Topic: What advice is best for military wife whose husband cheat on (Read 70 times)

In a bond between husband and wife which is called living together and being married. binding and promising not to hurt each other in marriage. In my marriage, I have the principle that any mistake can be forgiven except for infidelity! like animals, right? If one of the partners makes love to someone of the opposite sex who is not his wife or partner, why do I call the perpetrator of the affair nothing more than an animal? You can see the attitude and behavior of animals when making love without paying attention to their partner or their surroundings. In the animal world there are no rules about who you should have sex with/make love with, because animals do not have perfect minds like humans. Humans are clearly regulated regarding relationships that are bound by the word marriage. So if a human violates the promises of a marriage, such as infidelity, then the human is no more than an animal. My best advice is that if it can still be repaired, fix it and promise not to have an affair between a husband and wife of the opposite sex who have had an affair. Don't occasionally make decisions when our hearts are filled with emotions, compromise with your family and ask for advice. If in a household a husband and wife who already have 1/2/3 children experience a divorce due to infidelity, of course the child will be very psychologically hurt. So sometimes when making decisions in marriage, especially divorce, we have to look at the hearts and psychology of our children. There is not a single child in this world who wants to live or grow up without a father and mother figure, it seems unfair when we have a partner who cheats and we forgive...

The truth is there are threads suitable for this kind of discussion and that's the politics and society thread. I don't know why most of us don't utilize the appropriate threads to discuss issues that we are more concerned about. The forum is so big that it has almost every section that talks about all life issues. Is just that some people are too comfortable with just some specific threads that they do post without talking into account if the discussion would be best suited in the other threads. My advice is that before posting people should check if there are existing threads that will best suit what they are posting. If there is none then they can resort to the local board.

With all due respect to the OP, this thread de too off topic, to de discuss for dis forum, no need to carry marital affairs come de find solution for here, dis forum no be place for marriage counseling. I believe say na crypto discussions and economic matters we suppose de discuss for dis our local and entire board, abeg I stand to be corrected.

Anyway for di matter of discussion, di woman get proof say her military husband de cheat in her abi na hear say or wetin she de suspect? Because accusations of cheating for marriages na serious matter wey fit to end some marriages. I no know about how military de handle dat kind matter, but if she get proof of infidelity on her husband part, den make she confront am with her facts or suspicion, if dialogue no solve di problem, then she fit to reach out to di husband's family and friends, if dat one no still work den she get a final option of divorce or remain in the marriage.

If I may ask, before the woman marry the military man she don't know that her husband is a cheater because the military men I know, they use to use that uniform to catch many girls to be dating anywhere they are posted to, but they don't bring the girls come house for their wife see which is the respect they use to give to their wife.

 I will advise the woman not to go to court because, if she go to court it may end their marriage and, the military man will use that opportunity to pick one girl he use to carry outside and marry her which we have see some cases like that and the man husband family supported the man for such decision.

Indeed, that is a very challenging position. It seems like the woman is in a lot of pain and stress, and she also feels like she does not possess many alternatives for getting out of her current predicament. I think your advise was sound; she should seek assistance from authorities or those who may take action in a safe and effective manner. It is also necessary for her to realize that she has significance and importance as a person, and she does not deserve to be mistreated by the man she married. It's also required for women to establish a circle of support of relatives and close companions who can offer mental and financial support during this tough period.

The truth is the woman has been saying it anytime the man travel to work and you know woman as wife has allot of key to man's life mostly as wife in that matter, knowing fully well the mind construction can't be read by the face who know the angle of action to juggle justice the woman is planning as she has no divorce option than stay and do what will go against law as she always pronounce.

This is confusing because from your post, the husband is the one in military and not the wife.


No one can stop someone from cheating. It is left to the wife to divorce, separate or just continue with the relationship if she is benefiting from it.

My people this issue is like a hook covered with worm to a fish, I get stock and run out of advice to arising issue of a military wife, whose husband is cheating on, as her action is always to take life by carrying out juggle justice, I was opportune to advise by virtue of closeness, tell her to take the case to court, or family of husband or church even any of whom his husband listens to. Also report the husband to their main boss as in the military head where the man is posted, but these was rejected by  of her among  all the option her reason is that people may side her husband as he is not the first to practice it, if your In my shoe what will be your best advice please, it may not be BTC related but let your opinion be problem solving. Please chok mouth