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iluvpie60: Absolutely, it takes two to tango! When you are first meeting, DO NOT CORRECT THEM!! But once you work out relationship guidelines, you can do so, respectfully. It is a learning process. Thank you for the response, iluvpie60!!

* If any of you guys have any questions regarding women or their point of view, you are more than welcome to message/contact me!

One very important thing you outlined here I agree with and I feel has to be repeated, TRY NOT TO CORRECT other people so much in general. I personally get into a zone where I try to correct someone on everything and it ALWAYS comes off as either me being an a-hole or me being a know it all and people get angry when someones always tries to be a know it all. For sure ^ do not correct someone when they are telling an emotional story also. In your example they hate that street, they are expressing the emotion and a lot of the way guys think is in terms of "solving the problem" and that happens wayyy too much. Now maybe that is just because of how things usually were, in most cultures the men were the leaders/problem solvers so maybe that is why we are so hard wired that way, its like a  different language. Guys need to focus on trying to speak the same language as women to relate better. At the same time women can also put a step forward to speak the same language as a guy(if they are not on the same level).

It takes two to tango(unless you have an imaginary partner)!!!

From where I am from, for the most part the girls are way more immature than the guys, and the guys are always wearing their heart on their sleeve. The guys around where I am act more like scared shy people, while the girls are like out and about acting tough, being loud and proud, making better jokes than guys, being the dominate one. It is very weird where I live. Almost every single girl I have known feels entitled and gets "their way" when they want it(except my current gf). I can't stand people in this town for the most part because it is turning into a ghetto and everyone is living with their parents because so many jobs are going away due to government policies that make it cheaper to send jobs overseas(EPA/IRS).

I am all for women being equal and whatever, but around here its women are equal PLUS MORE and guys get treated like they are disposable. Growing up here, if a girl didn't like you she would tell on you and get you in trouble, she would lie and make up and story she wanted just to get you in timeout. It happened all the time to many, many guys. The teachers always believe the girls because "girls can't lie because they are so sweet". The female teachers seriously have a personal vendetta against guys in the city of Erie, PA. Girls used to beat guys up during recess, no joke. Like 5 to 6 girls would start punching another random guy to the ground for legitimately no reason(then they would take our football and not give back). They are freaking savages here(the public school people are). One of the girls used to beat up a guy every day at the end of school, and would literally bounce guys heads off the pavement. Everyone told on her but the teachers didn't care, but when a guy fights another guy ohhh there is hell to pay and get suspended.

I feel like so many issues are coming up about guys unsure of how to get a girl because the girls are becoming more and more masculine. I honestly experienced this where I live and it wasn't just some elementary school/middle school bs, it went all the way through high school too(a public one).

There are some odd combinations that people go for. Anecdotally and through some reading, I have seen girls who are masculine who date guys who are masculine and they work out fine. Other times the girl is masculine and needs to date a more feminine male(my girlfriends sister is the masculine dominate one in that relationship and the guy is a pushover who is funny and literally subservient to her whims).

In the end most women who are more masculine end up with a more feminine guy, but its years later and that is if they "truly understand" what they actually need vs what they think they want.

More importantly though, why do you have to win a girl over. Why can't they win you over? Like I always say, feminism is equality for women + more is why.

As a women, I am asked this fairly often. After hearing tons of women talk/gossip/share their perspective and experience, I would answer the question: "How do I obtain someone of the opposite sex" as follows:
1. Descent/good looks- the only reason this is the first characteristic is because although looks may be "superficial", it is the first thing you notice and may intrigue someone to converse with you. If you want casual sex/fling this is important... if you want a real meaningful relationship, there are much more important characteristics.
2. HUMOR! I cannot emphasize this trait enough for men. Women love a funny guy. If you can make her laugh, you truly can make her do anything. Once a guy makes a women laugh constantly, studies show that the women actually see the male as more attractive, although their physical features have not changed obviously.
3. Nice/Sensitivity- Women love a man that can somewhat understand them and show their sensitive side sometimes (not tooo much- that can be a turn off too). **PIECE OF ADVICE TO FAKE IT** If you hear a girl you are into complain about something.. go with it & DON'T ARGUE.. for example- GIRL: " I hate when I run into traffic on this street." .. rather than telling her she should take another way, even though it is true.. just say.. YOU: "yeah, that is really annoying." Be careful to not correct the girl too much (at first.. once you are in a relationship some of these rules may change)
4. Compassion- girls like guys who show compassion and passion... volunteering can be a major turn on.. and willingly hang out with their friends and family is important too.
5. SECURITY/STABILITY- (this should be ranked much higher, but quite frankly, I do not feel like rearranging the numbers or rewriting anything hehe) It is soooo important for women to find a man that works hard and provides some financial security in her life, even if she does not need it. No one wants to take care of their significant other while they lounge around... DO NOT BE A BUM! Not only should you HAVE a job.. you should be able to KEEP a job! A college degree is a huge turn out and proves some future stability!
6. Read the situation- not all women are the same...duh! So you must gauge some of your actions after talking with the girl more. LISTEN TO HER!!!! It will mean a lot that you listened to her.. even when she was talking about something as simple as her dogs name.. it shows you care.
7. Do not try to hard! A connection should come naturally.. women are just people too, and although it may be hard to not put someone you think is super attractive on a pedestal, try and remind yourself of that... CONFIDENCE is key!
I hope this helps some of you guys!! Good Luck 

