Topic: Online Game addicts=Worrying parents. (Read 356 times)

Thank you to everyone for the advice you have given, maybe I will tell their parents what you have said here, in overcoming the online game addiction situation for their child.

I hope to be successful and their children will become children who are devoted to their parents and country, avoiding online games like what happens today.

This is the worst thing that many people have experienced, hopefully there is a change, I think there is enough discussion here about solutions to online gaming addiction.

I apologize if I do not answer one by one.
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When it comes to online game addiction then i can say im really into this state even upto now and i cant say that it isnt bad as long you do know to balance everything.
You do still have time into those typical things you should do, listening out on what your parents say and doing your responsibilities and act accordingly on whats mandated
or required.There are people whom do cant just control out their addiction which would really be leading into these kind of actions which is really sad to think off.
Thing here is that they make out some counselling and heart to heart talks about their sons on what are the things that might happen if they do
let that addiction control them.

The children who do not listen to their parents are so unlucky because they never succeed due to the curse these children get through them for not understanding the pain their parents are going through. Whereas getting proper guidance and morale from their parents is necessary and it is the responsibility of parents to keep track of while their child is on track or addicted to something like gambling or anything else like tobacco, alcohol, drugs, etc.

I myself as a former gaming addiction (I would consider), with the right approach and proper guidance by the parents I think we can find the child’s balance between gaming and studying. But never ever threaten them or make ultimatums in a way that they have to stop. Communication is the key here.

I remember, when I was hooked with the eSports Game I play, no one could make me stop except power interruptions and that makes me mad and frustrated.

But with proper communication and the strong character of my parents, I was able to stop my addiction. The approach they did was to speak with me in a council setup, told me that gaming is good and I might have a good future for it. Complimented me with my commitment to be strong in the game, recognized my strengths such as my teamwork communication, analytical and critical skills, and then we jumped to consequences of me gaming over time. And I realized personally that I had to balance it. And there you go.

Depends really on parenting or how they do handle out their kids but honestly this is some sort of unavoidable thing because of what era we are into now where digital is already in our front

which means only a few steps then you can actually deal up with online things or get engagement with it.Parents should lecture out their kids even into young age that playing online games

are really that bad specially on a very long hours.Maybe it would be just enough if they do let for some minutes or an hour but going past beyond that would really
be bad already.

Depending on the age bracket his/her son was in, this Online Game Addiction could be topped with teenage angst or maybe something else, like a serious mental condition perhaps. It's best to have the kid talk to someone he could trust the most, like a friend, and have the details be recorded so the parents can do something about it. Suicide rates are increasing more than ever as we advance as a species so it's always better to have someone look after one another.

I think parents need to be more sensitive to children nowadays and to be honest, during this pandemic, this is a good opportunity for parents to re-establish good communication relationships with children, admit it or not, as long as communication technology, tablets, laptops and the internet are growing rapidly causes parent-child communication to be a little awkward without time to sit down with the family again to discuss every problem and as a result the child becomes lonely and takes time to play games every day without parental control. I personally think that this problem can be overcome if parents want to return to devoting their attention to the child and not just spoiling him by giving a luxurious cellphone or tablet because it will only plunge them.

parents can always find a way how to distract them from playing online games, if they really want to. that is for their kids' future and if they will let them do what they want, they will find it difficult in school. maybe enroll them in martial arts class or swimming lessons, or whatever is applicable around your area, which you may think will give the kid another activity to look forward to. they need other motivation to live in this life.
if they feel, there is no other activity other than playing online games, then, they will always find a way how to access their games.

I grew up with video games of all sorts, but I always knew when to stop. If I overdid it, I could always count on my parents to interfere and do the right thing. At that time it was to turn off my computer and force me to go outside to play with my friends or do my homework.

Some people are more prone to addictions than others, and if the situation is as dramatic as you say, that child has started going down a road the smells like serious trouble. His/her parents need to take a firm stance against such behavior. If talking doesn't help, limiting or taking away his gaming devices is what they should do. I was allowed to spend 1 hour on my computer playing video games during school days, and my parents made sure that was respected. I could not boss them around, and that is what that kid needs to learn as well.

