Topic: Marriage: Character or Beauty? (Read 1506 times)

When I get married, character is of course what I prefer. Compatibility of character is very important here, a marriage will be difficult to build if there is no compatibility of character so that it will never be harmonious. Therefore, understanding each other is very important in marriage, because character compatibility is the key to happiness in married life. If you choose beauty, of course everyone will experience aging and in married life you will definitely see your partner more often, so boredom will definitely arise.

Beauty and handsome are good but as far as marriages goes, it doesn't sustain marriages, if it does, then we won't be seeing high divorce rate of elegant beauties and handsomeness in our societies, in the long run what sustains marriages is tolerance, respect and communication which by extension is character. If your spouse doesn't give you joy and happiness in the home, then all the beauty and handsomeness will all be vanity without peace of mind, so inasmuch as beauty is important in a marriage because of attractiveness, what really makes marriages to last is the character of the couples, especially the wife. I'm glad that OP could look beyond facial beauty and find the inner beauty in his wife, which is what matters most in a marriage.

The two are important in marriage, just that one has to be looked into critically, Character is a unique identifier of every good man or woman, I mean the character of a person makes the person stand out, I will give a brief analysis on this one after the other.
The first is beauty a woman should be beautiful, they say beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, I mean before I notice your character as a woman what will bring me close to you is your beauty, I should be able to present my partner to my friends and family without been ashamed of her, Our physical look attracts our partner to us first before character,
Secondly character, talking about character character is a ladies inner beauty, you might be the most beautiful lady but if your beauty does not reflect in your character no man will want to keep you,
So the two go hand in hand outward and inner beauty.

Character is the main thing in life whether in marriage or anything in life, character it's very essential and it's what keeps a woman in marriage while beauty only attracts attention but beauty without character will not keep the woman in marriage or keep husband so I think character is the exact thing in marriage most especially.

You've said it all. Beauty is good but character supercedes it imo..

In marriage beauty and character are two Major factor, that seem inseparable  but among then character stand first though it can be base on choice. Bible say beauty is deceitful, vain but good character is wisdom itself.all that glitter is not gold so it's in woman beauty when place before character, many breakage on marriage are course by misplaced priority of beauty against character, only character can build and develop and bring peace to any marriage. One thing beauty does in a marriage it brings pride, we all know pride bring fall in anything.

Inasmuch as marriage is concerned, we shouldn't be too attracted to physical qualities of our partners because if we don't see those physical qualities again as time goes on our interest on our partners will start to diminish because that was the sole reason why we found them attractive and of which developed interest in them.

Beauty or no beauty the most important thing is to be able to understand each other perfectly like for example a couple should know when one among them is not happy and should be able to find out why they ain't happy and possibly proffer solution. A couple should be able to understand each other very well during courtship so that they won't find it difficult to adapt to each other when they're married.
In conclusion, beauty should not be a prerequisite to determine ones choice of a partner as you might live to regret it as soon as those physical qualities begins to fade whereas they don't have the basic attributes to building a happy home.

As a single man, I have dated several different types of women, and am currently thinking about getting married But currently I am still in the process of looking for the right person.

Learning from experience, I think character is more important than beauty, why do I talk like that because I have dated several times with women who I think are beautiful But in the end we separated due to incompatibility.

Therefore I think I have to find a woman with a character that suits me because for me marriage is not just 1 year or 2 years, But marriage for me will last forever and of course this is not a short time.

Imagine if you lived forever with someone who clearly had a character that didn't suit you, I'm sure your married life would be very terrible, And what's more, every women can be beautiful, but not all women can have good character and suit us.

Apart from that, this is just my personal opinion, I'm sure there are many people out there who have different views, But apart from that, I hope that you guys and I will meet the right person, someone who will always be there when we need, someone who will always support us when we fall, Someone who accepts us as we are, and someone who always thinks about us and someone who is always a home for us to return to. God Bless you guys 😁

Marriage whereby beauty is considered as the main concentration is a Marriage that won't  last long. What determine that a Marriage will last forever is beyond just beauty,  beauty without characters is nothing in a marriage.  What enables partners to live together is characters and understanding but if the characters of the partners is always misunderstood it will always lead to fight and disagreement and with this it is impossible for them to live together.  When  people agree it brings  peace that can enable them to stay together.

