Topic: Selfish Nigerians (Read 378 times)

One thing you need know for this life be say my O.P most humans beings wey come this life so just born with the act of being selfish and also even some no born with am ehh them learn am from grass roots of people wey coach them up from small. It is WELL ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹.

To be sincere this isn't a place where you just jump onto a conclusion of your own, because this a personal business between you and your partner and you were saying something that he doesn't wants your achievement that's wrong. By saying only his bad side who knows if you are the bad ass person not him, from my own view someone that gives you what to eat definitely that person is a life saviour

So now, you’re in a competition with him or what?
Nothing is without a reason and your friend not having to share his means to eating ends means might be for a reason, be it good or bad, it’s still a reason to him and should he have found you worthy of the help he could have offered, he just might have. I’m not saying they are t bad actors in this world but, you could as well find out the reason and not just assume. In the event that you guys are now hooked in the same trade, partner with him, go to him for the things you need further clarification on and you just might get a better understanding of how to handle things from that friend.
It’s just another means to be the bigger person.

Meanwhile, it’s important that you have your circle rich and that’s because, they actually help you stay rich.

It would have been nice to even open up and tell us what that your friend does to make money, abi you no reason am so?
Guy no use anger dy put eye for other person hustle oh, your friend no tell you becos e get why, and you dy para say him no let you know and no go dy assume say you fit do pass am nai make him no wan tell you, guy na lie. Maybe na work wey him dy use things wey u as a person no go like.
Ok as you dy now you don tell anybody about this Forum and the things wey  person go benefit from inside? I believe say you never tell person and you dy wait make time reach for you to use am blow but the next man wey near you to disclose am to the person na wahala, you see na so we humans dy.
If beans sweet for you no mean say e go sweet for me so your friend fit tell you and you fit put hand for the business, instead of you to progress nah suffer you go dy see and later you go say him don do you juju.
Me I go say leave person wey no carry any thing good for heart for you, no pest that your man, if him no tell you or show you way to make money no worry God go show you better ways, so leave am.

Fact. People hide their source of income even for their family sometimes just to protect themselves, not because they don’t want another person to get involved and do the same thing, but sometimes telling someone where you are getting more to cover up something in your life will put you in trouble seriously because people just show the good side of them. You don’t know what is hidden, so why will someone just ask for another person's source of income when you also get yours? However, we must protect and keep ourselves from people because once they know you are getting money, even if they don’t know what you are doing, they will start digging till they know, and I believe that is what their OP friend is avoiding, which I didn’t blame; everyone has a reason for doing something.


I swear ohh. You fit show pesin way make him still find way to bring you down sef, na wetin most people they avoid be that no be anything. If no be that one wetin they to teach a frnd how you dey take geh money but naija people they different you go pesin na dat person go con they find way to bring you down.  Na wetin everybody dey fear bedat and I no blame pesin wey geh way and no show another person. Although e get some people wey suppose to show base on how una take dey together na, e no go make sense u they get deh give am, u gats to let him know how e be but no be everybody oh.

I get question I wan ask you and e go make sense if you answer without trying to justify yasef. This your pal, you don ever ask am to show you the ropes of him job? Because I read the whole thing and I no see where you mention such so I say make I ask.
 Secondly, as you feel say him want make you dey always ask am, why you still dey go? Or that him job nah the only one wey fit help make you stable?
See, e good to share update and all that but make I tell you say no be everybody sopoz do the same tin. E work for A no mean say e go work for B. You come dey make am sound like say nah him cause why you never blow.
Why e be say we dey rush go generalize things? I'm sure say nah person pass you update wey make you lap for this place so that means the person selfish?

This no be the way life suppose be but dis na your own part of the story why we don hear only and we no fit just judge by all the things west you just talk now. People dey view things differently and even your friend fit get him own reason why dey different from your own wey dey make an hide the update from you. E fit be say keeping the update from you, ha him go be best for am at dis time.

E good say you don find out about wetin him dey do but if you wan become better for dat same thing, make you no see d tin as competition and make you dey see am as struggle. If wuna fit come together achieve good tin na him go better pass instead of fighting or seeing things as competition. Make you no use dat grudge of not teaching you anything to get back at am when you don begin make am through dat him own way too, that will be better for you.

