As a Christian myself I agree with her and had a similar journey for sure. I probably still catch myself wanting to be "right" sometimes and I actually feel convicted for that. It is really hard when I feel so strongly about my beliefs to want to defend them though, and I really love a good debate. But debating for the sake of just debating is not necessarily beneficial and the best thing to do is just be a "friend" and love others just like they are. I agree, it is NOT my job to change others. I guess the only thing I still struggle with how to share what I believe without being offensive, because I really do want them to know how much Jesus loves them, and not seem so pushy at the same time? It is harder than it sounds. I guess some would say to just shut-up and not say anything at all but that would be like keeping this amazing treasure I found all to myself and not sharing it either and we are told to "go and spread the good news." But I guess there is a way to do that without being a "jerk" for sure!
Yes; I believe the best method to Christianity is Christ's method; for example, Christ did not necessarily proselytize Judaism, though he was Jewish. Christ did not want to push any religion specifically on people; his method was to simply show, through his actions, why his methods were beneficial and more preferable to the alternatives, which were essentially immorality and hypocrisy. I do find that debating can help, for it helps us to understand our own beliefs, but the point of a debate is never to be right or wrong, or to be the winner, but for each to leave the debate with a better understanding of themselves and the other; a debate should always be thought of as a win-win situation, which is why I tend to avoid certain people who get into arguments only to put the other person down as "wrong", which does happen and I'm sure you know what it feels to be against those types.
So long as you practice Christ's methods, you will naturally accrue a following to his teachings; merely speaking of him and his ways is not enough for most people, and it's something I very much disagree with in the evangelists, who can often be overbearing or sometimes holier-than-thou in their methodology, as though Christianity is the only option with all other religions as wrong; I don't believe this to be true, for we cannot know which religion is true or if any are the best ways to live, all we can do is practice and see, for ourselves, if the practice is good or not. This is enormously important for all those religious; it matters not how much a person follows a religion if they do not practice what they preach, and this seems to be the majority, or in the very least the ones who stick out most within the major religions, which has caused negative views and the infamous saying, "I love God; It's His fan club I can't stand" among many followers
As Gandhi may or may not have said, "Be the change you want to see in the world."