Topic: When will you be comfortable to start a home. (Read 542 times)

When the pandemic came to the world, this only proved that not all industries are stable even if you think that you're a regular employee and your company has been stable.

This taught everyone that nothing is permanent in this world. Even the health workers have dealt a lot of patients and made them tired but that didn't stopped them from their calls.

And when I got married, I'm not stable and treated most of my hustles to be unstable and I just let it on with the flow of my life. But for those that will start their family, it's best to be stable before getting married.

You have a good ambition because some men doesn't even think about comfort, they just want to settle down with their partner in either a rented house or their parents house which is a very wrong decision because as married couples, staying away from your parental home will save you some insults and embarrassment from your family and staying at a rented apartment is not also too good because in a case where you don't afford to pay for your accomodations will also result to some embarrassment so there peace and joy in having your own home so i encourage you to work towards your goal and you will achieve it.

Having a home it  requires money being stable in your hand because you can't give excuse of not handling your responsibilities, making sure their is food at home and to also make sure the kids are properly taken care of,maybe their schooling their medical lines when they are sick ,all this things required money so to me when I will be comfortable to start a home is when I have something that fetch me money everyday ,not just money but from 30 thousand naira everyday then I can start a home

We started as soon as I made her pregnant meaning we are young as I was just starting to have a Job and so as her so basically we are not that ready , but given all those problem we made it to having our own House and Lot and a car , now we have another House and small farm in Province .
I think this is depending on your perseverance and dedication and of course your move as partners.

 I'm looking forward to setting up my own place when I've got the cash saved up. Right now, I'm stashing away money with the goal of getting my own house. It's not that I'm against my partner, parents, or siblings having their places, that's awesome for them. I just really want that feeling of having my own spot, you know? Saving up is the game plan for now, so eventually, I can say, 'Yep, this is my place.'

Finance/income is the main foundation in marriage, because marriage is the beginning of the door to increased needs, I mean that single expenses only for yourself may be able to be managed by minimizing, and saving not to take frequent vacations. If you are married, of course it doubles in daily expenses, including if you don't have a house, you have to rent monthly or even annually, there is no obligation to be established but everything needs money, if something is certain, the ease of course we feel it, right? so the opposite.  If finances are uncertain even single people will feel tormented and think that the needs of marriage will be more complicated. not always the case because fortune can increase. Marriage is a solution if there is readiness and opportunity. for 6 years of marriage, even though I worked odd jobs and erratic days, I experienced a very rapid transformation of conditions, not to be imitated, but God's power is big and full of wonders.

I must admin that i Got to have a partner(married) because I got my Girlfriend pregnant and
in our country it is a customized that when you and your Girlfriend have a out of marriage Sex and got her pregnant
we need to marry them s this is  what happened .

But none of those that we regret because up to now we are still inlove and having our
children near closing college so yes we are almost done in bringing them up.

This was more or less my situation.

I didn't have a stable financial situation when I met the girl that became my wife. We were both students and we barely had any money. We were living in a rented flat, getting tuition and working part time. Fortunately my parents were sending me some rent money every month because without it we wouldn't be able to eat healthy.

When we got married it was much different. I already had my bitcoin savings so I felt secure. My wife had a full-time job and I was working part-time. We've decided to rebuild an old abandoned property in the woods that my parents used to treat as a summer retreat, so we had our own place without having to take a loan and a few years later there was already 3 of us living there

Don't wait until you have a lot of savings, don't delay things because there's never going to be a perfect time. If you wait for too long you're going to miss your chance to start a family.

Before making the decision to get married you must be financial stable and have the ability to face some certain challenges because challenges will definetly come as a couple and take responsibilities

I think marriage creates a beautiful path for a man to act and find his way.So it does not really matter before marriage or after marriage but most people try to settle down first and get married later, but I think marriage makes that way easier too, but there will be some hurdles, but you have to put them on hold Have to think positive.But if you get married only after you are financially stable, you will be considered good in the eyes of the society.Your wife, family, and neighbors will all declare you good if you have karma before, but if you do not have an income, you will be perceived as bad in everyone's eyes, but only temporarily.But such a decision should be taken after fixing the income.I think marriage should be done when it is necessary. I have seen many become millionaires and many have become poor.So I think if you can afford to go without fear of this then you can complete it.Finally, lucky people get married first, those who want to settle their money get married later.

for me,  you must be financially stable before going into marriage. you must have something that give you money or something that give you a daily income. before you talk about marriage. many people have been mislead to get married without having a daily or good job. then after marriage what comes out from the marriage is no one's business.

my advice is, for anyone to go into marriage. he/she needs to be financially stable. because everything about marriage is money.

