Thanks so much for your response. I use ledger nano and ledger live so I don't think there's an option to use RBF within that platform (could be wrong).
Unless they changed it recently, they do indeed flag RBF, but can't use it.
I wanted to avoid using another wallet service if possible.
I would recommend to use Electrum with your Ledger (DO NOT enter your seed words into Electrum). That way you can use RBF on your existing transaction, and still verify and sign the transactions on the Ledger. See
Ledger's Electrum instructions.
Do you happen to know if it will be returned to my wallet after sometime is that likely or do you think it's likely it will go through at some poinht?
I expect it to confirm eventually. If it doesn't happen soon, fees usually drop during the weekend.
Send the change from the transaction? What is the "change" exactly?
I haven't used Ledger Live, so I don't really know if/how it shows in there.