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You're with what you said because anyone that is addicted to something will see people that advice him to stop as an enemy. But there always a way in doing things because for every problem there's always a solution. However, take out ones losses on other is another situation which a gambler must desist from and accept that he's responsible for his losses due to his lack of understanding the game rules and not following the basic terms of making perfect gambling.

I can break either mine or someone's head off while having a long losing streak because it's about losing temper and when anyone loses it, chances are he could either harm himself or others because he is so much into gambling he can't stop himself while trying to get back what he lost and if someone comes ahead asking him not to gamble, he starts thinking them as his enemies trying to stop him from getting his money back. But trust me, there's no way back once lost, so trying hard will only make us lose more in the long term.

If you are afraid that you will not be able to handle a situation where you will be addicted then you should make everything possible of not making you addicted to gambling. What I do, is to try to be calm and keep my self-control high. There is no other to blame if i lose but only myself who made the decision that led to it.

It's really subjective varies from individual to individual. As long as it does not get addicted and harming the player then it should be fine. If people were really gambling for money then gambling industry would not make any money at all. The bookies would need to shut down their business.

Go on  long fishing trip to somewhere remote or possibly take a job which removes you from the repeated mistake you are trying to overcome.   Same as for many other things, alter your surrounding behaviour to the apparent addiction.
Theres always the job on the long haul transport ship that pays off but takes you away for months, gives you time to think things over and also earn money and reverse the damage

Addicting to gambling is not a good thing and therefore I don't like to be addicted to it.  I see to play gambling as fun and I don't attached any much feelings to it because some time people so much addict to it that it always become problems to them.

This is the real sad part when people look back at their life especially for the addictions they would like to come out as they would have lost huge money, relations, world have effect their health etc. In order to avoid this you will need to start developing interest in something else.

Lot of people are losing from gambling but yet they do not want to quit because they love gambling and they do not want to quit at any cost. Also I do not think that Fun is the main reason of gambling. People play gambling because they want to get quick money.

I will figure out how to solve my addiction and if having a serious discussion with my wife or other family members is necessary to find a way to quit gambling, then I will do that because I don't want to sacrifice my family life for playing gambling. I will do whatever it takes to solve my addiction, and if it's difficult, I will ask my family to take attention to myself, so I can continue to leave my addiction.

There are not many possibilities when you get addicted, you either continue addiction which inevitably will make you life miserable or you ask to get help from your friends to bring you to professional centers of rehabilitation.

I do not think OP is making any money or even trying to make any money. OP is addicted to the gambling fun (My justification could be wrong though) and I am sure there are a lot of people like OP who does the same.

This is the reason people have to get it right at the first place only as when you gamble you should do it for fun this will solve the problems as you will not run after money. But moment you want to make money from it all the problems start from their itself.

Everyone has their own choices. We live with the consequences of our choices.

If I was OP then I would definitely speak with my partner however there are a lot of people like OP who will do that he is doing. When time will come may be they will resolve it with their partner. After all they are their partner. A silly habit like gambling is not gonna break up their relationships.

Good luck to OP.

Cheers :-)

Good for them though, but up to what point they're not gonna tell? Sooner they will be on lots of problem, financially, emotionally. Remember that if also involves a lot, just not the money you have lost. Yes they can manage but I believe that it will put a emotional toll on them, just saying and it might be too late as it will causes more complications, I reckon.

Man gotta do that he needs to do. Everyone of us has secrets which we hide from our partners. Who cares it's good or bad until it harms the relationship. I wish cab (short for cabalism13, I hope you don't mind) and other guys good luck.

Cheers :-)

well known online casino but can't blame casino for that.i lost because of over greedness,bad strategies and no control on my emotions.Though i can tell you in pm if you want to know more . 

Lol where did you loose the fund mate. There are people gamblers experience this same many time. Even i had such experience on directbet few years back.
I left the gambling after these things happen.
When I need to do bet for any league matches that time also I goes some gambling sites buddy.

That is not a single case here, I personally know a lot of people even my good friend as facing such situation, they never told their wives about gambling addiction, but they can manage the situation well, in fact they never play gambling out of their budget and that is the reason that they can manage both their gambling activities and can run their houses in a good manner. They even feel no need to tell families about their gambling addiction.

