Topic: How to move on If you still love him/her? Do you experience it? (Read 1180 times)

How to move on? Hang out with your friends like when you used to when you were single. Get back into your hobbies that you used to do when you were single, man up or woman up and do it even if sometimes it reminds you of your ex. Basically when moving on, you don't go to a rebound but actually work on rebuilding and bettering yourself

when I've broken up with my ex
I was as much as possible to avoid communicating with him and to find out so I could forget him slowly

Yes ! I'm always experiencing it but i can move on faster than anyone can. Because i don't want to be sad and feel embarassed in lovelife.

Nothing can keep you from a happier future than a lingering relationship wound. We’ve all been there: Experiencing good love gone bad is painful. It doesn’t really matter what the circumstances were, or who was right and who was wrong. The bottom line is that it hurts and that the pain is preventing you from moving forward.

It takes time..really, you can't rush it.......but....keep company with good friends and go out as much as possible...
In daytime...work as hard you can....it distract you from thingking it over.......believe me ......

look for activities that can make you forget it, and often hang out with your friends, with the support of friends maybe you can move on

How to move on? first you have to accept the fact that it is over. once you have accepted everything everything else will follow. Letting go of the person you love was not easy but we must also think that we cannot hold on into something for our own sake only we need to consider the feeling of you partner.

Thanks to all the advice that you post here. This is not only for me but also for those people who experience this kind of bad feelings. Learn from your experience as my friend says... God Bless

Very interesting to find that sort of advice here on BT
I find it also very interesting to see that not so many people felt this could also be an advice for them.

But what if his/her ex contact first. hahaha... Its gonna be disaster on the "move-on" process. . . so hard

Seems like lots of good advice here. Best advice I can give is no contact anymore.

always the beginning is the hardest part.
Don't spend too much time or energy mourning what has happened. Don't over-react to your loss and take any sudden actions without time for careful contemplation. Don't spend a lot of time alone. Don't complain about what has happened, and don't listen to your friends' complaints.

So what will help you move on and let go? Try these tips...

Keep busy with enjoyable activities.  Have positive conversations with your friends and family. Be of service to those who are less fortunate than yourself. Get inspirational support daily... read an inspirational book or quotations, meditate, do yoga or Qigong, perhaps light a candle and contemplate positive thoughts, or begin the habit of daily journal. life can be joyful and rewarding again.

Time is the only thing that can cure that kind of pain. Other than that, just try and keep yourself as busy as possible. Don't give your imagination time to do it's work on you.

hello my friend i think we have all experience that you just have to move on fetch real love it exist dont worry.

I also experienced the pain because of love in many times and yes it's really hurts, it's hard to move on but you must understand, accept the fact that he's not really for you. Prove him that you can be happy even when he's gone. Go with your friends and try not to think about her/him.

You have just to wait that time passes and that you become someone else who doesn't love Her/him any more.
(I've put Him before Her because usually I've noticed that the men's love has a longer inertia and it's more difficult to delete it)

That was the most difficult experience in my life. I didn't know what to do to move on.

I guess that time and staying close to your people helps.

I think sometimes in life you can't really move on, but you just have to approach each day as it comes, for often you will have been so in love with someone at a time that everything seemed right, but things change and time moves on. I would love to go back in time to a period with an ex but that was many years ago now and I'm sure we both have changed a lot since.

Hello,

Sometimes i remember those moments when i sit on computer and my wife comes sit on my lap and hugging me "I am your "bunny girl"? Do you love me?"
Ten years is long time, she have his own life and i got my own.

I never experienced it, but if I experience it, I will seduce, and love him a surprise until it gets his heart.
 

And now, what happen? Do it help to you right now?

when I've broken up with my ex
I was as much as possible to avoid communicating with him and to find out so I could forget him slowly

Yes I already experienced about it. If i still love him/her but she didnt love me already it is time that i need to move on already and do what ever makes me happy , i will spend my time with my friends and also with my family. Then i will work hard not for myself just to show him/her that he/she wasted me for nothing thats the time that he/she will realize how much painful he/she did to me.

How to move on if you still love him or her? two things first love your self, secondly just let it go, really it's hard to do it but if you love somebody, and she or he ask a freedom in relationship you must give what she or he wants, there is a saying in the Bible, love conquers all. so love is not selfish it's not focus in only one but for all. even you love that particular person if that person ask you for freedom give it, there is  always a person who is willing to accept you and respect you to love you. and of course on the second time you have a relationship do all the things that you need to do, so that the person will love and respect you more. and learn something from your past relationship. so that, on the second relationship, you will not do the same mistakes.

Be realistic men. Stand up and move on.



“When you lose someone, you get used to living day to day without them. But you’ll never get used to the “10 second heartbreak.” That’s the time it takes to wake to full consciousness each day and remember…”

Thanks for giving time to answer my question.

Yes go and take it by force or find another and forget yourself with time. And so sit and think to drive to anything good will not.

Just let it be. If he or she is not the one for you let her/him go, i believed that time can heal all the wounds. Just the let the time pass.

look for activities that can make you forget it, and often hang out with your friends, with the support of friends maybe you can move on

Yaay
First of all,preoccupy your mind with other things you love doing .I know is not easy because have been there, I stucked him online every mins but the truth remains that despite the pain life must go on. You can go out and see a movie or hang out with other friends.
Again-time surely will heal it up. As you preoccupy your mind with other stuffs in no time it will be a forgotten issue

 Reality is so hard to me. But thanks to all comment on this thread. It help me a lot.


Just move on forward!