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I don't know man, sounds pretty hollow to me. I don't buy the whole 'I pretend now but will be a better person later because of it'. Call me a dreamer but I also don't believe in 'wining someone over'. If you need to make an effort to be with someone, it means that there was no connection between the two of you to begin with. When you pretend, you're essentially creating a different version of yourself and if she falls for you, she'll actually be falling for the 'pretend you'. This means that throughout your relationship you'll have to constantly expend energy to maintain your purported self. In the long term, as the novelty of 'having her' wears off, your ROI slowly turns to negative. As the gratification you get from being with her becomes less, it becomes a hassle to maintain your pretend self. Sometimes stuff like that lasts for years and then one day you find you can no longer pretend and you break up.
Sorry if I sound a bit cold 

Well if you are a younger than me it is kinda hard, because some girls are still "immature" in what they look for in a guy. They look for a guy who is always making them smile 100% of the time, a guy who constantly does things in a "big" way, a guy who is all puffing their chest out and being loud and proud and the life of the party. Too many times I see girls date those guys and later in life those guys are still a-holes and cheat on everyone.

If she still views you as just a friend she could still be immature, but we always have to remember another part of the equation, and that is you. What can you do to improve yourself? I guess most people never take the time to think about that, or maybe they do but nothing gets done or they half ass it. If you really want to date her, you could learn what her other boyfriends did and act like them, but then you might be acting fake. After awhile of acting fake it really gets to a person, then you might or might not realize that you want to stop being fake. I could never be fake because I just won't allow myself to do it. I won't act like some tough guy and blah, even though I know some martial arts and shoot guns regularly and am pretty well built. I just don't have a tough guy persona, I am too helpful and tell jokes a lot.

What kinda guys did she date before and why? What made them break up? You can make the logical argument to her that she should date you because of "X" reasons. But love is not very logical, its emotional!

So then comes the emotion part, get on the same level as her. Find out what she values in a partner and try to do those things. It isn't being fake if you become a better person in the process. Like say you were not good at listening before, but now over a few months you listen better to her, that is learning and growing as a human. But if you have to act like a tough macho guy who has to always come off as "mysterious" and "disinterested" in her to win her over, then she is probably still immature. Thats something only time can fix(maybe)

enjoy and make it a great day!

hehe, to be honest i type pretty fast, especially if i dont care about my grammarrrrr weeeee!!

That was so well-written and helpful. I find that you should weigh personality to looks maybe 70% or 80% because in 20 years when looks doesn't matter, you will have a nice wife who is not a b*tch. If you have a really attractive wife but doesn't have a good personality, you probably will end up with a spoiled b*tch who will divorce you and try to take your money.
I just asked someone out, a girl that is very attractive and has an amazing personality. We both like video games, we both like food, and we share lots more things in common. I feel like she is the perfect match for me, but she replied "Sorry, but I like you as a friend". What do you think I should do next? I feel like she's the only girl for me, and I couldn't imagine dating anyone else.
Thanks alot for your help, I will use this information throughout my life.

Please excuse the punctuation, too long for me to type this out and keep it legit lol. Enjoy the read hope it helps you.



Some countries let you own your wife and force women to marry to a guy they never met. If that is what you are talking about try changing your cultural surrounding or moving to a different country.

Now if you just want to date another person of the opposite sex that is a different story. Most girls that you will find attractive will not be the right fit, I made this mistake a few times of thinking they are attractive I can make it work, NOPE. I have dated 5 girls in my life so far(I am 25) and had a one night stand with a girl from my high school. Two girls have dumped me and I have dumped the other 3. My current girlfriend I am pretty confident will be my wife as we connect on every level and she is also attractive(been dating 6 years). My previous girlfriends taught me some lessons of what I am actually looking for in a life partner.

Girlfriend 1 taught me the hard way girls can mess around with your head and do weird stuff, she was attractive and played Hockey and was into sports like I was. She was controlling and was like wanting to know everything I ever did, we were both about 9. I dumped this one.

Girlfriend 2 so I went to a new school, this girl asked me out point blank because she thought I was hot(I am really more just good looking for the most part, not hot or sexy or any of that). She and I dated for like 2 weeks, then some A-holes started spreading rumors about me cuz I was the new kid, then things got awkward really fast and she dumped me. I was 10 or 11

Girlfriend 3 showed me I was too shy with females. I was sooo shy I didn't even kiss her for the first few months and then it got awkward. I am a relatively good looking guy and when I was young I didn't have much confidence and I was shy(I am not now at all). This relationship literally ended because of me being shy and not being a confident person. We got along fine and talked fine, but that is only good enough to be friends with someone most of the time. I was 14 on this one. I dumped this one.