This is becoming very common and this mostly comes from the lack of attention parents give them and the fact that kids are given access to smartphones or computers way earlier than what happened with early generations, in my opinion they need to take the computer and smartphone away, after all it belongs to them not the kid, and if the kid wants to play then he needs to earn it, for example if the kid cleans his room then he can play for one hour, if they do this their addiction to online gaming or social media will diminish and become manageable once again.

Maybe this isn't just happening in the area where you live but may have become a common problem around the world. But in your case, the level of addiction of children to online games seem to have crossed the limit so that it interferes with their activities and even behavior.

Of course every game addiction will be very difficult to solve by most people and it requires a process and time with a gentle approach because it is still a child. I don't think you should use violence because that will cause the child to be mentally worse off than the verbal approach. Parents' involvement is needed to reduce children's playing time in online game, meaning that they should ask them to leave the game as often as possible to do other activities.

Set rules, and if the rules aren't followed, no computer for a week. It's better to be strict, otherwise kids get confused because they have to set the rules and you have to play with their rules. Only thing they learn from that is that they will win if they are annoying enough.

Your rules can be very strict but they also need to be consistent and rewarding, otherwise they only backfire, create confusion, fear and anger with the kids.

On the other hand, it's covid. Your kids need some time on their computers to connect with their friends. Just keep time limits. If they don't work. Just take the console/computer/phone away.

I grew up with computer games and also the old console games. My parents were giving me a rule that before playing, I should have done this and that. I'm obeying and following them because if I don't then there are no computer games for me. I think the parents have to implement strict rules that their child has to finish first doing a thing before allowing him to play his game. It won't be easy at the beginning but that's for sure going to resolve the problem if the kid doesn't want to eat or take shower due to the game. They just have to talk to the kid what will be the implications if he won't do it first.

The only solution is to take the kid to an experienced psychologist and you need an expert opinion when dealing with kids. In the past few years online gaming is creating issues for kids as you see many are addicted to them and in the present age it is a problem for many family and many are puzzled on how to deal with these situations. Punishing the kids will not make any changes rather than creating hatred in them.

Don't spoil them and have an authority to whatever they are doing online, you need to have a strong position not to allow them to play free and do whatever they want online.

WIth this kind of practice you'll suppress the possibilities for them get to much enagagements, we don't know how influencial those addicted games.

It will reflect to them if you'll not take full responsiblities.

In todays era its really hard for you to get rid on dealing up with online games specially that we are almost exposed on online activity which means no matter how to do restrict those kids

but there are still ways that they can get involved with online games.This is already a common problem on todays society.Honestly, i do have the same problem as this
but the thing i do is to cut off any connection into his mobile or pc where  restricting MAC id  via router.There's no way he can make out some access but when
it is outside in the house and playing into those cafe's then there's no way on stopping it rather than on fetching him to school on exact time.

If that kids was my sibling my parents would say "you still living under parent house and you didnt listen to your parent says.. parent only want his son doing somthing good for future like learning . school . doing something productive or atleast just showing respect. and if he really didnt want to listen that kids should proof his parent he can do anything better than his parent advices.

I have become a father as of lately during the highest pandemic period in March 2020 and me and my wife have never used our girl with the mobile or the tablet just to make her distract and stay calm.We also go out every afternoon when I come from my work as my wife doesn't work for the moment but she also goes walking with our girl during the morning/early afternoon.This way we want to keep our girl distant from the technology until at least 10-11 years old and then we can explain her the good and bad sides of technology.

The kid in the story needs distraction,a lot of outdoor activities,go to the beach or go to a swim pool if there is no beach where he is located.The more he can stay away from the games the better he can start reacting for good in this situation.