Well in my case, here on our place we don't really socialize with other people, that's why we don't have any friends near us. And most of mine were just online friends. So, it's only my wife that I can talk with it. It maybe like a suicide but, that's just that.

Well, to tell you honestly in any arguement that I have made with my wife, I never win, not a single chance, that's why in my part, she's the only one that can help me with my addiction. But as I said, I think I'll just handle this secretly first for I really still want to play some more of my games.

Blaming somebody would just add up on your bad image among other people and it doesn't really help at all. Telling your wife about your gambling activity would really just
like a suicide on my part.Why? They do know on what would happen on where your funds is the main thing would be mainly affected.No woman would be happy on that for sure.

- Seek medical attention
 - Talk to your friends/closed ones about it.
 - The sooner you realize the better
 - Take an initiative

It's very subjective. I bet most of the people here won't even bother telling their wives that they gamble. Blaming somebody else doesn't help the situation.

You’re not an honest man mate,because you are keeping secret from your wife and not just simple secret its a vices that you know she will disagree,sorry to tell this but you are cheating on her admit it or not i am just being true here for the sake of you partnership because being a husband like you I don’t want my wife as well to cheat or do secret things that i know wasn’t good for our live being husband and wife,i hope you consider this as an Brotherly Advice since e have both same past being a gambling addict but i cross the border and become occasional gambler.and mostly when i wanna play i make sure she knows or much better if she will go with me so lessen the opportunity of losing higher amount lol

Hope you understand my point here mate

I hope that does not happen, you keep full control to yourself and exactly doing it just for pure fun instead of getting pushed to place a bet. Feeling the push inside to bet is very dangerous.

I wish you good luck bud.

Cheers :-)

yes yes that happens me in last year.i  think it's normal as i remember when i lose thousands of Dollars i got frustrated even did not sleep for day or two,then i faces family problems a lot can't explain more sorry

Everyone had an addiction habits. It depends on us how to handle your "level" of addiction. If it was me who got addicted in gambling sites to the point that our savings have been touched, then hold back and think many times that there is something wrong with yourself and you have to lie low, take a step back and regain yourself.

You might be right about that, maybe she could find any, but still whenever I see my friends playing I really can't stop myself being jealous that's why I'm still playing secretly. I do have a secret salary besides from my work and that's what I'm spending through my games. It really gives me the feeling of being relieved and some what release my stress, I find myself enjoying with my friends.

Though this might be a problem to myself but I want to get rid of it as soon as I can, I don't also want ending up being ZERO on my pocket.

it's a good choice, usually people who hear bad effects, like poor or something else then the player will think twice to play, and it's worthed to stop in addiction, I won't discuss it with my partner or my wife, because it's embarrassing, and I won't discuss for how I play again

You really need to talk to her about it. How long you will go secretly? Someday she will manage to learn it and that will hurt her. She seems very important to you which she should be so just tell her that after all these you still secretly try betting. May be she will find a solution for you.

I hope you sober. Good luck.

Yes, I really am addicted to a certain game on the past, but I'm an honest guy, I really can't help forcing myself to argue with my wife so I just ended up not playing anymore, but the thing is whenever I get some money I play secretly
Now that I can say that I have a control to myself but yet I can also say I'm still addicted to it.

I don't always argue with her for I really respect her feelings. Sometimes women can really help men with their problems.

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And yeah, it's really hard to go to the rehab, I feel like I'm going to be crazy the moment I stepped into their door.

I would try to make me realized how bad is gambling addiction and try to leave the gambling addiction. I think I would be able to make me realized the situation and was able to leave it. So, no worries for me.

Vacation will help I guess, if the person admits that he already an addict taking time to rest out and have fun with his family or friends can give him
some  time to relax and think about those possible things that can move him away, as you said addicted person needs personal guidance but how sure
it can help if the person is not willing to work it out, every single pieces count when you are trying to heal your problem, but the best thing is your
willingness to let everything go.

we could not understand the type of addiction that we are in the gambling because addiction is different for different people some people addicted to gambling format and some of us are addicted to money making so the solution is based on their addiction and how they will get involved in this field I also get addicted but not so much.

