Topic: women goes through a lot when they don't get married (Read 196 times)

It is not everyone that will get married but in some areas it is like a tradition that a woman must get married in her middle 20's , if at this age no husband she will start feeling society pressure from her family and and friends and this becomes very serious issue for the woman . In my country marriage is seen to be huge achievement for ladies and when a woman has no husband the society read so may meaning why the woman is still single.

Marrying quickly is not an obligation because marriage is allowed if you are mature in thought and mature, I think age is just a number not about ability. If the tradition in some families is just to fight over inheritance and fear of not getting a share it's funny, unless the inheritance is from her husband.
How can you be harmonious and focus on getting through old age with time together, of course it will focus on money.

Not all marriages lead to violent or abusive situations, depending on mutual understanding, love and filling in the gaps, when it comes to the potential for discord even single people can experience if things get out of hand.

Marriage will indeed get what rights between women and men, build cooperation under one roof, and make a sense of security, comfort and control together. If the dispute is okay as long as it is still a reasonable condition, and does not drag on in anger, marriage brings together two people with different mindsets, different communication and different in feeling a condition.

If you are forced to marry because of inheritance it is not good, also if you are forced not to marry because it is already there will also be no point, the world is beautiful if you are with the right person and are loved.

Marriage is a loving relationship that everyone desires. Only a few people alive today will tell you that they are not interested in marriage, but the vast majority of them are already planning to marry. Marriage is not something that can be forced; both parties must agree that they want to be joined as one.

How people treat women and how marriage treats women varies depending on their society, family, culture, and religion. The majority of the factors that shape the marriage play a significant role in how the woman is treated at home. If all of these factors have failed the woman, only her husband's character can save her marriage. I oppose abusive or maltreatment in marriage.

Op marriage is not do or die something even the Holy Bible said it in the book of 1 Corinthians 7:8-9.it says " if you can control yourself and feeling then don't marry as he is but you can't then you can get married to avoid fornication. And in the Holy Bible Genesis chapter 2:18, and that interpreted that women are to assist their husband in all ramifications of life. Marriage is very important in some families and traditions. In some traditions if a woman is of the age to get married and she has not married then it becomes a taboo. And also child bearing is an another one.

When a woman got married and she could not bear a child then the boys family would not take it likely with the woman. But in some tribes of the girl is 50+ years and not yet married, it is not their business. Everyone focus mind their business and do their things.

It's up to the woman, the woman's choice whether to marry or not. I also see many women who choose their career first rather than getting married right away, there are also those who want to grow old single because they prioritize helping their family more than themselves. There are people like this and my aunt is one of them. It's also not easy to find someone to marry now.

Are we still living in those kind of times where woman depends too much on man?
They are already fighting for gender equality so I think staying single or unmarried is also their choice, woman who could support their own doesn't need to put up or stay in an abusive partner, for me those who choose to stay are either martyr or couldn't provide for their own.
Because if they could and they know their worth they would get out of that relationship no matter what.

Nowadays, or at least in the Western World getting married is not longer something which is tightly tired to cultural aspects or obligations which a woman is supposed to fulfill. Actually, I have seen some news articles claiming unmarried young women are happier because they can pursue careers and do other things which they would otherwise not be able to, though the authentizity of that information is a subject of debate, because I am sure there will be group of people in the same western republics which wont agree on the positive effects some women could experiment on delaying their marriage.

On the other hand, I believe men in the West are easier stigmatized when comes to being unmarried, there are some negative stereotypes applied to them which are very difficult to get rid of in the short term, people may tag them as undesirable, etc.
Nonetheless, I have also learnt marriage is more a serious business in countries like Nigeria and Africa in general, where such step of life is tightly associated with the local culture and whatnot. In the end, it is about doing what ones feels more comfortable with and the pursue of happiness.

In my opinion, a lot of single ladies just have this mindset of not getting married and that's their choice, have seen a lot of them and they're doing well without a partner, talking about kids they're many means of getting kids now but still it's not advisable. From my observation seeing this type of ladies now seems rare cause everyone wants to get married and that's just the best, fear of what the society will say is nobody business and if a lot of people will have this same mindset the women who suffer from domestic violence will choose to end the marriage but still they decide to endure and suffer just because of the society and the end result is death.

