Topic: We should control our tongue at all time. (Read 780 times)

Thank you OP for sharing this experience with us, it shows that it's not good to go around talking anyhow to people just because you feel that way, words are very powerful and can cause a lot of harm if not used properly and I her case she put herself in a difficult situation because of that, even the bible did want us about how important it is to tame the tongue.

Another thing I would also warn us about is how quick we can be to lay curses or insults to our children or siblings without minding that we hurt their feelings this can later lead to low self esteem in children.

OP, i it is good to control our tongue when necessary not all the time because sometimes it is good that we speak out or make clarification in a discussion for better purposes. The thing is most persons do not know when to say things they are being triggered by emotions, anxiety or insecurity. And it has caused them a lot of damages. In the case of this police issue, its something that would not have gone too far up to this extend. And by the way they were not talking to him directly, even if he had remembered his encounter with any police officer or military personnel he should have just kept quite.

I think we should think multiple twice before any words comes out of our mouth. There are people who listen to every words and takes it so serious even if it was spoken out of jokes. Maybe that police man was someone like that and he felt insulted that is why he wants to use that persons as an example to others. At least you learnt something that day and the other persons in the vehicle also learnt as well. Next time you wont repeat what that guy did, so you see the lesson he wants to make out of that guy made you shared this topic with us.

Our tongue small ehn but na e dey powerful pass, we fit kill person through our tongue or we fit enter big problem self through this our tongue, which is very bad, no wonder the bible say " Life and Death are in the power of our tongue" because of the kind things wey our tongue dey do. Although e dey serve us good o, like we dey know the taste of something like food, and without tongue we no dey fit talk but at the same e dey land us for problem if not probably use, and some of the problem wey some people dey today na wetin dem talk na e cause them dey for the problem, even some people wey dey for prison or wey die self, na wetin dem talk na cause why dem dey for prison or wey dey die. So make we mind the way we dey talk because wetin we feel say e no matter, na that thing dey matter pass, so mk we dey mindful with our words

Some time we need to keep quiet, is not to just talk without reasoning wetin we want talk. Let use this examples and teach you guys something, one we travelling  so as we were going we reach a checkpoint were the police say let the driver give him 500 naira so  the driver say  he dont have  then the police went back to the car and saw those fake fuel and told the driver that go see wetin e dey carry for back of the motor and the driver said that is garri.LOL.why it was this fake fuel. Do the police enter inside the motor and wanted to park it so one woman  inside now started shouting oga e don tell you say na garri wetin u still dey do now, even though say na burkerring no be all of oo na dey do am, na so the police verse slap the woman. So na why  sometime we need to they reason before we talk.

The girls jam talk and should will learn in the hard just like very dark man were no use freedom of speech well were police done pick him for over a week now, this is how it supposed to be and every citizens should at least mind they business and only say what they have fact about and not just based on assumptions or stereotyping.

Most time when you are at a police check point or any check point for that matter, you need to act with ultimate respect to the officers on duty and mind what we talks a matter of fact we should keep silent and never ulter any statement until we have a legal adviser that can interpret and guide our statements, because those officers are5 Mobile law that is to say anything you say or do will always be used against in the court of law and this girl in the story is going to serve punishment for that unlawful speech.

I believe that everyone suffers with it at times, and that with practice, we can all improve. This is especially crucial in today's environment, since social media and the internet allow our thoughts to be magnified effortlessly. One careless statement may be repeated and disseminated far and wide, with unexpected repercussions we could never have anticipated. So the lack of face-to-face connection also removes some of the social indicators that would typically help us be more conscious of how our words are perceived, because it is easier to mistake a person's voice or purpose when conversing via text rather than in person. So assuming the girl controlled her tongue, she wouldn't have found herself in that situation.

At all cost you should try to control and good communication skills when talking to people,most especially the a force agent which is on duty.you should know how to control your communication and tunes of words,sometimes you need to allow them to do there duty since you are at there post.but I have watch videos where boys drives and speeds to pass Chechnya point without been check by force man on duty. So when I see some officer been aggressive to the youth or some driver I don’t complain about it because.there have seen a lot of that l.

The tongue is an abundant speaking tool which literally tends to utter our innermost fellings with the possibilities to indict and put us to problems if carelessly and mindlessly unwatchful on rapport with others people.
Infact, it is either a self defence or serves against selves defenses. So it is necessary if we must take control of our tongues if we must talk in communications with others

Your anecdote say it all. People need to take note. You know, most times, there is no need to jump into conversations, especially when you're not included. Also, I find it expedient to refrain from replying someone even if he/she makes a sly comment or angles a mocking word towards you, because some people are just troublesome, they're just waiting to know what you have to say. And I believe that the best response you can give to a fool most times is just silence (nothing more, nothing less).

The tongue  is very powerful,  the tongue fit put man for problem wey be say man fit lose him life, the wey man too present is tongue fit make ahm obtained favour from other people. I will say the tongue is life because na the tongue na go determine how man life go be. E get the way person go dey talk people go shit and no gree come closer because wetin dey come out from your mouth no beveetin sweet and person go won dey close.

Sometimes is better to leave some words unsaid. Although wetin she say na true but na naija we dey. Naija where person wey dey claim right was carry to police station and was accused of abusing their boss. Everybody know policemen no dey do their work this days. But wetin citizen won do. Words of our mouth can save us and at the same time kill someone. It's better one learn how to control his/her mouth in public.

