Topic: Who should be held responsible for the problems of the society (Read 321 times)

You ask a very good question and I think everyone have their own answer to this question. Let me start by saying everybody/almost everybody is responsible for the problem in this country, I may not point out everything but I know for sure that in one way or the other we are responsible. First we are the one who voted the President, Governor and the rest of them knowing fully well that the people we are voting are not the right people but because of our selfish interest and the small small things they gave us. Moreover, voting them is not really a bad idea but them not doing what they were voted for makes it look like a wrong idea that is why I said almost everybody is responsible.

Talking about the Yahoo boys, they are not the only people the Government is not looking out for so why doing fraud and the so called Yahoo boys are the reason why most of the price of some goods/products have increased, are we going to say Government is responsible for this one off cause NO, most of these problem and challenges are what we are creating by ourselves. if not everybody, almost everybody is responsible.

I totally agree with u, we are blaming the government for not performing their duties like we ourselves are performing ours, we are to held everybody responsible for the problems of this society because we are all at fault in a way that we know how difficult it is to survive in this our country yet we are making things worst by increasing the cost of things the more making it difficult for individuals to afford and we can't create job opportunities for people even when we have the power to do so, even to create awareness is a problem for some of us, knowing fully well that information is power, if we are not informed we are deformed so it's not only the government that makes our country worst but we also contributed too. So we should do needful to save people lives.

Problems of the society can vary from economical or environmental problem. Our government has great control over economical problems. But the environmental problem has nothing to do with the government. These are problems that emanate from our various homes. In most cases some environmental problems may leads to or affect economical problems. Just like you said the government can provide jobs for us but they can help to creat good atmosphere for business purposes.

There are concerning points that you raised which I find very interesting, decisions are individualistic in nature that's why everyone is been left to their believe or decision to do whatever they like so that they won't blame anyone if any ugly incident courts, one thing we should also know is that mother has influence on their daughters decision on whom to date and again women in general are weak in decision making so this girl in question having such mindset was triggered by his mum but if she was in control of the game I think she wouldn't have been such dumb decision taker but that's by the way.
We should forget that women like flashy things and it is very difficult for a woman to fall for a young man that has money respective of how he made the money, some girls don't want to know how a man makes his money, what they care about is the money itself and that's the mindset.

The problems of the government have does not have anything to do with our personal decisions. Their functions comprise of the economical, health, financial to mention a few sections in the county. The choice we make on how we want to earn a living, live our lives or the work and business we choose to do all depends on us. And if we choose the wrong part, we should be the ones to blame and not the government. In this scenario, the woman's mother is to be blamed. She has successfully infused the mindset that there is nothing wrong in dating yahoo guys now her daughter will be comfortable with that and start looking for a yahoo boy to date. I would have blamed the girl but i wont, this is because she believed that her mom thinks good for her and wouldn't want her to suffer, perhaps dating a yahoo guy will bring them out from the financial level they are.

it sounds like the mother of the waitress and the Aunt are judging each other. i'm quite sure both sisters are not on good terms. if you have lived in this world long enough to understand what other things are happening behind the scenes, you shall see it's not just the government's fault or the corrupt politicians.

but the culture in Nigeria is just like any Asian countries that we respect the elders otherwise you get a slap on your face. that waitress wouldn't even have to work for her mom once she graduated college. she can decide for herself later whether to marry a yahoo boy or not.

society always tells us to protect and educate children because they are the future but look at what we did to the teachers, the government doesn't even pay what they're worth.

This question is not only base on a particular society,the question is central question that's to say it touches all Angle of organization or society,if it's a country the person who should be question is the president
Then if it's in the house ,they will ask the head of the family which is the father,then in the court of other ,they will ask the magistrate.
That why I said that this question is not in a particular society put general society
To me am taking it up to the federal government FG,now that their's a big problem in the society you don't expect me to go blame my boss at work or my father,who should be held responsible is the president because currently he has failed us his citizens,nobody is calling good of him,he has let the future and now down ever since he stated functioning nothing good to be write him of because all he concentrate is for him to be richer,so when to holding anyone down is to go and hold the president because he has no right to suffer his people he should be held responsible for any problem today inbthis society,turn the question upside down who should be held or mentioned his good if their's no problem in the society,is still him , because if your leadership is good ,people will rejoice and your name will be allover that you are the one they will call

Then if the country younth is not doing well too ,they will still call you .