Beauty is your natural qualification and attraction. It is a gift of nature. He who sees remains seen. He who sees is left. What has happened to me? Who has taken possession of my thoughts and my mind? How did I get crazy? Whose eyes robbed me? Beauty is a perishable wealth.
On the other hand, character and good character is a constant and supportive asset that brings the bad to the senses. It makes a human being human and creates beauty in his personality. And this is permanent wealth. Which does not fall. And marriage requires a partner of good character. If this fellow is good-natured as well as good-looking, all the better.

Character of a women can be acceptable if you are also seeing some beauty in that women. But if you are not seeing a beauty in that women how could we accept character of that women.

You can also search for it on YouTube and mostly will say that some time the character will be really important in a case or while most people can also look for the character. But now a days everyone for just getting a women and marry her that's it.

What is simply your choice? What you prefer the most?

Character over beauty is non negotiable for me.

Beauty in itself is subject to a period of time, and will not stand the time as character would. Once one ages, the beauty starts fading away and then it's too late to want to make alternative options (not factoring divorce into this context).

Character on the other hand is a way of life of an individual or a behavioural pattern which sticks with the person forever, irrespective of what nature presents except in the case of memory loss and that is at grievous levels and not just the regular amnesia.

Whatever character you're not comfortable with should not find it's ways to your life or abode

But we also have to know about the character of a woman before the marriage but it is difficult to know her character before the marriage due to the distances between you and her. Only we can assume the character of her. But now people didn't see the characters of a woman in any sense they only see their beauty, most of the people think that when a woman is more beautiful the more our life will be easier but it is completely wrong we should also see a woman character first. Because the character is on the first step and the other things are after that.
Still I didn't got marriage  but when I will marry any woman I will first see her characters and then I will go for the beauty, because beauty has also some value and it is to be needed.

It's better to love women like that, than a woman who is really beautiful but you can't see her as wife material.
Wife material, this is the one who understands you, will support everything you want, is your number one fan, responsible, makes you a better person, she loves you unconditionally etc. Too many features. So if you find a girl like this you are very lucky. Because it's so good to love and take care of these women. I hope next time if someone says that your wife is ugly, go defend her. It's not that you regret marrying her just because others said she was ugly. Your wife will be very hurt if she finds out that you feel this way.

Man should see something in a woman,  but the most important thing is caring for the life. If you have a successful partner in your life then she can give you happiness at each ans every point even if you are suffering from most of the hardships but she can be better to make you laugh. And also if she is rude at a point then you should make her happy. In this way life would be better.

Also the character matter a lot corresponding to beauty because character of a person make him like by all and the characters is the only thing through which the person is hated by all. On the other had,  mostly beauty didn't matter,  but it is important in some aspects. Although comparing these two should be more voted for character.

Firstly I must say that  you should stop underrating the outlook of your wife due to what people says. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder so if you love your wife, see the most beauty in life both in and out in her
You don't just keep her because of her characters yet her physical look sucks your nerves else that makes you an exploiter.

However, there are many women that beauty has been attracted and sent to man's house as a course of marriage but lack to marriage characteristics had sent them back to their own house.

So I would say that characters should be best considered when making marriage choices before beauty is attached unless you are only into a temporary relationship that only had to offer you pleasures in a main time.

" .....even discover that %80 of beautiful girls are lazy. Lack ....

Bro, you said it all. But, 80% is rather too low compare to what we are seeing today in our society.
So, 85% 》(+5%) could be more accurate.

No wonder, we hear lot of divorce cases, "..honey, i need gucci sandals, pizza for dinner,clothes taken to the laundry...

Where then is the value of having a woman in the house? I'm asking married men bcos i'm still a 1st class barcelor🤣

Some women esily get irritated washing their undies and pants...manually.

Pls, i have perfect solution for the person who started this thread. i have a beautiful girlfriend (not  married to her...yet)  she knows nothing outside fashion.

We could make an exchange.pls, what do you think?

Regards
Btcseo

That's true.. beauty is in the eyes of the beholder dey said. Beauty in this context is not a facial attribute but rather an inword characteristics. People often misunderstood beauty.
Good character is the beauty of a woman.

Although it's quite unfortunate that majority of men don't like ugly women and there is no good reason for such. The only reason I see is your friends will make mockery of you, because they married a beautiful woman over you.