You know that is not so simple. Having a vacation is a good way to forget gambling but temporarily only, for me it is not a permanent solution. When you go back there is no assurance that you now forget it all the things you get used to, what more to happen is that you will probably become more ravenous to gamble because your body and mind miss the excitement and the atmosphere coming from it.

So if ever you get addicted, much better if you will seek guidance (either coming from a professional or just your family) at the same time while having a vacation. Doing recreational activities could help as well.

First of all one needs to realise that he is addicted. Profound realisation of self limitation and weaknesses isn't an easy task.
Psychological blockade called denial will take its effect, efficiently locking a person within the problem, without any awareness of it.
True self honesty may be insufficient to deal with the trauma, help from outside seems mandatory. As you said, a person emotionally close to addicted one, has the power to wake anger, self-awareness and as a result acceptance. Easier said than done, that's why professional help may come in handy.

Have you ever been addicted with gambling? Without having the real experience you will failed to realize the real life scenario. It's easy to talk about something and argue whole day but when you experience something then you have your own way of feelings.

I hope you were never been addicted to gambling. It's really a very bad habit and very hard to rehab.

Cheers :-)

Well I also doubt your solution, what if ypu have done all of the things that you can do? Just as you said to @Pffrt, it should be just for the meantime. Then what about after that? You're already addicted...

I'm really confused on how things will be fine without going to rehabilitation center... the solutions presented to this thread still has to be proven with the attitude of the person involve. If she/he cannot get rid of it then the unlimited number of misfortunes will be happening to him/her.

Few years ago I was addicted to gambling playing on different casinos. What I would do to stop myself from gambling even more is to find a way on how could I waste my time like doing more irl activities (errands, chores, etc) until the day ends.

It's easy to say that your solution will work (maybe for brief period) but if you're in the situation where you're already addicted, I doubt that going on a vacation would stop your addiction permanently.

If omo and his friends combine all of their gambling money to go big that's playing for profits and not for fun anymore.

Maybe you can give your money to them and ask them to gather the money to place big bets. I am sure that if one or two of your friends know about football betting, you and your friends will have a bigger chance to win the game. But it just a suggestion for you to try in sports betting and you don't have to follow my suggestion if you are afraid to become addicted. You could continue to playing gambling as a part to get fun only and don't play too long in every game.

First of all, I don't have wife, so I am not a le to discuss with, kidding. I would definitely try to leave and go for a vacation so that my addiction get vanished. I would definitely be successful too.

For me that was the most effective way to stop gambling addiction yet the worst one also. If a gambler reach a point of null — whose all of pockets become empty, loved ones already stay away from him and feeling miserable — then that's the time when introspection comes. That's the time when he will think all of the bad decisions and missed opportunities in his existence thus resulting to a renunciation. I hope all people will not experience this but if it is the only thing which makes them repent then so be it, sometimes you really need to fall down and rise again to become a better person.

Very necessary that others also implement that they should not be addicted to gambling as it has many negative effects in or body which can be read on this forum in this section where people have lost so much money, how their relationships effect due to gambling addiction etc.
 

If i'm addicted to a gambling... probably I can't help myself since i'm already addicted to it I probably needed some help from my family or maybe a specialist. But maybe if I lose all my money to gambling there are 2 might happened:

1. Whenever I have money I do gambling again.
2. I don't have money and realize that gambling ruined my life and in result I will not going to do gambling anymore.

This is what I see if I gets addicted to gambling, that's why it's important that we know the risk we're going to face in playing gambling games and I think we really do need a KYC approval so younger generations won't be able to play easily in gambling casinos.

Its good that you don't get addicted in gambling because you think negatively right now and I hope you wont end up like this, If there is something bad happen with your gambling activities better not to take it seriously even if you lose big money, just act with your right mindset and act like a normal lose to you.

Good decision, you are fortunate that you become aware of the effects of gambling in your body. Keep up the tight attitude mate .

Anyway, why are you not happy on the achievements of your friends? They are rich now, which means their gambling activities is doing all fine, what's the problem? Are they not the same as what you met them before or just getting jealous?