Well in this case I will say it's a nice topic there.. we should control our tongue at all time, I had an experience over this topic last week, I was in my business place when two guys came in, although they wanted to cut their hair, so they started talking about asari business saying how the government normally attack them whenever they are in their work so they never knew I was barbing an army guys hair, the man was just busy making a phone call... calling his colleges before I could knew whats happening 4 army guys came in my shop and took them out of the shop...so any where you dea no dea talk pass wetin u no know, abeg make we dea try dea control our tongue abeg

Normally dis country wey we dey so,police fit use the slightest thing detain person.Although the girl talk truth oh.....dem say the truth is bitter,that word wey she tell the policemen really pain dem.Just dat na the tongue wey she no control nai put her for problem.Now to control the tongue sef hard sha, because e get some kind talk wey we go talk maybe na anger make u talk am,later on u go con dey reason say ah.....na me talk dat kind thing.God go help us sha make we fit dey control the tongue.Dis tongue wey we dey see na one kind small organ but e fit lift u up and e fit still bring person down.So make we try dey control our tongue and dey behave well for public.

You are so lucky that your truck worked for you and believe me you won't be this lucky all the time. Truth is the police in this country is so corrupt and there nothing that seems like there is a change or reform coming anytime soon. Also not everybody has the time to go through all the process of going to court and whatever, because you go pay lawyer wey go carry your mata for head. Guy Sars men don use POS comot money from my money from my hand. All this evidence wey you dey talk of go clear for your eye when dem catch you for high way and collect your phone from you with better 3 slaps for your face. Is like you don't know what's going on in this country.

This is the problem we are facing in our country. Naija people have that mentality. You said some have experienced a situation where you will see a policeman with a pos in case they catch any Yahoo boys. I have questions for you. Did you encounter such experiences before? If yes, where is your evidence?

 All this there is saying about the corruption of the armed forces in Nigeria, most especially the police. Yes, we know that some police are corrupt, but even though you know you will never say it because you have no evidence, let me tell you my experience on that. I have ever broken a law by following one way with my bike, not knowing that someone in security was waiting for me when they seized my bike. I was like, This is a mistake. One of them requested some token so that I could just give it to them and go. I said I didn’t have anything to give them, which made them so angry, and they took the bike to the office without hesitation. I asked for their office address. After I reached there, the first person I went to direct was the DPO. He said that I must bail out my bike. I asked how much he said, 3k. I said if I paid, would I be given a receipt? He said no. That is, when I use my brain, someone is definitely trying to use me. I told him that in the constitution of Nigeria. Even though I committed the offence, I will just be taking it to court and paying a fine, which will not be more than 100 naira. He asked me if I was a student. I said yes from the law department, which is just a lie. He just called an office. I told him to give me my key so that I could go. You see, some people fall victim to such things because they don’t know their rights or where to prove them. That is just the issue because if the DPO identifies that I am lying, I know I will suffer, but what made him believe it was that I have an ID card in my pocket and the ID card ribbon is showing from my shirt pocket. That is what made him believe it.

Smiles, police harassment in this country can not be over emphasise, it's now a culture that we should get use to unless an only if you are equal to the opposition because to every action there is equal an opposite reaction, third law of motion.

Conformity theory of truth philosophy 101 it  starts that if you can't beat them you join them.

There is power in the tongue to kill, save and destroy.

As humans we really need to learn if wetin we dey utter from our mouth if e go lead us to problems when we talk people,  some people no just even care they feel they can just open their mouth and say whatever they want to say and nothing will happen.  Sometimes we don't really know people we are talking to, if they dont have power to do deal with you in physical they can go as far to do even if it means spiritual just to make sure they deal with you.

To be honest she was just speaking the truth, but you see, no one would want to say his mother's food isn't sweet. So even if that is the basic truth about our Nigerian police you don't get to talk to them in such manner except, you have where to fall back to should in case anything happens, even if we gossip them behind their backs, standing in front of a police man and accusing him so such manner is something that can get you into really big trouble. But at the end all they need for those anger is just bri, just give Dem small change and Dem go let you go come even give u premium advise join am

It is better we learn this now instead of  making same mistake this girl made and learn things the hard way. Not just to uniform men alone but when interacting with people both outsiders and those we already associate with.
It is best we keep shot and listen attentively than always wanting to talk even when it doesn't warrant our voice to be heard. We ought to rethink in our head if what we about to voice out will make us look guilty or is inappropriate to the listeners to avoid us being used as a scape goat.

Our utterances are responsible for most of the problems we find ourselves,no be lie..we should at all times check with our inner self if what we are about saying will make harm or good. E get some kind English wey  person go wan speak sometimes, but sake of say you no go like fall hands,you go cross check am for inside before you talk.that’s how we should cross check everything we say when in the midst of people because what hurts the next person might be as little as calling someone ‘yam head’ even in a playful tone,people read and reacts to things differently. To you, somethings really don’t matter,whiles to some other person, it’s disrespectful.so in all our dealings with people, casually or jokingly, one should make it a compulsory attitude to cross check words with inner self and control your speeches.

If you wait for your opinion to be sought then you might remain silent forever and that is why the country will take years before individuals will enjoy the benefits of being a citizen. Things aren't flowing well because people are advised to bridle their tongues. The girl said the truth but humans are always scared of the truth. People want to be applauded for doing nothing. Even without she providing evidence, we know that to an extent that is the current reality of the country. In some developed countries, the fact that the girl was illegally detained citizens will rise against the Sars men but here we are advised to remain silent even in the face of oppression. So how do we enjoy the freedom of speech? I expected the Sars men to see that statement as criticism and work toward enhancing security in the country. I will end with a question. Does detaining the girl mean that the truth has been kept hidden?

Thanks for sharing this here but believe you me some people are still going to do,  I mean they are still going to be a victim. Well am not surprised it's a lady because most men don't talk much and they know how to behave themselves,  ladies are always eager to show themselves at all time. 
Though sometimes it can be hot temper, arrogant, busy body,  not knowing when and where to talk. I think people should learn to keep this aside at all time and only talk when necessary.