Hi
You have to understand the fact that children have currently nothing to do with lockdown and more often than ever the parents should get involved with them, they should do family activities, experience nature, go to mountains or hiking. The only way the kids will leave the gaming addiction is when they find something fruitful. Plus now a days it's not just the kids. I do think you can advice them to :
• Find what the kids are passionate about, what are they good at, then channel all that energy there.
• If they want to continue gaming, send them to a course where they can take a peek into gaming industry, teach them coding, maybe they would be good in this professionally.
• you don't have to confront them about it, maybe turn off the wifi cable or something for the time being , cut some cords and when they are done with their frustration, spend time with them, ask them to bake with you, repair, make something, this is what we did as kids there were no video games. Take them out !
• Do not give them their personal computer or iPads before the age of 12, it's not only bad for their mental development but the addiction is harder to manage
• They will ofc cry and create a fuss , Get out of the room. They can't argue with someone who is not there. You don't have to always listen to their demands.
Trust me they will be thankful to you if you control it right now. Otherwise they will end up like most of the guys I know. 23-24, play games whole day, not studying, failing everything, no jobs , staying at their parents house, antisocial and barely get out.
It's not only bad for them socially but also mentally and physically. Well the parents definately know their kids better so everyone's approach should be different.

Taking away online gaming from children and adolescent in this present dispensation is like depriving a child from having the full taste of what life is at that very stage of life and growth. The best approach in cases like this is for the parents/guidian of of this children to adapt to the age by participating in the fun by this they can win their children's mind over and also help regulate the activity of the child.

What i mean in essence is that asking this children to stop playing online games at this point would limit the exposure of this children and also make them myopic about life's activities. For me playing this games with them will help give them sense of belonging thereby winning their trust and friendship with this parents can regulate hoe their wards play this games so the can create time for other activities including educational activity

With online games we don't know how the time and data is getting consumed. When used with limitation, online gaming of some games are quite interesting and makes us have some fun with friends and relatives. Me with my cousins used to have one game everyday. Everyone used to participate, and we make fun and have good conversation. This way it is good, but if we start to spend time without limits then it will ruin our day and everything.

Parents nowadays were also too busy with social media or their online world activities, they should also limit themselves to be able to know what their children doing since online is too broad now that every activity like gambling is present. With proper control and bonding, they can discipline their child to stay away from gambling if they can introduce them to other activities with them having interactions or bonding that can grow their personalities or family relationship.

Hmmm, this is interesting.

Can I ask a question to you?

My question is, if any very old person, let's say your father asks you not to drive cars because it causes huge pollution, rather walk from home to office and that will help you maintain your good health, will you obey it?

Will you obey if your parents asked you not to wear today's modern jeans and wear the traditional ancient clothes because that shows your culture?

See, the thing is, the future generations will always continue to use technology, and no one can or has the right to stop them from doing it. Games are a different matter, but many parents complain that their kids are addicted to phone and internet, I would ask them why is using phone and internet bad? They are just utilizing the latest technology.

Regarding the problem gaming, I know many kids who are into it completely gaming 24/7, and the biggest reason why they are addicted is parents giving them games at the age of 5 or so instead of instilling the basic moral lessons and ethics, and make them learn how the world actually works first. Then introduce them to the latest technologies slowly and let them explore what they can do with it and guide them towards positiveness.

Let them play the games, but also reward them for taking breaks and doing chores. Like, hey, you didn't play any games or wasted time for 4 hours, so keep this 2 bucks. 50 cent for each hour.

It's never ever accepted to beat a child for any reason. That's such a gross way to raise one's child and removing a bad habit from them.

Online games have now become a trend because most people are addicted to online games, from young children to old people, there are still those who play online games so you can't just force it because if you have become addicted it will be very hard to let go, it can only be with a few advice and also take it to a specialist psychologist what is said @YHOSIE is true it is a last resort if it does not work in any way.

So if online games can't make money for anything, their time will run out in vain, and don't even become better people than at online games.

@jawhead99 pro game skills are also good but sometimes this is difficult and most of them are addicted to fighting.

