it was my misconception that the network fees would cost me 200+ usd while dealing in btc... as its not very high i'll just use whatever means the escrow uses and ive decided to go with ognasty.
Like BTC fee, the network fee also highly volatile so you can't find the fee in the fixed region but all you can do is to consolidate all the inputs when fee is too low like 1-5 sat then you can make transfers with low fee, because weight decides how much you need to pay not the value of BTC.
That's a huge fee if that is $200 cost just for the transaction fee. For now, at the moment, the transaction fee costs only 10 sats/vB above and it only costs approximately $0.69 which is very low. I noticed since this month that the transaction fees on the mempool are frequently low. Always check and monitor the transaction fee on the
mempool.space before making any transaction in Bitcoin because it is also volatile that anytime it will increase up to even 100 sat/vB.
Any P2P exchanges can act as escrow by themselves, there is no need to hire an escrow service. If you trust that exchange then, good for you to buy and sell Bitcoin there. Like LBC, Hodl Hodl, Paxful, and many more, I suggest having your own research first.