Your hundred percent correct restraining oneself and guiding one tongue is very important in our society because the nature of nation even with evidence sometime you need good defendant to see you tru once it become a court case and anytime police and other force in Nigeria some may think our police are illiterate is when they want to purnish you, you will see laws and charges common example of this road side money they collect every day with the Keke and car once you fail to give just forget it because your day business will be bastardize by them with unknown charges jus as OP have nailed it one must be careful why making use of tongue not everything is village people or enemies as many see it unguarded tongue is liable to destruction.

No matter how frustrated you are in a moment you shouldn't make some statement that you may regret later, the laws of this country is not working, so making a statement that you think ordinarily would have been ignored or look into by the authority can bring a problem not only for but your family at large.
Here in Nigeria if you must survive, you have to learn how to mind your business in other not to be used as an example to other people to learn, lets try as much as possible to advise in this direction if not, the problematic situation you will put us through won't be funny at all that's if you dont take precautions.

Well, I really felt so bad about how some people makes ugly and sealy speech more especially in public places, even if you have a civic right of freedom of speech but speak and defined your speech, this exactly how a lady batch into a marital conflict between a husband and wife telling the man's wife how the husband has extral marital affair that he even have a family.

Only this information lead to divorce or separation of the man and his wife, the man took the matter up just to know who  tire his family aside low and behold the woman was arrested and could not defined what she said concerning the man having another family.

I think some people should just be mindful of what to say while in the public places or things they are not sure of.

Because when the humiliation will come you can not withstand it so it really matter what you say in public.

If you know how this country dey then you go know say to control your tongue is every important because the whole system is whack and especially the police force. But notwithstanding know how to talk is very important because many many people don mis out for their blessings because of the way dem dey talk to people. But the police detaining the girl is not a new thing because there are so many cases of these kind of issue even the one way no be the person dey at fault the police go still turn am upsidedown against the girl or people.

I actually think the girl was right. We all have that civic right of Right to speech and expression and she was just expressing herself. She only said what she has been seeing. Them arresting her is totally wrong because they didn’t even have evidence or warrant for her arrest. It was absurb for them arresting her.They wouldn’t have gotten angry if she wasn’t right.
Yeah it’s good to control what we say in the public but in my opinion we shouldn’t neglect the fact that we have right. If not because money, power ad fame has taken the order of the day she was actually innocent.

   Some people with rattling tongue that can never rest. They'll claim is their anger issues that's at fault whereas it isn't. One thing that's rampant in the country today is the fact that Police Officers are the one majorly receiving the blabbing from Nigerians, because it's not been seen anywhere that such a thing happened to any military man. Why can't Nigerians have the same fear for police officers as they have for the military officers.
   One doesn't necessary have to let his anger decide his tongues outburst, anger management should be applied. We should avoid scenarios that we may mistakenly go to insult someone whose anger matches ours, because it'll elevate from mouth war to hand war and if unfortunate, injuries would happen. Let's not restrict our tongue wars to a set of people, let's restrict it to all people. Misunderstandings can occur and we settle amicably without it leaving the space of its occurrence. It's essential that we learn it up, it shows growth and maturity too.

In some situations too, if it were robbers that stopped the vehicle and were searching it, there was no way that girl would have made such a statement; she definitely would not have had the guts to even beg the robbers to free them. Some people always forget that the police or the arm force men are always doing their job for the safety of the citizens, and while they are doing their job to carry out their search, it's always wise to allow them to do their job. Some people like to learn in a hard way, and with what happened to her that day, I believe she will learn, and other people who experience that incident will also learn or tell the story to others who will learn from it.

What some of us don't know is that, the things we say out from our mouths have the power to build people up or tear them down or even affects us, so we should always be mindful of the impact our words can have. Sometimes it can be easy to speak without thinking, but I won't advise any soul born on this earth to speak without thinking.. Cause if I can remember back then in secondary school my teacher always use a poem that says "think before you do don't do before you think'' but taking a moment to pause and consider our words can make all the difference. A simple rule to follow is to ask yourself: "Is it true, is it kind, is it necessary?" before you speak.

People don't always mind what they utter out From their mouths most time because they feels like talking and thinks they can role their tongue at when needed or when not needed by anyone. I have similar case but it was about how we dress while traveling we should mind what we put on as men or female because we can feels that is our body hence we can wear whatever we feels like putting on while traveling.

A guy seated before me was on dreadlocks and wore a kind of toured trousers with much designs join with little hand pus and he was holding and the police men suspected him to be Yahoo boy and asked him to drop, along the line was forced to show them how phone and it was an iPhone and strange picture of a foreign woman inside the phone.

That was how he was arrested for more questioning, the bottom line is we should mind how we dressed as men or women so that we won't put ourselves into trouble.

   Frustration jus dey everybody eye for this country na why small thing fight make person spark up cause trouble unnecessarily. The main issue be say even as the country hard reach, person go stay still dey try extort people of their hard earned cash. Na the height of unfairness be that, so in some situations when person  change am give all these highway men on black, e just dey justified. Sometimes Dem go leave their assigned duty to go dey do something else, where go still dey cause corruption in the country.
    Then Nigerians on the other hand, we don too see this pple finish because the kain judgement wey we dey give them on sight dey too depressing. Like we go don already plan ahead how we go counter Dem even change am for Dem if Dem mess up. Make we try dey calm down sometimes. Yes we know say their ways no too pure but omor to avoid unnecessary escalated issues, make we jus reason on their level, we fit even use whining take hold them for our hand. We no need curse or spit out venom, e go only spoke their anger too. Everybody eye dey red so make we try dey chill sometimes so that we no go bring out the red eyes finish.