It  all depend on tribe and individual, some tribe has certain age for a man and woman to settle down, regardless of the economic and situation, you just have to pick a wife and start a family.

while, some people have to plan on certain things first before settling down, some needs a build a house, buy car and be fully employed before thinking of starting a home. its all based on what one need first.

Economically, it isn't a good advice to not have a stable or near stable source of income before getting into a relationship, let alone marriage.
For those who have pets, it is work enough to commit the feeding of it, if there aren't other creative means the pet feeds. Now imagine getting married to someone who maybe doesn't have a potential source of income or a skill or certificate or the will to learn.

I have also seen people who got married while they had nothing and wasn't earning, after the union, they either got jobs or started a business.

For me, it does not really have to be about money in entirety, finding someone who understands us is important, as well as had good communication ability, are also qualities that makes one choose to remain single or get married with or without money.

Is really difficult to get married or settle down without being financially stable, money plays a big role in ones life. From where I'm from if you don't have money I don't think anybody would even have your time talkless of getting into a serious relationship. If you're poor just forget about settling down because nobody would want to settle with a guy who's broke. I prefer making money before getting married.
But I'm hoping for the day that we'll be using Bitcoin to pay bride prize, I just wonder how it will look like instead of using fiat.

I am in a relationship for 7 years now and we are already on a marriageable age. We've seen some of our friends tie the knot, but we're not seeing ourselves do it anytime soon YET. For us, once we have decided to get married, it means that we're now ready to shift our focus to building a home and starting our own family. In short, we should be ready to settle down. With our current financial status, we are able to live comfortably but we know that it won't be enough to raise children given our current economic situation. We are not gonna be selfish and we will ensure our future child's happiness. That's why right now, we are working very hard to be financially ready for marriage.

Despite all our good plans to have a stable financial status to be able to lead a good home, train the children and make them happy as a father, we still should remember we can't wait forever for that to happen. Trying to achieve all that if that is your purpose, you should consider the economic situation of where you are living, times are hard and a stitch in time saves nine as they say.

Although your statement is very important I am single yet not married. And my plan is big yet my education is not over I am related to cryptocurrency along with my education. Of course my future plan is to establish myself and build a stable source of income and then start married life. At the moment I have no job or source of income so getting married would be most foolish. And a person must be established before marriage so that he can lead a happy married life with his wife in future life. and my move is that I will first establish myself and stand on my own feet and then get married so that I don't have to look back in the future.

It is better to be single than to marry wrongly. When choosing a lifetime partner, there are certain things to look out for; whether you are both compatible with each other, and whether the funds are there to run the family in case children start coming.

You don't just say I do all because of love. Marriage is a forever thing that doesn't only require love but understanding, care, and provision to stay in it.

I would rather be single than not be financially buoyant to take care of and support my family. The future of my unborn kids is what I should consider first before saying I do to someone

Though, I would also like to mention that in life there are chances which come and won't happen again, that is something my father has tried to teach me lately. What would happen if we met a person who we would love to spend the rest of our life with, but in that moment we are going through a period which our economical situation is not as stable as we would wish? I don't think the reason would impose the logical thing to do on a person who has felt in love.

Perhaps the suffering which would come could be worth it, as good times could be ahead in the road and there would be company to enjoy it. Life is weird.

Yes that's correct. I prefer to wait and have a stable income before getting married. Because after marriage there will definitely be a lot of expenses, not only for yourself but also for your family.

Looking at the economic situation right now in my country, personally I will only think of getting married if I have a good accommodation, have stable and different sources of income, when am able to accept the responsibility of a good husband because right now I don't think am fully ready to do that looking at my current position now.

Getting a well paying government job can make me to get married very fast because in government jobs you have atleast 35 years of service before going for retirement so you are sure of the steady monthly payment that can take care of your family needs if you must get married.

