Topic: Our children should be our first priority (Read 426 times)

Yes now parents are so busy in their lives they are either working or busy with socializing and have given gadgets to their children to keep them busy. They are left unmonitored and unchecked whatever they are watching no check on that content. That damages and disturbs children mind . Parents now should be careful with their children with what they are doing . This mobile ,games exposure is causing aggressiveness in today's generation.

This is a matter to be taken serious many parents pays less attention to children family at home, i can strongly believe to make a good family then a good listening ear should be given to your home rather than being so called occupied at work place. I have witnessed many family around my locality gone bad due to lack of parenting, as a fact we should try our best to put them first and make them happy because without your family you will be incomplete and unhappy.

Parents are children's first teacher and home is their first school   they'll learn alot of basic and important things from their parents and siblings like how to behave with other people outside, respect  ,your way of communication and interaction all are taught to you st your home.
So parents should give alot of attention to thier children basic and informal education so that they should become a good fellow in school and college. 
Never develop this habit in your children that whatever they want they'll get ASAP they should have habit of listening to "NO". This will help them to face rejection in life.

Education from parents is indeed number one, because at that time children begin to develop and absorb all existing knowledge.
parents must always be there for their children, even though they are busy working, but there must always be warm communication between children and parents.

children should be given more love, because it is important for their psychology, because children who lack love tend to be difficult to manage.

For parents, take your time for your child even in any busy situation, because actually caring for or taking care of a child is a special moment in life.

Children always follow their parent footsteps ,they will learn by example like they observe what their parents are doing and how they are living their lives and they will live theirs accordingly trust me. You can never teach children things which you yourself are not doing infront of them. so set a good standard for them to make them a responsible and good citizen of society.

Children who are raised with a good pattern will definitely become a good person, otherwise children who are raised with a bad pattern will definitely become a bad person.

Parents must educate their children well, so that later the child can become a good person.

good parenting
1. open to children
2. parents must be compact
3. Parents set a good example
4. give compliments and a touch of love
5.discipline
6. Teach good manners
7. Use positive sentences
8. Effective communication.

and of course the children should be the top priority.

At first I also thought same but later realized that when you train your children properly from their infant stage, they won't feel comfortable being in the midst of peer who have different home training from them. Peers actually influence the behavior of our children but good parenting will not allow them to mingle with such peer that will influence them in a negative way.

One of the ways children learn is from life experience that occurred in the life experience. Most children when parents shares bad experiences in the youthful age they feel so concern  about it and try as much not to make that same mistake. As a kid their many life experiences my parents told me when I was young which I have used to pattern my life not to make same mistakes. When children are taught the right things at young age it helps to guide them as they grow,  but when parents fails to teach them the reality of life, children leave the way they want to live their life.

In addition to all these, As a parent, you should also be able to share your life experiences with your kids, so they can learn from their parent. Tell them about some potential mistakes you almost made and the mistakes you made as well, so they can learn from you and not fall victims to those mistakes. If you do not tell them about your experiences for them to learn from you, they will learn from another person and that may not be good.

Our children should be our first priority


Second priority. First priority would be to personally get right with God's salvation. After than, one will know how to teach the most important thing to his (and other) children.

Our children should be your priority first. That's why it is always advised to be financially, physically, spiritually and mentally ready before you go in for parenting. Parenting is a whole lot of job that takes your whole being to be involved in it.
My advice to people is that don't go into parenting when you are not capable of catering and sacrificing for your family. That's why you see parents doing their best to see their children succeed more than them in life.

Let me add something more.
👉👉 Always keep eye on their company, see whome they are meeting and if they have wrong friends so keep them away.
👉👉 Teach them to respect the elders and olders.

  As a parent we should know our obligation that we must be responsible to our child. It's true that it really hard to care an raise a child, but since we enter an made a family it's important that we prioritize our child care. It's really difficult when child grown up undisciplined we can not please them to do what is good for them because they independs on their self decision unlike that we give an attention to our child we're able to guide them and discipline. Don't waste time if we're able to keep our child safe and security's.

based on my experience. if you love your child then never let someone else take care of your child. because the child will learn from who raised him. Hiring a nanny is great. but don't let your child spend more time with the caregiver. it will affect the harmony between children and parents in the future. when the child is an adult. different from children who are always cared for by their parents. then the harmony between children and parents will be very strong and even stronger in the future. Children become indifferent to their parents because in the past the parents were also indifferent to their children. children just imitate. if your child wants to watch over you in the future. So be a parent who always pays attention to his child. without having to be asked. and do it voluntarily based on affection.

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Children will always be children while inbthe presence of their parents as long as they are still alive, a child cannot cease from being the son or daughter to the guardian they taught and brought him/her up right from childhood, children were expected to also make their parents happy by adhering to instructions given, one of the first things a child can give back to his parents is obedient, because they will also turn a parent one day sooner or later.