But one thing is for sure, who so ever married a wife because of beauty,big hips, light skin, pointed nose, or even height without checking other things like quality, will end up marrying a liability. There is one thing I understand in marriag. Marriage is a mutual understanding of both parties which knows no boundaries of class and body structure. Because when beauty fades or the body start to shrink, the good character continues.

I even discover that %80 of beautiful girls are lazy. Lack of skill and more of fashion always on tiktok, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and WhatsApp all they know is to take pictures and post all the time. When dey get married no attention for kids. The home works for kids will not be attended to, to prepare food for husband they'll say my nails are fixed I can't cook. No parental home training that's why we have a hole lot of beautiful single mothers out there. Because they were not ready for marriage because they think beauty can keep marriage.

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Pls, kindly print out and give those flowers to her on my behalf.
Tell her that a member from bitcointalk sent them yo her.

you can actually buy beauty with money
Take her to beauty planning seminar.i'm sure, you'll be surprise when next you set your eyes on her.

On the other hands, you cannot buy character, Love....
It's either you have character or you donot.

Have you ever pay visit to a couples only to find out the level of disrespect btw the man and women. Couples yelling and screaming at each other like Andrew the giant vs Hulk hogan.

Children jumping like frog from the sitting room to bedroom....

In regards to your friends. Pls keep such friends away from your marriage.


Regards
Bitcseo

Nothing in this world is permanent my friend. So it's also related to beauty. People can say what they want we can't shut others mouths. So love your wife, because if not she is on your life may be your not who you are today. God bless your family!

One should marry a good hearted woman. She is beautiful in appearance, so is she perfect in all aspects. As the saying goes, the more he looks, the more pride he has. But on the other hand, those who do not have a form, who do not have a beautiful face, you will see that there are many qualities in them. Beautiful women usually get husbands who are drug addicts or gamblers. In this era, not everyone has a good woman on their forehead but your forehead is good that you got such a good woman as a wife, you are really lucky. Give thanks to your Lord. You are still living with him because you have love for him.

Character builds marriage and will sustain lasting marriage, a marriage that considers the physical appearance as the most important thing always suffers. Character from couples will be passed to the kids which will help them in the society tomorrow. When there is  misunderstanding between partners character can be used to make things easy for settlement.  Beauty without good character just seems as if the beauty is a waste because beauty is suppose to be backed with good character.

I think the subject of character have doesn't limit to only women alone and it caught across both women and men and the real beauty and value of any individual are in their character because looks have nothing to contribute to the well-being of the Marriage but beauty is what give the first attraction before the character will build the foundation at which the relationship will be built and nourished on.


Both have a role to play in the marriage institution but character plays a bigger role than beauty in the long run.

(OP) take this ask a good advice one can give you, from my point of view imagine if your wife a glance dude  with her face just like you and still with that same face can be a  disease to your life and your kids, look at the quality you just mentioned, I no beauty can  go a long way in a relationship but still as for me I can never choose beauty over the good quality of a wife material, telling you a little story I have newly married friends who just got married and before he got married we were discussing quality  of a good wife would you believe what he told he listed
1 must know how to have sex 24 hours a week
2 always look useful means, must always have money more than him
3 must-have a big ass 🤑
4 must know how how to suffer that much in the kitchen
5 must always be current othe n the internet like being a queen on social media also must have 5k follower
6 must wear expensive pouches and wear new clothes

Could you believe what i told he I said brother you have missed it all in life and currently he works as a banker but now he lost his job because he didn't make a good choice for himself him follow beauty.

In marriage, you can see anything you did not expect.
I believe that marriage is more of character than beauty.
But many people prefer beauty to character when it comes to marriage and they will try to manage the character in the marriage but they fail most times.

To me what matters first is decision.
Assuming you have not decided to keep your wife, both her character and beauty will mean nothing to you and you will end up getting a divorce.

It's difficult to say whether character or appearance is more essential in marriage. Opinions and desires about marriage vary throughout areas, cultures, and people.

As an Indian, I would like to share In aspect of India. Indian marriages have placed a significant emphasis on various factors, including family background, social status, compatibility, shared values, education, and financial stability. These considerations aim to ensure a harmonious and stable union. While physical appearance may be a factor for some individuals, it is often not the sole or primary determinant in partner selection.