When will you be comfortable to start a home.


After the BRICS gold backed currency is globally accepted, and after the Federal Reserve banking system (the USD) fails.

Some would have money, but cannot get in control of it instead they are under control by the money.

 Your unreadiness despises your financial stability and your irresponsibility would give you no faith in marriage.

You really have to figure what you want before you can go find it.

 It's not really the money you have earned or your financial stability that would determine your marriage time but your personal determination which overrides the money.
 However, the family is in need of money as daily services are required.

I decided to get married as soon as I got a job with a fixed income. This is the stage of economic stability somewhat, even if the salary is somewhat low, but it is a stable income and it is necessary to start married life.

I do not advise people with unstable income to get married until they can get a stable income, because that is very difficult after marriage.

starting a home required a lot but not much, there are basics things that must be in place, you must be self independent first, be on your own, get a private house, and earn some money first. you can't be a liability and start a home, you will end up being poor.

some people wants to make so much money before starting a home, that's not proper, once you have work or business that's fetching you daily money, and you're sure you won't starve then, start a home, with time things will get better.

When you find the right one it is time to start a home. Money will come. When your are married you will earn, save and work more.

Solid source of income does not really matter. You can have something that you are doing and ready in your mind but not just solid source of income. Readiness also matters because it helps you to overcome different challenges that may come after in the future. This is the place of maturity. You have to be mature in mind, body and spirit before that and majority is not about age because some people are aged but are not able to take proper decision of their lives not to mention marriage.

Before you consider marriage, you should have a solid source of income, which implies you can live on your own and are not dependent on anyone. To have a good relationship, you must be financially and emotionally solid. If someone does not have a steady income, it does not mean that they will always be like that. Things can change quickly, such as his getting a better job or being promoted at work. But, of course, this is only feasible if he works hard towards a positive change. If someone does not have an income, it is best for them to focus on getting a job rather than thinking about marriage afterwards. When he has a career that pays well, he will be able to provide for his family. You shouldn't marry only to be financially dependent on someone else.

To me I won't rush into starting a home, in the society today as we know it's so obvious that everyone needs money, infact we need money( stable source of income) for everything we wish to achieve in our society today.

As am single now I always say it that before I will start my home I must have a stable source of income, love is sweet yes we know, but when money enters, love becomes sweeter.
I wouldn't want to be in a situation of low standard kind of life with my family when I will be married, I remember what I and my siblings went through because my dad and mum were not having a good source of income, my elder siblings suffered all their days in school because there was no stable source of income, I myself even dropped out of school because of low income too, so I wouldn't want my children to go through such problems too, same reason why I'm always working hard to make sure I have a stable source of income before making my own family.

To me if I don't have a stable source of income I won't start a home, and the woman I Will get married to won't be an idle woman, she must have something doing too...

You are right. It is always better to have some sustainable sources of income before going into marriage so that after marriage you can have a sweet home, having the ability to provide for most (like 80%) of your kids, your wife, and your personal primary needs. Marrying with a low financial income can even drain all the little money you managed to save up. Family is usually very demanding; it's not just something one can start without having proper plans for it. Otherwise, you could have issues paying your kids bills, which is usually the most primary need in the family. You will need to consider the children before anything else. My friend used to tell me that unless he has something that is earning him about $1k–2k every month, he's not yet getting married. I just see the reasons for what he said.



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 To be financially stable is everyone's dream, creating source of income is everyone's plan even though they couldn't make it at its end but the fact remains that the thoughts of having money would always run through everyone for the necessity of exchanges is its own government within everyone which has made money compulsorily needed.

 Marriage: Is a union/partnership of two opposite sex of different souls, different bodies, different characters from different places coming together to agree to be one at any condition to make a home.

 I would really love to air out my view on what a home is.
 Home is permanent resident within a circle of a family where one find most comfortable and protected of being.

 So, it's not about having or making enough money or a stable financial source of income that guarantees one ready for marriage.
 Your  qualifications of getting married depends on your readiness whether financially stabled or not because marriage is as an institution which requires you to possess the above qualities...

1) Love
2) Caring
3) Trust
4) Tolerance
5) Endurance
6) Transparency
7) Sacrifice  and
Forgiveness.