You better keep your discipline in gambling, you won't be addicted if you have control and just do it for fun.
Even gambling for money, that requires discipline as well, you need to have a strategy to win and to minimize the risk, usually it's a long term
journey and if we succeed on that long term journey, then maybe you have a chance to be profitable in gambling.

Some people get hooked and get addicted to it because they are too weak to use their emotion instead of their mind.

Well if you're addicted you can do many things just to sustain your addiction and its not easy to stop it suddenly, you need support from people around you to change the habit.

Few years ago I became addicted and that time I dont give all my salary to my partner because I need a budget to be able to gamble.

Im just saying an alibi to my wife on why I need an extra money, I also borrow money to my workmates because of my losses and for the hope of getting it back.

Later on my wife found out that I gamble regularly, she got mad at first but she is also the one who help me to overcome it.

I haven't been addicted yet and not in gambling too but if ever I got hooked with it, maybe depression. I will be too depressed for sure and could probably lead to suicidal attempt  . just a thought because I now that addiction is a very difficult situation.

If you do already know on what would be your attitude after you do play gambling then if I were you I would completely avoid such thing.Even if you don't like to show into others there would be always a time that you can inevitable show it publicly and the worst you said that you do argue with your wife about the money you have lost or being used on gambling.It already affects your relationship towards your wife and
don't make such thing to prolong because sooner or later you would surely regret your decision.

Do not know, if only imagining then we can have many plans that are still in a reasonable stage. But when it really happens, then a bad possibility can occur because when you become an addict and a big loss will be difficult to think wisely and difficult to control emotions. I personally have gone through a period like this which in the end I just locked myself in a room for fear of doing negative things that were not expected. Imagination and reality will be different and you definitely have spontaneous actions when they really happen.

I can easily get addicted and that is why I am avoiding gambling and do it as fun and not to make profits.  I have many rich friends that football betting is running their life and I am not happy about it.

As long as you don't realize that you became addicted to gambling, then there is no way you will stop. Like you said, you will be blaming people when you lose money on a game. This "blaming" people is just an excuse for you to continue gambling and avoid the confrontation. Since you know that you might get addicted to it, then don't gamble at all in the first place.
Maybe I wouldn't be the same, but how would I know? I am not an addict.

Addiction to anything including gambling is dangerous sickness or probably can be considered as a non-curable disease. I have gone through extreme addictions right from internet, movies, technology, news, gambling and have came out of them over the years. I was once a torrenter who would upload and download around 20-30 GB's of data per day which includes movies, games, comics and books. I have bought a server for maintaining those stuffs and the size of my collection ranges somewhere around from 15-20 Tb. I came out of that insane addiction by distancing myself from the online world for more than a 5 months. If you couldn't resist yourself from turning on your PC/mobile, try to give them off to your friends. Addictions and cures would probably be taken care by myself completely and I don't depend upon others during such times. Later on I got addicted to bitcoin and the cryptocurrency technology and I spend somewhere around 5 hours per day reading through the technical documentation and the code.

During the beginning of my crypto addictions, I have been part of gambling addictions. Those lasted for not just a month or so and that was seen to be quite dangerous to me for losing all my money. I distanced myself over the course of months from Gambling and rather would invest the same money in promising alts during the dips.

It's addiction, a serious disease inside your minds where you need personal care and guidance, if you are willing to be cured, the right thing to do is to admit your problem then seek for help with your closes relatives or friend, if you are already in  a high level of addictions seeking for good psychiatrist
will help you to find ways to eliminate this issue inside your minds.

Help from your love ones is the best counter if you are not that addicted yet.
 

I don't know about that.. Sure drugs can be very damaging to your health, but I think gambling is probably the most expensive addiction out there.
Think about it, someone who's severely addicted to gambling will spend every last penny in his pocket.

Most drug addicts will still get by somehow, gambling addicts usually end up selling their house etc.

Its not the worst addiction in the world, drugs can be far more damaging on your wallet and health.  I think it is very important to have a very close support system of friends that you can talk to in your tough times.  Just remember that everything is temporary and nothing will last forever.