Some people are naturally born with verbal diarrhoea especially ladies they talk recklessly irrespective of where they are, I have met few of them like the lady mentioned by the OP whose recklessness of her tongue had put her into trouble, whenever law enforcement agents are performing their legal duties it is not the responsibility of any civilian to question them or make a derogatory remark to them especially when they are performing "Stop and Search" infact the lady was very lucky that it was not some military men that stopped her it would have brutal because she would be subjected to some severe punishment instantly and at the end she might never remain the same health wise infact she would admitted straight to the hospital.

Her statement was bad and it is an insult to any uniform personnel more like she meant they don’t know their job and they are not doing their work properly. It’s really disrespectful and if she should put herself in their shoes and someone make such statements to her how would she feel? Before we utter any statement we need to thoroughly think of how people will perceive it first, if it will hurt anyone then we shouldn’t say them to avoid problems like this.

It serves her right, i have noticed this kinda things with girls they talk too much and they always feel they can talk about anything they like and I noticed again they don’t usually respect military personnels even though they are the ones that risk their lives to protect us. I have seen and heard couple of times where women talk bad about them and most of them are quite lucky not to be caught so this would probably serve as a lesson to others. No matter the position we find ourselves we should know how to use our tongue even though we feel we are superior to those around us, words hurts more and especially in a public place you will never know who some people are until you step on them so it’s better to mind your business to avoid unnecessary wahala.

Wetin that girl talk na the pure truth and na the thing weh deh everybody mind anytime weh we see checkpoints. But na to talk am out be the problem because of the guns weh those men deh carry. The girl allowed her mouth to run fast weh nobody send am at that point. She for wait make the motor move small then she go begin talk. Na frustration make many of us deh react to police that way. Them know how to extort and intimidate the masses but the real criminals be them friends.

In as much as Nigeria is a curupt country does not mean that one must have to say it in public, because what you say while at home and what you said outside are two different things because it might lead you into trouble.

The worst thing that can trigger a force man to do such thing, is by indirectly telling him to his face, that his not compitent to handle criminal case, but always claiming hard to Normal citizens.

In as much as the military sector is concerned there are force men that are doing there job perfectly but the reputation of the bad once have engloved the innocent ones. Emagine Making such statement in the present of someone who has been fighting for the right of the citizens, you would definitely get fucked up. So we should always mind our words or however ways control our tounge in other not to put ourselves hoddles.

Omo notwithstanding say the girl speak out within dey all of us mind including una wey dey that moto, because una self no like as the police people take dey delay una movement as e be say if dem see bad people dem no go do their job as dem dey do for innocent vehicle and people. Wetin that girl talk na passive word wey some police people no go react like that because dem too sabi say na true.

Me I dey tink say na just intimidation as usual. Okay if that girl sabi one small Navy officer now, you wan tell me say one small call no go cause wahala for deir head?

My brother las las, na number dem want still collect and begin run package with the babe but dem no wan make una sabi how e dey go.

Those people stupid no be small. And na those uniform men fit savage the country out of these politicians wey don impoverish this country. Them no dey see how other uniform men dey take chase out their ogas for office wey say dem be president.

Na dem go restart this country because dat na wetin the country need.

I have some troubles with the framing of this topic because it seems that there are a variety of situations in which authority could end up getting abused and yeah of course, I don't likely know enough about Nigeria, yet people have natural rights to speak out and stand up to authority (but run the risk of getting quashed in some systems.. sometimes by other people helping the authorities and sometimes by the authorities), and people also have rights to be skeptical of authority even if they might or might not be able to speak out. 

I also have troubles with the idea that generally speaking that people have to control their tongue, even though we do likely build up some of these ideas based on where we are living, and in that regard, there may well be circumstances in which danger comes to police officers if they do not make sure that the people in a crowd kind of a situation do not end up rebelling up against them while they are doing their supposedly official search and/or patrol duties.. and hopefully at the same time, they end up being accountable to higher authorities within their ranks if they go beyond certain levels of acceptable behavior... 

Ultimately the police officers are supposed to be carrying out the public good and not just their own good, but yeah we know that police systems will some times have several levels of corruption so it can be difficult for superiors to hold lower level officers corrupt if some of the superiors are also corrupt, so in the context of a search, it could become quite difficult to challenge any officers when they are in the middle of carrying out their official duties because they are not going to want to increase their own levels of danger by allowing the crowd to mass up against them, and during such situations, there maybe is not as much ability to speak out freely because of the balancing of the officer's need to carry out their duties and to portray themselves as legitimately exercising authority and they also want to stay safe too.

Frequently, we are not very likely to know all the circumstances of any search, except maybe what the officer says and if there might have been some context or some other similar searches, and if we just presume all searches are not just and/or legitimate then maybe we are thinking like the girl and we want to say something in the middle and while the search is taking place, but then at that time, we may well end up interfering with the officer's abilities to carry out their official search duties whether it may have been a just and fair search or not.

As far as the police's ability to merit out their own punishment towards the girl, those kinds of behaviors will vary from location to location, and surely some police officers are not going to engage in those kinds of behaviors to met out personal justice or even to be self-serving because they have internal ideas of right and wrong in regards to carrying out their official duties, but the extent to which some officers might decide to engage in those kinds of behaviors of either metting out their own personal versions of justice or receiving benefits from the carrying out of their official duties might depend partially upon the likelihood that they will end up getting caught and/or punished for such behaviors...and perhaps it also might depend partially if their colleagues are engaging in such behaviors and getting away with such behaviors, then they may well be more willing to do what many of the other officers are doing in the same kinds of situations.  The upper echelon of officers might even allow a certain level of those kinds of personal and corrupt behaviors to happen with their officers, even though the conduct might not be official and yet it could gain some semi-official status if the higher up officers are allowing self-serving metting out of justice to take place..