God Bless

Haha, I think that is hard to do. Like other said, in just a twink of you eyes the picture is him/her. hahaha Just curse her/him. That's it. hahaha .. Its up to you!

Secret to move on : Accept the reality!

First, remove him/her in your phone everything, conversations, pictures. Hang out and have fun to forget. just dont go too drunk

Know your self worth and understand that you can find other people just like the person you ended things with.
The first poster was right, just occupy yourself with other things
Now im trading and looking at bitcoin all day and its pretty much given me no time to think about depressing thoughts.

One thing I truly learn on that situation is by giving your self a big break. Break of all the lies that you feel. Break the rules of being used. Break the bad feeling when you remember the good moments of both of you from the pass. Break thinking all the time and effort you put to that relationship. It't not the end of the world. You can Break a little and Stand up.


When I'm on that part. I watch a lot of love story movie and feel that I'm inlove again. haha crazy feeling! But I smile again!

Just time man, nothing more sadly. I threw myself into my work and over time it got better and i was productive during the bad times.

If they are a bad person that helps, you can always tell yourself you deserve more.

Also going out to meet other people and learn new ways of thinking helps.

Moving on is really hard but if you really want to moved on you need to accept first everything that was gone included the fact that he/she didn't love you anymore. Second is to forgive him/her on making your heart broke into pieces and forget about it. Lastly, focus and do the things that you love and also make new friends until the time will heal everything so you can love again.

bible is a good book but if no one guide u is a little hard to understand. specially on old testament. but the bible is full of wisdom from within

you can move on by making your day to make busy. join activities that can give you spiritual strength so that you have a good feeling and prevent you to depression instead you will become happy and relax. and avoid the place that will bring you the past. read bible and pray.

First meet new people, new friend.. hangout with your friend to make yourself happy and forget all the pass with him/her and keep all the things remind to him/her let the  time will you going strong again

Bitterness overload ! haha but its the reality.

first I will look for busy then I will rarely contact him or see his photo and the last is trying to hate him

move on, easy to say but hard to do. but they say everything is okay. just need to do is to take the truth, secondly forget to forget the past by doing something that you can enjoy and the third in prayer. the day will come when you will know the future. You do not know, you're completly moved on.

I'm scared to make a wrong move again.

I hate the number 8 , It kills me a lot. Time is my enemy right now. It hard to accept that time will go pass by without her. Time can hurt me deeper and deeper. Love again does not fit on my time right now, but I try it all. Thanks for it

I think that in such a situation it is necessary to work a lot and spend all of your free time in various matters so that there is not time to think about this trouble. Soon this will go away you just need not get hung up.

In fact, I've always had to move on though I still love him and I still want to go back to the case because it's okay to have someone else and that's one of the tremendous things I've done in my life. My only advice is to do things that are the opposite of what you do when you're with your girlfriend or you can do the things you do when your girlfriend is gone.

Here are my simple steps:

1. Acceptance
2. Closure
3. Make peace with the past
4. Forgive and forget
5. Love yourself, focus on getting better
6. Focus and do things you love
7. Meet new people / make new friends
8. Time will heal everything
9. Love again

I experienced this also 2 times in my life.
What helped me the most was to force myself to start another relationship with another women. Why? Because life goes on.

so true! I experienced it twice and I learn a lot. There's always a better person on the side of the corner. Just keep moving on and everything will be fine.

Try to divert your attention to something else. Just keep yourself busy so that you won't be able to think of him/her.

remember than as time passes new exciting opportunities will be waiting if you are willing to take them=)

First off, not a problem at all I want to help you get better! Ah well if you are tired of alone then perhaps get some more good company in your life? If there is one thing I have learned in my short time on this earth it is

that almost nothing beats good company. This is coming from a place where I have had a lot of bad company in life and now when I get somebody cool, fun, and good to me I know they are worth keeping around. You can

find good company in friends, lovers, or family. Honestly, if life were that easy as skipping the bad times none of us would feel pain. And if we dont feel pain we cant learn and grow from those experiences. It really sucks

we have to go through this but this is what helps build character in us. You say maybe someday you will be okay. You will, you just cant see the light at the end of the tunnel yet. Keep your chin-up, have good company,

and in no time you will be all okay!

I felt so tired of being alone right now. Even here in office, I wish I could take a break for a year  to get move on in this fucking situation. Maybe someday I will be okay. I used to sleep so much and keep watching a horror movie, hope it help. I don't know what to do. Thanks for the comment. Appreciate much!

I can try for sure. First off yes I have experienced and it has been twice for me now. Some of this may sound cliche but do give it a good think if you are serious but the two best pieces of advice I can give you are this.

1) Occupy yourself as much as possible. Sounds simple enough but when we get sad and down that our loved one not around we go into a shell and retract and our existent can be quite grim. Change that by being active,

working out, seeing friends, meeting new women, getting a lot of activity in any shape or form in your life. Activity and staying busy is key number one.

2) This one will sound most cliche but bear with me and it is give it time. Time is the one thing that will make all the pain go away no matter how hard the pain seems. I was almost suicidal at one point in my life and it was

due to losing an SO. Life is not worth losing no matter how important the other person seems, you may not see it at the time now but everything works a certain way for a reason.

I now today can confidently say that I wish I had spent more time doing activities and keeping busy and at the same time I no longer think of any of the SOs I used to be with. They are in the past, and now we move forward

to a brighter future. I hope you can get some help off this advice, I remembered being told some of it but I did not believe it at the time. I wish I had believed it because it would have made my path so much easier!

Still on process and its so hard dude. Can you advice me?