Topic: Your motive for giving (Read 399 times)

Giving is a lifestyle no matter the intent behind the giving the key concern is putting smile on the next person or better still giving the next man a chance to live again. Giving on its own isn't an easy task so many who have so much find it so hard to give so i believe someone who has the mind to share what the have with another no matter their intent should be appreciated

It is for personal reasons why people give and the reasons vary from person to person. In my perspective, my biggest motive for giving is responsibility. Different roles as son, father, husband, business associate require me to have strong wills and disciplines to perform well. To be honest, I am not fooled to give anything regardless of my feelings or personal benefits. I have very clear guidelines what should be done and what should not. Am I tired ? Am I depressed ? Sometimes yes but as an adult, I have to take my own responsibilities. No matter what.

The reason I give is because I want to help others.
because if you give help, don't expect what is given will give back.
because basically it's our obligation as human beings, to help each other.
if you give with the motive of one day wanting to be given again, that's not good, because if what is given doesn't give back to us, it will definitely grow a sense of revenge, and be reluctant to give again.
so in essence, giving must be with sincerity, even if we give a plate of rice, with a sincere heart, it is already extraordinary.
rather than giving a lot, but in the end revenge, because the giver does not give back.

Yes rarely someone helps without his selfish motive ,everyone wants something in return. This is how our world is now opportunist and looking for gaining anything anytime.   But in real sense your motive of giving should be for pure helping a person with good intentions, not to take advantage of his situation.

I've noticed a pattern of giving in order to receive something in return with the majority of my former friends and acquaintances. This, however, usually switches to always making requests in the near future, since I find giving in order to receive something in return a malicious way of thinking. I always help and give selflessly without asking for anything in return. If I respect someone and I truly count you as my friend, I'll do my best to assist them. However, at some point they are simply taking advantage of you, which is something I don't tolerate. Unfortunately, I've noticed that it's too common for people to use others for their own advantage; it's very saddening, especially if you take into account that I'll do my best to assist someone however I can.

Your motive of giving should be purely to help someone with good intentions and selflessly. It should not involve any selfish motive like anything in return or any reward.

And never publicize your good deeds and intentions, always help quietly as it is said if you are giving someone something with right hand your left hand shouldn't know about it. The irony is people help nowadays to become famous and philanthropist.

When I give, I do it because I think that's the right thing to do. But when guilt comes in and nobody's there to help me and I just suffer on my own.

I'm thinking that when it's come to others, I'm always there and I help them. But whenever I'm in need of help, nobody's there and willing to help because most of them that I've helped are also needy.

I understand that the reason behind someone's act of giving should not be questioned but what I've not still gotten my head around is the group of people who give outsiders more than they give their loved ones. It's understandable that one has to be careful with whom you give gifts to but, I still don't grab the wisdom behind such acts. Can someone help me out?

So that I'll have more, it's written blessed are the hands that giveth than the hands that receiveth. When you give doors of blessings open to you and your business, that's is a natural law of nature. At times, I give to be happy, when I render help and they smile, it gives me inner joy. Giving is gifted from God, everyone should pray for it. Because it's takes courage to give. Especially in a harsh economy  

The best intention and motive for giving should be purely to help and show love. Any opportunity to give should be embraced, and contrary to the mindset that some people already have about it is as something you do when it is convenient for you or when you have surplus, giving is something sacrificial and you don't need to have too much to give, but can give from whatever you have.

I call this type political givers. They are hypocrites who pretend to be doing something good for others whereas their real aim is to help themselves. There are so many of them in Africa. They want to be seen while giving to others. Most of them like to record on video their acts of giving, displaying them online. I attitude to giving falls on number 2


You will have to give us a contact to call to confirm that claim. Am joking. Yes there are some people like that who give even when it drains them. This are the selfless givers.

It is good to give and not grudgingly, without expecting the same oerson you give to respond in return, so many people were found in the place of giving and yet standing by to get noticed that they gave,  it is not necessary showing yourself to others what you have given and to those that likes receiving too much as well, it's a bad habit, learn to start giving so you can also have enough to receive back through your giving habit.

In this regard I have been thinking that there are indeed motives in terms of political ideology.

Normally, someone who is left-wing tends to think that it is the state through taxes that has to collect and redistribute wealth, so that in an ideal, perfect state (which will never exist) no one would be poor.

I don't want to say that it is impossible to be a leftist and give money to charities, etc, but in general I would say that the percentage is lower because of the above explained and more if you live in a country where social democratic policies are implemented, like Denmark for example.