this is a very serious matter that I learned in a very hard way, So let me share my experience regarding this.
During my finals in school I had a project supervisor that disturbed us seriously on the amount of money we should pay for my project work. We paid paid the amount he told us and when we finished the the whole project work, a day to our submission he came up with this random 15k that we should pay before ever signing our work. We begged him but he refused and that led us not to do our internal defence. That made me very angry at him and at several occasion  I will make unguided statement behind his back about how wicked the man his and on how he treated us very bad. The department latter allowed us to joined in the final defense and while we where waiting for out turn for the defence, conversation came up and I repeated the same statement that he is a bad man man and I made statement like " that man chop our money wetin no good" after I made that statement I looked behind me and saw that he was standing just next to me. I was shocked and speechless and even had to run away because I didn't know how to react at that moment and that was when my sense cane back to me that I was being too unguided with how I use my thong.  Till date I still have some things I needed him to help me with but because of what I said, I I don't even know how to approach him anymore.

I know once the thought gets to the mind, it becomes very difficult not to utter it out but we should be very careful on what we say in the public because the walls truly have ears.

So why is it that all of a sudden the girl was accused as among the bad guys and had to be detained? 
It's a lot worse to do that than what she just said. Remember that it is supposed to be "Innocent until proven guilty" and not the other way around.
That was just a comment, what happened to the liberte de parole.

The thing be say make we dey try respect higher authorities...at least no be new thing to us as Nigerians say at any point where uniform men dey they must check the passers by especially traveling vehicles. There is no problem in allowing them search ..weda them no dey gree check bad boys or not it's non of our business,, she dey wrong Sha ...it's a problem she should have avoided,,to me sef na Sabi Sabi put her for that wahala..at least others go learn

Knowing full well that the officer has the right to stop and search every vehicle they come across. That is their duty, and they are implementing i. The girl was totally wrong for saying such because of a simple search. But let's come back to the other side of the matter. It seems we don't have the right anymore to speak to the police. But they said they are our best friend. We are expected to express our emotions towards them, but it is different in our country. I don't like comparing our country with other country but am really fed up with a lot of things going on.

I remembered sharing my experiences of how they stole our generator at home and the thief was caught. When the Police came, we told them that we don't want to escalate the matter that the boy should just pay the money for the Generator because we have bought another one and he can go They insisted that they will take the boy to the station so that he can learn some lesson for some time. I never knew their intention was to find a way to get money. On reaching there they said we need to sign, and signing is 1k, fuel fee and all the rest. We spent almost 10k before leaving the station, now who is the main thief?

We Nigerians carry freedom of speech for head and the interesting thing be say we dey abuse am. This na one common sickness majority of us dey face for Nigeria. We no know how to talk, when to talk and the right time to talk some things. Apart from the girl for this case, many of us  too wey dey talk say wetin this girl talk no good still dey guilty of this  very offence Of putting mouth for wetin fit cause us wahala.

Plenty bad things dey happen for this our country,  we no know who be who again.  Small talk wey you talk now fit cause one big kasala, this one na the main reason why we suppose dey think first of the possible implications of wetin we wan talk before we voice am out.

She was reckless with her tongue, no matter the fact that, we are as country are experiencing some form of lawlessness, we should try and respect those of them that are policing us, it's not easy to put your life on the line for the safety of others, if she's is charged to court, she can either go to jail or pay a fine for misguided statement against constituted authorities.

To learn how to talk na one thing wey we no suppose to joke with, because this same tongue fit commit you and still put you for problem if you no control your self, sometimes people go say we get freedom of speech, yes we get freedom of speech but that one no mean say your freedom of speech na to take talk wattin you no get evidence for, Because that one fit put you go big problem. Normally we dey very guilty of saying our police dem nor dey do their work properly, but to go tell police man for em duty post wey beta sun dey mama em head say em dey allow bad boy pass, that na very big courage wey that girl get, but las las we know say na money go end that matter nothing else. But apart from this situation small talk wey you fit talk fit make your boss fire you for work, or make lecturer give you CO, for you to know how the power of the tongue dey, even the bible emphasize on the power of your tongue.
So to sabi talk matters a lot but this our new generation children dem nor dey sabi talk and e dey pain me, dem dey feel like say na everything be money.

However, learning how to control our tongue is an important thing people should understand because 1, I believe that there is power in the tongue and we shouldn't use our tongue to say things the wrong way. 2, our tongue is not meant to abuse those that are above us or below us but to respect them. In the story that the op said, the girl way to blamed because she want the one the police officer were talking to at first, but she just wan show her self and others way they inside the vehicle say she Sabi talk or say she no get respect, although, watin dey girl talk nah one of the things way some of this our Nigerian police them dey do but the thing we supposed to know be say at that time way we dey for there areas we no supposed to talk against them because them fit do the on do and if pipo ask them go put lies for the person head,,,,, even if say pipo they the place way the thing happened before any of them go try to rescue the victim,,, by then the person done recive enough beatings.

Dis one na serious matter be dat oo, we go stop dey judge book by the cover now. Me never know say dem strict with police like dis when dey come to going out for duty to secure the people in the country. If na wetin really dey happen be dis, den where d insecurity wey we say we dey fight for dey now. When d people wey go help us fight too dey fear make dem no come kpai dem, our own lives go be like joke for their sides be dat now, dem fit do anything dem like for town since dem know say the people wey go stop dem no dey fully equipped like dem to fight dem. But dis matter really surprise me still o, you dey sure say na so dis matter still be till now and dem neva rectify am by now. For God’s sake, we dey 21st century, wetin dey sup with our country na.


