Topic: Mental health awareness friends (Read 502 times)

We can't live alone, no man is an Island, we really need some friends.
Everyone has our own problem but if we will just keep it to ourselves, that will trigger a suicide.
I'm lucky I am close with my family, everytime I feel upset or feel bad with whatever reason, I can easily approach them to tell my problem and seek advise.

I think having this space is important and necessary to know we are all here for each other. We all get into those funks and hard times but ultimately knowing anyone at anytime can save another person's life is so important. Even internet friends.

So is it really depression or does she have some other mental health issues? 6-7 years on meds is too much.

I was asking coz I have an uncle who turns out to be slightly schizophrenic. Everyone thought he's just being weird or something or somewhat depressed and my mom wouldn't believe me when I told her I saw talking to the wall when I was in grade-school. They ended up putting him on meds a few years ago when his behavior deteriorated. He's calmer now but seems he'd have to be on it for life though to treat the symptoms.

Back to your friend, has the family tried CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)? I heard people use it in conjunction with meds, with the end goal being able to rely solely on it and get off meds.

Sorry about your friend but keeps on cheering her up, there's more about life.

As long as she won't think about something bad, she needs support from her friends too. An expert on this should really come out here and tell the possible solution for this kind of case.

I hope that she'll be good as soon as possible.

I have a friend who also suffers from depression and it's fortunate that her family realized it and started treating her. She takes those medicines and then becomes blank and emotionless as if she can't hear anybody. It's been over 6-7 years and she's not cured yet. She has visited many doctors but still is not cured completely. Don't know what to do to help her out.

Yeah seems that no one is a mental health worker here but our concern would somehow help as well by giving them care on how we are worried about what they're going through.

I recently read a report that giving money to depressed people reduces the suicide rate.  What a shocker, who would of thought?

Shareholders only care about the bottom line, they don't care about their employees.  Look at those suicide net factories over in China, maybe they could of paid their workers more and worked them less hours instead.

Exactly, that's the impression I got from the few mental health docus I've seen. The family seem clueless that something is already going wrong and they'll be surprised when the suicide happens. "He never told me anything" is usually the first thing they say.

I don't think we have mental health workers here in the forum. This thread already have 3 pages, they would have already shown up by now.

Anyway, if you guys need someone to talk, this thread is still open.

I bold the part that we're all concerned with.

Somebody who's going through a tough time with depression, he/she will never talk about it. We can see them smile, talk about happiness but deep inside the pain hurts them. Online, on social medias, I see some of my friends offering themselves that they are free to talk with if you're feeling uncertain and is likely going through with same feeling.

Are you talking about the depressed members or the therapists. But yes, I found members here quite helpful.

The thing with depressed people is they rarely talk about it in person. Especially guys, who tend to commit suicide more often due to depression. Online, it would be easier for them to talk since they're anonymous.

Such people though are very unlikely to be actively articipating in threads like this. Though if anyone opens up, i think most of us active in the forums wouldn't mind sharing even small pieces of support. It's usually the people who personally know a person having troubles with their mental health that needs to reach out and take initiatives.

I'm not thinking of donations. It's likely the money would be used for some other necessities first instead of hiring a therapist anyway.

What I'm hoping is that we have members who have mental health training who can stakeout in this thread to answer questions from members needing guidance.

Thank you for sharing this. I believe mental health is something that so many of us deal with or know someone that has mental health problems. The right community and activities really help. Also a job you are passionate and happy about

There is still a strong stigma around mental awareness and many people do not take it seriously.  Trauma has a profound effect on us and our brain is an organ that can have issues just like any other part of our body.  People pretend like they care when someone is already dead but when asked for help beforehand very few will lend a helping hand.

We always start to develop mental issues after experiencing some unusual problem and and shocked and what happened to you is just one of those things.  I think what you are planning to do is going to help many of us in developing our mind again after some depressive time.

There are actually organizations that helps this kind of illness for free, since they are also getting fundings from the millionaires or some rich people and even the government. It's just that you have to go to the right person. Lastly, for me the best solution really is the awareness you should have to be aware of the people around you.

That right when one is not able to solve life challenges that face him or her on a daily basis it hard to get motivation in such conditions, but the fact still remains the same no sane person will consider taking his own life but to people with mental problems any form of anxiety and depression will high rate of mental instability which in most cases leave them with no choice then to take to suicide. People with mental problems need more love from the society.