That is naija factor for you they are always ready to give you fish but will never teach how to fish, I think whenever you have the opportunity of reaching him try to get one or two clues from what he is doing to earn a living once you do that you can use the internet to get more information, he may be into programming, trading and any other internet related stuff, however even if you got to know his source of income and got interested in it, don't you think it would affect your academic work? If not you are good to go else you should concentrate on your studies as your priority while during school holidays or break that is the most appropriate period to learn a new stuff.

Op you see things differently from your friend and I don't like the way you are attacking your friend if you are saying all these to your friend then if he told about the work, you would have used another to against him again. In life there are some things that are not communicating to others at the early stage of the thing and naija is place of hustle and probably your friend was still looking at the work how it will turned out because we have introduced people to some kind of Ponzi schemes and at the we were to blame of their lost so it was better your friend didn't tell you before you blame him for the lost if it occurs.

And if you know there are lot of things to do to survive in school as a student, why didn't you invest in POS business? That is one of the lucrative business to do as a student. Please don't blame anyone for anything. When you were collecting the foods from him, did you ask him the work he does?

OP, I understand your grievances for where your friend dey so, to show you d way to wetin d give am pay but wetin you need to understand no be all friends d like let their friends in for wetin dem do even if em d legit. D go like make you d come around, make dem d give d small money or food wey dem d give you, and the same time dem go d use u indirectly.

That's the major problem with our brothers and sisters. They don't like their tight friends to rub shoulders with them financially. They prefer d small change wey dem d give them, so that tomorrow dem go use am talk sae na them d give them money and food each time they come around.

I get a friend wey do me that kind thing. Just that em d give small change any time wey we see, em come use am the let me down and begin to tell other of our friends sae na em d give me money everytime wey we d. Hearing of that alone make me very angry, and I begin to work on myself not to ever collect money from am again. Thank God sae I didn't let the insult get to me but rather I use am to develop myself for where I d now.

OP, forget about your friend update and try find yours. There are so many updates u go fit get or learn online wey go d pay you for dollars. At least you don join this forum, na to start from here to see wetin d future holds for u

OP, I never heard you say that you ask him to teach you and he refused, there is a possibility that this your friend is unaware that you are interested in what he does, don't assume that the person in question should know what you want.
The best approach you would have applied is to ask him or her to put you through, then hear from him before judging him, you figuring out what he does, does not mean that he is selfish, I think you are being judgemental and that wouldn't help in any way, now that you have a knowledge of this, I will advise you to make out with him, he might be of help to educate you more.

My brother the way una talk am no be so e be, if you know how hard men don search reach for google to get online update dem, una no go talk that thing wey una talk, if to say you know how many videos men don watch for YouTube just to get update you go think twice before you make that statement. OK make I shock you, try make you go setting then clear your browser data usage space to 0mb, then make you write bitcoin or related search about bitcointalk but make you no put the talk after the bitcoin weda you go see this platform .Yes na true say some people naturally lazy to search while others believe say anything online na illegal or scam, but that one no mean say those wey never get the update na lazy dem lazy, I don still try to work for freelancer and upwork before but now na so so scammers naim don full those forum, I no go lie you, many update dey wey still dey hidden not because we are lazy to search but because some of them get regional restricted.

 Just imaging this forum now, person wey no know anything about wey create account go gats pay money to become copper member and em dey find update, I no go lie you if to say na you, you no go like pay that money because e fit be scam method to take your money, and besides you no go fit post anything with that account to get help from members. So my brother e no easy no be the wey una dey talk am, dem say "it is easier said than done"

To prove say e nor dey easy, how many legit update wey you get?

OP, one thing that you should consider is that, the friend owes you nothing and your ploy to see him constantly just to learn his trade and earn for yourself is clearly obvious to your friend.
Perhaps he is scared that in teaching you his trade, you would do better and maybe make it difficult for him to earn seamlessly from this trade of his.

Since you already have an idea of what he does, why not confront him plainly and speak your mind so as he could offer to help instead of giving you food and drinks to make you comfortable and forget about your immediate financial problems.