Naso, two wrongs no fit make any right but e be like say na d condition wey dos officers dey dat night na him make dem react like dat to her. E for better as dem interrogate her come show her small pepper make dem allow her follow d rest passengers go, but as dem no do like dat, e mean say dem really mean d girl and dem go deal with her very well be that. But my fear with all dis road side security personnel’s na impersonation. I just pray say she no fall into the wrong hands as dem leave am come dey go their thing. Country hard, everybody dey vex base on say dem dey face one or two daily, but dat one no mean say make we dey run our mouths anyhow.

This is nothing but lawlessness, there should be freedom of speech and they can also be challenged by citizens for noth doing their job as suppose. Some of the citizens have experience where some police do have pos machine with them Incase they catch any yahoo boy, they can get their own share from them.
As for the girl, she is rude and she has pass wrong judgement without knowing why they stopped them. The girl ought to know that there is a high level of insecurity in Nigeria and it is a wise thing for security to be on task. Some weeks ago , I open a thread in respect to security and I will say big thanks to police and vigilante effort to combat the kidnappers and drive them away from our territory, thanks to God who granted them this power and grace

The tongue is one of the smallest part of the body yet so powerful. The earlier people understand the power of the tongue, the better. No wonder even God admonished us to be "fast to hear but slow to speak" which means we should check the consequences of our spoken words before letting them out.

In a society where there is law and order and citizens rights respected, even though what she said was bad and demoralizing to our security forces, she was not supposed to be arrested and detained rather, there should be a way to make her substantiate her claims. Two wrongs can never male a right.

We sabi how police dey run their thing for dis country, but e no come mean say make u dey talk anyhow as u dey check point, if you go talk something like that u suppose done commot for check point. If you dey even travel self, e better make u just keep quiet for car, just dey mind ur business, you know suppose dey talk anyhow for inside car, u no sabi d kin people wey dey inside d car, dey get some sensitive things wey u no suppose dey talk inside. Anything wey u no say fit cause problem, avoid to  dey talk am inside car. Even politics mattar, e better if you dey journey make u no dey talk about am, even if another person carry d mattar come, just dey low key dey observe no put mouth.

I don follow one police man wey I sabi talk about dis mattar before, and from d response wey him give me I felt bad. D man talk say guns wey most of those criminals dey use better pass their own, him say sometime if their gun don hot e go dey misbehave, and before dey commot for station, dem dey count bullet give them. All those criminals wey be say na new guns dem dey use with unlimited bullet, how u wan take fight people like that. D police man talk say if dem dey exchange bullet with d criminals, if d bullets wey dem give dem for station don finish, na die remain be that ooo.

Wetin she talk no make sense. We know say Nigerian police dey jonse and how dem dey run when the main casala set but for her to openly say that kind thing to the hearing of the police men dey disrespectful. Every harsh treatment wey dem give her, she deserve am and I want believe say after that experience, she no go cap carelessly again anytime wey she see them. Even for our day to day lives, e get sometimes wey an issue go want come up and na something wey no suppose escalate, but because the person no sabi yan or control himself, naso him go use wrong choice of words fuel the whole situation. Our words fit put us for trouble, and at all times make we dey choose wetin we dey yan.

Some people mouth no dey ever stay one place, anything wey dey see dey most talk am, even if e no concern them, if they say mind your business body go dey pepper dem to talk anything they see. If no be say we no dey respect forces for naija we dey take everything as cruise say them no care about the youth safety. They deserve their respect as Nigerian forces, but as things they happen to Nigeria youths that is why we are taking their job for granted. As you speaked she got herself into another trouble, if she remain silent at that moment nothing would have happened to her, she can't complete her journey with you guys that day. No be say na she be the only passenger in that motor but she see say she sabi talk pass all una.

That is why in some places if they see say person remain quiet, they will thinking that you too dey fear, but all is for the peace, for this country if you do over sabi e no dey ever favor at all, if it does not concern you remain calm, na when you chook mouth for person matter, you go cause trouble to yourself.

Anything wey me I dey talk, I make sure say I talk am for the right place and the right time, wetin the girl talk na truth, police men for naija now don lazy finish. Sometimes sef na empty threat them dey do. I fit remember when I dey travel, police men stop the bus wey I enter to check people logage and them charge the bus driver money, but if na thief or harm robbers police men see that night them for no fit do anything rather na them go run. For naija, work wey road safety officer suppose do na wetin police man dey do.

But why I dey blame the girl she no suppose talk am for there, just imagine me telling a police man that they're thiefs I dey try tell them make them thief my money na, and I sure say as that girl talk that thing they mind don happy because money go finally drop and them go charge the girl.

  Come to think of it, in what sections of the Nigeria constitution did it state that citizens are not allowed the freedom of speech, I see no crime in what she said, people can say things out of frustration. And the situation of the country doesn’t make it any easier. it normal to get that impulse of wanting to react, not everyone has that self resilient mindset , I want to ask, if the lady in the context was an important person or a person with influence, will the officers have the effrontery to make a noise ? No !!! They saw a chance to oppress the young lady who is just  pouring out her own frustration in a way she can. To me it is abuse of power by the officers on the young lady, she committed no crime for her to be detained more less do the officers have anything on her.
   Officers who are not doing their job properly, should be stand corrected cause no one is above correction, our country made those in uniform bigger than the law and we all know how excessive and intoxicating power can be. Don’t quote me wrong, it is important to know when and how to talk when you’re relating to people. Wrong Manner of communication can lead you into trouble. But still never cease your voice when you need to to be heard.

These particular issue of talking has landed people into problem. That is why it is advised to exercise self restrain in public places and where ever you are. Most times when in public places more especially commercial vehicle, do not answer important calls unless it is and emergency situation. You do not know who is sitting next to you waiting for information to tap from your conversations. Sensitive discussion ought to be done in confined environment for privacy and avoidance of information leakage. Most times people complain of attack or possibly robbery but they forget to remember that they had a conversation at a particular place they were not supposed to and unfortunately some criminal element around them must had heard them and trailed them to their destination without them knowing and  launch an attack on them. All these are the reasons why people are advised to limit their choice of communication in public so as to be on the safe side.