This is so hard actually we couldn't see the signs then we would feel guilty because we know to ourself that we could have done something to avoid it.
This is why we shouldn't take anything for granted we should cherish every moment and do our best to enjoy it.
And I wish this thread would help for those member of this forum who are having a hard time.
May your friend rest in peace OP.

The problem starts from the person that experience depression, they aren't even willing to share it.

It's kinda hard to figure out, they need someone to talk to in most times though seeking mental health professionals would contribute big help to conquer this kind of suffering.

I always considered anxiety a thing of weak minded people. Thought people who are not strong enough would face that problem and needs willingness to get out of it. But now I found out that's not always the case.
Though I'd call me as mentally fit as one can be, I sometimes have panic attacks. Don't know exactly what triggers them but they makes me feel pathetic.
I feel like I'm going out of breath, fainting, having a heart attack, a nausea, the nerves in my brain bursting or all at once.

As mentioned by others early in this thread a lot of people that suffer from depression is because a lack of money.  I doubt anyone here is willing to just hand out money to people suffering from mental illness.  Moral support only goes so far when you can't afford the necessities to live.

RIP

Do you guys know if we have members that are mental health professionals? Surely we can cheer each other up and provide moral support in this thread but it would be really helpful if there are people who know how to properly address issues such as depression.

Hello bitgirluk, sorry for your loss. Losing a friend can't be compared to any precious thing in this world.

This is a serious problem that the person dealing with it doesn't even want others to know that they have it, why? because they are afraid that people will make fun of them. Depression is truly one of the hardest disease to fight with especially if you are alone and no one is helping you to cheer up.

If someone is on this condition too, feel free to message me, let's talk about on how beautiful life is. Keep on fighting!

Our mind is a tricky little thing. I went through ups and downs so many times and looking back it always amazes me how the way we see our own situation can be different from reality. To give you an example, when I was at school and my parents were paying my bills I was so happy with the little things. My ups and downs depended on a bad mark I was given at school, or the fact that I won against my friends in a computer game. A simple thing like going to the cinema with friends could make my day, even though I had very little money, no car, no job and had to live with my parents.

Later in life I had it all up a level. My own house, a girlfriend, a job, a car, and it started to take much more to make me happy. A simple meeting with a friend or going to the movies became like eating or drinking. To feel good I had to spend a lot of money, earn a lot from investments, or win in gambling. I was missing all the little things that I loved as a teenager. Back then, buying a new book or a computer game was the event of the day. Now it's just a couple clicks in an online store that I can do while taking a dump.

The bottom line is, when you feel down think about all the little things that you're missing out on. They are happening all around you! You usually aren't depressed because you're in deep shit all of a sudden. You just fail to appreciate the good moments and lose balance.

Mental imbalance is now on the increase this days I just watched on the news now how a man killed himself just because he couldn't afford to pay bills and take care of his family need and children out of school because he can't afford to pay the fees. My question is why is it that it men that suffered much from mental stress then women.

Sorry for the loss of your friend.
Mental health issue is a serious health challenge that many do not know exist.
In my country, most people think that it's only when one removes clothes and start walking nakes on the streets .
They fail to understand that mental health goes beyond that.
I have been depressed quite a few times, mine was triggered by family related issues and such at times, I tend to be want to be alone.
I can stay in the bedroom for the whole day and I get flared up at any slightest provocation.
I also tend to scream at my kids.
People may not understand what a depressed person passes through each Time.
What they need is care and assurance that they are well loved.

If you are in a place to help someone from relieve their mental strength then just do it,most of the people will cry once their loved ones died but they never care about how they are living their life.

Even myself realized that much strength but I have the mental strength to get out from it.

Sorry at that,I attribute depression to an increase and The reason for this is the constant pressure of life.
Poverty is the real cause of depression,Most depressed people do not like to show their feelings.
We can avoid this by providing support from friends.