Gaming addiction is becoming the problem of almost every parents right now.
Since kids couldn't go out to play they are now focus on online games and easily being addicted to it.
The only solution that I could think of is to limit their online activities or their internet connection.
Don't spoil them too much show them who's incharge don't let them dictate you or get everything that they want with crying or having a tantrums.
If you couldn't handle them now think how bad it would be in the future when there is money involves in the things that they would be addicted?

I also have a 12-year-old younger brother who is now addicted to the online game "Free Fire". Almost every day he plays non-stop, even forgetting to eat, and he often sleeps the most annoying night when he asks for money just to buy enough diamond items. great if it is not loved by his mother then he cries even I find it difficult to advise him because this has become a heavy addiction like a gambling addict.

So I also find it difficult to advise directly because I am also out of town to work but I know this when my mother told me about my sister who is addicted to online games.

And it cannot be denied that when viewing YouTube there is a lot of Free Fire content and for me this is damaging to small children who are in their infancy.

The other problem is that they don't even discipline them like having a punishment for not following the agreed upon time which is problematic if you don't start to do it when they are young which could make them into spoiled brats. Also, parents should be the ones who rules the household and they need to assert that so the children won't be breaking the rules without the worry that there is no consequences.

Children who are addicted to online games are usually because parents never give time limits for their children to access gadgets, parents are too busy and forget to interact with children, maybe parents have to start applying rules, give time limits for their children to access gadgets, change passwords wifi regularly so the child cannot freely access the internet, and also the child must be given other activities so that he can use up his energy so that playing online games is no longer the main focus, and also importantly parents must be spend time interacting with their children.

This is a problem that has always existed but has been aggravated in this pandemic, since even face-to-face classes and human interaction with other people have been replaced by "online tasks". Children and adolescents are the ones who suffer most from this.

I think that everything depends on the age of the child and the "control" that the parents have over them, or better said... the respect that the children have with the parents.

Certainly, the first step is dialogue. Parents need to explain the situation to their children and the consequences that a lot of time online can have in the future.
Second, it's necessary to define limits, but this cannot be done on the basis of imposition, both must be willing to do so.

But, if the situation of parents and children is already at a "complicated" level, then it may be necessary to seek outside help.

This is a very hard topic, I will try give my 5 cents as I know a little bit about online gaming and it's addiction. So first of all, it is very normal for any young boy these days to be gaming online, all their friends doing it from school. Then on top of that we have this awful pandemic where most outdoor activities are canceled. It makes it very hard to do things beside online gaming. I used to play FPS and my parents hated it, they were afraid I would one day go to school and blow it up - complete crazy ideas of my parents - they just didn't know any better.

Just telling your child what to do with out them understanding why will be very hard, especially if he is stubborn. My advise would be to try and talk to him, make him understand that he is gaming to much. But you also need to understand his point of view. In my opinion it would be best to try and limit his time per day or per week. Give him a certain amount of hours he can play so he can choose his own time when he wants to use them. Work together.

There should be none to explain to them. It's a parents responsibility to discipline their child.
Whatever kind of discipline they fed them is how a child will behave.

I have a 4 year old kid growing and being used to watching videos, playing games and other stuffs.
It's like his gadget is his brother. Whenever I say I will throw it away he goes with a tantrum.
Before that was the case but now it's different. I always explain to him there should only be time upon using his gadget.
1. When he wakes up, breakfast first. No gadget.
2. Take a bath first, still no gadget but afterward watching television with our supervision.
3. Write or read and the gift will be usage of his gadget the whole afternoon.
4. At night he can use it until it drains its battery so we don't charge it fully making him sleep early.

He got used to it and that's his routine everyday. There is a day when we let him rest in reading and writing, just like how schools have weekends.
If he fails to follow the routine, there will be consequences.

i once become an online games lover and i played more than the time allot and spend more that my budget was.

But i know that this will change upon maturity , and these kids maybe confused if what they really wanted to do in their free time.

Sometimes it is also a Family issue for not letting them learn how to value time with family and letting their kids playing games all the time.

