Topic: Paedophile or need new terms? (Read 222 times)

Well the technical definition of a pedophile is someone who has sex with a pre-pubescent child but people often use the term pedo or nonce colloquially for anyone who has sex with people younger than them. I do think doing it merely by age isn't always right. That makes it ok to have sex with someone on their 18th birthday but you do it a day before and you're a sex offender? Obviously that isn't right and there's lots of factors that should be considered. For instance, it probably isn't ok to sleep with an 18 year old who has some sort of mental deficiency or is very immature but if you go just by age then apparently there's nothing wrong with that.


The age of consent in the UK is 16 and I assume you're talking about Prince Andrew??? If so, I think the controversy was more around him being a married Prince and Epstein possibly having groomed/trafficked these girls than having sex with a 17 year old which wouldn't have been a crime, but might have been if it happened in the States. Either way it doesn't look good for the Royals.


"Cousin". I'm not sure if this will stand up in court  .


Speak for yourself. I'm a very long way off 50 but I doubt I'd be turning many 30 year old's away if they were interested.

The problem is when the young person doesn't want to have sex with the older one. This is what is called pedophilia.
If both counterparts agree then I don't think that there is any problem even if there are 14, 17 or older. In modern life girls and boys have sex even from 13 years old.

I didn't know about the other term I thought it was only Pedophile.
But what about the teenager who is about 16 yrs. old that have an older partner would you still consider them sicko since they are near legal age and already aware of things?

These terms are pretty sicko. They can never get into popular use, obscure latin medical phrases.

I do agree with the issue, though, that the 17 year old .... not pedo ...

We aren't even allowed to have a discussion.  Most people I know in the US would instantly conclude that anyone who questions age of consent or brings up the idea that someone doesn't magically mature on their 18th birthday or any of these other terms is automatically a pedophile.   Perhaps none of these people are mature enough to give consent since they aren't even mature enough to discuss it.

I think at 14, and surely 16, a boy knows if they want to have sex with their girl friend or they do not. Forced is unlikely. Girl not really going to force.
Girls may be more vulnerable. Also as you know,  boys can't really have a sex for real if not aroused, where as girl can do if even sleeping (why some people use rohypnol ).

I estimatate the core of the concern or interest here was that society should be given new terminology (franky said there is now already) therefore a clear distinction in their perception of the correct scenario.

Paedophile, sexual predator or child sexy abuser sounds like something really cruel, disturbing and perverse, you automatically think these people need locked away and treatment.
The 15 years old horny boy gets to some sex with his 18yrs old girlfriend does not want her perceived in this disgusting image. Also this may prevent her going ahead.

Most people only know paedophile ( I think)
Media should cast offenders as clearly different, as their behavior is.
Should be more use of hebephile and ephebophiles in the media.
It seems that uk guy mentioned above not any of this ones, girl is 17. So, if true ( nobody can say it seem) then his name is undefined for now? Strange how lot of  men, will read media, and say bad boy, then say they will like to do it if they can.

The problem with nature as I can see it now, once a girl grown hot and developed say even young 17 or 18 how can you stop to want it, even if you grown old say 40? I think 40 years old women at my gym are desirable, big time.  Lot of Italian guys would be in jail in UK and United States, so also would lots of girls.

Media needs to make important distinctions, so public immediately recognise difference between sick and damaged predators and horny young people in mid to late teens that want to do what they decide. I think the rules can stay, but if you break then get accurate image painted, not sicko unless you are sicko.

I agree with you all because everyone's views on sex are different Not everyone looks the same. It is not yet valid in our country its laws are different for children. Because all children are forced to have sexual intercourse without their permission until they are 18 then they can be considered rapists Some people work for the purpose of meeting their needs However its punishment is different at age.

different cultures have different ages of maturity.

for intance americans are notably quite dumb. hense why they cant have alcohol until 21 because they have been known to not have the self control.

there are other nations that have good education in life skills and general better moral compass as to how to interact with others. which is why some countries have lower age restrictions.

but although all sexual activity with a minor should be a crime and have punishment. forced coerced and threatened sexual activity should be given extremely harsh punishments to the highest extent similar to as if it was murder. as rape is just as bad as murder

im sick of hearing how child molesters are only given a few months prison sentance. any physical contact should be treated harshly. long prison sentances, and if eligible for release prevention orders to not be around kids. including castration so they cant even have their own.

as for just the fantasists that just dream of sick acts(illicit porn addicts). they should still serve some time and have prevention orders to not be near kids

Having sex without a consent is a rape, no doubt on that.
But this decisions is about the age of valid consent. Child cannot think for their physical health and are easily influenced by many things. The consent given by a child is not considered a valid consent and a sex with a child with consent is a rape.
The laws differs on the age of child from when they can give consent for the sex.
The most accepted age of child is the UNCRC definition of 18 years. But in modern times, the children are found to be sexually active from a younger age hence, different countries have made different tiers of age for sentence of child sexual abuse.