As of todays many people and young men/women here in my country the Philippines suffer from mental health isseus as well and one of them is deppresion that usually starts from bullying others and to a fact that is because of acceptance.


people today here are so mad especially for kids who makes time bully verbaly that they dont care what the other person will do. Also to my concern the one who bullies have the problem as well and the same time the victim, from my point of view is the affected one. The reason I must say is yes, acceptance of people meaning they are body shaming results low self estem and the last thing that victim would do is to die from the results of depression.

As a registered general nurse, it hurts me more when I here of issues like this. sorry for your loss. someone will even ask that what is mental health?
It is the psychological well being or adequate adjustment, particularly as such adjustment conforms to the community accepted standards of behavior.
It is also defined as the full and harmonious function of the whole personality. It is the adjustment of human beings to the world and to each other with a maximum effectiveness and happiness. This places emphasis on element of personality made up of ID,EGO,AND SUPEREGO. An individual is said to be mentally sick if he or she fails in his adjustment with his or her environment and so exposed conspicuously. Any family member or friend found exhibiting signs that you consider a failure in adjustment should be taken to the nearest psychologist for immediate action to be taken.

People will call them as coward when they quit their life by themselves but it is not happened because of him only surrounding causes more stress and made a decision like this.When we have someone to share our feelings then most of the people won't be much stressed but not everyone have that special person,sadly.

Hearing this kind of death news is really so hurting. Specially when that person is a friend. Depression is a disease which has no medicine but prevent by own. Its really hard to give those person company where they believe that there's no way left for him/her. Sometime great counseling can heal their mental pressure where the chances rate is lower.

I have no words to give you condolences for your friend death. We can learn a good lesson from this that if we do something like that from mental depression and think that there's no one to think about us then its completely wrong because we have so many well wisher like OP who will surrounded by complete sadness after committing this kinda unwanted things.

That's a big loss, human lives seems to go wasted. First of all we need to be very careful in handling such circumstances. When one is into mental stress it is very hard to find whats running within them. What can be done by us is the consoling words. One who committed themself to die and someway escaped will never think of suicide.

As someone who has been in this situation, I can say that the best thing you can do is find strength in yourself. If you can't, then turn to someone that cares to help guide you. You can PM me any time to chat about things if you would like, and that goes for anyone reading this message.

If you are young you are time rich, anything under 40 and you have time to work things out.  Even over 40 you can get your health and wealth together.  Go see someone and sart to work on a daily routine which will condition your body/mind for the better.

Its for sure a contributing factor. If you dont have good solid finances you dont feel settled in life.  I have always found therapist or counselling helpful at all times.  You also need to consider being physically fit and eat a decent diet + no alcohol/drugs.  Its a challenge.

I love your empathy and anything I can do to help your cause, just PM me. I'll make the time.

Wow! That must be painful for you and I can relate with the guilt you're feeling. Sometimes we only see the value of the person when they are already gone and then we feel regret that we didn't do the right thing when they were still around. Sometimes we are too busy with our own lives than we can hardly notice the changes in our loved ones behaviors but with the story you shared, it is an eye opener and made me think of my loved ones at this moment. Sorry for your loss.

I'm suicidal and the sole reason is because of lack of money.  I can't afford to have somewhere to live and afford food.  I'm under constant stress because of this and want to kill myself.

You have ZERO clue as to what the hell you are talking about. Not motivated for lifes challenges??  Depression doesnt Fade away it gets a little better or worse it NEVER fades away.

Yeah. Look after each other, esecially if you know already how it feels to be depressed. I know quite a few and talked to people undergoing such hardships and what i learned is that they'd rather keep things to themselves than open up to others, which makes it difficult to spot who needs help. I think awareness should also be spread that if you're suffering from depression and you know it, talk to soneone. I'm pretty sure that a lot of people are willing to listen.

Sorry about your lost , it is really hard to believe that they could do it suicide isn't the answer to their problem.
It is so sad they we couldn't help them even if were there for them everytime ,
There are some people who are so good in hiding their real emotion ,
They might be laughing outside but in the inside they are deeply wounded and struggling to continue on living.

I strongly disagree with you, Meanwhile the highest suicidal rate in Asia is Japan considering the fact that they are one of the richest country in Asia therefore the idea alone is already invalid. On the other hand Philippines only have less than 4% knowing also the fact that this is one of the countries who has a lot of poor people.

