different from my college major. i want be lawyer but take economic major and ended up in web developer job . all different. life doesn't always run smoothly.

I don't know bud, but base on experience about 3 years ago, I found nothing when I look for answers deep inside myself. I actually isolate myself like for weeks to see what I can dig about what I want, but nothing goes, and it's just what I think I need, and what course would earn higher pay.
You may say that I didn't look deep enough, but at that age, that's the deepest I can think off.

Yes, it's high time I do that, the past haven't been what we totally envisaged from childhood,dreams have been breached,from Family matters,peer group,and our personal lifestyle.
Despite all of this, been optimistic, open minded, focusing on the bigger picture,than the recent trials, I'll keep exploring,make waves, by focusing on our dreams and gradually with consistency and working smart, one will finally attain what i initially had in mind.

Haha, good one. However, the matter I'm describing is quite serious, and the same feeling/situation is affecting an immense amount of youngsters/students, who haven't been shown the way to find what they like. Honestly, if I could turn back in time, I would look deep in myself to find the answers. Now, I'm pretty much clueless on how to proceed.

"Have you decided what you want to be?"

A decent, content person; harder than I thought

At a young age, we can have something that we want to achieve but unfortunately, not all we want can be reached as many things will change when we grow up. At one point, I forget what year, I decided to just flow where my life wants to guide me and only enjoy every moment that I passing by. I think at that time, sometimes I feel jealous to see many of my friends can live happily but then I realize that I only look from the outside and not trying to know more about them.

Well, until I get into the crypto world, slowly it change. My life changed but not drastically, but I feel the change. And now, I still passing every day of my life with trying to do a good thing for me and my family and other people around me.

I agree, just follow the path that will make you happy and satisfied. When I was a kid im looking up to my teacher and want to become like her, an educator, and that inspires me. But as time passes and im getting older, that changed what I really want to be. I became a businesswoman because thats my passion and I love what I do.

In choosing the career you want to take always consider what makes you happy and you're fond to do with regardless what job it is.

When I finished my high school and so soon I had to say what to study. I studied to be an Accounting technician because my parents could only pay me for that degree and they advised me to study because that would be the inheritance that my parents could give me, education.
Today I thank you very much with all my heart because it is the most valuable thing I have and it is a good tool for me and for my relatives because I share it with them.

I could advise you to study your career by vocation, which is what you enjoy the most and if it is in terms of health, it must definitely be by vocation.

That's likely the crucial age that will determine your future and mid-adult career. I've got college friends that shifted from medical to another because it is not what they want and they're still looking for what they like. With my decision, I chose to be a free with taking decisions and before doing some tough ones like shifting, I'll keep trying to like what I've started until I don't like it anymore then I'll leave. But somehow it worked for me of trying to liked it before shifting.

most schools actually do a test which reveals what your interests are and what type of learner/worker you are to come to an idea of a career that will suit you, even if this idea is a pivot away from dreams

people learn differently some learn by reading. some by hearing. some by visualising
how they work. some do great at 'book work' writing essays. some are more creative and do better with physical tasks.

EG a highly intelligent book work person that enjoys science. becomes a researcher. diagnostician
EG a highly intelligent physical work person that enjoys science. becomes a doctor. lab technician

EG an average intelligent book work person that enjoys science. becomes a teacher. chemical rep
EG an average intelligent physical work person that enjoys science. becomes a paramedic. firework manufacturer

yes people can have a dream. but knowing your limits and your style and preference of learning/work can affect your chances and ability to achieve the dream. so having a bit of insight at school of they way you are and how you learn and work and your intellect level can and does help base choices that atleast come close to the dream even if you cant fully accomplish your dream due to your limitations

so ask yourself
are you a thinker(problem solver, learner) or a worker
do you like attention ans speaking or do you like to keep head down and just get on with work
do you like the rush/pressure to motivate you. or do you prefer the easy tasks

ask yourself questions about who you are and what makes you thrive/excel/happy. and then think of roles that match

What kind of course are you following, if you don't mind me asking? I'm thinking of choosing a few online courses from Edx.org, they have some interesting ones.