You should be the one who fix your personal issues first and foremost, not your parents. Yeah! You can seek for their  advices because it was a part of their responsibility as a parent since you were a child but now that you are slready mature then make your own act for the improving yourself and do not fully give the obligation of changing you into others.
I don't thi k it will be a good idea because if the other is struggling in the same condition and can't solve it either thrn how he will give solution to yours. What you need is an an adviser, it doesn't really importang whether it is a professional or not as long as it has a clear mind so that he can asses your problem properly.

The worst thing about gambling addiction is that addicted person never admit it, he will keep repeating "I am doing it for fun" whenever someone warns him.

The responsibility is up on his family or friends to help him recover from his addiction.
If it was me, (hope it will never happen) I will talk with people who had the same problem and ask their guidance, also, I will start new activities.
The most important thing is to have someone who cares about you and will support you during your suffering.

I will be also the same as you are said in your court that we can definitely addicted to gambling when we got and entered into this field when someone says about addiction that be a good advice so keep that advice and make more useful gambling and don't get addicted to it.

but still most of the people using gambling very peacefully and making more money again and again so then how they are doing it properly without addiction are any tension It's all about how we handle any job we can find it will not get addicted to anything.

I doubt you will ever do that, I might bet on having some arguements with your parents and asking them for money to get your behaviour into normal again. Getting addicted is really hard to make a contradiction in an easy manner.
But seeking for help to anyone is not a bad idea I guess.

Yes she will not understand but if you explained to her for sure things will be sort with her,our wife must be our best friend because above anyone they are our strength,they are the one who can help us to understand things that we accidentally did specially wrong doings

For me i will talk to her ,i will confess and seek for advices because she is the most affected on this problem ,involving money matter our wife is the other hand that will feed our children’s

But i will try to do anything that i will never cross this bridge for all i want is my family’s goodwill

Why would you blame someone else when you lose a game? That's one of the silliest things I've ever heard, I really don't understand the thinking behind that.
You really shouldn't blame anyone but yourself for losing a game, if your actions caused you to lose that game.

I don't see how anyone else's actions could cause you to lose a game. Except maybe in poker, but even there it's a combination of your own actions and someone else's.

Since this question only if and i will answer with my personal opinion that if i was being an addicted then i will asking my family to help me to cure my addiction because family influence will have big impact to cure addictions and i will more dicipline to heal it because addictions is dangerous disease and for long term effect it can ruin my life and my family so be honest about my conditions probably can help me to cure my disease

This is a hard question to answer, specially for addicted one because majority of them doesn't want to admit their addiction.


It's a bold move, but this should be a case to case basis. Not everyone's wife will totally agree with this approved.


True. I have been in this situation before, I blame everyone, all the people from behind, even someone who sits beside me in a slot machine. lol. Until I realized that I've been too much in gambling because of that attitude, so what I do is control and reduced my gambling and be a responsible gambler. I don't want to be another person who's going to ruined his life, so I decided to just play and have fun and not worry about my winnings.

I am sure that I will get get addicted to anything any more. Yes, I was addicted to forex trading and lost some big money by the years of 2007 to 2008. I have learned some very big big lessons after ward about the life and people hence I believe I will never get addicted to anything including girls and drugs.

In recent times, I have noticed that I am searching for gambling strategies after heard about some stories on big winning in few gambling houses. But, within two days I just started about studying how houses may cheat us and then I stopped looking for methods to crack profits. Similarly, I have noticed that I am taking alcohol more frequently (yes, my name is beerloover), and once I realized I was getting addicted to that, I started to focus on my trading and now I am drinking yearly once or twice.

I request gamblers here NOT to focus on what you will do after got addicted but must focus on how to prevent addictions even you stay as a gambler. Prevention is always better than curing.

It's going to be difficult to admit to your partner if you're addicted, so that's the first problem here. I don't believed that someone will simply sit and talk to someone that they have lost so much money in gambling. I'll possibility cover things as much as I can, to avoid arguments until I start and wake up from my addiction. Good thing though that me and my partner are into gambling casino's and we go play at the same time so we know the effects and the money involved, so at the end of the day, there's no argument. If I'm in your shoes though, I will quit gambling slowly before everything is too late.

its not precaution its prevention  .  " prevention is better than cure "  but we dont exactly need to avoid or stop playing a gambling in order to not get addicted because addiction can be controllable .

in my case im a regular player of online gambling but i never get experienced to be addicted with it because i have a time management  . i divide my time to do other important things  .