Crazy incidents happened on a daily basis in our fatherland. We should depend on GOD for protection at every point of our lives because dangers seems to be the orders of the day. One of major causes of us facing daily crucial scenarios are our inability to sealed our tongue, it's definitely not in every case we ought to speak out because certain situations does require absolute silence, though one might be consider an unwise individual but vividly it's the right thing to do especially when we come in contacts with these aggressive men in uniforms. Concerning the situation on ground, the girl made an unpleasant insulting statement which instantly was reciprocated by the men in uniform, she's described as the escape-goat and this will cause her some fees inother to bail out from the station were they would take her.

This should sound like a warning and a lesson to many people, there are some statements you shouldn't make when you are in a vehicle or a public place in other to avoid the embarrassment or danger that may come as a result of your statement, engaging in a discussion in a vehicle to me is not a good thing because you don't know who is close to you, so if we often do this we should stop it because of the looming danger it may portray.

The girl's statement was uncalled for, some speech is better made in secrete, even though Nigerian police engage in such activity as she alleged must she say it to their face, does she have concrete evidence to back up her claim, the answer is no, I think she has learned in a hard way which was not supposed to be so, I pray that this case shouldn't escalate to something else.

The statement she made was very bad and the police officers have every right to punish her for that statement she made , it is an insult saying that to the face of the uniform men. Their maybe some police officers who are not doing their job well bit this doesn’t mean police officers needs to be disrespected, their are still police officers who are really working hard in fighting every criminal activity.

We really need to be careful the way we speak when we are outside because their some can of speech that can lead one to serious problem that will really be so bad to experience.

thats most naija people for you my brother, i believe say that one sure sure if she come out she go dey learn how to keep shout, and e come be say na SARS place she come talk the talk, and e go also serve as lesson to others wey witness the incident.

Tongue have lead many people to a prison if you don't know bro, this your story is not something that will be a surprise to me, I have seeing a place where people have a misunderstanding and one of them make a comment that the opponent will die very soon and about some days the person died, the person that made the comment just make the statement because they have a misunderstanding but his tongue has lead him to a problem that he will never forget in his life, sometimes we should know the kind of words that come from our mouth, because some words are words that God Don already plan am to happen.

And about this your story, the girl deserve to be punish for her words because this is a disrespectful word to a Nigeria police, how can she said if it is some bad boy's now the police will not stop them? That words is a insult for me, although sometimes our Nigeria police dey mess up sometimes by standing on the road and be collecting bribing but at this point the police did not ask them for any bride, they are just checking up and that is their duty and I don't think anything is wrong with that.

Op this your topic reminded me of thing that happened last month to me. I wanted buy laptop and I told my sister that I was going to buy laptop of 200k omen my sister corner me oh and told that I should not buy it instead I should borrow her the money make she use am pay one job opportunity wey dem give her for hospital and she go pay me back once the employment click. Omen if I no give her I don do bad thing be that. So I have to give to forfeit my own. So why I dey bring this matter be say, if to say I no tok am say, I get dat kind money she for no know. So sometimes make we dey close our mouths because dem go put us for wahala.

has I read this thing I see the importance say make we they control anything we they talk with our mouth because the thing done cause plenty fight fight between families and even war because even if you look this matter thing wey no matter nahim go come they cause fight self because of talk, and for our own life we suppose they talk better thing concerning our own life. tongue fit no get bone but the thing strong pass anything wey we sabi make we they careful.

Indeed her words was misguided and I must say, there are always these persons, once that others need to learn from and in this instance, it was her. She should have been aware enough on how the scenario would turn. Not like these things don’t happen but, in as much as you expect the Police or any arm of the armed forces to take you in without due reason and evidence, you should as well be very aware not to accuse them without an evidence as that, was an accusation.

I have had the opportunity to see passengers been caught with unlicensed fire arm in a regular stop and search, I’ve also seen some smugglers been caught migrating themselves into the control from these stop and search. Not to mention the risk they take in those check points. There are good cops and bad cops. We should as well acknowledge that and not ridicule those doing the actual job.

The rogue officers will always be after there #100 and that’s all. You can as well be patient with them and let them do their job. If you want to take a case with them, have your papers in tact and let’s see how they would force you to pay them a penny. That can’t happen, it’s only when your in the wrong or your about them not doing there jobs of stop and search.

I know these guys deliberately delay your time in these search due to lack of compliance but, bare with them and help them change.

 While wetin the girl tok truth dey inside unto how we naija police pipo don carry extortion put for front; e for still dey beta to keep her mouth shut. Why? Even if them know say them no dey do their duties well, them go still punish her for calling them out on it. This nah another avenue for dem to take moni out of her and if na the ones wey no dey accept bribe, them fit charge her go court for accusing officers of law of not doing their jobs.
 The way our country don dey so disorganized sotey rule of law no dey dey observed by these civil servants, and also how police man wey sopoz do him duty for road dey collect change from bus drivers, why disrespect no go dey?

Truly peso need to be mindful of wetin em d talk these days. This time around no be when peso d open em mouth waaa to d talk anyhow for where em find em self cos whatever peso talk, na wetin dem go use against am.