 It isn't money that purchases you these qualities but a  personal decision. However, money  remains necessarily and essential as I earlier stated.

The truth is just to have money to provide the basic things,  it doesn't really matter one has to have enough money before starting a family.  Money is very necessary in starting a home,  because without considering financial income one is is just creating a burden and load  all in the name of marriage, not having a better financial income can also affect children that will be raised. Money is important to provide the necessary things the family wants. People should think of how to create income before planning to start up a family.  Money is what the family can only look to .

I'm 25 years old and in a 5-year relationship already. I can't be 100% sure that it's my lifelong partner, but if things turn out okay, it probably is. I currently don't have a stable job because I'm deployed in the army, which is mandatory in Greece for 9 to 12 months for all male citizens, but I think that it's a bit irrelevant supposing that I want to settle down. We're currently in the process of looking for a home to rent in order to live together after I return, but as someone who's not religious, I wouldn't get married; I'd form a civil partnership instead.

I don't have huge expectations, nor do I want to go after money; I'd be satisfied with a decent house to live in and two jobs that provide enough to live comfortably.

It is difficult to answer correctly, because this answer depends on each individual, condition, situation, and which country you come from. ideally, before someone gets married, they must have a solid foundation both financially and mentally prepared before building a household. in essence, everyone wants a decent life even when they are young.

Before i got married, i wanted to have my own house and get a proper job to aim for a bright future. but along the way, life was not as smooth as I expected. I'm sure, everyone has a winding journey in living this life. fortunately, before I got married I already had a job that was practically ideal. Even though I don't have a high position, the salary generated is enough for me to save. and, I live in a country that has a lot of land. in fact, housing prices in my country can be considered affordable. I mean, when compared with highly developed countries. that's why, I said the answer depends on the situation, condition and in which country you live. after I got married, I paid off a simple housing for us to live in, until now.

It's really better before you get married that you already have a home but don't worry that is just some kind of thing that you are worth having before you decide to settle out. But when you have the woman you love and you still lack money for your marriage, then it depends on where you currently reside because, for some countries that's not really a problem once you found the right partner to be your wife, the rest will be easy for you. You can build a home together slowly but surely with someone you can trust both your wealth and secrets.

You just nailed it, thanks for this guy, finance is one important source of happiness in marriage, regardless of the person you got married to. Even woman you feels understand your financial ability, might one day complain unknowingly or knowingly to the husband. We must consider our finance first before even living your parents house to be self independent. The second things you must consider is a good woman, because with you huge finance, if you don't marry to a woman that's contented, you will have unhappy home. we must consider these two things.

Getting married and making babies is expensive. It is not a decision anyone should make in a haste. We are all witnesses of the rate of inflation that has greeted the whole world. Catering for yourself is simple, but catering for your wife and also your children is not easy. One needs a stable flow of income to do that. Children foods are really expensive, I am sure of this because I Co trained my Nephew.

That being said, the burden does not lie only on the man. If you as a man marries an industrious spouse, I think the burden can lessen and bills easily paid.

Money will always decide when a man will make a home because it all ties down to money. Making a home is a responsibility whereby the man will stable to take care his family,  when there is no good source of income I don't think it will be right to make plans of starting up a family.  Starting a home depends on how sufficient a man incomes is. Starting a home does not depend on age because it is not age of the man that will make a good home but money.

My opinion on starting a home

I will make my input from two dimension.
First, as a man who thinks of himself of being matured enough to settle down my advice is try to build a  stable stream of income because they're is a  lot to do with money in marriage. u will agree with me that from time immemorial there is "no romance without money", yes and that is because women are so attracted to flashy things and finished products which I will not hold that against them because after all they were brought out of a finished creation which (man).

Secondly, not  everyone is destined to have plenty of money before setting up a family some times we have to take a bold step with a concrete understanding with our partner on our financial strength and future budgets. by doing this we can build and family and at the same time build a solid financial background as a team work. Mind you idleness can not give you a stable inflow of income so before you think of starting a family get something doing first.