Another thing I have thought in this regard is that it changes the way you are in a positive way. The moment that donating money becomes one more item in your monthly budget like paying utilites or groceries, and you think of other occasions to donate money to the extent of your possibilities, you are moving away from the selfish part that we all have.

I admired some people doing it with really no personal intention and made it as a habit for some reason like probably they know how it feels to be poor, powerless, dependable so they are doing it when they can do apart from this most people are doing it for fame, or to prove their sake of existence to media so their name will remain under the circulation which gives more benefits than what they are giving to people. As for as someone is giving I just happy for the receiving end they get something which is better than nothing.

OP: One should not judge anyone or create ideas about people because they do not give to whom one thinks they should give.

 And it is not a question of now, people have been like this since they began to understand that material belongings mean something, always people in the course of their lives give some material good or give charity, fortunately it is like that, is true that thete are much persons does it rarely and maybe there are people who never do it, but that's not the approach, so the point is not who does not help others, the important thing that is you do it, that at the end of the day is most important.

So, there should never be a reason to give! as the slogan says; " Just do it".

It is not a good reason to give, and probably, with that mentality you will get the opposite result.

I started giving when things started going well for me financially, without expecting anything in return, and things started going even better for me financially, as I described in this thread:

    
What about the role of giving in personal finance?

My reason for giving is that it is a good action in itself. I don't have to think of complicated arguments to justify it.

Their are some people  that believe if they give x2 of what they gave will come back to them. Why some people they always give with wisdom, they don't give when what they have with them is not enough . 

People today often fall into the third group, not because they intentionally want to, but rather as a result of the way society is today. If you give everything now, tomorrow may not bring you any help. People who desire to give always consider your capacity to return the favor in the future.

If you don't give back when you can, you'll be seen as unappreciative, thus those who are wary of such hurtful statements will usually give back of their own volition. Giving assistance to someone can never be justified; try to avoid expecting anything in return while acting with selflessness.

 Giving should be an act done selflessly without expecting anything in return. Some people feel giving is supposed to be limited to a certain sect or it has to be limited to cash.

Inasmuch as we are not to give with an objective in mind, it actually becomes painful when your gift which you felt would have met a need is regarded poorly or worse discarded and you later find out. It could cause a certain phobia.

In the past, we had a culture of giving to each other, especially to our closest relatives and even our neighbors. giving is not only in the form of money, it can be food, it can be services, without expecting to get anything in return. as the saying goes, that giving is never lacking. we have a culture that is preserved to this day, to give does not have to involve a motive.

there is another saying, if the right hand gives, the left hand does not need to know. however, now in the digital era as it is today.  there are many youtubers making content with the theme of giving, even in some of our national tv shows some reality shows with giving content. however, it saddens our attention, how much money they make from the show just selling the sad impression of the suffering of the people who are the subject of the show.
like you said, this is very sad.

Helping and giving something to anyone without any grudge and ill intentions is a blessing,that means God has chosen you to help needy people and you are among the givers. Motive is very important as giving with bad motive causes alot of problems in long run. Just help each other with open arms and open heart and dnt expect anything in returning see how much satisfaction you'll get trough this. Your good deeds are like a cleanser for your soul and mind and it freshens you up and make you a better person.

Jesus said, Give to him who asks of you, and don't turn away from him who would borrow from you.

I think my motive for giving the most isn't because I have enough but because of my passion for the needy and my understanding as a follower of Jesus Christ. I give without a grudge and I believe in the doctrine of the love of Christ for mankind which says In Acts 20:35
It is more blessed to give than to receive. I think giving doesn't reduce what I have it only helps to create more room for more to come my way and it opens doors to another blessing that I may not understand as a human being, My reason for giving is love for mankind because seeing another man in pains gives me much concern so the best I can do is to give whatever that is within my powers in other to help such person.

Know that it is not a must to give but it pays to give than to withold, giving to someone is an expression that opens your arms to receiving more to what has been given, lack of giving culture is what limitate some people to their presents conditions where they are today, he that gives shall also receive more than he has given in return but people don't know the law of nature behind a giving habit, even when something they have in possession isn't useful to them, sone would rather choose to keep such to themselves rather than giving it out to others in need, also if you must give, then don't seat to wait for the recompense in return and don't broadcast your giving to let other know what you did.