Make we no also forget say this called government na human being like we too, every body get him own personality wey no go they presentable to other people, so let's be guided not every fault  is from the government. If we begin staying positive from individually, the way we think, talk and act then we can uproot the wrong government and fill in someone who should be much better.
The government can be blamed at some level of their incapability or selfish desires but we owe more to ourselves than what the government can render to us.

Very bad for her mom to be in support of her daughter dating a yahoo boy even if he does it genuinely but also considering we are all humans, not all who does it are evil or capable of staining their hands with blood.

For the national level na government we suppose hold responsible for anything wey no go well, because na dem de for power and na dem responsibility if currency devalue and di purchasing power de very low, na government suppose put measures in place to correct am, for electricity, good road, enabling environment for businesses, security and other national matters. If na for individuals level, na family we fit to blame if person no behave well, we go question di family background, like di story wey di OP narete, di mama of di girl get blame, because she de encourage her daughter to date yahoo boy because of money.

Poverty follow for wetin de make people to misbehave, if parents bring children up well, give dem good education and teach dem good morals, criminality go reduce. Also if government provide basic amenities, provide jobs and support businesses to grow, poverty go reduce including criminalities.

Just as you talk say even the girl mama dey advise her daughter amiss na so e just be. No be everything be the government fault, though dem don fail for their own part, but afar our own part? Are we still faithful of being a disciplined citizens? Just imagine wattin mama dey tell pikin say genuine yahoo boy dey. Despite the hardship plenty hustle still dey ground wey people take dey get am clear for this life, is just that plenty people too like short cut. And that na one of the reasons why the country be like this.

In the First place,  yeah evil communications corrupts good manners and so, environments has an arbitrary influence on every individuals especially those who are emotionally tendered with the inability to a self decision making.
At OP, the government is not the big consequential focus about the threats and insecurities in the country. It is an individual decision to decide if you would be used by someone else for to achieve their own goal while you becomes a tool for workout age to their endivoirs.
The decisions of individuals that insights "anywhere belle face na front" which means being submissive to whatever that would profit you to have food put on your table has been a linger to the spread of illegally and abominal activities at which individuals are intentionally and ignorantly accepting indulgences of misconducts and illegal involvements.

@ OP, talking about blaming the government to be  blamed for the engagements of individuals due to the fact that the government has failed to provide amenities to render financial solutions in services, I don't think that is an enough reason to be concurred.
Many individuals already have the urge of evil aspirations but they only requires the opportunity at where they could be encouragingly sponsored to posses their possessions.

That's the state we are now in this country. Parent doing fasting and prayers for their Yahoo children to cash out. Parent encouraging their children to do yahoo and date Yahoo boys.
Even churches pray for these boys. Most people are so blinded by money that they don't care how they get it. It's a very sad one, that's why evil keep happening in the world.

I agree with you, mate. The blame for society's problems lies with those causing trouble, the leaders, politicians, and the government. I don't hold the entire Nigerian population responsible because many folks still live peacefully and want to fix things, but reality makes it tough. If we identify the issues and collectively challenge those in charge to address them, and they genuinely make a hard effort, we can achieve about 90%, although the last 10% may be tricky. When we hit 90%, it practically means we've resolved the entire problem. Assigning responsibility to those contributing to problems, be it individuals, societal rulers, or the government, highlights the interconnected challenges we face. Holding all stakeholders accountable is vital for positive change, tackling issues together. Effective solutions often demand collaboration and shared responsibility across different levels of society.

Now concerning this particular story it is very obvious that the mother can sell her child for the love of money. Many parents today has led their children to the wrong part if time is not taken that woman at her prime did just as she had said or she is secretly cheating or following a yahoo boy.