In recent times, as Indian society becomes more diverse and influenced by globalization, attitudes toward marriage are also evolving. Many people now prioritize qualities such as mutual respect, emotional compatibility, shared interests, and personal character traits over external appearances. This reflects a broader trend toward seeking deeper connections and compatibility in relationships.

Some individuals may place a greater emphasis on beauty, while others prioritize inner qualities and character traits.

Thanks !!

In the years of early youth, a man only looks at a woman's beauty and does not look at her good or ugly qualities. He thinks of marrying a beautiful woman without thinking about her bad character.

After marriage and the experience of married life, a man knows that beauty with bad character is worth nothing, so I prefer a woman who is not beautiful with beautiful qualities much better.

Beauty is a subjective concept, and it includes not only physical aspects, but also personal qualities. It is very important to realize that the true beauty and value of a person comes from within.
You clearly see and appreciate the qualities of your wife that are superior to appearance. Her intelligence, caring, dedication, ability to be a team player and much more make her beautiful in your eyes. These qualities are much more important in a long-term relationship than appearance.

Physical attraction begins to diminish from the very beginning, and this decline is a continuous process that never ceases. While having a more attractive spouse may delay this decline to some extent, it remains an inevitable reality. Consequently, it becomes evident that the most suitable candidate for marriage is your best friend, someone with whom you share a profound bond beyond physical appearance.

Nowadays I noticed beautiful girls find it hard to marry because they are carried away by their beauty thinking that's all it's takes to get a man but the ones that are not that beautiful tends to build their character because they feel like it's the only thing that will attract men to their sides and it's working because they are actually getting married and building their homes.. while before the others one realized their mistake their age has already gone far and the beauty is fading away slowly..So Good character is a must to consider before getting into marriage because it's a lifetime.. Everyone loves their peace of mind..so I will always choose good character over beautiful face and curves..

My take on marriage is both personal as it is general.

I personally think of the woman I'll marry to be my spec of both beauty (physical appearance)and characteristic advantage which is what every other man under the sun aspire as far as marrying a wife is concerned.

Unfortunately the truth of the matter is that reality has proven and will continue to prove that it always end up to be beyond what the eyes can see.

However ours is a society where the most beautiful girl child is always taken for marriage before her contemporaries irrespective of if she's best behaved or not.

The above mentioned factor is not changing any time soon...

For me though, physical beauty should never be underemphasized knowing that the first attraction to a woman for me is her looks but that doesn't mean I still go ahead if nothing convinces me about the both balances.

You want to marry a woman you will be proud to go to event with, introduce to friends as your wife without thinking of the shame of her body or facial looks...

At the same time you don't want to marry a beauty that will turn to be a beast because of her character bankruptcy

Infact, besides all the factored sentiments, beauty they say is in the eyes of the beholder.

My cup of tea could be your chalice of poison.
Marry who completes you inside-out.

Your wife doesn't need to be beautiful by any social norm, but it needs to be beautiful to you. You can't be married to someone you're not physically attracted to. That's just my two cents.

In marriage, character is most important and should be considered more relevant to beauty, due to beauty will fade away while a good character will last forever. The problem you may have in this process is that Character needs time to assess, it can't be determined at first sight, where as Beauty will be there staring at you for immediate assessment. Beauty can be an entry point but when decision needs to be taken, Character should be taken more important.

In my opinion, the notion of having a specific reason to like or marry someone seems unnecessary. Relying solely on factors like beauty or character as a passkey in choosing a wife can be problematic. When we prioritize beauty, for instance, we may find ourselves in a predicament if we no longer see the same physical attractiveness in our partner. This can lead to feelings of resentment or even hatred towards the person. Similarly, relying solely on character can also have its downsides. A woman may initially pretend to have a good character in order to secure a marriage, only to reveal her true personality after tying the knot.

Instead, I believe that understanding should be the foundation of a successful marriage. When we truly understand and accept our partner, we are better equipped to handle their flaws, including potential character flaws, with grace and patience. We can also appreciate their beauty beyond superficial looks, recognizing the deeper beauty that comes from within. Understanding fosters tolerance and empathy, allowing us to navigate the complexities of marriage with maturity and wisdom.

This only goes to justify the saying that where beauty can not take you, character will or rephrasing, it say, beauty can only take you to the seat of a queen but character determines how long you last there.

