The way that I am using is to write my phrase on paper, but I will shuffle the position of the words. In case if they are exposed, thieves can't access my property either. Of course, there is still a risk if I forget the original position of the words, but another thing is that I always share it with my loved ones. So if I forget it, my relatives will remember it for me.
Having securely saved multiple back-up of the exact position of your seed phrase is a must so that you can login them easily but it must be kept in a much secure location which you can also remember easily. Sharing our seed phrases to our loved ones might be a good idea because unexpected things could happen to us but you should choose a family member carefully.
One more thing, I think it's best to share seed phrases with loved ones because we work, invest and earn for them and not only ourselves. So no need to worry about sharing seed phrases with them. If you keep doubting everyone including your parents, wife and children, no one will trust you.