I graduated from the University since 2020 with no job, I have a friend who has a lucrative skill and he has been rendering me with some financial assistance all these while.
I told him that o want to learn his Skil but he wouldn't be interested to teach me but while before my parents, he  brings up some kind of states like"AVE5, I told you that skills is better than education and yet you don't want to acquire skills instead you looks at me like I am doing dirty job. Wait for your certificate to offer you job".
After that my parents looks at me like "truly your education is a waste because you can't find a job with it". At a point I asked that of My friend to stop doing that before my parents but he says he is only playing with me but the reality truth is that he want my parents to be disappointed of my valuelessness state of being and my ignorant to be useful to myself instead I lives to be a liability while my mates are out there making it successfully and sticking to responsibilities.
This is the same friend that tells me to limit about the local places I submits my job applications because I am a graduate and needed to be employed bigly according to the level of my education which is impossible to derive such opportunity at the era of man knows man before attaining such heights.
Not just all that glitters are gold. Watch those who sympathises with you because they could be with a sword.
Even when you finds, the sword, be realistic enough for a double edged sword Incase it is  turned around.

Of course, a lot of people post on our local board in anyway they like, but when someone discusses a problem of our government, I don't think they are breaking any rules, if you check the forum, there are discussions about politics there and as well as scams,  when you visit any board, they do discuss about scam in order to prevent people from being victims.
Although There are some topics you won't even know where they're heading to. I have read a post here on (how they shared rice in a weeding), (will our girls ever change) You can see that this is totally off-topics. the main purpose of Naija board is to help us interact about bitcoin and other cryptocurrencies and also to understand the forum with our native tongue (pidgin)

But how will we talk positively about our country Naija? When we speak well of this nation, we are actually killing ourselves inside. The only positive thing we can say about this nation right now is our musicians, whose songs have helped to popularise the country throughout the world.
Check out the price of fuel per litre in our country today, the cost of fuel per litre in the United States is higher than it is in Naija But their government meets their needs so they can live comfortably. But in Naija every day we wake up here with a new set of problems.
If you are watching Naija news, you will see that Naija always shows a positive image of itself on television. Nigeria senators budget 104.7 billion as a gift for Christmas, so imagine how a nation that is unaware of how corrupt Nigeria is would feel. If you do good we go talk o

To be honest with you I no see your friend fault for this matter way you just dey talk like this so, for your mind you go dey think say him dey selfish but for me I believe say na better thing him do as he no wan make you know, my brother no body should be trusted now oo, you never see where person Don show him fried update wey the person betray am before? I believe he get why him no show you update because him go think say if him show you update now you fit go him back go take do waiting go make him update cast or make you go tell another person make una come scam am, for this kind country wey we dey live so my brother if you no wise them go use your head drink garri.

But the way you dey talk like this, E be like say you Don Sabi him update bah? He no bad say make you Sabi him update but as a friend wey him be to you and you also talk say him dey give you food and if you need something, that mean say him no dey stinging with you, him dey show you love, if na another friend, him go get money or food and him no go give you, I go like make you ask am first, why him no wan show you update, na from that place you go know why him no wan show you update, this life no be waiting you dey think now.

I still wonder why some people wouldn't share update with those that they call their friends. A true friend would love to see his friends thrive and not vice versa. Some people are just friendly enemies who delight in our suffering and never help us locate the path of success that they're benefiting from. What they don't know is that their rate of success is measured by those they make successful. We can increase our success taste by just increasing the financial condition of those around us, there's  an adage that says that when you pray for someone, you pray twice for yourself, likewise when you help someone balance in life, you're planting seeds that will favor you in the nearest future.

Oga davidvictorson wetin you talk na true , nothing wey no dey dis our internet.  Every update man dey look for e dey for internet just that some people no sabi use internet. Like this our forum , e get some people wey hey this update by themselves just by browsing the Internet.  People are making good money from the Internet.
Brother na the truth oo, expectation of things from people no dey give person rest of mind and this character they make person to be very lazy just waiting what they will get from me.

You don’t have to blame your friend for not teaching you how to make money or become successful like him, at least you have a friend that offers you food anytime you need it and doesn’t stop you from having it anytime. This is life for you, and how people treat others in this life is left for them to be judged by nature. I am not saying what he did was right, but instead of faulting him for not teaching you, try to explore other means of making money. The world is large enough to contain us all, putting it mind as a competition since you want to shock him that you’ll make more money like him, then you won’t be focused on achieving your goal faster. Life is not a competition, so focus on what you want to achieve, after achieving that, you can now decide whether you want to help others or not with it, no one will blame you for it.

Nothing bad to share update, wetin A no know B fit know, believe me nobody fit do am alone everyone need help or support from each other but no be for now ohh everything don change everybody dey do wetin go favour am and don't wait for anyone update. Me personal any update wey go ruining my life I no want,  some people no know wetin their friends dey do for living sometimes the person fit dey into dirty bussiness or stealing but the person dey get money sharp and you want to join that person, na illegal business and grace differs.
It's better for you to make your own research and find what  suits you.