The beauty of a woman is her character if she doesn’t have a good character she is not beautiful A good character is the first thing you have to check in a woman before physical beauty

OP, you shouldn’t care one bit about what anybody says about your wife. As long as you have a great relationship & love each other than anything else is outside noise & isn’t important  Great looks don’t last so remember, all the people with beautiful wives better hope they have a great personality too because eventually the looks are going to fade & that’s what they’ll be left with.

A woman with beauty but with no good attributes isn’t a good one to write about, we shouldn’t get carried away with beauties rather the good potentials and good possibilities a woman has to offer in value which is her Character. A woman with mere beauty but zero character isn’t recommendable because there is no possibility and assurance for a stable relationship with such a person. Character says a lot about a woman and not managing the kind of bad character she portrays. In order to enjoy a lasting marriage, it is advisable to look out for a woman with a positive and admirable character rather than the outlook and beauty appearance.

In marriage your beauty it's in your character, there's nothing so beautiful in marriage to having a spouse with a good character that's appealing to you and gives you peace of mind.
Like what's beauty without character? Even the Holy book obviously states that, " it's better to live in the desert than to live in a room with a cantankerous spouse", which goes a long way to express the importance of character and how it can not be overemphasized not just in marriage only but equally in our social economic relations with others.

It all depends on the needs of a man when going into marriage  because non of these qualities are less important ,

So  if a man feels that beauty will bring him joy and peace of mind in his home,  I will advise that he choose it and same goes for character  ,
 but as for me I will go for something that wont  fade with time

 , it could be beauty, it could be character, it could be something else,  I'd sure will know when I'm ready for marriage.  Thanks

The character, behavior, and many other qualities that make a woman suitable as a wife are what you should look for instead of her physical attractiveness because, no matter how attractive she may be, if she does not treat you with respect, goodness, and a good heart, her beauty is worthless. Reading this post reminded me of some men who chased attractive women before getting engaged, only to later be complaining about their union.

beauty for the honeymoon period.(first 7 years) but character if you want it to last until the 60th anniversary

Well you have an unusual combo for a wife. Lots of perfect 10s and a few 2s and 3s.

My wife is very good in emotional support.
My wife is moral but truly moral not bullshit moral. Ie she is not a holy roller that cheats.
My wife is fairly good looking.

So I get good/great character and fair/good looks.

say 9s for character and 7s for looks.

plus she actually likes sex with me never underestimate the value of that.

Her biggest flaw is her brother has dementia and she wants to continue helping him as much as she can.
That is actually a pretty good flaw but it can be exhausting.

I can sincerely say of the few girls I was with before her none were in her class.
So after all the talk I would say personality and character are more important than looks.

so I rather have a wife that was an 8-10 for character and personality and a 5-7 for looks.

Than the other way around.

To be honest as I look at the girls I have been with look wise they were all 5-8

And character wise only my wife was a 8-10.

So it was an easy thing to say she looks okay, but she has heart 💜 so I want her.

Marriage is all about character because when married because of beauty you will end by a young if you are a man and if you are a woman you end up of leaving your husband sounds so it is good for both of you to know your characters before coming into marriage life because marriage life is something that someone should do know very well so that there will be remorse after coming together.

I'm not trying to talk bad of you after taking this bold step to share your burdens with the community over here but It seems you're confused and maybe you might be seeing someone else outside of your wife.
The face and the skin are mere physical attributes can be treated if paid well attention to.
Sincerely you wouldn't realize how much value what you have posses until you lose it. This very saying now points directly to you and you have to rebuke every person that will ever summon such courage to speak ill of your wife to you.
Do you really know how much pains people are going through in their marriages ?
I doubt you do if not you wouldn't for once have a single thought of regretting marrying your wife.
Women generally have alot problem most times and it's very rare having a submissive wife in this out very generation.
I have a friend who works offshores and I'm always with him whenever his around and it haven't been easy because I feel the pains when he complains that he finds peace more when on board than home.
People, if presented with the opportunity will love to marry a woman with both beauty and also character.

So sir my advice to you is that you go work on her physical beauty and be so grateful for all the inner beauty you've got.