Now my own contribution on the society which many people now call the street, in the cause of survival alot of people has done so many legal and illegal things to survive. In one way I will blame the government whereas the masses had voted you looking unto you for their well being and at last you fail them how do you want a common man in the society to survive when there is no job opportunity,they would do everything possible they can to survive.

Secondly, you as an individual who knows good and bad but you still do it whatever is the outcome you should hold yourself responsible for it. You can advice yourself so many people did not grow under parental care but still make it, the street is rough the society is bad but people still survive.

Ok imagine in a community where the streets are very dark at night then the government assisted by putting the street light not up to a year some people who do not like good things had stolen them all and now everywhere is dark will you blame the government.

I also have this witness when they where about to build a fly over I won't mention the place the company gave the community youths their right by giving them a slot to work with them for as long as the project would last and some of them mostly all of them sold their slot to strangers and they pay them twice a month a very heartwarming amount of money. Did the government or their parents tell them to sell their slot what did they use the money for smoking, lavishing.

We are all grown up let's advice ourselves as well.

Like I always say, there's no enough reason or excuse why someone should involve him/herself into immoral acts. You wey dey here to hustle no be stomach you dey find abi you get company where you dey work. Even if you are employed trust me there are people out there that are not but they are still doing well not that they don't know to do illegal things to make money they do and again all these illegal things we seeing is choice, everyone has choice and priority. The girl in question knows what is right and wrong so she going to date a Yahoo boy is her choice.

The problem of the society lies in you and I because na we go decide how we go live our life even though say sometimes the society, our government and our parents dey also put hand for some decisions wey we dey take but any decisions wey we take for life be it good or bad, na me and you na him go dey responsible for our actions as no body dey force horse say make him drink water even if you carry am go waterside so for me I no go blame our parents, the society or the government for our problems as everything dey our hand to choose how we go take do things. No matter how our parents might seems to influence our decisions but we have the final say as they've lived their lives and therefore make them leave us to also leave our lives. If I be the girl I go tell my mama say weda him husband na Yahoo boy wen she marry am case closed.

I think some problem that we may be facing can be as a result of the government and some could be because of bad parental training.  When people behaves in certain way their is a cause why they developed such behaviours. No matter how bad a is government which can influence the life of young people parents still have the role to teach their children good morals not to allow the problem of the society to take over them. If children are having problems the parents are to be blamed.

OP, the problem in society is not from one person; what I mean is that we cannot say it's only from the parents, we cannot say it's from the government alone, and we cannot say it's from the individual too.

Although parents have a big role to play when it comes to parenting, If parents don't raise a child in the right discipline, the child might end up growing up in a way that they are pleased, and it could be in a way where they derive pleasure by hurting others or growing up in a self-conviction that they can get anything they want forcefully by any means, either legal or illegal.

But if you look at it from another perspective, there are some kinds that came from a good home; they received proper home training from their humble and disciplined parents, but they themselves (the kids) don't follow in the footsteps of their parents. Friends could have influenced them or some other factors in society too.

For example, there was a guy in my home town who was a graduate with a BSc degree but got so frustrated to the extent that he became a drug addict. From being a drug addict, he engaged in some other immoral behavior that hurt the interests of others.

The problem of the society is a concern for everyone, so know group of persons or individual should be blamed for it, but if we must blame people then everyone should be among.
I have watched closely, and I have found out that the mess in society today is caused by everyone, some people fail to teach their children morals, and these parents expect such children to behave well, although there are young folks who were trained excellently by their parents but later chose the wrong path, sometimes I use to think that this things are bound to happen no matter what.

The Society has been engulfed with different mindsets that think differently that's why we see normal and abnormal persons therein, yes no doubt the government or the party in power creates problems in society by turning individuals against each other because of interest and party affiliation, but these happens because mainly poverty and lack of understanding within the dwellers, the government intensionally impoverish the people to get their attention, they decide to empower some set of individuals to divide attention in the society at the end they cause chaotic society.
For this menace to be tackled adequately, I think everyone has a task to accomplish and we must take it as a matter of urgent concern.  