In this day an era, my broda or sista wey be the OP, make I tell you in capital letters say, NOTHING IS HIDDEN UNDER THE SUN. Shey you get andriod phone, and you fit get at least N500 to take connect to the internet? If yes, e nor get update wey dey hidden na we just dey too lazy to find am.

Take this forum for example, e get some people wey be say na person give them the update, e also get some people wey be na for internet dem find the forum. Update or no update , just sabi how to use the internet.

Lastly, nobody owe anybody any freaking thing...whether na you paddy paddy or not.

Op no be only you oo, this kind of case many for this life, e get one of my friend too wey I been dey beg make em put me through for online work, em tell me say make I finish school first, after I finish I still go meet am make em put me through e just been dey give me some kind attitude them, and few weeks ago wen I ask am em tell me say, the update no dey again. The thing pain me because I don dey ask am for over 5 years now. When it comes to this online legit work dem plenty update dey oo, na just that some person wey don find am nor dey free like to share, and if you ask them why dem go say na make the update for no cast. Though some persons no worth the effect of teaching dem something because of unseriousness and casting of update.

I don't subscribe to the idea that people are selfish rather I prefer using the word self centered on the ground that looking out for ones self first is not against the prowess of humanity. Giving or sharing information is relative meaning that a person can easily dish out information to a person and withhold such information from another. This is why it is not in my book to address someone as selfish. People go a long way to get information and some information have instruction of not sharing to any person. If a friend is providing food and other goodies to a friend, it is let for you to ask him out of the way forward and not for you to sit down and way for him to share the information. Your thinking here shows how myopic you reason. This might be far from his your friend's hought. From another angle, this shows that you are a self centred person also. It will interest you to know that you are what you think.

Don't blame your friend for not telling you his secret to his source of income,  I pray you wake up to realities some days to know that success has a principle and is not a matter of emotions as you want to make it look.

Also be thankful for your friend,  for he has shown you love by giving you things that you need,  because what I can understand from the whole story is that you feel your friend is lucky to have hard what he has instead of you taking a look at the sacrifice he pays to be who he is.

Thirdly if I were to be your friend all the while I would have discovered that what you want is not the love he is showing you rather your eyes are on his position,  and that is another form of jealousy from friends.

Now do you take the time to know why your friend is so sceptical about people around him like friends to the point of keeping his business a secret from them?

How many bullets of betrayal made him to decide to remain private,  sincerely speaking,  not many people know exactly what most successful do for a living,  because it is none of their business,  and because your friend did something and succeed in it,  doesn't mean that you will also succeed in the same venture too,  so stop assuming that you can do what your friend is doing.

He may succeed in that line and you may become a failure in the same line,  so life no is by copy copy,  do your own thing,  pray to God for success be persistent and keep improving in your own little way,  some days,  you will also discover your path to follow.

Aside the unwillingness of others that makes them not to teach others about their source of income, you can bear with me that this is all about trusting someone you wanted to teach, cwnntgey confide this same trust in them, can they cope with learning, will such person not abuse the whole thing, we need to look into some certain conditions and circumstances also that are involved in this things before we make a decision on what to do or not, you also can testify to the fact that people could be do annoying and disappointing plus being untrustworthy, also there's nothing like a law that states you must make your own money from the same thing your friend does to earn his, yours may be different, what if what he does are illegitimate things, can you cope.

I'm not sure if you asked him directly about wanting in on the opportunity or you're just making conclusions? I have a friend who thought such of me in the past and it's not always as it seems. He might have left you out for any of the following reasons:

1. Sometimes, It's just a waste of time: in my experience, a lot of people are very interested in making money but only a tiny amount of people are willing to put in the work necessary to achieve commendable results. You might put in effort to help a friend and their unwillingness to put in the work simply means a waste of time. If you do this 3-4 times, it becomes tiring.

2. Not everyone can teach: He might be a good money making doesn't necessarily mean he can teach. Sometimes, it's just easier to help others rather than teaching them especially if the subject matter is complex and hard. Success is hard. Even harder to impact on others.