Your children don't stop being your children simply because they grow up. The difference may be that they don't require as much support from you.

When they have grown up, this leaves you open to do politics so that you can get laws changed, and make more justice to help them more.

Never stop helping your children and grandchildren.

I believe that what we now instill in children in childhood will be a strong foundation for them when they grow up. there are small and simple things in life that actually become good lessons for them in later adulthood, of course the condition is that we are able to bring children to give meaning to simple events experienced in everyday life.
Taking care of children is not an easy job, it is not only the duty of the wife but our duty as the head of the household.
I think this is a big challenge, not easy because it requires unlimited time, not only limited to parenting, priorities, beliefs, culture, but all things that we can give as good knowledge must be given including love.

How much is few ? 2 ? 3 ? 5 is few, compared to families to have 10-20 kids. How did you make that calculation. And why do you think limiting amount of babies is ok? If parents are good persons, why should they have only few? Being rich does not equal having lots of kids. You can be poor, but be a good man, with lots of experience and love to share. It is not about number, but about what kind of parent person is. Parents goal is to give good education/upbringing. Everything else is up to the kid.

You have written well ams this is the kind of things parents and guidance need to put in place and to do so that children and those that are coming up will never grow up in the wrong and live inappropriate lifestyle. We need to prepare and make sure that we guide children from going astray doing what will be detrimental to there health or lifestyle when they grow up.

Children are priority to every parents that's is why parents need to give the best they have to their children. If parents allows children to go in the wrong way, in time coming they will be a problem to their parents that may even cause serious problems to the health of parents. A good child always give parents rest of mind.

The reason to teach the children about God is, it's hard to learn when you are an adult, and have already made up your mind.

The logical reason for teaching about God is something like this...

If people don't know about God, where are they going to get training to live with other people properly? If you don't have training about and from God, what laws are you going to follow? The laws you have are laws that have been set in place because of God training. We all obey those laws naturally, because somewhere in the past, our ancestors believed in God, and the laws from God have been handed down in, at least, some small way.

There isn't any law training without God. Even Buddhism (has no clear God) doesn't clearly and concisely present laws to the people. The simple idea of God is about authority so that laws are required, because a Greater Authority requires them.

So, why do we need laws? Without laws we remain savages regarding other people. With laws we know how to act with other people so that we can form relationships, and can build cities together, and do other great works together.

This whole life is built on God, already. Teach the children about God so that they live in the best relationship with others that they can... so there is peace, and improvement in life.

Children are like a small planting that you plant with your hand in suitable soil and nurture and water it every day until it grows and grows, when you will get a beautiful and good plant, but if you plant it in an unsuitable environment and do not take care of it well, it will wither and may die, the same for children whenever you teach them well If you take care of their education and improve their morals, you will get good children who will contribute to the development of their society.
But if there is parental neglect and constant problems at home, it is natural that you will have children who have many problems and may deviate towards criminality and become a burden on society that has to get rid of them.

It all sums up on your belief, if you think that it's good and the best teaching to have them fear God, teach them based on what you belief. But if you don't have any belief when it comes to these things, still teach them to at least obey you as your parent and have them fear of your anger upon doing bad things.

After making them realize that they did the wrong thing as you saw them your anger, you'll just have to calm down and show them that the next time they do it, you'll be the same and there's the comfort that you'll show to them.

It's all about being responsible as a parent but yeah, each parent has their own way of disciplining their children. It may work for the others and not for you so, find your best way to discipline them.

The fear of God in everybody is good. Why? Because God blesses those who understand that He exists, and is the sole controller of, and authority over everything.

People respect a police officer. Why? Because he has a gun, and has the authority to use it when necessary. How much more should a person respect God Who has control over their lives in every aspect?

The "fear" part isn't something that needs to be trained into anyone, even children. Kids automatically fear when Dad or Mom gets really angry, and has a stick to strike them with. In the same way, let the reality of the existence of Almighty God be trained into their lives, and they will automatically fear the Great Power, at least to some extent.

The biggest reason why to teach children about God is that God blesses those who understand that He exists. The blessing is found in the fact that He will save them from death when they understand about the Son of God, Jesus. You love your kids. Don't you want them to have eternal life with you in the joys of Heaven?

I like everything you have, but why "Creat the fear of God in them"? Do you think fear is a good thing to teach your child?

Just as the sword is strong in the hand of the giant, so are the children to their parents, and also parents must not left their responsibility undone o er the children, we've got a lot of families that have more than three children and they were all well taken care of, while another with just a child and still enjoy parental care, number is not a barrier or excuss, parents must exercise their best of abilities on their children just as it was treated good on them, at the end of it all, they will have part of responsibilities attached to the child upbringings owed on them if they fail to do so.