Our problem begins at home. This short story wey you bring now don clearly explain how our parents take they guide us into wrong way in some aspect of life. Some times, peer pressure they also affect which all of them happen to be a society problem and not government because we in our society did not unite ourselves for the government so that we go fit they get small say for their matter in order to plan better and leadership, but the government have their own problem because them de use our people wey no dey united to do whatting them like.
Therefore, both government and the society should be responsible.

I see this issue as nobody's business cause na their choice and the only story we go hear na when yahoo boy create another madness, the girl in question like to play around or na her mama dey force her but at the end of the day she will make her decision and go for her choice, government no suppose follow for this matter, no be every time we go paint government bad, even with no jobs and employment people dey wey dey hustle so e no suppose be issue, and we dey shout employment for the country that's good but even with the government jobs people will still get involved in this dirty act and some girls go still follow.

Charity starts at home, so any character that a child portrays will be the fault of their parents. Sometimes I wonder if some children are genuinely raised by their parents because when they act badly, they call it love rather than disciplining them. When a child does something wrong, they also say that it's just a child until the child starts crying, and this is why our current state of affairs and all the societal issues are also a result of the support of their parents.  

And the reality is that many parents are aware that their kids are addicted to yahoo, and rather than counsel them to avoid engaging in such behavior, they will support them because they stand to gain financially from their kids' involvement. They will also avoid discussing honesty with their kids because they believe that yahoo is bad and has no positive effects.

Society problem are much, and it caught a cross  various factors,but government are to be held majorly accountable for most societal ills.in a situation when the government does not provide adequate amenities to cater for its citizen there would be likelihood of  people taking matters to their hand,regardless as individuals it is important to be contempted with what one have and live within their means .Unfortunately that's a virtue that most youth do not have and have made them to seek a quicker means of making money,unfortunately this act have also led to the high rate of ritual killings,kidnapping and the rest. So the responsibility  of problem in the society is by the government and individuals ,and for this problem to be fixed the government  need to make laws to elevate mases from poverty,providing enabling environment for businesses to thrive and encouraging youth to go into entrepreneurship,creating jobs and so on.
Meanwhile individuals can also solve this problem by being industrious,hardworking and ready to learn as well.

The failure or outcome of every child is first the fault of the parents and second, that of the individual.

The role of a parent in a child's life can't be over emphasized and most of the saucy, rude, stubborn or supposedly wayward people we find in our society are product of poor parenting. Most parent are too selfish that they can watch their child go into irresponsible activity without putting any effort to bring them out of it and as long as money comes a long the way, they are cool with it. But the truth is that any parent that support his daughter to date a yahoo boy was once into street and so it's obvious that the lifestyle is in the blood.

But as a person, regardless of the kind of training you've received from your parent, it's your primary responsibility to take care of yourself and know that if a yahoo bit want to plus up with anybody, it is going to be with you and not your mother and so you need to use your head well o.

His their anything like good or bad yahoo is the first place?

We are the architect of our own lives and we shouldn’t blame anyone for all the wrongs that will happen to us. Everyone is facing one or two issues but that doesn’t warrant you to not look for other legal means to make yourself useful to the society. In the case of this girl with her mum and Aunt, her mother will only put her into more trouble if that is the advise she can give to her child. No mother will want what is not good for her daughter but that shouldn’t be done through the wrong way.

Because everybody is doing it and they become successful in it and you know it is the bad way doesn’t warrant you to also do the same. What is bad is bad and what is good is good. We shouldn’t have any reason like the government not providing jobs to be the reason to do something illegal in the society. If we want to base on that idea, everyone will join something illegal today in the society. And which society can progress when everyone becomes a criminal?

Societal problem originate from home. Most people causing problem in the society started their wahala right from home. Imagine a home with 5 kids and non of them was send to school nor go to learn hand work. What do you think will happen to them in the future. We always forget, we are all leaders at our prospective home, office, area, etc. How do we manage this various areas. If parents can control their kids from home at the early stage, we will have less problem in the society.