The issue with gender discrimination is very common and a lot of independent women manage to escape from gender discrimination but it's best if everyone will be treated rightly and just.

Not every part of the world has the same culture, some don't ask for possession of assets while some are mandatory like in Africa the groom has to give a certain number of cattle to the family of the bride to get married. So getting married becomes a stressful event for most of men too still we don't really care about those men and we tag them as unsuccessful or losers.

I don't think all women are meant to get married, there are insufficient numbers of men in the society because many of the men are in the prison and some are working hard to get a better lifestyle for themselves in the future. We need to understand that women are fragile and they needed to be treated well in the society but majority of the girls especially the ones that have no respect would never even care about what the society is taking about them.

There's a need for encouraging one another in life, some people can be doing something that is not right and yet they may not know until someone take their notice of such thing then they make a new turn on it, marriage is by privilege and determination as well, if a woman is set in for that and alligned herself towards the way such man can come into her life and ask for her hand in marriage, then she may not experience any difficult time before getting settled maritally in her life.

Women are an integral part of the family without women the life of man is unimaginable. Just as a banyan tree shelters people under its shade, a woman tries to keep everyone in the family with her affection and love. Yet people still mistreat women in society. In our country we still have this practice where women are not given the highest status in the family but men are given the highest status in all aspects.In fact, women have no value in a male-dominated society.
But the government of our country has taken initiative few years back to give equal rights to women and men.Even it is slowly being implemented maybe one day in the future it will be fully implemented.

In some parts of the world, discrimination on such matters is ongoing. There are still some areas where a woman faces social harassment for not getting married even after the age of thirty. I think everyone has their own reasons for their life choices and their marital status is no exception. It's not fair to judge or shame someone for deciding not to get married, and it's certainly not polite to pry into someone's personal life. People should be free to make their own decisions about their relationships and their future without fear of judgment or ridicule from others. Respect for each individual's personal preferences and privacy should always be a priority.

This is indeed one of the ugliest injustice that is done to women in some parts of the world especially in Africa, to be precise this ugly tradition still happens in my tribe. Women are not given anything from their father's inheritance, infact they're not even recognized in the sharing formula, only the male children have the right to receive inheritance. It is believed that female children will get married and belong to another family, therefore her inheritance will be in her husband's family. It is an achaich tradition that should be abolished, although some educated people are now writing wills, to ensure that their female children gets shares of their inheritance.

Another ugly tradition is if a widow doesn't have children or she has but there's no male child, the late husband's family will collect all her late husband's properties. Unless the woman is educated and fights for her right in court, she'd lose everything and only survive at their mercy.

Any woman that is of marriageable age and is still single doesn't get the respects that she deserves, although this trend is gradually fading as women are being more financially independent now.

I would hazard a guess that its either or both the middle east, pakistan and India
(to be general)

I suspect that these societies still largely practice organised or arranged marriages.

In my country too women are free to choose who and when to marry, whether to
have a religious or civil marriage or decide no to at all, thats freedom end equality.

Marrying in order to have children, honestly the world needs less people, not more so I
dont care if people marry and dont have children or dont marry at all.

I am totally against religion anyway and totally for the abolition of some rules imposed
on people based on societal customs like marrying before or at an "optimal" child bearing age.

Anyone who is treating a woman that is not married badly in words or actions, has hatred for that woman in person and not because she is not married. Women can choose how they want to live their lives, either to get married or not. I have seen a lady that didn't get married because she feels that she don't need a man and wants to stay focus on her goal in life, saying that a marriage will be a distraction to her.

The only women that I will feel for are those that really wanted to get married but couldn't get married because of some challenges, still such people shouldn't be abused with that or treated badly because it might lead them to depression. It is good to value women the way that they are either single or married, because they need to be shown care.

If it is the property inheritance, l will blame the father for not writing a will and include the female children in the will. An educated man will always write a will on how his property will be shared and it stands as long as there is a lawyer involved.