Op it is important to note that starting up a home is not something you have to rush into, you have to be matured in thinking and reasoning in other to adapt in marriage and also to know if you can manage some events, If they eventually occur in the union in future. Financial stability plays a major role as a man in marriage because if you are not financially alright taking such a bold step might be disasterous in the long run , It doesn't mean that men who got married when they have nothing cant progress, is just that the possibility is slim, so don't gamble with marriage because it might fail if you don't make the right step, If I may advice I don't think is reasonable for a man to marry when he is not well to do because not every partner can adapt in such situation, in conclusion I will be comfortable to marry when I see myself as being financially stable and very matured in handling internal conflicts with my partner whenever it arises, any day I see myself  possessing all this things I mentioned above, That's when I will journey towards such responsibility.

Op,Men and women are treated very differently when it comes to marriage and age. Men are frequently advised to put off marriage until they are grown, financially stable, professionally established, and at ease with themselves. However, women begin discussing marriage from a young age because they want their ideal partner to possess many positive traits.As a woman, I will think about starting a family once I'm comfortable in my finances, mental health, and spirituality.

I think it's better to wait for a stable formerly income before getting married. So that life after marriage is not too burdened because you already have a stable income. Which makes the family economy easier.

Both parties have to be able to contribute in a marriage for it to work out perfectly. You shouldn't expect only the husband or the wife to take charge of the chores or breadwinning for the family. This means until the both of you have a source of income, it doesn't matter how small it is but the both of you have to be bringing something to the table. If that isn't possible then you shoudn't be getting married.

Marriage is not a get away card from poverty or shame from the society judging you that you're not married. You should have some sense of assurance in your marriage that if you were to fall sick or something happens to you that your spouse can handle the family until you ar able to stand back on your fit. I don't believe in early marriages, I believe we should allow ourselves to experience the world before we tie the knot. This is because when we get married, we should be loyal to our spouses but those who are still having a fantasy can't be loyal and this leads to cheating. The financial ability of the man or woman should be considered and not just marrying blindly because of love. Those that have done this in the past has regretted making such big decisions of their life based on just love and now they can't be able to afford a comfortable meal.

When will you be comfortable to start a home.


For all of you who live in your motorhome or car, do you start your home everyday... or how frequently?

Anytime when you have the money to pay mostly in cash.

The fastest way to go broke is to apply for a mortgage or loan that you can't easily pay. For early years, you'll be paying only the interest without even reducing the principal. It's the same as working for free for them! Marriage status, child, etc., doesn't matter, you can always rent if you don't have the financial capacity to own, pay taxes, and maintain a house.

I think everyone is stuck into that idea that they should be stable before marrying someone. Because it's not an easy responsibility that you'll be taking in and life in marriage isn't going to be all about you being alone. Every decision that you make should also be consulted with your partner.

There's a mutual decision together with your partner whether both of you are stable or not, as long as you agree that you'll strive together and work with your plans and dreams so that's it.

Starting a home is not something anyone should rush into this is because marriage and family life go way beyond that and it should be taken note of how much preparation the singles put into themselves before their eventual marriage or starting a home as it may be hard for one to make some headways when their have an attachment to family.


Some feel once have money then you are free to have a family, but that is not possible and most times it is not realistic per se, so one needs more than just money to build a home.

Let us see. I am personally pessimistic on those topics, to be honest with you. It seems that here the government and the crooks who are in charge do not even want to give a chance, so honest people can thrive and start families in a very stable situation.

I do not know what country are you from, but considering what you classmates have expressed, I think you know what I talk about then I say bad politics can hold a whole generation down in uncertainty. 

Granted, I may have also personal problems which make me not to want to start a home as soon as other may want...

Nobody wants to fail in their marriage and if you think that you need a big income and too much before you will get married,it means that you are seeing marriage from a shallow view. Fear of the unknown is what makes the youth not to have trust in God and believe in themselves by thinking positively on getting married without a job that pays high. The Bible says he that finds a wife,finds a good thing because both of you becomes one in spirit and become more powerful in overcoming some unforseen challenges to make progress. If you get married to a good woman,you will be successful in whatever you lay your hands on and when you give birth,your kids also have their own fortunes which will make your more successful. There is a stage in a man's life that he will see that he has stability in his financial life,then he will know that he can take care of one more person and himself. At that stage you should be able to understand that you need a wife. I have seen so many of my friends that weren't rich but has a stable income that isn't big but took the bold step and got married,before I knew it they increased their hustle and step up their game because they know that they have responsibilities to take care of. When you are married,you will no longer think like a boy because your family depends on your reasons to move forward.