When I want to ask a woman for a serious relationship the first what I look at is not her beauty but her character, my wife is wondering why I choose her over the other girl. Well, I tell her that I love her personality which is really what I'm looking for, for her beauty? well it's average for me but I know that if we give our partner enough money I can make her more beautiful than before  . So beauty is still number two when looking at a girl for marriage.

Well that's still different when you're looking for a nightstand tho since we want to fulfill our lust.

If you can, it's a good idea to possess both traits, but for a variety of reasons, I'll focus more on character than beauty. A big issue arises when one lacks decent character while having a gorgeous bride. In fact, character lasts longer than beauty because character can't easily be changed while beauty is more susceptible to change. When someone has a good character partner, they will be easygoing by showing respect for one another, making life plans together, and raising good character children.

Some people who got married because beautiful found it difficult to live in peace. But beauty is still beneficial since you need the attraction component when it comes to the sexual aspect if you want to marry someone.

In life, you can't have everything. You just make do with the little you have and try to be content with it. Yeah, there are beauties with brains out there but sometimes, they lack character. If I go for a woman who's just beautiful, I need to ask myself this question; do I have the means to maintain her? How long will this last?
 
Some people go for beauty just to have bragging rights that they managed to score someone hot. Marriage is like a school where you enter but hardly come out from and as such one need not judge on the physical, but look deeper. Most failed marriages today are as a result of a lack in character and nothing else.

When a man married a beautiful woman, he married more problems. Problems he will married, since the lady is beautiful, there are some people (boys) that are in her compound that likes her so if you married her all those people will become your enemies. And we can see this marrying a beautiful woman with the problems in the book (Novel) of "The Concubine" by A. Amadi. This can also happened to a man who is handsome and a woman married him then all those girls that were eyeing him would become the girls enemy.

And also from the Novel I discovered that all beautiful girls has a spiritual husband which preventing them to get married, and any man who married them must be killed. Unless the girl or the boy is very strong in Christian (born again)

Therefore, marrying a beautiful woman has to be careful. Marrying a good character woman is nice but we need beauty and handsome as well.

Beauty is not enough for marriage. I will prefer a brainy woman to a beautiful woman without brains. The character that attracts me most is a woman who is open to new discoveries, trying out new things and ever ready to learn no matter how difficult it seems. Beauty can be deceptive. I will gladly enjoy an ugly girl with brains than a beautiful girl who has nothing to offer.

Outside that everyone needs a compatible spouse. If my compatibility dwells in a queen who is ugly then it is my duty to make her feel beautiful has much as i can. Facial beauty has landed so many in wrong marriages and relationship I will always chose happiness over facial beauty anyway.

beauty standards in each country or area are different,
beauty is relative
maybe most people say that beauty is white, beauty is slim, but that's all different from people who like the opposite,

basically beauty is relative,
And if you only see beauty without seeing what's in her heart it's a big mistake,
- because beauty is beauty
- but a kind heart is perfection.

When we talk about marriage. Character matter's alost. Come to think of it . People go into married before of love and caring.u can get married to a man that love you so much and he is ready to do anything for you.let just say after five months.think change he will start complaining . some of the girls are beautiful but u don't have character.some are ugly but with Brian.
Married is all about endurance and Patience. Respect  your husband and take your responsibility ask a wife . married is all about understanding and build  your truth. Some of the ladies hide their character when dating and after getting married to them. They will
 change their character and turn to something else , just pray that God should give you the right person as your husband or your wife some people into married because the Man that wants to marry her has money not thinking of the consequences of going in that married. Think before going into any married because is not easy ask you think my advice for those who wants go into married is that u have to think twice and ready to take ur responsible ask wife or husband . A wife must have a good plan and focus on how to plan with the family . The character first before beauty . Getting a beautiful wife without characters waste of time
 

Well, I think that would be an assumption on your part. Maybe you may have had a nasty experience with those educated, self centered women, and have decided to base your judgement, but there are still educated females out there who rake in the cash but still remain humble, submissive and respectful to their husbands.

 I think character trumps beauty any day.

I have to be attracted but character is a necessity.

First wife was big in church, cheated on me.

Second wife was innocent girl next door type, cheated on me.

(they both had massive childhood flaws, neither blamed it on me)

Had a stripper girlfriend that treated me perfectly and fought for me like a shield madden. Loyal as a good hunting dog. But she wanted kids and I was done with that already.