It is true that the government cannot solve all the problems in the society. Most of the problem we have in the society emanated from the family. It is the family that trains a child that go out there in the society. While we blame the government in somethings, we equally have to blame the parents for the characters that their children showcase in the society. There is no way the government can provide jobs for everyone in the society. In this particular issue I blame the mother for giving out bad advise to her daughter.

What happened there is self discipline and self decision it's left for the girl whom is taking advise from both parents to be in a better place to take the right decision than listening to her parents ( her aunty and her mother inclusively). Let say like as you are now, you knows what is Good and bad if you decided to choose the wrong part doesn't it mean you can't change and amends your ways? Yes you can but just that the situation of the country is making you not to focused and things that right at the right time.

Back to the young girl who was taking advise from her both parents, usually we have to blame her mother because female child are mostly influenced by their mother since they can share more dip secret with their mother than fathers, so whatever that turns to happened to that girl is strictly on her mother rulings and power hence as reasonable girl or smart babe she ought to be, she is left to make the right decision of her life because if she dies today she is not dying with her Mother, Aunty or Sister's.

At this point we don't have to apportioned blame to government for not making our lives looks like those in abroad and even those in abroad live a wayward life because there are also bad eggs over there not because they don't have good environment or even good Government but it's just that such person has decided to be useless with their life.

Basically, nobody is the problem of society, but everybody is the problem of society. If we dive deep into how society is now operating, you will find out that even the slightest person is involved in the so-called societal problem one way or another, from the commonest taxi driver or okada rider to the president, who is corrupt. So how then do we expect one particular sector of society to take the blame? If we can change our own ways from the smallest crime we commit that seems normal, then the whole society could change from our changes.

Moving forward, I don't blame anybody for whatever is happening in society. Evolution brought us this situation. Back then, when the world was in a primitive society, there was nothing like cyber crime and everyone lived happily, but now the internet has brought it's good to us, but normally in every society there are also good and bad people, so the ones who made use of the flaw of the internet are the people we believe are at fault for the misbehavior of the society, whereas they are not the problem; the problem lies in the root.

For a nation to be free, they have to first know the root of their problem. In our nation today, the problem isn't the people, but our problems are the foundation of our country. From the time of colonialism on, societal problems began. The ways of life of the colonial masters that were introduced to us brought us to these societal problems, from the introduction of Christianity to Islamic religion. I won't go deep into that today, but the problem in our society today isn't what we think it is.

Back to the situation at hand, the aunty is not to blame, the mother is not to blame, and the fraudsters are not to blame. Like I have said before, none of them is to blame, but all of them are to blame.

Even if there is no work in the country or no job for the unemployed to engage in, it's a personal decision to go into fraud. There are lots of things that one can do instead of fraud, but they all decided to go into fraud because of their greed, so the fraudsters are responsible for their actions, which means they are to blame in that aspect. The government, too, is to blame for not providing jobs for its citizens.

I would love to go further, but I will be visiting this thread regularly to explain more reasons why everybody is to blame.

This afternoon, I went to a bar to cool off my brain due to the hot weather then I was sitted peacefully sipping my glass of beer when I lady walked in and the waitress greeted the lady who happened to be her aunty so the Aunty started advising her to be calm and not follow wayward girls that doesn't add value to her life and the Aunty advised her not to date yahoo boys (internet scammers and fraudsters) then the girls mother who happened to be the beer parlour owner intruded in their conversation and said that there a genuine yahoo boys out there so if her daughter sees such a guy that she's gonna date him so the Aunty of the girl now told her sister being the mother of the girl that yahoo is yahoo that there's nothing like genuine yahoo boys.

Now, most of some wrong decisions some people take in life is being influenced by their parents and i now begin to wonder if in this situation of the conversation between this girl, her aunty and her mother is it also the government that told her to date yahoo boys? Like the numerous problems we are facing in this country can it really be channeled to our government because the reason why I'm asking is because had it been our government gave a conducive environment for it's citizens to be employed and have something meaningful they're doing with their lives they wouldn't be involved in frauds and other social crimes in other to make money and no parents can advise their children to marry or date fraudsters and criminals.

 So who is really the cause of the problems of the society???