Topic: have you faced any difficulties in relationship? (Read 822 times)

Okay..
Happy new year everyone, I would love to start my relationship talka again.
You can reach out to me via pm or just post here maybe I can address whenever I m online.
Remember no one is an expert about love.

For me I learned that arguments is a part of any relationship because things don't always go the way we want them to be. No relationship is perfect, and problems will occur. The key lies in how you deal with these problems and also how you communicate with your partner. And the quote that I can share here to those who facing difficulties in their relationships is "Good Relationship Doesn't Mean Everything Is perfect, It Means Both People Always Make The Effort To Work Things Out".

No relationship runs smoothly all the time. All couples argue & have disagreements, it’s life. There are no fairytales, they only exist in movies & books. As long as you are faithful & honest to each other then that’s a solid base for a good relationship.

Well for me I think it is really normal to have difficulties in a relationship.  Relationships are about compromising and sometimes 2 people don't always agree on the certain things they are supposed to.
I personally have faced difficulties in my relationships but it is important for us to remember there is a possible solution for all problems.  If you really love the person you will come to a agreement on things in your relationship.

In a relationship there are important points that must be done or needed
the first is

- honesty
     without honesty a relationship will always cause anger and a sense of wonder

- mutual trust
     because this relationship is full of surprises, so we as a couple must trust each other

- loyal
     without loyalty you will not find your true love

- commitment
     with commitment you will know the purpose of your relationship.

- take care of each other when they are near and take care of each other when they are far away

I think that's the important point in a relationship (dating)

Relationships are hard work in general. You always face difficulties 

All the time, you’d be a dreamer to not realize
that relationships in the longer run is built with
trials and hardships. Life is full of difficulties, but
that doesn’t entirely mean you can’t be happy.
Everything is about struggle and success.
Adaptability is key. 

To answer the title question, Yes I had difficulty in my relationship. I dated this guy for more than 4 years but the problem with him was that he was cheating on me, I never for once cheated on him. Every relationship have it's ups and downs,so I wasn't really bothered about him cheating on me,maybe because I felt it is in a men nature to cheat.
But the difficulty was him not been honest about his feeling with me.
Relationship is all about building yourselves to understanding.

The key to harmony in a relationship for me is mutual respect and personal boundaries. All (OK, almost all) issues can be solved by conversation, if partners (or relatives) are ready for it. I build relationships as a partner with an equal partner, not trying to suppress, but respect each other. Then there will be no conflicts. And those ones that will, wouldn't destroy the relationship.

It should be but most at times lady's aren't seeing from your part but decided judging from what happened and the past. That is why we should apply those steps I listed above.

Yes and it is very normal to a relationship. Without difficulties, youre on the wrong path. It is the difficulties that makes a relationship mature and stronger. You dont just love, but rather you choose. Choose the conquer all the obstacles you encounter together, choose to live a happy life. There are no more grateful things than having a strong and mature relationship. appreciate little things and do not forget to learn on how to say sorry. EGO is not an option if youre in a relationship.

For me, a succesful relationship is not about love or how you love each other. Its not love that makes a relationship stronger. Its always about 'choice'. You choose to be with your love ones. You choose to stay even theres a problem. You choose to be happy with someone you love. You choose choose to overcome any obstacle and problems you are facing with you partner. You choose to spend the rest of your and be happy and contented. Its always about your choice, not on how you love each other.

Difficulties in relationship is part of our Engagement in our Love ones , we must realize that without Issues the relationship wont stay stronger .

Because this is a Basic rules and the best way to make it reliable is no long effect , i mean the problem must be settled sooner .

It doesn't matter who's wrong or right but who is willing to adjust for the relationship to stay stronger.

everyone has faced difficulties in relationships, I've experienced it too...
my experience: when you get married then you will definitely know the true nature of your partner, I used to ring fighting with my husband because I did not accept his bad habits. finally, we consulted a psychologist and got the realization that we should not force our will on our partner.