Seriously, the gal no talk well atal, em dey at fault even though wetin she talk na as em be so but the Nigeria police force no d use ear hear sae you castigate them for their front no matter who you be. Now d gal go explain tire cos this one no be small matter d police d overlook so. If care is not taken , the gal in question go fit the spend weeks or months for cell concerning this matter. if she get strong backing nothing do am for d matter but she no get, I pity her cos this no small matter as some people may think cos I see someone spending hundreds of thousands for this matter(see how peso take buy matter for em self). Na police people go use her set as an example so, so that people go d mindful of wetin dem go d reason when the see police officers for checkpoints.

Honestly. Some people are not cautious of what they say. There's power in the tongue. The world has been controlled by the word of mouth. You cannot allow yourself to be loose to the point that you let things out of your mind through your mouth. You think with the mind but never allow your mouth to echo all what's in your mind.

We learn everyday and night through the events that happen before us and that's what makes us stronger by the day.

My rule number one has always been "Don't fall victim" regardless of the officer's right to or not to detain her, na she go suffer am. Her body go tell her and maybe she will learn her lesson the hard way

This reminds me of a similar experience sometime last year, i had a very urgent meeting that was to commence in one hour from my then current time, i took a cab and i met a girl in it already, the vehicle was headed to a particular bus stop and you can't highlight any vehicle along the road because they won't pick you up unless it is a bus stop.

The driver was halted at a  police check point and they kept on searching and ransacking the vehicle for incriminating evidence, i got carried away by the jokes the policeman who conducted the search was telling that the driver and i began to laugh at the officer's jokes, the girl in the cab began murmuring and hissing like a confused snake, the policeman noticed and demanded to search her bag or we all be taken to the station as suspects, she refused...

i had to forcefully collect her bag and gave it to them for searching, then she did the most, insulted them saying they didn't know their job, the policeman then said we had something in the cab and insisted on searching my bag, i gave him peacefully and they searched the driver as well, they then told the girl to stay behind for questioning and the driver asked her to get down from his car or he would drag her out.

It was a caotic situation. i began to beg for a total stranger because she was about to see crazy if we left her with them, the driver shunned her to keep her mouth shut and we kept begging until they agreed and the officers told her she should work on her way of speaking to people especially older people, immediately we were released, we proceeded to our destination but that was after 2hours, i was already late for my meeting because of someone's rude way of talking.

The tongue has always been responsible for many problems and wars from before even till now.
That's why it is said to always use this tongue to claim and prophecy positive things or decrees into our lives.

In this kind of case mostly when it involves men putting on uniform or even putting on plain cloths and armed clearly, the tongue should be tied or arrested between the teeth if it feels it is too free, because them Naija police or SARS fit shoot person wey misyarn or avoid searching.

Even within friends or neighbors, unless na your right you dey drag for, with that even, it is better to just walk away. Walking away or letting them have their way will save anyone the pain of being flogged or being detained in a smelly room for long amidst humiliation.

Basically what the girl said concerning police force in nigeria is official act to police people, because sometimes I do think if police collaborate with criminal in some certain act, because sometimes when criminals is operating close by and you inform police that maybe criminals is attacking a particular place and they need to relief from hands of criminal, police will take a longer time before going to such place for the moment.

Police will relaxed and wasted some time and by then the criminals has already operated before you will see appearance of police, is not that they don't have what it takes to make sure they caption the criminals but they don't want, nigeria police doesn't respond or give attention immediately when you needed them, and what they will be after is to take money and hold people who is not a law breaker and allows the law breakers to go.

I don't know if all the criminals police people are their information and that is what I don't want to believe, because when check in nigeria police check point you not here that police arrested all this criminals in their active time in checkpoint so I don't think what they said about the sars is bad, but at least she would have respected herself until you people go out from there knowing that police people is on duty and she can equally be use as escape goat.

Thank you for sharing this experience of yours OP, I believe being rude leads people to more harm than good. Especially in a country like Nigeria where security agencies are looking for any available means to victimize the citizens instead of protecting them. the girl on her own part after making the mistake took a proud lane, if not, she would've pleaded with the officer that it was a slip pf tongue and promise not to do it again. The officer, even the most wicked of them all will caution her based on her gender and maybe collect even number if na fine girl, or maybe collect small thing from her as usual and you guys will continue your journey together.  misguided statements should be avoided in this country now as body dey pepper almost everybody now with the condition of the country, talk less of uniformed men wey no get joy right from the beginning. she is even in more danger now as they may even attack her sexually if she's not freed before night.

But permit me to ask you OP, SARS still dey Nigeria? I thought it was ended a while ago after the end SARS protest or did the government reinstall it?.
of course not. maybe what you guys saw was SF(special force). and not SARS. Maybe you confirm better next time before posting. your message was well received as we all need to be cautious to be safe out there. The girl may just have been having a bad day and vented her frustration on the wrongest people. transfer of aggression is surely a bad emotional discipline and should be avoided at all times and at all costs.

I was traveling from Port Harcourt to Bayelsa state yesterday afternoon, we go to a police check point and it was the Federal Sars men that stopped us. While they were doing their lawful duty of searching the vehicle and the passengers in it, a girl that was sitting behind me made a comment and the officer that was conducting the search heard her loud and clear. She said '' You people are just wasting our time, if it were the bad boys terrorizing the region you people won't stop them''. The Sars man got angry and asked the girl to come down from the vehicle, the girl came down and she was taken into their custody for further questioning about her comment. The officer asked the driver to carry the rest of the passenger and continue with the journey. Some passengers pleaded with the officer to let the girl go but they refused, they said the girl must show them evidence where she saw them not stopping bad boys. They accused the girl of working with bad boys. The girl was detained while we continued with our journey.
The girl wouldn't have found herself in that situation if she had kept quiet without saying a word.
we should learn how to control our tongue at all time. Don't say unguided words when in public place.
Don't say anything when your opinion is not sought after in a public place because you don't know who is who.     
I feel like sharing this so that we can avoid some unnecessary problems in our lives.