Topic: I'm in love with someone else's girlfriend (Read 568 times)

This situation is simply called INFATUATION. get the hell out of it.

I think it's just love! if you feel that you do not love a person, you should not torture him. You must part. You must not spoil the life of another person!

I think you should ignore her.

it's not love.it's lust.

sometime's we misuse the right word.

More clearification, LOVE is one word that is used  more than any other word including HATRED on planet earth.

Here is the reality, do you think we could the level of deception,hatred,abuse,estortion,killing ... ecc in our society today if, we truely love someone or one another.

I guess your answer is NO.


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Its not a crime but you should have more control over your mind and heart.

Mostly infatuation.   

Forget about her and move on with another girl . This would actually lead to a severe broken heart

So many people get in love with having sex, but people want to have just sex on that the same person because they met the pleasure they are looking for. And some try to have sex with another person just to find if they really love they feel or just lust? How stupid is that? Love is not for fun and having sex with someone is not good because you don't hundred-ly respect each other for knowing each them first.

Move on. Don't get into trouble.
Get out of this and find hobby

I dont think its right because if you really love your girl then you wouldn't fall for the other

Do not do anything stupid.
You just need time to forget it, that's all.
Soon you will find someone better

Maybe its not love, it is lust... give it sometimes but move to a different environment.  If you stay in same environment, one direction love can make you think weird non factual thoughts.  Try something different, your mind will open up and be more receptive to others.

hhahaah...but i dont think that you really love her...may be you just got crushed..

No, because we would not be able with he. just a waste of time anyway.  There are still a lot of women out there   

Happened to me twice. Good thing for me is I have some charm - enough for them to get attracted to me.
And yes, now I like this girl who is currently in a relationship with someone. She is 10 years younger than me, but no one can deny our mutual attraction.

Dont be too obvious.
Try to have an interesting lifestyle and show her that you are superior to him.

until the girl is not yet married, do not lose hope, work on it. She will be yours just keep your love for her 

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hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm,

Its a delicate matter i must say that i understand how you feel. but i feel you should better start controlling your feelings towards her because she might be discussing you with her lover and given to the fact that you guys know each other, the guy will be seeing you as a betrayer and back bitter.

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I also think that.

Immediately fell in love? Lol. I believe Love is earned. You can't fall with someone just like that. Why people say that all the time? Love can be really felt in the test of time. You got it wrong man, IT IS NOT LOVE. ABORT MISSION. And stop dragging yourself in someone else's relationship.

Enjoy life. Don't waste time chasing a taken girl. The right love will come with the right person at the right time and place.

I would have to suggest that "love" will happen all through out your life (or at least feel like love). There are many men and women in the world to choose from for happiness. Do not rush and let life happen.

I also had fallen in love with someone else's boyfriend but over time I think why what chasing someone who does not love me there is still a woman out there that is more everything

Hey Dude! Wake up!

Stop that stupid feelings towards that girl. That's Erroneous.

She's already dating with someone just search for a better one.

if you think you can handle it, then go for it.

but to be honest, its probably not worth while, and you only want it because it seems easier to get

Don't jump into conclusion that it is already "love". What you are feeling is just desire to have that specific girl, it is an intense and short-lived passion that only lasts for a short duration and will leave you uninterested after a while. With this being said, just keep yourself busy and away from thinking about that girl so that you can focus on the more important things in life.

What makes you like it? his attitude? The easiest way is you deny it by itself. As the phrase, "from the eye to the heart," all starts from the gaze and so does your memory. Forget it, throw garbage out of charm until it's nice. Believe that he is not the right person for you.

Maybe it's for me not love, just want to have it.
Actually it's natural for men, but it's bad behavior, especially if we want to have our own friends, that's ugly.
Actually if we want to try harder, we can get someone better than the first.
Trust me.

That is not love at all , because you and that girl share a passion , it is only an infatuation. That girl will leave you in tine if she gets all that shew ants from you. And those kind of girl is nothing , focus on moving on and do anything that will help you to forget her. And date someone , like you said that there are many inerested at you much beautiful than that you are saying that you love. But knowing she is dating someone that girl is one of the bitches that are not contented in one guy.

It's infatuation, not love.   

I can't because I'm girl. but in my part. I like the suitor of my best friend. Not because he was handsome, maybe because of his characteristics. he's a gentleman, very patience person, kind and have a sense of humor

There's so much wrong with this situation. Both the guy and the girl in the original post need to be alone in my opinion. If you aren't a healthy person yourself you'll never have  a healthy relationship and nothing will ever be good enough for you.

Mine is kinda different issue. Am in love with two brothers, three best friends and i might be a lez.

He doesn't love her. He wanted her for sex and it's only an issue now because he's not the only one "tapping that a**". So his EGO can't handle it because he's comparing himself to this "friend" which he probably secretly despises. Realistically he probably knew this friend was dating this woman and to deal with his low self esteem he wanted to see if he could "pull this woman" from this friend to feel superior to him. It didn't work because she didn't stop seeing the guy.

The whole "I'm getting really frustrated" is only because he wanted to use this woman as a pawn and it's not working.

He needs to leave all women alone and seek some self help therapy or find a positive outlet to boost his self esteem.

I'm not buying the "I didn't know" when he said "been seeing her for a few years tho but never spoke" riiiiiiighhht. Like you're friends with a guy but don't know that he's been seeing this woman for years?? He has never shown you pictures of her yet you've been playing stalker for YEARS trying to find a way in? NOT BUYING IT.

If this guy could lie to someone he considers a friend and lie to this woman he's sleeping with then it's even more likely he'd have no problem lying to others with ease.