Apparently I have faced  some issues in my relationship, it haven't been easy. For E.g
    Lack of trust, always digging for faults, sometimes waiting for who calls first 👻😎 stuffs like that, it ain't funny though. Or sometimes who apologizes first. Or admits they're wrong. Ego and all of that kills relationships quickly. Do away with all of this to keep your relationship.

The biggest difficult in my relationship is that my girl doesn't want to live in my house. We can't decide what to do and it's hard. I inherited this house from my father and it's really near to the city like 5minutes but she doesn't want to live there, she wants to be in the center of the city. If we can't arrange our differences it will get ugly for our relationship. 
 

every SINGLE...^^ time

A relationship without quarrel is unreal.

Being married will make you experience several stages of love and relationship. There will be time that you will cold and there will be time that you feel numb.

But as long as you have learned to love the person you are with, you can conquer all hardships.

in my opinion the difficult part is conquering a girl, making her fall in love with you, then the difficulties, the quarrels are part of the couple relationship, the important thing is to meet and make peace, i am happily married

I will answer the title question without reading a long word you write

I do not face any difficulties in the relationship, even with my friends, families, and other people I do not know. I am glad that I can accept people without any trouble. If we can treat people with good, they will treat us with good too because that is the relationship's basic. If you follow that, you will not have any problem communicating with other people or building a relationship with strange people out there. Be a good person to others.

Every relationship has ups and downs but how much you love each other matters more if you want to stay together even after fight between couple. Mostly financial problems are the causes for issues between relationship apart from this is trust issue with your partner if both of them are not living together.

family is not perfect meaning we all tend to commit mistakes and wrong decisions that will bring a Difficulties but in the end of the day.

Family is what our Defensive and our Sanctuary ,Specially if we are still not married.
Marriage is also same as family because when you Have a children you will be a family so same situation,the Only difference is now we are the Head and must do the Job how to maintain a good relationship .
relationship for the Not married? well we all face same problem that we made some relationship that ended in not so Good,sometimes their mistake and some is ours,But we use those failure to Find the right one.
Me and my Best friend until now having disapprovements in some things,But always there to support each other.

This is normal because a good relationship must have struggles and difficulties to stay intact and stronger over the years.

Doesn't all relationship has their ups and downs it is normal but we should focus on solving it instead of giving up.
For all kinds of relationship the only thing you need to do in order to stay in good terms and maintain healthy relationship is be open and communicate.
Whether it is family,friendship or love relationship the key on maintaining it is to be open and communication.

True.

If there's no communication, that's the start of the confusing stage because your woman doesn't know what's the score between you if you don't have any talks together. They need affection and they want it to come from you as a partner.

And if there's really no communication anymore, they'll think that the relationship is about to end and you don't care anymore.

Now in a relationship, you can advise your partner to work and walk the way you both would be favored. If anyone is lacking of communicado I guess that is where the problems starts coming because women are much emotional so they love communication. But if this step is missing then you woman bounce to meet the one whose communicate frequently with her as you are not doing it.

Do you think of going back or probably trying to be compactible to each others?

Then if so I there are some guidelines I could render to you in helping you come back to her/him as you wish.

The only semi-serious relationship i've ever had was last year when i was a sophomore in college. we broke up because we weren't compatible for each other.

Relationships are a pretty complicated subject to talk about. I really like what you wrote.
However, for me there're just a few rules in any kind of relations:
1. Be human.
2. Be honest. Don't try to justify using someone else. If you mess up, just admit it.
3. You accept the whole person. When he/she does something wrong, it's not because he/she is bad. But he/she has a few character faults, just as everybody does.
4. You can't control another person, but you can control your attitude toward the situation. (And do not try to change anyone! Change yourself.)
5. Say, if you don't like something. Right now. To your partner, not to someone who is not related. Discuss it.
6. Compromise is not a thing. That's nothing for no one. Find a win-win option

Well, these rules are pretty simple, but sometimes we forget about them

i have this with my wife and bestfriends sometimes.