Sometimes you just don't know until you know.  Thing aren't always what they seem.

agree. be wary to educated women who has better job income than you or you will take commands from her. i've seen women who could shout to their husband in front of their friends. its degrading to the man.

or sometimes it takes a lifetime to know a person. when you both have to face new problems/situations, this is when you get to know the real characteristics of your partner.

As for me those are not qualities but there are some of the generally accepted features of a beautiful woman. A woman is beautiful when she has those things but a good charactered man can marry a woman base those features. If a man married a woman from the beautiful attributes then he might make a ever lasting mistake in his life. But when a man married a woman with the good qualities then the man would also be happy. From the biblical inference, that is why the Bible says, "whoever findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord". Proverbs 18:22. Therefore, before you get married, you have to seek the face of the Lord first before you go into.


The above mentioned are not features but qualities of a woman. Every man wants his woman (wife) to be economical. Extravagant spending of a woman is not yet ready for good home. A wife must have good plans and focus with her husband to build the family. And also a good husband will give his salary to his wife to manage. Remember woman is the last born (creature) of God, therefore, man must pet her through out the marriage. Whether she is educated or not.

In this present days, educated women are giving more problems to their husbands more than the village girls. Marry a woman that is good for you all depends on your character

Both or nothing!

the character first before beauty. Finding someone with beauty and character is a bonus.

When a marriage is centred on beauty, it ends in disaffection and regrets during body changes in the child's bearing and old age. But when you go for the character, there will be room for peace and harmony. A good character gives peace of mind.

Nothing beats marrying a man or woman that possesses good character. Beauty without character only impounds discomfort in marriage and before you'd know it, you guys get divorced.

If this is about a good wife, then I prefer character. Many people around me say that beauty is just bonus. A priest I know said, be careful to choose who's going to be your wife/husband, because the regret is a lifetime (you would wash your face with tears everyday). Just like other people comment here, ignore that society call your wife ugly. This modern era give good looking person even more benefits that it used to be. Beauty will fade away, as a man, we will always looking for younger beautiful girl. A wise woman is like a treasure.

Beauty is the first thing that attracts any one to approach you, give you a second glance or even go as far as getting the urge to know more about you. But I've known over the years that beauty can take you to a king's palace, but it is character that keeps you.
 People these days are so engrossed in the art of being beautiful that they forget to build their characters and you things like "beauty 100%, but character 0." At that time, people will see you for whom you are, a beautiful face and nothing more.
 Beauty fades, character doesn't.

A beautiful person without good character ,is nothing to write home about ,many may like a beautiful person but later get to hate the person because of the bad character,Many may not like a person because the person is not beautiful but will definately like the person because of a good character.

When choosen a partner for marriage it is always advisable not to go for beauty but rather go for attitude,good charcter and good personality.
Beauty without good attitude is a write off ,Ugliness with good character is a go. Considering this two goes a long way in decision making ,Beauty will not raise a family but good character will ,beauty will not sustain a family but good character does,Beauty will not train kids but good character will and give them good up bringing. Beauty will not keep a marriage but good character will.

Beautiful characters is all that matters not just a Beautiful face, Beautiful fades away. But the the character will be always there and that' is what attract people to closer. When the character is ugly it irritates people.  The face cab be fine but when the character is ugly it makes the entire personality ugly.

Even a woman with all these qualities and no good attitude or character becomes ugly as time goes on. They look attractive at the beginning but when you get to know them better or get to marry them, You will see thier true colour and regret every time you've spent with them. Although, its good to have a beautiful wife but its better to have a wife with a good character.

From what i know woman don't fine physical for me the place i look at the beauty of woman is through character and good character woman is woman that can tolerate you as husband a woman that can cook and tidy untidy environment without the husband reminder but some people married because of face appearance of woman and that make men end their marriage home broken

Marriage now a days is lot of of people   not only the appearance both woman and man they are searching what is there status there life ,if you like that your a wise person.If true love comes whatever who you are is acceptable,not just because beauty also charater  how you to hold the relationship being couples,so you can stay longer for marriage right.If marriage is only beauty and you think is can display your partner outside your home ,but cannot do anything about to your relationship as a couple that is  unsuccesful marriage.In fact ,now is not just beauty too also status of life ,if how you drive your life while living.