That is the challenge of not getting married for a woman most times especially if she doesn't know her right and doesn't have worth or have not created value on herself. A woman that is independent and has a good source of living doesn't face such kind of treatment and that is changing also because the women folk are becoming wiser with feminism and gender equality advocacy. So many women are lawyers, doctors, nurses, engineers etc, so they can feed themselves even without men unlike in the past that they solely depended on men for survival.


Even in those part of the world, things have changed and the women challenge certain segregation and disenfranchisement up to supreme court and get positive judgement that are changing the narratives.


That was in the past as things have changed. Some women preach adoption alot especially those women from abusive homes, those that their fathers were abusive to them and their mothers. These women these days prefer not to stay under a man as husband that they are married to but prefer to cohabit and procreate after which they are at liberty to walk away. Some go straight for adoption if they have proved to have resources to take care of the child. So many things are changing and have changed even in Africa and other less technologically developed countinents.

I think the mentality concerning marriage is now completely different back from the days where marraiage is highly valued and currently where getting married is not even a priority anymore.

Now a man and woman can decide to come together and make babies, it's kind of a contract between them. The man pays for the woman to give birth to children after the deal is done they go separate ways.

Marriage is now and option, not necessarily for every woman as some choose to be single but have children which is not identified as marriage.

this came from the old ideology that women’s only purpose in life was to get married and produce offsprings which is very outdated women should be allowed to explore career options and they should not be limited to specific paths in life just based on their gender

many people view women as the carriers of children which is why they think it’s always a waste or a regret if a woman chooses not to get married or have children meanwhile if it was their male counterparts that are yet not married they would have been thought of as players and are cool and would not be as disrespected as women

not only unmarried women gets disrespected but also divorcees it is more often that the women in a broken marriage are blamed for not being able to keep a household together

i hope that we let women of today’s time choose whatever they want to do with their lives

The moral way out for women especially older ones who don't want to be married or can't get married is to break free from the world & its system and join the Right System... Once they do this they can now focus on serving their CREATOR unmarried (and as virgins) especially via spreading the gospel and converting souls to the system. They will also inherit all creations and have power over them... so, there will be no need to bother about inheritance anymore. They could also have their own home and probably have members, especially children to live with them and they will become their adopted mothers.  

But if they want to marry(and it's willed for them to marry) but nobody wants them or they can't find the right man, they would eventually find men who love them or the right men they love in this System.

Every one of us both male and female play a vital role in society and as long as we keep educating and training ourselves to discover how to live a better life and increase the mortality rate,  many times such discrimination between women and men come along religion and ethnic line of thought and many of such are just fallacy of ideas that seek to satisfy some selfish desires and greed worst still religious that allow such line of thought.

Both males and females have the same capacity to perform at the same level of frequency both physically and mentally,  what matters is the level of training given to both,  there is a popular saying in my region and tribe that goes that (what a man can do,  a woman can do it better).

I don't want to believe that the above speech is just a statement that has no meaning for for that I will say that those who view women as inferior are doing so based on their lack of knowledge of the capability of women.

It's about the religion, culture, and tradition of the family. While that's a sad truth that in some parts of the world, women are inferior and men are given more privilege as if they're kings of their lives. That's why there are many women's advocacies fighting for women's empowerment. Whilst some see it as something vague and odd.

But if you go around and see the real-life situation of many women, you'll get to understand what these people are fighting for. Even with all of these advocacies, they can't cover all of the violence against women because many places are too remote and we don't even know what actually is being done against them. And if you're a women and you're being buttered by your husband, why stay? Because of love? Because of your children? Usually the answer is about the children as they don't want to see their child grow up having no father.

We must also dig deep from talking about what make some women finds themselves into such situations when they are due for marriage but no one is coming for them for a hand in marriage, many of these women have the way they have lived their own youthful adulescent stage when men are tripping for so many of them but yet they are not giving room for a stable relationship or get serious about life all because they think they were already on top of the world, forgetting that age tells on women.