But i think it helps us discover more about each others and it helps us to make our relationship even better.

I think that is your advantage because Older people are understanding and not possessive so they can adjust on your level of thinking and decisions.

Good relationships with people around you depend on your communication skills. But most of all depend on how much you have accepted yourself. When you love yourself, you will not have any problems with the people around you!

Only mentally retarded don't experience difficulties in relationship because this is part of it.

and also this is a way on how we increase the faith and trust in our partners so this comes to happen.

if we cannot stand the problem meaning we are not meant to be together for life time.

I remember, I used to have problems with relationships, because I betrayed this too much importance. I thought it was something special, i.e. just meeting and chatting with a person and meeting a girlfriend / boyfriend is too different ways.
In fact, the less you think about it, the better.

The most important thing is what's inside of you. When you live in harmony with yourself, you will not have any problems with the outside world. It's the most important.
Therefore, if you have any problems, start with yourself, you need to achieve a state where everything is fine with you, regardless of the world around you.

okay I understand your pliant.
to me I would love you to seize from people older than you that much because most times they don't really show you love as need from you, and all they need is just to take advantage on you, sometimes what we calls love is lust.. try to know people you want for whom you are not for what they want from you.

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I always find difficulties in my relationships and I think that this stems from the fact that I have relationships with people older than me.
I attract older people and older people are attracted to me. We have similar interests but we are in different phases in our lives so this makes the struggle really hard...

yes that is true just as I have made mentioned earlier, what really matters in a friendship / marriage and rest is dependent of your characters and attitudes towards it that bring an ends to every family situations.

due to how I m organized, a lot friends around me to come me to seek advice on how they could moved on life with their partners. they as well host me on video calls.

Being a normal person can't avoid face difference difficulties we need to face , fanily, marriage, friendship or any other problem we encounter of our life. But of course all the problem are have an solution even how it difficult. One thing I dvise to the people facing difficult problem face it and keep strong stand to fix their problems.

I m not looking advice,  please make sure to read properly before posting.

Too many to write all of them here. I think every human being at some point in life had difficulties in relationship. One can handle them better, others lose hope start to drink or even worse, start to use drugs. Although, if you are looking for an advice, probably it's not the forum you should these of questions.

That is true mate, that is why we need to know the kind of women we probably get engaged with; most of them has turned to something else, like recently I was inbox on my telegram having issues of wife and husband and I gave them answers and how to with his spouse.

Well before the weeks end or as the case may be I will look further to update more information

The case or scenario you cited atimes happens intentional while some unintentional. The intentional scene are always born out of desperation or deep affect for the person; "I don't want to loser her/him, he/she is cute, understandable, caring etc"; or when she felt that she has given her best but it is not valued by the person. Though, wrong counseling can make her do such as well. Ignorant is not also left out this because when you are not informed, you are deformed.
To me, every relationship should be defined from the onset to avoid one taking advantage of one another.
I hope my response shield alittle light to your questions?

sorry I may not comprehend your write-ups but I think I got where you are driven to
now, first you have to know her aim of doing that probably she's in a good position more  than you or you were in a good position to her but all she's trying is to just sign paperwork in terms of being a family name to en-trick you and after which she will made away with your resources. by so doing you should have understand the kind of woman you lived with in your house, I bet you as a man you don't have to completely give access to a woman you just met a month or +. possible way, you can do some verbal and vocal text to  know how intention towards you. Remember this, your Children is the reason why you are working and Hustling all day so don't allow any woman to make you sign anything in her name rather than your children name.
please if I don't get your answers try make me understand your question, then I can give you another answers.

What if you have a girlfriend. You are just friends. The extent of your intimacy is simple, mild kissing, and light petting. Then one day, for no reason at all, she gets a court restraining order against you.