The real problem here is the lack of two A's

Appreciation and Acceptance = Appreciate what you have, Accept what you no longer / don't have



There are indeed people who were taking advantage of the struggling person. I did it because I have too and since I am the only one who noticed it plus I know how it feels then I just feel the responsibility to take action

I hear that ! I can tell you before now I’ve almost reached melting point with financial strain before . And my friend actually did take his life because of financial strain and was too embarrassed to tell anyone. It’s why I thought of this forum. It’s definitely true socio economics play a huge role in the lack of mental stability in people’s lives. I’m not saying money directly makes people happy there are plenty of rich people who are miserable, but money definitely does alleviate a lot of stress and provides security.

I don’t have that completely yet, but I can’t wait to reach the day when I don’t have to worry about money.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m doing ok , and I fully accept what has happened. I’m very eager to turn this negative into a positive by being more aware of mental illness .

I know that some people view suicide in different ways and you have the right absolutely to your opinion and it often leaves people behind really quite angry. You put the reasons for anxiety and depression and the solution to it so simply, but in all honesty it’s really not simple at all. Regardless of the level of motivation to the individual , that doesn’t always solve life’s challenges. And problems don’t always just fade away like that. From a personal perspective I can say each individual is different but the common trait that people with mental illness share is suffering and it’s a very tough journey for people to overcome it.

This thread might be completely useless , but if it serves any positivity at all then I think I’ve done my friends memory justice . And that makes me happy. Just a simple conversation can be someone’s lifeline.

It’s is definitely a good idea if you are lucky enough to have a support network to talk to people closer to you, but also there’s options of Samaritans and the benefit of strangers online you can trust that it won’t be used against you in anyway and there’s no judgment . Indeed a problem shared is a problem halved .

You’re a decent person for taking the time to talk to your friend and reassure her of having at least one supportive person. It can make all of the difference.

Stay strong! You can go through that, just pray and start to move on even it's so difficult. We all have that kind of experience even not on death by someone but someone we use to loved and separated with them, no matter how difficult is that, we should accept that. I know how difficult is that because I already experienced that, we also lost one of our college friends before.

The truth is that a lot of mental illness comes from lack of money.  As long as the current economic system reigns supreme there will be a huge segment of the population stuck in real poverty.  Financial stress causes constant stress to your brain until you reach a breaking point.

So sorry about that but in all no body have the right to take his own life no matter the the level of your anxiety or depression, we all need to know that depression is developed when you lack the motivation to face life challenges that comes your way. But in all just know that everything fades away with time.

I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you as well for bringing this one up, I've been also suffering for the same condition worst would be last year tho luckily right now I am on the process of recovering

I know that as person who struggle for this type of problem, the first thing we should do is to reach out but that is exactly the problem. While talking to a person who is also been struggling with this(she actually has a worse struggle than I do). The first thing that came up with my mind is that they are not sharing it because they can't share it or they are not willing to share it. The very first thing I did is to have an initiative to talk to her as I am feeling that there is something wrong as I have also experienced it during that time.

That friend of mine suddenly started crying, I can't even understand her reasons for having the struggle so basically I can't do something about it. She only keeps on telling me the emptiness she has been feeling and even her parents aren't aware of it.  I was quite happy tho because even if I can't give her solutions. she have shared it and at least let some of the pain goes away.

After that I constantly talk to her and also tell her that I've had the same struggle (tho, my reason is quite obvious it is because I can no longer live the life I wanted to because of my health issues).

To end this post, I just want to tell everyone to please have an initiative to talk to those persons who are important to you. Just let them feel that you are just here willing to listen to their problems. By doing that you might be able to save someone's life.

I am sorry to hear that. While I appreciate your sentiment in this thread, I would suggest you look closely within your shared group of friends and reach out to them as statistically speaking when some one ends their life others close to them often follow. IMO this is where you are most likely to make the biggest difference.

I lost a friend recently who took his own life. I had no idea how he was feeling to the run up of this and didn’t get to say goodbye. I feel guilty that I didn’t see the signs. I also suffer from depression and anxiety myself but have been in a good place and reshaped my life in the past couple of years.

I’d like to offer this thread in my friends memory to chat to anyone who is suffering from mental health issues and needs to vent or offload. I’m not a counsellor or professional but I am a caring person and will offer anyone my time to offer a reply.


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