Girlfriend 4 taught me girls can lie right to your face and that you have to be wary. She was cheating on me with a guy who she used to date, and was actually using me to get back at him for some stupid shit. I was 15 and so was she, this guy was 18 or 19. Creepy rite?? I dumped this one.

Girlfriend 5 this girlfriend taught me that I settled for someone who is boring because I didn't want more drama in my life. I got a long with her, I had almost no similar interests at all though. I barely liked the shows she watched on t.v. and she usually read a lot of boring books, I usually read sci fi and fantasy type books(i watch history channel for real stuff usually). so we got along, but if I ever swore she cried... it made no sense... she was so annoyingly controlling in the fact she would not let me swear ever... even though her friends would swear around us and drop f bombs all the time, if I also said it around them she would get embarrassed(her friends all thought I was ok to hang with though). eventually she started working at subway, we had tons of fights all the time cuz she started working 50 to 60 hours a week(we are both 18 at this point) and she was always stressed out because she kept working soo much. She didnt need the money, she wanted the money. she lived at home and had no expenses and didnt even want to move out(even though she could have). she ended up dumping me after we were fighting for the last few months. she now has a kid with some random dude and he left her and now she is with some other guy i think. i did wish her to have a nice life later on and we did talk for a few hours years later to catch up. but there is no real point talking to an ex tbh imo of course.

Girlfriend 6 is my current one, we went through college together and get along almost perfectly. with her I feel she has changed how i see things in life and i have deff improved my overall character. i do more things for others now and have leveled out more and we are both into a lot of the same stuff. i even started reading some of her books because they are actually good. Ready Player One is awesome, about video games and she bought it and read it and said i should too, she was right! F-ing sweet book. seriously buy it and check it out. she looks like a blonde elf with blue eyes and i love that look its amazing. the key factor with her is that she identified a lot of bad things i needed to get better on and i like improving things(my current job is improving things at factory level detail and operations stand point).

There were some other girls I went on dates with between these other girls. One girl I took to the movies and she asked me if I was into "animal porn", which disgusted me and I never talked to her again(she is actually pretty hot too and still is). Another girl i went on a date to the mall, she saw one of her exboyfriends and the guy was actually dating another girl, the ex bf decided to be a douche and kissed my date right on the lips for a solid few seconds and pissed off his own gf lol.. needless to say i stopped talking to that girl(as she didnt pull away and thats weird)... another girl liked me and i always liked her but i never did anything about it. she was kinda popular and actually tried spending time with me after school or during recess or lunch. i was too dumb and shy still so i didnt do anything, she actually wanted to hang out with me so badly she had me teaching her how to play chess and we played a few games(she was a nice funny and pretty hot in every way) i was just too shy and didnt know how to do act yet. another girl i knew for a few years, we went on a date she met my parents i played the piano for her and she was like perfect and i swear we were going to fall in love legitimately right, only a week later we were sitting at lunch in college and she had a friend come up to her and ask how her "boyfriend is doing", to which she responded "oh he isn't really my boyfriend, he just says he is" and im like wow there is another guy she was dating who she was willing to cheat on with me, so that means she is probably willing to cheat on me later, see ya girly!(even though she is hot and i would love to date something like her, she is nice, funny, kind, but she deceived me when i thought she was a good honest person but u never know sometimes or ur just too naive until ur older idk) then a few other random girls i dated once or twice and a one night stand(who wanted to be my gf).

working as a salesman for valu homecenter and staples for a 5 year period is what opened me up to talking with people. at this job u are forced to talk to strangers, it was perfect(i am also good at helping ppl find what they need)

TL:DR
you might have to go through a bunch of girlfriends/dates with girls before you find someone who fits/meshes with you better. i am pretty sure this girl is the one but who ever really knows. its just like a video game, some people are really good from the beginning and dont need help and can get godly kill streaks using the shittiest weapons in call of duty, others need to level up, learn the maps, learn the guns, practice, blah. (I am naturally good at fps I usually average a 2.2 KD or higher). but i was not naturally good at relationships, had to level up, learn, and fight through 5 Bosses (girlfriends) to find Boss 6 (girlfriend 6)

I have never put that together... hmmm... I really never saw that in Jennifer Aniston, but everyone looks like some type of animal!

Allright heres my question:
How does one obtain ones of the opposite sex.

Miss Piggy reminds me of a young Jennifer Aniston.  They just look the same.

Hi guys. Hope all is well with the community! Today I am trading in some magic cards and getting some that I need to make a new deck.

How is everyone else doing? Anyone need someone to talk to about anything let me know!


Make it a great day

hmm. I do have unlimited botting on RobotzinDisguise for Runescape because of helping my team win a lengthy contest. That's really the only rep I have anywhere tbh. username irobut. I did at one point sell all of my RS gold basically.

http://www.robotzindisguise.com/forum/showthread.php?9439-PP-irobut-s-Gold-Shop-55-M

I agree, but it looks like someone is expressing his good will.
Well, he might want to earn some reputation to scam, but I don't think so.
It looks like we got a nice guy there!
iluvpie60, I will take you into account!

I feel like this should be in the off topic section.

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