Often a RS, when there is simple intimacy like this, will place the two of you under the heading of family in the RS paperwork.

This doesn't make sense. Your girlfriend is, obviously, breaking the relationship. But when she signs the paperwork, she is saying that you are family.

What gives? Are you and she being tricked by the courts? Is she really trying to solidify your relationship in some strange way? Is she ignorant about what she has said in the RS? Maybe an RS isn't what everybody thinks it is.

What gives?

GREETINGS ALL, SORRY IF HERE IS NOT THE RIGHTFUL PLACE TO MAKE THIS POST BUT I HAVE SOMETHING IMPORTANT TO SHARE WITH YOU ALL

Before going further I my humble self would like to use this medium to appreciate the kings and Queens, Even the moderator and the forum Designers for their enablement for me today to be a Benevolent (achiever) from the forum. Although I have not done any much post or contributed much but that is why today I have came up with this idea of merging, restoring and bringing back our relationship together, this little write-ups will help you and me today in some common errors and mistake we make in most time in our home, relatives and even to our wives and girl friends.

These are the people I calls Igwe, Odungwu’nuoweya, Agwu and onyiwereuzor 1 of Bitcointalk.org, I know all this may sounds strange to you but is a way of praising and appreciating people for their efforts and work to what they have doing by taking proper good care of the organization

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There are four (4) things which I have to tackle here

1.   Family
2.   Marriage
3.   Relationship
4.   Lastly Friendship.

Today I will be able to handle two which is family and marriage, but before going further I have some question to ask you; this is mostly from West Africans and other Countries.

How well, good and close (tight) are you to your family members??
Well nothing to worries about, I wanna give you some guidelines. I know that almost 99.9% of you know about family and marriage as well.
To avoid some common errors and mistakes we does in our families learn to stop making uses of these words; I don’t care, Get out, get lost, fuck you, stupid and every offensive words. To me this words matters a lot because as we are born into this world we have our own reasoning and sense of thinking and to every particular sentence use to you may be right but is hurting your brother or possible your children, so as parents learn to use the right words at the right time.

If you the Elites could give me mandates I would love to use some biblical references but for now I have to be straightforward with my downloads.
As a child in the house, there is some certain time and age which they will need their privacy mostly the males will be likely being next to their father and females to be with their mother in terms of internal discussions and reasoning, although it defers because most females love their Dad likewise the Males to their mum. you know all your struggle and hustle and sleepless night belongs to your children, wife and family. try your best to make your children live a happy life because they are your tomorrow.

As a father what kind of work or job do you do, do you know that your family is the reason why you are living today??, No matter what kinds of job you are doing your family should be your priority and your attention demands when needed from your family, don’t deprived them from seeing you. Most time this will result from your wife cheating on you and as men remember women are easily moved with what they hear, see and feels so as man you need to guide and protect your family at all time.

As wife what are your duty at home?? Do you think you will leave your baby for your husband or do you wanna abandoned all activities for your husband simply because your man had no job or good opportunity to work in a good company as you do?? Hey you woman calm down your husband is the head of the family as tradition demands and implies despite your citizenship and laws governing your countries doesn’t mean you should override your husband or look down on him due to his poor financial income flow, what have you been taught at home to assault and insult your husband at home?? Capital NO. I know most of you have a mission an ambitions and you weren’t trained that way yes it’s true you weren’t but try to understand the common relationship between your work and your home (husbands house).

Sorry to use this words “most of the African women don’t know how to cook and treat their husband, all they know is just to seat at home drink tea or coffee and make Gist of their neighbors and mother / father in-laws”. This is common in Nigeria and any other West African countries. I know many of you don’t know how to do any domestic chores but as a woman you need to learn all this after which you can look for Nanny who will possibly take care of all this and your children as well too. I remembered once in my country a musician made mentioned that women educations end in kitchen to me is typically lie because I have seen most countries were women are the president of the country.