I'm a single person but based on my parents experience and that of my elder siblings, well I'll say it's not necessarily a must that one's got to have a very stable income before going into marriage, yes money is one of the vital things required in marriage but then many couples won't even want to go into marriage if so, financial stability is something that would occur in as much you're working hard to meet end needs even the rich billionaires like Dangote, Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates are still hustling to get more money despite being financially blessed, they're not relaxed and most of them end up divorcing their spouse regardless of the wealth they've acquired.

 However for the single people before venturing into a relationship or marriage, you need to have a handwork or job, that would atleast generate some income that would sustain you and your spouse before you grow bigger in wealth, might not be very massive, even though it's little for a start, just do something and not relax when you don't have any sources of income, relationship mustn't be built on love only, you'll still need to satisfy ends need as the head of your family.

 Also for those that are already married, you ought to a have source of income as well, whether you're a woman too, even though you don't have a job while in marriage seek help financially from your spouse, so as to create a business that would yield more income and also be beneficial to both parties, cause your husband might be down on the long run and you'll in return assist him, that's why it's good to establish your partner if you're more financially balanced because togetherness in marriage yields greater result.

I am not interested to married but care to own a house

I think the best time for one to get married is when one is financially stable to provide the necessary things for family because money has a vital role it plays in the family. Finance is one of the first chateria if a man is ready for marriage.  Apart from the financial aspect there other things to consider if one is ready for marriage.

 Sometimes money is not only the thing that  makes marriage to work, their are lot of billionaire that their marriage didn't work out due to some misunderstanding between them and their partner.  Marriage is patience, tolerance and respect.  If  one lacks all this  characters I think it will be difficult for marriage to last long , the marriage will be full of regret and bad time. So one has  to be ready in character wise to sustain the marriage to last.

I chose to talk about these specific place because I couldn't say anything about those who were already married. However, in my opinion and plan, I can't wait until I reach a certain stage in life to get married and find a spouse because no one can predict how their own lives will turn out; all I can say is that I can't get married without a means of earning money. If you said you would wait until you are very financially stable, however, I think that would be a bad idea.
As a result, as soon as I have a means to adequately cater for my family's requirements without going through any difficulty, I will marry because people are dying.

Life is so much more expensive now than when our parents & before that, grandparents bought a home, got married & started a family. The cost of living means people have different priorities You find now that lots of people rent because they can’t afford to buy a house. These days both men & women have careers so creating a family is delayed. People get married & have kids older than before. There is no right or wrong but you just need to do what is right or wrong.

I believe some people do learn from the example that their parents have set. If it's a good example, they would want to follow it, but if it's a bad one, they would want to make a change, like never making the same mistake that their parents made. So, I think I would fall into the class of those who would want to follow in their parents footsteps and In regards to that, my dad did not marry his wife at the time when he had stable finances; his financial life then was still a bit shaky when he got married, and he told me that was not really very easy for him then, which became worse when babies started coming, but it was just one day that his efforts and pursuit for a good job favored him and he got employed. So, for that reason, I really don't see any reason why someone should settle for marriage when they don't yet have a sustainable source of income. OP, In my opinion, the right time to do so is when you at least have the finances to always provide for the needs of you, your wife, and your kids.

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What do you mean by financially stable,  do you mean when one has a stable source of income or has attained some financial independence!

I guess both play a minimal as in what makes a successful marriage since we have to put some other things in check it is obvious that many successful and wealthy people also have a crisis in their marriage and at some point end up in divorce,  and we have some couple who may not be a financially ok bit yet have a peaceful marriage,  so it all depends on the individuals involved and what their commitment is to the union.

Financial status does not have anything to do with marriage but also it very important to always be able to take care of all our bills so it is important to have money in marriage if not,  the lack of money can also make the marriage.