I give not because I have so much but because I know what it means not to have but to also have the courage to ask.
There are times I would deeply and greatly need help but wouldn't get it and I wouldn't be able to ask because of the Shame of bothering the next man with my personal problems. So this alone has been my drive when I see my fellow man pass through pains and not be able to ask for help. Most times I just give without reasons

You are blessed if you have this capability and capacity to help and give something to anyone . Your motive of giving defines your mindset,if you are giving with a positive mindset nnd selflessly than means your intentions are pure but if you have some thoughts about anything during helping anyone ,either its some personal gain or any selfish motive that's a negative mindset. We should try to work on our motive first that should be help only for blessing.

I can give even if it is the only money I have on me, as far as I'm giving to help the condition of one situation. Giving is not only about having much fund, but sometimes we give just because people are going through a lot.

give it a complex word,
can be positive
can also be made negative.

for example
someone gives groceries to the poor, that is a positive thing.

there are people who give advice or suggestions, if you have to corrupt aid funds, it's in a negative way.

and indeed the motivation of people to give is different, we don't know what's in someone's heart.

The reality of giving is that you should contribute while hoping for blessings. The common phrase is "If I have more, I'll donate more." You put the horse before the cart, not good. The degree to which you give will decide the degree to which you get. After experiencing the giving spirit, you won't want to leave another life. As a Christian, Jesus urged us to contribute and promised that if we do, it will be returned to us. with the knowledge that giver won't be without.
To put it another way, you must be kind to people who are suffering and giving to those who are unable to take care of themselves. According to the Bible, giving to the needy is equivalent to lending to God

I think the greatest thought when it comes to giving something beneficial whether it's money, food or talent, or time, is to let it all be absolutely for the sake of God. Without asking them for the same treatment you gave them or the same amount of gifts or even not asking "thanks" from them. Because you will be surprised how quickly most people changed after you've done well for them. Some people don't want to recognize you anymore intentionally and some of them will hurt you emotionally. They just don't care because you don't have the same mindset.

When you don't intend anything from them, you won't be hurt by any means of changes they will do in the future because you only want to make them happy for the sake of God. I find this helpful and I don't feel annoyed or have any bad feelings whenever this thing happened to me because, in the first place, I only seek the reward from my Lord.

Many religions believe that you have a reward when you give to people or society. But this must be done must willingly and not grudgingly. it is better you don't give than to give with anger or an unwilling heart.

Sometimes when you look around and observe that you are the best person to offer help to someone because others don't have the capacity to assist, then you have to help. It might not be convenient or willing but it becomes a duty.

The worst form of giving is giving with the intention of getting something in return. Such a kind of giving is propelled by greed and selfishness. I have seen very poor people giving to the rich because they feel they would get favor in return. Others offer assistance to people because of sex or other benefits.

But the best kind of giving is a selfless one. Selfless giving is when you give to that person that lacks the capacity to repay you. When you give to that orphan, poor widow, beggar, the homeless, etc.

And you must not announce or show your donations. Giving secretly is another ideal way of giving. According to some religious teaching, you are rewarded when you give without announcing it. it would also save you from criminals, who might feel that you are wealthy because of your giving life.
   

I give it all, so that nobody can say that I made my millions because of the millions I already had.

 There's the saying that givers never lack, so as such you give because of two things; 1: you have the means to, and 2: it's more blessed to give than to receive. While these factors are being considered, it's still important to note that there are different types of givers who have different motives.
 Now, I have observed that there are different types of givers and y'all are free to add your findings, but I'd like to talk about 3 peculiar types.

  1. The Grudge givers

These types always find a reason to complain about everything and nothing when it comes to giving. Whether it's their time, money or what have you. It's not like they won't help out, but it's after a long while, and some end up not doing it. But funny enough, when these kinds are in need, they expect that you should always come through for them.
 
  2.The Duty Givers
 These category fall under the "if I don't do it, who will?" group. Now, I'm not saying that the idea of being dependable is bad, but they sometimes give just because they feel it's an obligation and as such miss out the true meaning of the act of giving.
  And then we have the third group, which is the

  3. Givers With Intent

 Now it's not a bad idea to have a purposes for doing something especially if it's a noble one. But what I've come to understand that people do what they do when it comes to giving, for ulterior motives. We hear of benefit giving; where give A so later on he will do something for you, or you give so people will think highly of you.
 It's quite sad that these days people have lost the true meaning of giving and replaced it with something else.

 What is your reason for giving?