Seek professional help from experts in handling addiction. I won't take my problem to friends or family members to avoid unnecessary argument on how I'm wasting my money, i feel I'm already getting addicted to cryptocurreny and adding gambling to it will just end my life. I gamble with precaution like they say "Prevention is better than cure" so i prevent myself from getting addicted by taking some precautions.

Hmm if assuming that I get addicted un poker for example, I think of so many things that could possibly happen to me. First, maybe I will stop studying not only because of wasting a lot of money coming from the losses I got from gambling but also because I already lose my time and interest to it. I also see myself becoming a robber or drug pusher or a person who desperately do anything just to earn money. And since luck is not on eveyone's hands then I might end up as a beggar or at least a broke and helpless teenager who regret his bad decisions in life and now jealous to his batch mates who are succesful in the present

Anyway, that's only a what if. I guess I will never be that kind of person since I knoe to myself that I am disciplined and have self-control .

It will be serious if you ask me,I will mentally get disturbed a lot if I am addicted to something and it will feel like a hell and I experienced that addiction on something other than gambling but in gambling it will be much worse since I have to give more money whenever I want to get happiness from it and it will keep eating all my saving,then assets and my life as well.

If I realized that i am already a addict then i will not choose to talk to my wife about how much to spend instead i will asked her to help me out,i will seek for other family members for better solutions as I believe that addiction can be cured if we are willing to accept the reality and will be open for advices and help from people who loves us most

Geeting addicted in one thing and realising that you are addicted is another thing.
If I realise that I'm adicted,I would seek for professional help and try to stay away from money whatsoever.
My wife will spend all the money in our household.

The first step is to inform others the real situation what has happened and in what state of mind the person is. Because this will give others the thought to think the real state of yours and accordingly things would be done in order to set free from the addiction.

Husband knows their wife and not other people.
When you want to be help, go seek some help to those you trust and comfortable in sharing your problem.

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If I would be addicted, the first person I would go is my parents, they know me better and they have more experience than me
so I'm sure I can get some advise and the real help. No parents that wouldn't care for their children, though we mature in the world
but as long as they are still alive, they will always do their responsibility to guide us.

We should be honest and accept that we seek for help, otherwise, any advise we will receive will become useless.

I will tell my family about my addicting so they can find a solution for me, and maybe I will ask someone in my family to carry my money and don't give it to me, and he will manage that money for my daily needs. Besides that, I will ask someone always to follow me wherever I go, always reminds me in every time I want to come back to the gambling. And if necessary, I will ask them to go with me to go to a psychiatrist. I will try everything to quit gambling because I love my family and I don't want to lose everything I have.

I probable end up jobless first because i will not concentrate in my work. Poor performance can lead to being fired. Next, since i wasnt earning, i will end up being bankrupt. This is the moment i will consult my family. After a lot of confrontation and rehabilitation, hopefuly will be better after a year. But i know this wouldnt happen because i stay away to being addict as much as possible.

she will . its better to confront your problems with her if that really bothers you because that can release stress build up  .


gambling is not only for men but its for all genders  though its not for all ages and for all countries   . here on our place i can see many females playing card based  games and bingo every single day  .


i think your fellow gamblers is also addicted to gambling and cannot give you an honest advice because they cant also cure their selves . you better talk to your family members because they are more effective  .

I wouldn't waste my time talking to my wife, she'll not understand anyway.
Gambling is a man's game and usually a wife would not understand it unless he herself is also a gambler.

I might seek some guidance to my fellow gambler who have been able to control themselves in gambling who those who
have been been to cure themselves from addiction, and I prefer to take to people which are family members or a close friends.

Depends how deeply I become addicted to gambling. I do already gamble on a rather regular basis, and I find it pretty unlikely I'll ever dig myself into a hole financially through gambling, but if I ever do become addicted I'll just find a way to stop spending money on gambling by doing something like preoccupying myself with something else that will actually help me acquire more money or try to get professional help. I'm not addicted to anything right now besides possibly caffeine through coffee consumption, though, but I do know and have all the resources I need to get help at my fingertips.