Honestly I think he's trash and OP you'd do best to drop him before he tries to screw your dog. I'll change my view after he gets therapy.

in my opinion, it will not happen because it is not my trait, if already have his own girlfriend, still have to be serious.

this is going to be my two cent advice, trust me what goes around comes around she was with you and was dating someone else what if you both arent the only ones in the picture and there are more guys out there whom shes seeing, just thinking aloud, what if in your choice of continuing a steady relationship she could cheat on you remember you cant change anyone expect they make a personal decision to change from whatever they feel they are doing. Its better your friend takes a long walk from that girl and gets healed and move on, he would surely find someone much better and suitable for him

I know that feelings, all you can do is leave the lady alone since you know who she's dating.

I think you should forget her.because she is not yours.let them happy together.you will find someone better than her.

Forget about her, try to wait for someone who is single.

I think it's natural because love sometimes does not make sense, I've experienced the same thing as you fall in love with someone else's love and it happens when I really need someone to share love. Kinda silly but that's the reality. Unless you can establish a relationship behind Because until whenever we just be a secret admirer just no more. My advice to find others because there are still many hearts waiting for the sincerity of your love. 
advice from a sad boy 

Maybe it could happen because our boyfriend is less sexy, while other sexy person boyfriend, beautiful, white, etc ..

"A friend"

tbh

decide, I mean it cant be your best buddy if you didnt know he was dating the girl you fell for.

After all youre a dick anyway going for it.

Don't ruin their  love Story.

move on guys, women not just him, life is sometimes not as expected 

It is better to stay away.

I agree with everybody here, good advice is always a simple one but hard to take in.
Move on my friend, focus on your life. It's not the right time and she's dating a common
friend? that's just a recipe for disaster and regret. Don't put yourself on that situation,
You'll find someone better.

If I myself would not fall in love with someone else's boyfriend, because my personal nature, when it's serious with a boyfriend, is unlikely to be someone's boyfriend.

"You have the right love at the wrong time." That's is a lyric in a song. Don't make a move that might hurt anyone. If the person you're falling in love with feels the same way, then better let him/her to the rightful thing.

I think you're just interested on her because you found someone who has the same hobby or passion as yours. But think it over and maybe you'll realize what you really feel for her.

Just wait for them to break up and then you will get together.

Always remember "once a cheater always a cheater" i kinda always apply this statement with any girl that i'll try to interact with so i have this mindset if shes that kind of girl, i back away with love thing so i go with flurt, so in your case your in a wrong situation, bro she has BF, he's BF has a feeling too. Think about what if your the BG amd your GF would fo that for you. See? Try to reflect with any situation you will in.

You need to make a choice - You either cut it off and change-up your daily routine or you decide your willing to risk / strain your friendships...

Personally, no relationship is worth destroying multiple friendships and whoever I marry needs to be able to gel/be friends with my circle of friends as well (important dynamic).

Wish you the best..

Awww no man. Get him out from this. There's no good.

Most of the time, the heart contradicts the mind, sometimes, no matter how hard we try to be rational in our thinking but our heart does not agree with it. Some times it is the very difficult battle we are fighting in the inside when we decide with our mind not to or to stop to but our hearts wrestles with our mind. And what is the result? We live in agony, we live in sufferings for the sake of rationality.

Move on. Dont get into trouble.

Do what you feel and everything will be fine.

I recommend stopping that

Shrug it off brother. It's just infatuation or our natural lust.
Direct your attention to something else perhaps a hobby or an activity. And go on and meet other people. Trust me, it'll help you a lot and will save you from tons of trouble.

Do you confuse the real love, don't you ? maybe you want to possess her not love. If you love her, i think you should confess her and don't care about result 

I've also experienced something like falling in love with someone else's lover, to me it's very stupid, and you'd better hurry to forget him, before the love is too deep ...

That's serous. However, you can give it a trial to approach the girl but she must not be girlfriend of one of your friends. If the girl found you better in love and care than her boyfriend, you can have your way but if she is true love with her boyfriend and her boyfriend loves her the same, please don't cause trouble and search for your own. Girls plenty for world now.

I understand you feel... I fall in love with someone else's girlfriend before.. Then i just hope they will break up and i keep waiting and I just realize that I just keep wasting my time. Trust me , don't wasting time for this , go find some good job and earn more money first. After you become a successful people and you can find your good girlfriend easily.

I hope this helps:


"Why does love make us so irrational?

That common belief is incorrect. It isn't love that makes you irrational - you're irrational and the emotions you feel are a result of it. A rational human being feels emotions too, but when they love, the love they feel will tend to be more rational and reasonable. It will simply make sense to them and likely also make sense in the eyes of others.

Your emotions are a result of the quality of your thinking - not the other way around. For emotions that make more sense, improve the quality of your thinking. I think you'll find that any love you feel in the future will be more genuine and lasting."

(From:https://www.quora.com/Why-does-love-make-us-so-irrational)

Forget about her. If she leaves him for you, she is worth nothing. If she stays with him, you can't have her.

It's infatuation, not love.   

I suggest that don't let yourself fall in the wrong kind of situation, it's just an INFATUATION

A friend of mine needs help. Read his story below and drop your suggestion(s).

"I met this babe last year August, been seeing her for a few years tho but never spoke... We share same passion so when we found out, we hooked up real big... I immediately fell for her, later discovered she was dating someone I knew quite well so I tried not pushing my luck so I don't look stupid... I think that failed woefully cause I later told her and she took no offense tho.

The issue z that I'm beginning to love her more with the passing of each day, and it scares me a lot because I've stopped having interest in any other girl no matter the inner or physical beauty they carry... Like, I love this girl to the sun!!!

I'm getting really frustrated.""