In which part of the world is this still happening? Things have changed now, people now decide if they want to be married or stay single for the rest of their lives and there are no big issues about it. There were times when divorce used to seem like an abomination,  but now people even even celebrate being separated . All these cases have been made easy because the stereotypes have reduced and the stigma that comes with being unmarried or divorced too have reduced. All thanks to civilization that has made everyone believe in the equality of the man and the woman.  What The people are more concerned with is how to develop themselves and control scarce resources at their disposal.



Most women who remain in abusive marriages stay back because they have little or no means of  survival if they leave. This explains why the financially buoyant women who are in abusive marriages choose divorce faster without looking back.

My dear feminists, what's your answer to this?

Any feminist activists spoke about this?

This has changed drastically but we can't say it doesn't exist anymore but this is a modern era where people choose to live their life as they wish because they got the freedom to do it. Some cultures are against it because after 40 the person who doesn't have a companion will feel lonely that is why marriages were a big deal in the past but I guess it doesn't anymore.

We should really take care of them because they are weak in terms of their emotions and most of the time they are not physically strong too. Some other men are wasting their chance to take good care of their women while others are dreaming of having those girls to take care of. on the other hand, women who didn't get the opportunity to get married are the loneliest and often have high tempers because of their life experiences. nevertheless, men should consider not hurting them in any way shape, or form especially those who are close to them, and when they are hurt by their words, they should not act recklessly by using their fists but instead try to understand them and just leave for a while. those women when they have their period are sensitive, so it's upon us to understand them every time.

Women' are different from men. Men can get married anytime and still be very fertile but when a woman gets to some certain age it is very difficult for them to get pregnant to bear children,  at this time they are scared when they think how life will be for them knowing that it is a thing 50/50. When it comes to child bearing women has the major to play , the joy of every married woman is to be able to give birth to children,  and they feel worried the most when things are not working for them.

These days it’s normal & acceptable for women to choose not to get married. Marriage is a personal choice & everyone has the right to decide what is best for them. In today's society there is a growing recognition & acceptance of diverse lifestyles & relationship choices. Women are increasingly pursuing their own goals, careers & personal fulfillment which may or may not include marriage. It is important to respect & support individual choices & prioritise the happiness & well being of women regardless of their marital status.

The concept of equality in society will be further enhanced as people become more ethical. Gender discrimination to show competition is the way that society in general has always viewed women of all genders towards the back of the family. Coincidentally, I just re-watched the movie "Barbie 2023" which has many themes that I find quite interesting with content about equality. When we realize that we are the ones who make the decision without depending on prejudice factors but it does not mean opposing, I believe that life will have many values that bring happiness.

With the story of people who are old enough to get married but not yet married, I think it will become more and more popular as women increasingly demonstrate their autonomy. Of course, there are still cases like the OP mentioned, but in my opinion, if that individual does better and is more in harmony with personal decisions, then the crowd's judgment will no longer have much meaning, but is merely a challenge for that individual. Even though I'm a man, I can also feel the feeling of being asked frequently about marriage stories, and actually, I sympathize with those who are perpetuating that prejudice. I personally also thought maybe I was living a selfish life, but actually, when I learn about many different things in life, it helps me realize that selfishness is because people don't understand each other, so they impose prejudices within their scope of understanding.

Is marriage a do or die afair? Because most culture and ways of life has made it look like it. women to a man is not just a companion but also a helper. In some part of the world it's a very big deal if a woman is not married when she is up to marriageable age, women goes through a lot in that aspect when not married, she will be talk down on, direspected, she will receive all manner's of insult just because she is not married.

I knew of a woman that in her family it's only her that didn't got married, she is being treated badly  even her household members, they always try to mock her at every slit opportunity, because she is more than 50years of age now.

To me the most ugliest part of it is that in some part of the world,  women are not given part of their inheritance, it's only the male child, they believe that woman will get married and have a new home.

The most painful part of it is even the ones that got married and found their self in an abusive marriage, will find it difficult to walk away because she doesn't want to stay unmarried. Please let's all of protect our women, they also have the right to live.