I understand the effect of too much playing online to the health of the Child, but for me if the parents will just support his game, he can be a good player that can compete around the world and make huge money of course this is not easy to achieve though. Online games are now considered as Esports, there's a bright future on this one but then again this will still depend on every parents on how they see online games. For me, as a player I'll support my Child if he wants to play online games, I just need to properly guide him so he'll stay on the right way as he grew older.

Honestly, I don't know if this thread is in the right section since it's not about gambling but here's my opinion.

First, the child's parents doesn't raise him well to be like that. Second, if they raised their son well, they would not come to the point where they are having a hard time about their son not listening to them because he got a game addiction. The only thing they have to do is to confiscate his gadgets and have a deep talk about it, that's all.

Parents should not scold their children instantly, hence they need to be more understanding and explain why game addiction is bad to health. Don't shout at your children, talk to him gently for him to understand.

Whenever i do this, he just popped-up from his room instantly.

This is one of the downside of having this technology, you are together in one house and yet it seems that you are far from each other as you don't talk often as your kids are always in their gadgets.

Personally, this is my biggest problem at the moment and when i consulted my colleagues at work about this situation, they too are having this problem so i'm not alone.

My solution is i talked to my kid and explained to him the disadvantages if he kept on playing with his gadgets for a long time. Good thing that he understand and we made an agreement that he could only play for a certain hour of the day and then surrender his gadgets to me after.

This might not work with others but harsh action against them would not work as this would only aggravates the situation, just my thought.

Usually, that happens when the parents are too busy with their activity, so they decide to give their children mobile phones or other gadgets so their child will not disturb them. It happens everywhere, especially for young parents and in this situation, their children are not freely doing something outdoor. It needs more attention from the parents and need not play with their gadget or busy with their works and give the attention to their children. Maybe the parents can ask their children to do something that can give their family warm situations so their children will not be busy with their gadgets.

You have a point on that. Because if the solution is abrupt change and total elimination, they will be rebellious and may do something worse. I believe, look for alternative activities that they may get their interest, like camping, going to the beach or any outdoor activities that they will like. Sometimes the lack of other activities is the reason why they got hooked, especially during this pandemic. You can also make an agreement with them, since they are already hooked, you can tell them that they can play once their homework is done, you need to limit their gaming time. And also, they will get the money from you as a parent, so make a truce with them. They need to break the habit in some way.

Just take their gadget away mate, We are the parent and we must be the one to be the Boss.

They will have their own decisions once they have own work but for now. We parents must decide for them no matter what.

And i think it is very uncommon that we are too much worrying while we must be the dominant one.

I think got addicted on online games is normal since playing games need a lot money and fun, but if he got addicted until not eating and not want to sleep he need to watch a motivation film or something like a touching story. Because if we force him to stop playing by take off internet connection, take his phones etc he will be mad and can do something that we don't want him to do (e.g. drunk, drugs, etc).

This problem can't be solved until him realized playing online games isn't useful for his future, except he can become a pro player.

the pandemic has really put us all online. there is nothing much to do when all of you can't go out. and so afraid of covid. we all resort to entertain ourselves with TV and computer. it's addicting too that is why i tend to let her watch channels like Animal Planet or anything documentary but end up still watching cartoons and playing video games. this is making them very anti-social.

she used to just play and ride a bike in the neighborhood which i also bring her to the playground where kids are also playing. she made friends there that we can chat about every dinner like what they did in the park.

Thanks for everything for your advice, global.

Honestly, for now I can not do anything to tell their parents / prevent it, the fact: this case is really addicted to online gaming, there are some suggestions that I have passed on to them.

For example:
• try unplugging the WF at home, or turning off a single current or coax them nicely and take them out for a walk, did not seem to produce good results.

But in vain, they can still go out looking for wf at the nearest stall playing via cellphone and forget to go home, it's really hard to stop them from playing online games, because their parents do not have 24 hours with the child, out of control.

They are very stubborn to compromise, this is all due to the pandemic at that time, all student activities online learning, the effect is messy, it's hard to talk about.

I hope there is another way to solve all these problems, maybe the child should be taken to a specialist in piscology.....! piskology might be a good solution, what do you think.