I want to believe you don't have to wait till you attain some certain positions in life before you decided to marry, one thing to first consider is your own personal self, if you think you're good enough to be responsible for another person, then you can marry, you must have this conviction in you for readiness because it's not for boys but a means roles and comittment for getting married.


singles should learn trades and be skillful, such could open them to getting exposure to diverse opportunities in life, many have started and ended well because they were both determined, everything starts with a relationship and you need to learn how to leave among people and tolerate each other, then you can cope with your partner even whe there's nothing much to fall back on.

I got married in 2018 and let me say I had not that stable finances but I was lucky to have a home passed down to me as a gift and that kind of gift gives you enough space to start a family even without much financial stability.I got a credit for about 15.000 EUR to furnish my home and I still have now about 2-3 years almost to finish it,so I am lucky to have been doing it.

In normal conditions you marry when you find the person that has the same objectives as you and you buy a home with mortgage and work together to finish it,meanwhile creating family and being a better citizen which gives the contribute to the world,i.e you bring up 1 or 2 babies in the world.As a single person there is no exact moment to marry,you marry when you find as I said your life partner,that person when you don't need much time but you soon realize that he/she is the one and marry,everything else come together after it as I explained above.

You sound the same way most of my friends talk. Many of my classmates are not married because they are scared of failing in their future homes. They think that getting married might lead to giving birth to children that can not be provided for. But I have also seen many people around me getting married believing that the future will be better. I tell people that the future is unpredictable which means your plans and projections might fail. Some people got married when they are millionaires but a few years after the marriage they become bankrupt and can't provide for the family anymore. But some got married financially weak but grew to become rich and financially stable. Finance is one of the main factors to consider in marriage but it is not the only factor. When two people who are compatible and in love meet, money is not mainly considered but joy and peace of staying together. There is always hope and joy where there is love. If you meet someone you truly love my brother Hispo you will get married in a few months.

I think I would rather to wait and have a stable source of income which could guarantee a life of dignity for me and my hypothetical family.

To be honest, though, this is the kind of topic which can make me feel anxious about the future, specially living in a country where sometimes we as citizens and workers cannot easily reach the end of the tunnel and see the light at the end. We want to live a normal life, to settle for a spouse and and children, but these economical situations make me think that perhaps it may not be for me, even if I managed to save some money and keep a good job.  

I am scared of being a failure of a father, seeing so many cases around me which are the case

I'm not stable when I've married my wife but that doesn't mean that I've got no savings and investments. Despite of being unstable, I've made sure that I've got enough of those and even source of income even if they're just side hustles or from my small business.

That's what I've thought of before but how long I'll wait until I get stable because we've got different priorities. I don't want to be that old before I become stable and get married. So, what's important is that you're prepared mentally, financially and spiritually when you're about to tie the knot.

Starting a home, required so many things, finance and stability matters Alot, before one think of setting up home.

Starting a home, is self decision and not to be influenced by any societal influence. Because when you fail, no one will come to rescue you, you will have no one to blame, so think twice before Starting a home.
I'm not comfortable yet, to start a home, I have a less pay monthly and it's not enough to start a home with it. Is just for self maintenance.

Before you decide to get married you should have a stable means of income that will be enough to cater for you and your spouse. There should be enough funds to pay bills like house rent, food, clothing, healthcare, and others. If you want to start having children, you also need to increase your income because your expenses will also increase. Marrying without a stable means of income will lead to hardship, frustration, and even divorce. I have also seen some men that have decided that they must be wealthy before they get married because they do not want their families to suffer. Some of them have waited for many years to get enough money to no avail. I tell people that the most important blessing a man can get from marriage is marrying a good woman and vice versa. If you are married to a spouse that understands, even in the face of financial hardship he/she will always stand by you. You don't need to have all the money before you get married but there should be a constant income that will sustain the needs of the family.

I happen to be single. So I only have an opinion about getting married. Ideally in my opinion, choose those who are already established first and then get married. But getting married first and then being established is also not a problem. Provided that there must be a projection of what it will look like in the future, what plans to do with your partner in the future.

So that everyone can share their opinion on this topic, ai will the question in two different ways. For the single people and people who already have life partners. For the people with life partners already, at what stage economically where you before you decided to settle down with a partner? Did you already have a stable source of income or your source of income was not very stable. For single people, when will you get married? Can you get married with an unstable source of income or you will wait till when you are very financially stable. Please share your personal answers.