If you will be able to control yourself from being too obsessive about playing gambling then you won't have a problem if you are addicted already to gambling. Being responsible for what have you done in the first place is your goal after failing to multiply your bankroll in the hope of playing gambling. Blaming isn't the answer to your question if you think that would fix everything because eventually all the people that you blame will leave you and you might end up being alone living on your own.

I think in your position and your present of mind your not front become addicted, always remember to avoid become addecting in gambling always set greed control and for money issue with your wife use extra money for the gambling habit do not bring huge of money reasy to lose to avoid discussing about it if the money gonna lose in gambling.

Addiction is curable, and if you notice it already better to ask for some help.
I know how to control and myself, if I get addicted too in gambling, i’ll probably stopped it since I have my family that is depending on me and I cannot afford to be broke for a long time. So I will just stay away from casinos and online gambling, I think its hard but i will do my best to stopped it for my family.

I have immense control over my mind and emotion so I won't get addicted to anything very easily. However, like you have asked, if I get addicted to gambling, I will personally won't discuss with my wife, rather I will try to get professional help. I will visit a psychiatrist for counselling so that I can come out of such addiction. Also I will stay from internet for an extended period of time and ask my wife to oversee my online activities. Because when wife yells, things come into shape quickly!!

Its hard to notice that you’re already addicted in gambling but if I continue to lose big money and becomes more depressed everyday, I will ask for some help with my family now. I know at first they will be mad at me because of what I’ve down but of course they will help me to stop that addiction. Family is the only option for me to become normal person again.

I will keep myself away from internet access.
I will spend more time with family
I will go for a holiday.
I will keep myself away from any sports related updates (I was addicted to sports betting)
I will not go closer to the betting shops.
I always keep myself busy doing something else may be any kind of DIY

These are things I will do.

I been through this long ago and my friends and family made it happen for me to give up the addiction. Now a days I do gamble but it's just pure fun. I do spend more or less 50 to 100 quid for betting but when I was addicted there were days when I lost over 2 grand.

I'll do the same and this is just me. Even I'm not addicted I used to blame people for my losses. But past is past and I'm good today and was able to overcome this kind of attitude. Becoming an addicted gambler would really change our attitude and I don't know what other worse thing that I can do 'IF' I become one again. I salute to those gamblers that remained to be calm and didn't blamed anyone for their losses, you're all guys the MVP. I guess it's all about the attitude.

Agreed, being calm for a while will give a mind to make decisions in the right way than just going on emotions. Maybe this isn't possible with everyone who is addicted, but once after continued loss taking a break will give you the mind to think wisely. You may quit for the day understanding the scenario or else can develop better strategy leading to winning. So, a break is a must when you feel yourself getting into addiction. That doesn't make sense of blaming the people around us for our mistake.

Kept calm is very important even you are in the stage of addiction and always remember your responsibilities not follow by your emotion of being addicted. Ain't in the stage of addiction because I can handle my self to have set self-limitation.
And blaming people of your possible loss is not a good habit you must change it, maybe you always find trouble of that.

If you still think of a way how to overcome your addiction then you are not totally fall yet on the trap of being an "addicted". It's just that you are now categorized as "regular" gamblers. Same scenario with the addicted ones since you are obviously losing money on the way but in here, there is a side on your brain that still functioning to tell you what the heck is going on.

About the "attitude" honestly I don't know since even Im a regular gambler, Im not reached the point yet of doing unnecessary things. I mean, why should I. I even loss a lot on the process but still remained calm and responsible.

In here, we can conclude that different people really have different approach on being an "addicted" ones.

If you're the one who gets addicted, what possibilities can you do?

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If you're gonna ask me, maybe I'll first have a serious discussion with my wife bout the money that I will gonna spend at the casinos then later on we could have an endless arguement that can lead us into nothing. If I get addicted maybe there is also a possibility that I will certainly blame people whenever I lose on a game. (That's the attitude that I have and I don't want it to show.)

And you? Would you be the same? Or even worst?