The two sentences are almost opposite in meaning.

When you sow fear in the human soul, it is not permissible to talk about happiness after it, except with the logic of blind faith.
Do we really have to instill fears of any kind in the minds of children in order to live fully happiness or to live an enjoyable life experience? I don't think so personally.

I think that it is better to leave the freedom to them to determine their religious and ideological choices, because our right to spread our beliefs and what we believe in must be done with conscious minds that have completed their development and not on the minds of children who we will cancel their right to choose what they would like to be convinced of when they grow up.

Make cities big. Then advertise in ways that get people to move there. Then work out plans to steal from the people... who can afford to make skyscrapers? Then change the mindset of the children so that they continue to give their money to their controllers.

Moving out of the big cities, and learning how to live off the land, is one of the best things to do for your children. It will be a lot of work. Should do it before having kids. Freedom in the country is great, watching the sun come up without having to look through smog.

Well yeah but its really difficult task to be a parent I mean the perfect parent than anything in this world.

Kids are going to follow their parents and society, so as a parent if they care about how their kids wanted to be then teach the moral lessons and actual knowledge instead of forcing them for graduation.

Yeah, parents must ensure they provide all the basic needs that children should have. Food, clothing, shelter, education, health care, etc are all important needs parents must ensure they provide. But apart from these needs, parents must ensure they imbibe the right attitude and behavior in their children.
And the best way of imbibe these true and pure virtues is by role modelling. Parents must ensure they act, talk and behviourthey way they want their kids to.

They must be taught the virtue of patience, hard work, love and selflessness at a very tender age.Parents should teach them to Love God because He is the Creator and Giver of Life. They must be taught how to love their neighbour as themselves. This would make them become good members of the society. And they must also learn to love themselves the way they are. They don't need to change their sex, physical appearance or body structure to become acceptable in the society.  

If God isn't your first priority, your children might not even be your second.

Parenting is the hardest job that require full involvement of both the father and the mother. Most parents these days want their children to have all the things they don't have when they were younger, this makes them work more and have less time for parenting. The worst thing you can do for your children is just ignore them and allow nature to take its course. Plan on training them but never get around to it. Children need the constant sunshine of their parents’ smile and approval. They need to be pointed in the right direction day after day.

We can't dictate which should be someone's priority if they wish other for, anyway parents should give good life to their kids and they even dedicate their whole life for their growth, education and ensuring the good future but how many kids understand all the efforts by the parents? Most kids take all these for granted and waste their life.

Also in addition to this, children are the heritage of parents and either a person gives birth or not it is still someone's else's child that will bury such persons at old age, children were expected to give regards to everyone they have an encounter with regardless of being their parents or not, because that adults stage will sure speak on them too one day which is an inevitable old age that we will all pass through, parents should learn to teach their children while yound just as a fish can only tend to bend while still fresh, if dried it might be already too late to do.

Every child deserves a good parental treatment and concern,  children can't determine how they can live but only parent have the responsibility to plan and pattern them better for the future.  Children are like a tender tree that the owner can choose to bend it that will suit him, that is how children are like.

you won't be able to teach  your kid if you give them all they want. i really would want my kid to go through all the kinds of problems even when he still is a kid because i don't want him to think of suicide with just a simple broken heart or dumped by a girl.

its why i want him to experienced getting bullied and see how he would act. if he avoid those kids, then good. if he fights back then good for he finds solutions.

The fear of God is the most important part of life-training, for everyone.

Since God created everything, He has control of everything. He works for people and their freedom, in perfect ways that match how people think of Him, and whatever relationship they have with Him.

The best and greatest thing God does for people is to offer them eternal life in Heaven. Everything else is secondary.

It's time for all people to consciously recognize that God exists, and to learn about Him and His love that He has for all people. Fear or threat of loss is nothing compared with the joys of Heaven that will be gained... through respectfully and properly acknowledging God.

My only omission from your list. Teach them about culture, not instilling god-fearing hyperbole about the deepest parts of hell or jahannam in order to coerce young minds into submission. Children don't need religion to live morally virtuous lives, and they don't need to be fearful of god in order to make good decisions. We live in the most peaceful time in human history because we've escaped the dogma that's contributed to some of the deadliest wars in history. No need to go back.

I quite agree with you about birth control most especially in Africa but stating the number to be between 3 maximum Is what I don't go with. Rather it should be to the number of ones capabilities. Our grandparents where able to take care of more than 20 children. Although times have change but there are still people that could easily take care of 10+ children. Moreover some of us wouldn't have been birthed if it had stopped at number 3

I will also like to include numbers of birthing, as a parent you (we) are meant to give at least 2 children or maximum 3 but nowadays some parents are very loosed birthing 6 to 10 children commonly in the African region more especially Nigerians. They kept blaming uncle's, Auntie, Relatives for not taking good care of their children while they couldn't control their selves during child bearing.