The question is, what's beauty?
Is it a matter of the physical looks or an innate personality thing, or the both?
Rhetorical as these questions may be, when it comes to marriage, my peace of mind I get from the person is what I regard as beauty to me.

Even the Holy Book (Bible), talks about a "a woman who's beautiful but lethal" in character.
So if your woman gives you a sense of peace and harmony within you as you have recorded some above from the OP, then Bro, to me you have one of the most beautiful woman on Earth.

Don't let the physical decieve you.

You are lucky that your wife has much beauty in her character. She possesses many qualities that you described. In fact, She is your good partner in life. She sacrifices for you cares for you, and Accompanies you in trouble. I think you should also give her respect and value because she is also the mother of your children and giving them good education and training.As concern face beauty etc.. This is not for ever and permanent.

When the said beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, I don't think it meant that someone who isn't beautiful can be seen as beautiful from another person.

In my own opinion, I'll say, different strokes works for different persons, people admire others differently, but truly, the real beauty of a woman lies in her character and not in her physical attributes, of what gain would it be if you get entangled to some one whose physical attractive but inwardly ugly??

Nothing, you'll rather lose instead of add value which is supposed to be the Paramount thing in any relationship.

For me I'd rather choose character, beauty fades as times goes by, while character will remain as it is if you safeguard it well. I am a happy married man and even though I don't have a beautiful (in your definition) wife to brag to the public or the community, I am grateful because she has the good character. Aside from that, if I had a beautiful wife and other men staring at her would get me jealous and mad, they could be fantasizing and all stuffs unimaginable. I don't want to display her beauty and all, that sexy body and fine skin, it is a temptation to other. Also we have our own definitions of beauty, for me all is creations are beautiful, I have a religion and believed that GOD's creations are beautiful in their own way.

For Marriage, I'd say it's a bit of both for me (Character & beauty) and other things. You wouldn't just want to marry a beautiful face without character, that marriage wil never be peaceful, and you can also not just marry Character without any form of beauty, you would like for your partner to be presentable in public as well, that is beautiful, because that is first thing everyone see's before character.

 

People who chose beauty over character in marriage mostly battle all sort of issues from one end to another which in turn led to divorce. The true beauty is character, if you posses a good character then you definitely are beautiful. Welcome to my world!

Humans rarely find someone with both a physical attractiveness and a personality to fit theirs like a puzzle.  This is why some relationships are seen by the public as 'Beauty and the Beast'.  At first glance we tend to care about physical attractiveness, but that is not the real beauty in humans.  The real beauty is the inner one, and you only see it when you look for it.

I have heard so many married couples say they thought their partner was ugly when they first met.  There is no real definition for beauty though, is there?  How do we define how an appalling woman is supposed to look?  It is nowadays all based on what celebrities and the upper class look like.

Do not feel ashamed of having a wife the society thinks is ugly.  If you find your personalities to fit each other and you feel well with her, it means you are in the right place.  If decades ago being fat was a shame, today it is seen as sexy.  Let what the society determines to be beautiful be just a silly trend and nothing else.

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Although there are no generally acceptable feature of a beautiful woman, but there are some physical qualities that we see in a woman and assume she’s beautiful. Large eyes, white teeth,  big smile, the curvature of the spine, a waist-to-hip ratio of .67 to .80, glowing skin, thick and healthy hair are all beauty qualities. We hear slim is beautiful, fair is lovely, fat is shaming.

My wife doesn’t have these qualities. To make matters worse, she is suffering from a skin disease that makes her skin very unpleasant to behold. People always tell me that my wife is ugly. Sometimes I feel bad and want to regret marrying her, but these few attributes keeps me going.

Intelligence: My wife is extremely brainy. My children don’t have issues with their academics because she is the best teacher.

Contentment: She has never encouraged me to spend money on what we don’t need. My wife ensures we live or spend based on our income. Borrowing or loans is a taboo in our home. And she has taught our children contentment.

Caring: I and the children always feel her absence when she travels. She ensures that I don’t lack both physical and emotional support.

Selfless: The first laptop I had was a gift from her. She had to sacrifice part of her business money for me to get that device.

Team player: We are the best match. My weakness is her strength and my strength is her weakness. She is my better half.

Like I stated before, sometimes I look at her unattractive face and skin and I wish she wasn’t my wife. But her good character informs me that I am married to the most beautiful woman in the world.