Do you think your husband is a drug addict, rubber, kidnapper and gang star?? No worries just calm down take a little of moment of your time talk to your husband give him reasons why and how he should stop and don’t harass him or trying to use force to stop him because he will not stop or change, but at all as a woman you must be prayerful most our men today aren’t really strong in church and in worshipping god, this is common to my regions.

As woman you think your husband don’t know how to dress and put on Good clothes no worries go to the market pick some of the good clothes you wishes your husband to wear and puts on,  your husband is not romantic, I tell you my sister buy some funny videos play it whenever he comes around, buy some ice-cream and enjoy together give him your best style on bed (Sex) I bet you your husband will change and look you at all time, he will never think of sleeping outside without your concept.  Always make sure you prepare your husband best delicacies.

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Hello my people, how did you go with the write-ups and I hope it helps you a lot and I have to believe most of you have put most things in practice, problem most of you are now living comfortably with your family and loved ones. As I made mentioned earlier that I will be updating the thread as soon as possible, today I have came with the new phase of my updates.. Wish you good luck as you continue to read my continuations.

Basically I m gonna treat about Friendships.
Remember it’s obviously said “show me your friend and I will tell you whom you are”. A friend is someone whose has 80 to 97 % possessing of your characters or attitudes, which are a person whom you will calls friends.

Now let me brief you, I vividly recalls that during our secondary school days it’s said that are class mate are all Age Grade and Friends perhaps one of you may not be doing well in the group or in the class, you will find him/her being isolated due to lack of understanding and not willing to learn fast like others and you may see such person as a dull student and most times you don’t allow such persons to be in your midst because he or she was not flowing like you guys, do you think you call such person your friend? The answer is typically No; that is while I said a friend is someone who posses 80 to 97% of your characters meaning everything you does the person should be able to be doing such as well. Mostly your daily activities like playing together, reading the same books and doing things common.

Now for those at working, you think your colleague at place of work is your friend? The answer is simply No because he does not have the same possessing  quality with you and he do not like things you do and probably your position at place is higher than he’s own he would not like your activeness and presence yet you called such persons a friend?.

This is how to know good friends.
A good friend should be able to solve some problems with you, meaning giving a solution in terms of idea to create something different.
A good friend should be able to give you a call before making some trips.
A good friend should share things common with you at all time
A good friend should be happy whenever something good is coming to towards you.
A good friend should show and demonstrate his love to you likewise you to him too
A good friend should be able to share his secrete with you and sources of wellbeing.
A good friends always put you first in all things he/ she is doing at all time
There are many more but I can only be able to list those only. Then how do you know bad friends, those who doesn’t want your progress in life or possibly don’t like your progress in life.

I know to every point in life man has an enemy that will never work in the same way with them, that's why in this life we ought to be very careful in all our ways and in thing we do. Just as our faces are that is how our characters and mindset is.

This is directly to those working in a big firm, please be very careful in someone you calls your friends, this is how they does they don’t like your opinion, any time you raise an issues they counter it at all time

Any time you solve a problem they get angry
Any time you get promoted they get bitted, possibly they won’t celebrate with you due to the position you were given are not pleasant to it.
They always want all things for their selves
They don’t calls to know your ways about probably how you are doing with your new position at place of work
They don’t share secrete with you or even share some ideas with you
They don’t seek your idea and they easily get upset with you at all time.
Such friends always look for what could possible sack you from work so that they will retain your position at work place.
Funniest thing, such people hardly go to lunch with you and they don’t care if you do or not.
They don’t show signs of appreciations in everything you do or do for them; they always want more from you.
Such people calls you in term needy or time of expenses, whenever you all go for outing. 

Lastly, how to make your friendship last long
Do not use any offensive words such as; get lost, to hell, I don’t care whatever you feels about it, you don’t add any value to my life.


thank you for reading, please wait for more update as it's coming soon!!!