I would say that you let them play when they ask you and always tell them to have a limited time, if you raised your kid right pretty sure that he will follow what you are saying and always be in control in your house in terms of online time, set some limit on how long the Internet is for the kid or buy some board games and play with your kid. Also, don't use mobile devices or online games as a pacifier if they are young, old habits die hard.

I have this same problem months ago when the pandemic closes schools and make the student goes Online , My children got bored in house and starts finding things to make them enjoy and that brings them to Playing online games.

But since they are allowed to Hold their gadgets permanently since they also use for school and projects? they become addicted and starts changing behavior.

So what i did? I took the gadgets from them and handling Only when school time and with projects things but in my presence then starts becoming cool again and now they are not grounded anymore.

Hmmm, well what age is the child at? Honestly, I would opt to leave them out, like argue with them that you can play your games as long as you eat on time, sleep on time and follow orders (this basically means that you guarantee them free time of playing). I myself always play games, but I've learned to schedule it out all on my own whenever I had deadlines or stuff that I need to do. Let the kid learn by themselves on how to manage their time scheds since the only thing they'd listen to is whatever they themselves plan, not to others.

Also stop talking like gaming is a disease or something. See here, the fact that kids are able to enjoy their time for entertainment this early on simply means that whatever sufferings the early generations had was never passed on, and that's a positive imo. Now, if it's borderline addiction though, things change. Though honestly if its still early on, I'd leave the kid alone with a few rules here and there to follow. Kids are just like that after all, you can never really persuade them with anything persuasive since well, they're kids.

I also has been addicted to online games but not to the point that I would risk my own health I would admit sometimes I forget to take meals but I at least eat more than 3 times a day,
I also have a problem in sleeping but I make sure that I still get 8 or more hours of sleep.
The only advice that I could give to the parents is don't force their kids to instantly change and learn to blend in with them.
I think what my parents did really help me back then they support me on my games and even watch some online tournaments with me to make sure they would have some topic that would get my interest and always have something to talk to before bringing up the Real Topic that they want to talk to.
My parents also have their way to make sure I eat even if it wasn't on time but they always check on me and remind me to eat.

P.S this happened when I was still a student and I must admit that it did reflect on my grades but I also manage to fix it.

This is a global problem. In my country recently one video got viral. In that a small boy who is around the age of 16 found roaming with a play gun in hands. When he was questioned he keeps answering as if he's into the game. It is a must to have parental control at the early stage, or else situation can deviate to any extent. Some even lost their life on cardiac arrest while playing online games.

The child is in a dangerous situation, the parents should take action immediately, his mind is corrupted and will soon exhaust itself I have seen kids developing epilepsy because of the addition, these are still kids if you cannot stop them now, you cannot stop them later, it's better to take action now or face the consequences, take out the internet connection if he is playing an online game and keep his gadget and limit his time playing, it's better to take action now or lose the child.

I need a little bit of advice, what I have to tell others, this concerns children and parents, of course their children are involved in online game addiction.

Note: their child is not involved in money gambling or casinos, but they are involved in online gaming.
Example:


Just get to the point:

In the neighborhood where I live, there is currently a boom in online games for children and adolescents, this is the worst phenomenon that is being faced by many parents today, because they are still in school and their future is very long and bright, if this can't be prevented what the world of the next generation of children says, their brains are covered with online games.

Yesterday there was a parent who complained to me, that includes my family too, he confided in me: his son is currently quite naughty as long as he is addicted to online games, doesn't want to eat, didn't want to take a shower, didn't want to sleep and didn't want to hear what his parents were saying, his mind was only playing, playing and playing online games.

What can I say, I honestly feel sorry to see them, against his son's stubborn behavior, honestly I can't say good advice for them other than 'hit' them, but that's not a good solution to say.

So, I need a little advice to tell them the best way to make their children obey their parents.

Friends, do not hesitate to give a little advice to their parents, so that their children can change to leave addiction to online games and want to learn like other normal children who are not involved in online games.

any advice is very much appreciated.

Thank you.