3. Some people are outright bad: I once had an experience and indulged my friend in an opportunity but he simply when behind my back to tarnish my name and get me off the opportunity so he alone will dominate. It's very little trust in this space because not everyone who seem loyal or humble at first will always be. My best guess be say him just dey try dey careful sha. You never can be too sure since no way to know people's actual intentions.

You should meet him and have a serious conversation with him about instead rather than drawing conclusions from a distance.

I don't know whether you ask him outrightly to show you the way him dey do his business wey him dey live on because you wey need something, na you go press for the thing more for the person to know say you dey serious. And my guy, some friends sabi how to cast people down oo, so you no fit tell wetin your guy fear be.

Na you really sabi the guy sha so you know wetin make am do like that pass me but make you no reason am like that. E fit be say him no trust you too. As him still give you food, e still fit be say him dey reason some kind thing about your matter.

Not everybody who is like that I have a friend you usually get an update  he never never waste time he shared it with me but I also have a friend who always want you to ask from him but  never want to show you and so when you have anybody around you  that the best way is for you to keep it distance for  cuz it's unfortunate that that person doesn't want your progress

to be very honest honest, your friend did a good thing not telling you about it, and please I'm not being personal here and just responding based on how you sound in your writeup

From the way you're sounding, it seem your friend understand that it might be difficult to do business with you. Do you think it's easy to see someone who gives you food whenever you come visiting?

If you're my friend, introducing you to what I do is totally my decision and mine alone to take and if I decide to bring you into getting involved in the business I do has a lot to do with the kind of person I see you as. There are some friends that should just be your friend and that's it, there are some you could consider a business/ hustling partner and this has nothing to do with any competition of any sort.

Let me share my personal experience in this context. There was a time I was into cpa marketing and a friend will always come to the house and will see me being busy on my system, he always ask me what I do and i just tell him not to take it seriously but he pressurised me to the point that I agreed to tell him about the cpa marketing ànd about how to go about it. Because I had only an account and was preparing for my exams at the time I had to tell him to be managing the account so anything that comes out at the end of the week we would share it. They guy was too greedy and was asking that since he will be the one working for the number of weeks I will be focusing with my exams that I should allow him take all the money then when I'm done with my exams I can create an account for him and then collect my account back.

Immediately I just put him out of anything that has to do with the business and hard to face my stuff alone.

The country is already hard and there are lots of people that are very not serious and are looking for people they will drag down with them. If I don't feel the need to bring you into my business life based on the fact that I don't consider you someone I could trust enough as a business partner, that doesn't make me a bad person and you should just let it be at the point we are.

My sincere opinion though.

I will advice to have this in mind that no one owes you nothing,  don't force people to show you things that are generating money for them, allow them to teach you willing. If you keep on disturbing them they will not teach you because you are being too inquisitive to know what he is into. It is choice for him show you are not , you must be into what he is doing for a living . So not take things personal when people refuse to show you things they are into.

You know as it's, you never know how he take dey get money, you don't know whether in a bad or good way, because as naija take dey no be waiting this person dey do the other one will be doing to make money, and if some people make money in a bad way, nobody go like to reveal his secrets to their friends no matter how close they are because some people mouth no dey ever stay one place, immediately they find out what someone is doing, na so their mouth will start to dey run about, that is for some people.

But anybody wey dey make legal money and refuse to tell his close friend, that one na big selfishness, that does not make sense at all, living cool life and seeing your friends struggling every day before they can provide for themselves, we all want to know how to catch fish, e no make sense to dey give me fish chop always, no be say na him money you go dey collect while hustling, so there's nothing to hide, you said he keep it away from you and how did you know it's something that you can do very well, or u check his phone while he was not around? If you see any changes from him, then you need to ask him what he's doing to live a cool life, not until he tell you how he is making money.

I don’t know how close you and that your friend are, but I no dey sure say I go sabi something, I go come dey hide am from my friend, if I dey make money, e go make sense make my friends to dey make am, if only me dey make money I no go even dey balance, because money wey I dey make na me and my friends go dey spend am and e no go dey satisfy me, but if my friends too dey make money, all of us go dey okay, and we no go need depend on each other for survival, and incase if anything happen to one of us, we go fit help each other, na so friendship suppose be, but any of ur friend wey get source of income and him dey hide am from u, then d person no be ur real friend.

You can only take a horse to the riverside but you can't force it to drink water. Sometimes our friends do try to tell us about something that will be beneficial to us but we rather pay less attention to them till when we see them making good results from what they ventured into and you can't also blame somebody that wants to see results from other people before joining them in what they do because often times being too incusitive to join a particular trend leads to danger and sometimes being defrauded and checking at the high rate of internet frauds now you will see that it is really difficult to convince someone to join you in what they do online.

