I'll get back to you in the next 24 hours and let you know what I need if I'm going to try to crack it. I hope not to need the full wallet.dat. No reason for you to give that up unnecessarily.
I always find it interesting how much people who say "a . . . passphrase that not even I know" remember about their password after you start asking them some questions.
Just for the fun of it because I find this sort of experiment interesting..
Assuming your going to use gpu's to brute this once you have narrowed down your scope, I would be willing to offer up some hashing power to assist (free of charge as long as this doesn't run on for too long..)
Let me know if ~4.5GH will go very far to help you out here.