There is definitely an attack against our youth happening and if you can't see it you're blind.  The drag shows, renaming pedophiles to 'minor attracted persons', having a president who's own children have accused him of sexual assault...  The children are most definitely the first priority of the democratic party, who seems hell bent on removing their morals and making them comfortable with hyper-sexualization.  Protect your kids.  The government won't.

You tried for the article but you still need a very long way to go concerning parenting and bringing up a child. This topic you create is bigger than your thoughts. But you tried. Let me break it down small for you though I can also tell you everything but just small.
First of all. Who is a responsible parent? A responsible parent is the parent that provides all the Social needs to their children. Even not all, at least 85%.  Mostly the basic needs in the family. Shelter, food, clothes. Those are the primary needs in any family. Then the secondary needs are education, skill, and provision of job if possible.

But one thing we must know, a child destiny is with the child. The parents has nothing to do with the way the child will become they can only guide the child to grow up with a good character. There is a saying in education. I can't really remember the author name but it is in a educational curriculum text book and it says "your destiny is in your hands, the way you want your life to be that is how it will be".

Therefore, you don't have to blame parents for the down fall of their children. That is how they want their life to be. There is a book (a novel) called "Without a Silver Spoon". And that book explain that nobody come to this world with a silver spoon.

The biggest threat is the media that bombard children with unnecessary information, commercials, sex and violence from the early days. If you don't buy them a phone they'll watch videos with their friends who have phones and also blame you for not allowing them to be like their friends. What are they going to watch? Kids on TikTok drinking detergents and eating bugs, people getting out of their cars to dance or recording themselves with their phones while driving and showing off their expensive clothes and homes. I have no idea how to stop my kid from being exposed to this and at the same time not to keep her in a cage.

And you have to start them young. With how the world is these days, sometimes good parenting wouldn't be enough. I think main priority is to teach them to be able to resist peer pressure later on when they hit their teens. That's usually want fuck up many people's lives.

I may fail with my life due to a lack of resources to learn or to reach my goal but not with my children, I will do all I can to help them reach their goals,s and when I see that they finally made it and accomplished everything they want, I would be more than happy than accomplishing whatever goal I had back then. There's no happiness compared to seeing your sons and daughters happy and as a parent, you will do everything you can to support them if it's good for them.

Are they not? With regards to the thread's subject.
Children would always becomes most parents at least, the responsible onces with a sense of duty. They would always be a first priority but the levels to the up bringing and care for a child differs. Some could account due to lack of resources, some could arise base on the relationship between child's mum and dad, not excluding the circumstances to which the child was conceived (which is of no fault of the child) and others counts for children that aren't biologically related to us.

In the real sense, every child is your child. Because, they tend to learn from you when you can and if you willing and ready to teach to them. Children grow with  a sense of respect for elders and authority but, when the training is lacking, you see rather societal insecure youth. Mostly, the fault on adults who turned a blind eye.

even the Holy Bible says, Teach your child in the way he should go, so he won't depart from it when he grows, parents should understand this fact and respect it as a responsibility vested on them as long as they are the guardians, we don't need to be told before doing our rights as parents, many has faulted the community and government over the upbringings of their children but they have forgotten that each entity has it different role to play on a child growth and that of parent must not be left vacant as charity begins at home.


but never spare the rod whenever there's need to exercise it's use on them, very important, here am not talking about child abuse, please noted.

Parenting go along way to affect children's life styles, the community and the society in large. Most country suffer violence due to bad parenting, friend influence and environment factor. But in most cases good parenting may help to overcome other factors earlier mentioned. Imagine when children are abandoned at home without proper care while parents worked, gambled or partied. Such children will have no choice than to later indulge in some criminal act to sustain their life. Such children pick up any life style they want since there isn't anyone to correct their bad behavior. Children deserve to be put first. They shouldn't be worked around mummy's or daddy's more important schedule. Good parenting doesn't stop in providing things for the children. It also includes:
👉👉Being a good listener.
👉👉Keep eye on whatsoever they do and give advice when necessary
👉👉Direct their career path. These doesn't mean you should impose a career on them. Study them to know what they are good at to direct them on the career to choose. One always strive easily when one choose what he loves doing most as ones career.
👉👉Teach them the various norms of the society
👉👉Teach them about your culture.
👉👉Creat the fear of God in them.
👉👉Try all what you can to make them happy. Let them see their home as the best.

Although some parent claim being poor is the cause of their bad parenting. Everyone in the society can't be rich. You can give the best to your children with the little you have. Let's train our children well as they are the future leaders of our country.

Conclusion
Let's give our children all they need from us as a parent. Only make few babies that you can avoid to offer your being and time. Good parenting have great influence on our children, society, country and the whole world at large.