I'm not sure what I would do, provided that this was ever possible. I'm pretty certain that I wouldn't have chosen this sector or if I had, I'd spent more time thinking through it. Likewise, I wish I had sat my ass down and figured it out sooner. Now, I'm pretty clueless of what I'm going to do in the future.

If I could choose everything in life again, I would go straight to university with 18. Instead of working some time it is better to go straight into university, get a good degree and earn more money afterwards. Also I would choose computer science as my major. The more I could learn about blockchain and crypto currencies the earlier I could start to go into crypto trading. There some trading mistakes that I did in the past which I would like to avoid and safe that money.

Times are always changing, and our knowledge changes sometimes cannot keep up with this era. What's more, we cannot decide the fate of the future. As a young person, the most important thing is to choose a major that interests him. When faced with social work choices, I have the ability to undertake them.

Many prosperous people or dignitaries planned their way out at early stages of life from the age range between fifteen to eighteen (15- 18) years, whatever someone wants to become starts with early to manifest, right now planning is first thing for development or success of a man, after been trial of three different kinds of things and one bonded well, you can decide for the thing you will go with your life. And After twenty eight years of age and someone have not make up his life decisions it will be very difficult to decide on what to do for Life.     

life is more than "what you like".

nobody said they like bitcoin and shitcoins 20 years ago LOL. anything or something can change the course of your life.

I'm doing a course I love and always loved, and to be honest, you are right, 18-19 year olds are given a choice that will really affect their whole life and they aren't mature enough to choose what's right for them, I guess the education system needs a radical change. When I was 18, thankfully I had the right guidance to choose something I love more than something which can give me much money and am really satisfied with it today along with my main aim, I have got many other smaller aims to fulfill as well

I think that of all things an individual could want or choose to aspire to become, being happy is the best option. Whether that happiness comes from your career, family, hobbies, whatever… Just choose to be happy and enjoy the ride while you still have time on this spinning rock. You never know when you’ll hit that black screen on this game.

Have you decided what you want to be...


... if you grow up?

I fall into your category, the cause I studied in the university was just out of infatuation I got for it in secondary school days. I so dislike it to the extend that I have not use the certificate to achieve anything tending to that career. The best thing is to start studying your new passion career immediately and it should be driven by your dreams and visions.

Sometimes because of the opportunity factor, so that it makes us forget about what kind of life we want? Why do we do the work we are currently doing? There are billions of people walking on this earth aimlessly. Many of us seem so engrossed in our respective worlds, from working in a bank to freelance art, Everything seems fine, seems happy.
But when asked "What do you really want in life?" Most answered "Don't know!"
Even adults in their 40s and 50s, most of them don't know what they want to do for themselves. So for those of you who are 18 years old it is very reasonable. so it's better for now you start to learn from the experience of others, experiment with experience, and find out what you don't like

  Me my time it's not just like the other when the reach at 18 years of age they can decide what ever they like in their life, hang out with their friends, having own house, and have a their own decision in life. Unlike me my mother always in my side she always be like my decision and she think Im hes kids, sometimes when I was in that age I think Im dependent.

I certainly wasn't in the right mind to choose what I'd want myself doing for what's supposed to be the rest of my life. A lot of factors played an important role back them, psychological mostly, but also that I hadn't explored myself enough to know what my interests are. I do know better now, but I still haven't decided yet, nor do I know where to look for such an answer.

Most people like you at the 18 years are not serious in life and they just focus on what comes at their life. At this age, most people study at university or college and that too is determined by their parents. Usually people are not focused in this age and usually they waste the time in outings and entertainment.

