1. Lets say that Electrum wouldnt be used anymore in the future, would I still be able to use my wallet or are they in someone elses hands in one way or another?
No. Electrum is open source and there is bound to have a script to convert the seeds into the BIP32 key easily to extract the private keys. It won't be difficult at all.
2. IF an hacker would got inside my computer, and I never open and typing the passwords of the wallet, it would be very hard for them to got inside the wallet, right?
Depends. Remember, with the wallet files they can have unlimited attempts till you move your funds. In the future, when you access your wallet, they can also have a window of opportunity to steal your coins. If your password is predictable or reused, it won't be safe. There is also no guarantees that your computer isn't infected with malware already, with antivirus or not.
3. Would it be a better idea to delete the wallet file and just remember the seed words? Is that the most safe way to do it (if you remember of course!)? Lets say I deleted the file and the backup so nothing is physically there where are it then? Is it still a part of Electrum in some way? Should I be worring about futures updates of any changes in the system making it impossible to reach it with just the seeds?
No. Relying on your memory can be a bit risky though. If you somehow end up with amnesia or just forgetting it, it would be pretty terrible. It's better to keep it on paper somewhere.
4. Thinking about getting a cold storage setup. Was thinking about Trezor and Ledger but heard som bad news about them and was thinking about Cold Card instead. Am I correct if I say that the reason to have a cold card is to get the wallet file even safer, you still have seed words that can be use to getback the money, right?
They are hardware wallets. They are designed to secure the funds with the most convenience. You can explore air gapped wallets with LiveUSB or an old computer as well. That'll be far more secure than what you have right now and fairly easy to do with the guides around the forum and on Electrum website.