I think the topic of sex is too exaggerated in the modern world. We all need to pay more attention to the soul, true love and all the brightest in this world.
What morality can we talk about when people often have the desire to satisfy their needs (imposed by society) in their heads, rather than development and harmonious relations.
I'm not talking about everyone. I just have a slightly different view on the topic of sex.

wrong
in the days of jesuses era. his mother was marrying joseph and she was 13..

wake up and do some fact checking.
back in those days the average life expectancy was 30

please do your research

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with all that said sexual relationships should not even begin before or as soon as a female has her first period. there needs to be a few years added to give them time to understand whats happening in their life. so 16(uk) 18-21(us) seem reasonable.. after all US are more immature than uk

but what should be considered most is if violence coercion and threats are used even at the points of maturity.

The Standard Creepiness Rule says don't date anyone under half your age plus seven. Thus two 14-year-olds dating is (just barely) acceptable, as is an 18- and a 16-year-old. A 50-year-old shouldn't be with anyone under the age of 32.

That's considered creepy. You should have waited two more years.

I know it feels like that at your age, but there really is no "urgent necessity". You've got plenty of time, and you really should take advantage of it by waiting until you're more emotionally mature before getting involved in sexual relationships (and avoid getting involved with anyone much less mature than yourself).

This is very interesting. I believe not many people aware of this distinction and varying terms.
In your personal opinion. An 18yr old with a 16 yrs old girlfriend is a ephebophile. This is a sicko, or perfectly okay?

Or would an adult be 21?

For my own interest and opinion. I feel a distinction should be clearly made between an 18 or 21 years old guys having sex with their 16 yrs old gf or even 14 years old gf, and someone clearly suffering illness that would drive them to seek sexual contact with young young children less than 12. Clearly the younger the child the more serious their problems are.

There are very many ephebophiles in Italy.

The interest to me is that a lot of people imagine peadophile to be an image of ultimate revulsion, but many who are unaware of these other terms would in their later teens early 20 be classed as o e themselves.

For badecker was sex only permitted at age 30? in these cases? How old was Mary at the birth of Jesus or this is unknown?

In the Jewish world of Jesus's day, people didn't become adults until age 30. The reason was that people are not really mentally stable until they reach that age. Government that says adult at 18 or 21 (and sometimes earlier) is the real sicko.

the term paedo already applies to adult wanting to do things with kids under 11.
the term hebephile already applies to adult wanting to do things with kids 11-14.
the term ephebophile already applies to adult wanting to do things with kids 14-16.


but the real term should be 'sicko' for anyone doing things with people without consent
and that means too young for their supposed naive consent to be valid.
so even if a sicko thinks a kid is ok with it. they still a sicko

In Italy we can at 14. In many countries this is not socially acceptable and 18 is the requirement. Happily I am not born there.

To the United States are many in Italy therefore paedophiles?

I became interested when I noted a important member of United Kingdom monarchy  for allegedly sleeping with a young girl. When I took note of the photo the girl looks very appealing, she was 17.  Not telling my friends, I asked them would you like to have sex with this female. All replied it is a simple decision and immediate one, yes of course.  Some are as old as 29 or 34.

Then I said to them, if you were 40 years, would you still enjoy the idea. Each replied fuck certainly  even at 50 if she was DTF then why not. I start to wonder if I am surrounded by sick individuals hiding (not well now) rampant paedophile urges. I think at 50 years, I may feel weird by then. I can not imagine at this time eating 50 yrs old pussy. Age may help. At even 50 I think I rather eat this girls pussy than one over 50. Am I sick? Hopefully I cure by then.

I didn't start sex until I was 15. She was 18. I would have preferred to start sooner but I could not impress upon any females the urgent necessity. I also had fear in Amsterdam when I was there before at 14 and had opportunities . I did not consider her a paedophile or sexual predator. But to some she is.

I think sensible brackets ( just quickly idea, can discuss to improve)

0 to 12 is paedophile
13 if they DTF (want it)  is teen predator pervert if boy is over 16
14 and DTF possible pervert if boy over 17
15 -16 and DTF possible pervert if boy over 21 (because my friend did this at 20 he seems normal)
17 and want to fuck then any boys can choose it. Not a peadophile or pervert.

Iif a 17yrs old girl, if they want to fuck a 45 yrs old man they can do it. If they both like to. I don't think it is for others to interfere, or to place labels.

This is only an early stage idea. I am more sexually excited by older women, realistically I will take what comes if it is hot and 18 or older. Of course a 17 years old with very large breasts and large round ass would get special consideration if it makes it easy, on a plate.  I'm not 20 yet and I do not consider myself to be a paedophile in any way.

I once liked a girl,  who was very developed in the breasts and big ass, who I sadly discovered was only 15. This I said to myself is too young for me now. I don't think this should be classed as paedophile tendencies by Americans or the United Kingdom. A simple error of age assessment is not indicative of illness or badness.

I confided  these thoughts to a psychological expert. She was very kind and her only concern was the 4hrs a day milf porn consumption. She claimed going on a date with me or even just a quickie fuck, even for double pay would be a contravention of the Doctor patient relationship.

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