Fraudsters and scammers have made online platforms look like scams and persuading someone to be part of something that is going on on the internet is not easy at all. Though there a times when our friends tries to bring our knowledge to something that will be beneficial to us but we pay little or no attention to them.

Another factor why some of our friends finds it difficult to introduce us to some platforms like this is base on fear that if they bring you up to the system that you might channel all your responsibility on them like buying data and airtime for you to navigate through the forum at all time so not wanting to take some of these responsibilities also makes our friends not to get us involved in what they are doing.

Wait if I may ask what is good on this country??I will tell you nothing till today the president still collect loan so k don’t think there is anything reasonable for us to talk about in this country he’s just a newbie and sharing is experience and if you don’t see it as anything many do and they will still contribute you even said it makes no sense that’s a very wrong word to use because this person took his time to write things down.

Don't get me wrong but there are several reasons why some persons hold back from sharing all types of information even to friends. There are people that you will share information to that will dampen your spirit and kill your jinja. They are many even among your friends. As a matter of fact, there are some of my friends that called Bitcoin outright scam and they are still waiting for me to cry later for investing in Bitcoin.

If your friend is not sharing information with you, then check yourself if you are the type that will hinder him or if you will be able to put in the work expected to succeed in those business. Besides, have you approached him and he refused? You can't relax and wait for someone to come and teach you what will help you. It is you that need the skill and it is you that should go for it. However, I'm not denying the fact that some people are naturally selfish... that one dey.

Hey you don't have to blame your friend for not telling you anything about his business rather just think he is trying as much as possible to secure himself from being down because most times people don't know what it takes to be making money and for that, he must take precaution on the kind of person you are maybe who knows if it was your character that made him hid it from you possibly seeing you as person who is too desperate asking him about his source of income and how he usually makes money.

Believe me or not, anyone that is regularly asking these questions to his friend would end up breaking the relationship they had for long because with our Nigerian mentality when you began to interfere and involving yourself too much about personal income you easily becomes an enemy to your friend.

My advice to you is that limit on how you asked about someone personal hustle or business because most people don't feel secured when their friends began to asked them about their personal income and how they makes it all less such person is your biological brother/sister and relatives then I will say you can keep disturbing them for the knowledge to be shared across you and to some other of your relatives who are really ready eager to learn.

When you are too focusing on someone personal income it becomes a problem and at that point you create a point of suspicion to yourself if there were anything for you to know he don't mind closing everything for you so that he can secure his personal interest and protects his income because (Nigerians no dey like wen their 6sters or brodas dey progress pass dem, so dem go do anytin to bring dat pesin down na wetin make plenty pipo dey fear to tell pesin wetin dem dey carry chop so abeg make you no blame dat ur friend wey no gree show you road).

You know I think you didn't read the article very well because you were interested in looking at the writer's  mistake and I think you are among the people that is selfish in this country sorry if you see it as an insult.  If I may ask you what can you fix in this country,  they said charity begins at home right,  with what you  said I think even if you are been given the president of this country I can bet with my life that you will be the worst president ever yeah.

I have never see anyone talking about the good things in our country? New people in the forum always talk about how bad things are. For instance, like problems with the government, scams, and bad education. But every country has some issues. On TV, they usually show only the good stuff about other countries, making their governments look great, which isn't always true. They talk more about fixing problems than just complaining. We could also talk about the good things in our country but why don't we?  Honestly, your topic doesn't make much sense. Maybe try asking questions that can help the forum or learn about Bitcoin on Bitcointalk instead. That's just what I think. Good luck!"

Even at this age people are still selfish and self-centered when it comes to sharing update that will help the next person, I have a friend who do genuine things and make genuine money  and he knows I am a student and I need something doing so as to get some of my basic needs as a student but he never tell me about it even when I keep going to see him often he never opened up anything to me,  though he gives me food and some other things  but that wasn't enough because the job he does is something I can do very well  and when I think about it I found out that he wants me to be coming to him for food, help etc I wonder what kind of friend will do that .
However,  I think he was scared that I will be making money like him or,  that I might even make more money than him that is why he decided to keep it as a secret but nothing is hidden under the earth but thank God I figured out what it is and he will be surprise how I knew it.