Everyone has the right to dream and to fulfill this dream we have to set goals and move forward believe that your efforts are important. Those who have a growth mindset believe that effort and hard work can lead to meaningful growth learn something new When faced with a challenge, they look for ways to develop the knowledge and skills they need to acquire and conquer see failure as a learning experience. Growth minded people do not believe that failure is a reflection of efficiency instead they see it as a valuable source of experience from which they can learn and improve.

I will share how I ended up in engineering program.

When I was in High School, I love to cook any kind of dish depending on the ingredients presented, so I believed that I will be a great chef in the future.

Years later, I am really interested in science especially in things going around outside earth, so I presume that I will be taking astronomy instead of Culinary.

Senior High School, I am in love with agriculture and geology, and I despise engineering so much that I promise to myself that I won't ever pick any kind of engineering in my courses. But my relatives talks me about becoming a maritime student so I apply to the top 1 school in maritime in my country, but I'm color blind so they didn't let me, it is far so I go home but hours later, they call me that there's glasses that can correct color blindness. But I am already at home and too tired to even make my way to that school again.

After a year, a friend of mine influenced me to take Mechanical Engineering as we are looking for schools to apply to, so we apply to a known engineering school in my country in which I passed and my friend doesn't. So instead of applying to that school, we also apply to another school which offers the same program, and yet again my friend didn't passed.

And since I don't have time to pick another school, I take the Mechanical Engineering program in the school close to our home, and my friend have decided to be a maritime engineer.

In other words, I've not decided what I want to be, I let the moments flow and ended up where I am today.

I think to be successful in life,you must have a set of goal,ambition and focus on how your future will look like.You must have a foreshadow of your future from now and work towards being that person you want to be from now.
You must have a role model that you want to be like,somebody that inspires you,somebody that motivates you through his or her success story.

I have a goal,and everything I do in school today is for me to meet that target.I have a mentor in school,that tells me the path to follow,someone I trust and believe.He has taught me to believe in my ability and to have no doubt about what I can achieve in life.Believing in your dreams and working towards it will lead you to where you want to be in life.

Yes we should have a dream then only we know what path we should travel or else most of our valuable time will be wasted. And now most of the teens know what they wanted to be especially after the internet bloom because they may have clear knowledge about the path they are going to choose.

But to become an entrepreneur there is no graduation is needed which is the ultimate way to live the rich life style.

I suppose it depends on why you want to study. If you want to learn more about a field you're interested in, then it's fairly straightforward and you just pick what you like. On the other hand, if you are picking a subject in order to secure a good job after graduating, there are other factors to consider. One of which is, with ever increasing automation, which fields will have jobs in the future? Simply looking at jobs that are available right now may not help you, when things are moving so quickly. Smart contract platforms like Ethereum may end up automating whole industries. AI and ML, similarly. Which jobs are least likely to disappear in the coming decades? And often as some jobs get automated away, new jobs arise in new sectors. Will that happen this time? What might be a growth sector? What sort of effect will changes such as the current WFH revolution have?

You're approximately 18 years old, having a choice to make, which might (or might not) affect your future for years to come, choosing what and if you want to study. How do you make such a choice? How do you choose what you want to do for the rest of your life (Maybe, maybe not?).

When I was 18 years old, I never really bothered on what I've wanted to do, alongside with a pretty messed up psychology, I wasn't in the best position to choose. I chose Business Administration, which I'm graduating from in a month or two at most, without being sure I wanted that. Now that I'm graduated, I'm not exactly sure if it was the right choice and/or if it's actually appealing to me, as something I'd be willing to do as an occupation for the upcoming years.

You're merely nothing but a student finishing High School, who is basically clueless on what he/she could possibly like, because it's something that might remain unknown for many years, even after finishing university. Seeing that from myself, I've got no clue on what I could possibly do in the future, based on what I studied. Follow a master's degree? Not sure on what subject, try something else? I'm not sure about that either.

I'm pretty intrigued to become a first responder paramedic, but I still haven't made up my mind. Did you go through this process yourselves? How did you deal with it, how is someone supposed to find what he likes at 18 years old, is that educational practice even appropriate?