Topic: Advice when you are going a bit far in gaming and betting - page 20. (Read 7496 times)

When it comes to regulating how far our betting/ gambling habit has gone, it's necessary to understand that you can't stop it that easily all by yourself. It gets worse when you have an associate who regularly comes in and you'll go out together to gamble. You will need to speak to a friend or family member and ask for his guidance. If possible, you can tell the person to regularly check up on you and bring up the conversation regarding how your gambling habit has become - if it's either becoming addictive or not.

There was a time when I became too addicted to social media and was always on it uncontrollably I didn't notice it that quickly but my friends observed that I was always online and we spoke about it and that helped me to cut down on that habit.

When you have someone that can monitor your excesses, it goes a long way in protecting you from negative things.

Seriously, hiding our gambling activities is very important, even in the area where people do not see gambling as something that is bad, because hiding it will definitely have an impact on our family, siblings, and other relatives. As we all know, doing it is something that is not advisable, so you can see that when we hide, they won’t learn from us, and anytime they intend to do it, we will be able to talk to them to stop it.

Because some of them may not have any source of income, some are students, and if they see their elder or someone close to them doing it, they will also want to practice it, which will result in financial difficulties as we know how gambling works.


This specific statement is attached to the fact that even if someone likes gambling, why will a responsible gambler ask for a loan to gamble? Asking for a loan to gamble is the worst thing a gambler will do in their gambling journey because if you lose the money to pay back, it will be a serious problem. However, anytime we don’t have money to gamble, we should keep in mind that gambling is not for us. At that time, we can wait till we have money, then set aside some amount for gambling; it will be better.

Yes, based on what you have said, I would like to highlight that word, discipline, for everything but for everything, you need to have discipline, it is the only way to go far, sometimes one has to be more disciplined than others to make a difference , and this is something that we must see with all reason, so in this order of ideas when it comes to doing things like being able to improve some processes, then you have to be disciplined, and when we are in a casino we have to have much more discipline , and to play you have to have control, or self-control, because things are very difficult, self-control can sometimes be lost because things can be hard when strong emotions, or what we call impulses, occur, Because when people go too far in the casino it is because they fail and fail because they let themselves be led by their hearts, or rather by impulses and they do not respect the money they owe or are willing to lose.

Another thing we must always highlight is that self-control is sometimes not so easy to have, even I, who say and talk so much about this topic, sometimes find it difficult to have it, because sometimes the very game absorbs us with great anxiety. So because of this, we can consider that self-control is one of the things that are most important here, it can be seen that people who control their emotions, or their impulses, do well in the casino, and it is difficult , Well , sometimes you can try to lose control, but if it is a problem, even if you can lose control, you can do it as long as you respect the money you are willing to lose. If a person bets and is willing to lose 20usd and gets there , You should not deposit more nor should you try to find another way to put money in your account, so in this order of business we must respect our and our own rules, we must always consider the best option for us to protect our money in a casino.

Of course it would be better for us to hide our gambling activities if we are in an environment where gambling is seen as a bad thing in their opinion, and also we should never ask for a loan of money to gamble from people who don't like gambling, of course this will make them angry when they see us. I agree with you, if we do something like that, of course we will have an addiction to gambling and cannot control the desire to gamble and it will also harm the people around us, so it would be better if we have the desire to gamble and don't have the money to do it then we can Looking for busyness in other fields to be able to avoid our desire to gamble and I also think this is better because it doesn't harm other people.

We have our decision to make, there are times we need to allow friends and family know about what we do and there are also times and periods we tend to refrain from that due to some privacy benefits or reasons, we have to make sure that what we want is what we get, if you intended that you want to allow them to know about your worth and gambling lifestyle, then work towards achieving that, if that is also against your wish, then don't try to make them feel they know everything about your gambling lifestyle and experience.

for those who hide their gambling from family or friends. Of course, don't involve your family or friends when you are in financial trouble, even to get capital to play. although I'm sure more of those who experience financial problems definitely involve their families.
it is an irresponsible form of gambling. it could even be detrimental to other people. I'm also a gambler, but I wish I didn't do that.

Yes that's right. most of the gamblers who get a win will be like that, by forgetting their families when they manage to win a big win. Even the family that can accept him when the hardest situation will be forgotten if he has succeeded from gambling, but few people can only succeed from gambling. Many of them lose and become a burden to their families because even though they have enough income it will feel less by playing it in gambling.

And when they run out of money then they will ask their family to be able to return to gambling. of course this is one of the effects of gambling, with the destruction of their own finances and even families can also be affected. I don't think it's natural that those who gamble should involve their families because they themselves gamble while their families don't know anything. So I myself thought I would hide my gambling from my family, because I think basically no family would allow their family members to gamble.

Well we can always do many things with the Activities in the slots , but this depends on each person's experience, for those who like slots it is something Common , I think we have all seen and realized that things when They are to be more retale, it is as you say, everything is up to luck, if you are lucky, you will have a great profit , otherwise you will not get Anything, so this is something that I don't see it like that, I play slots, yes, but I'm not looking to win, I'm looking to have fun and that's it, I don't worry about winning, of course if I win , then I celebrate it and if it's a big win then I withdraw it and that's it, but otherwise when I put money in the slots it's for my mere amusement, I don't do it for anything else, so this is something that can generate emotions , it seems like that to me, of course it's my way of playing, but I have seen behavior in the Game on the part of many when they play, and one of those Things are easy because they don't know how to Manage and have good profits.

Personally , a person can look for Profits in the Slots, but I think that they must Have a lot of money to be able to play and play for hours, because at any time you can get a big profit and get everything back, that's what I sometimes see that can happen with some players in the casinos, well, the one that catches my attention the most is in stake.com where basically the profits are too millionaires, where they make bets of 200usd or 700usd and sometimes they win with good Multiplier s, so this makes things They can generate a lot of Profits , in fact these things can be seen in the stake.com threads, and the most impressive thing is when they make Withdrawals to their walls, wow this is something that goes much further, I always put this example because it is o What has impressed me the most, is because of these things that I talk a lot about this, and where I emphasize that to reach that level you need a lot of Experience , a lot of juice, a lot of money.

even without vices mate , people will still make wrong decision , like when they become addicted lol.

self control is still the key to this , not stopping drinking or drugs but our mindset and dedication.

lets not get personally into gambling.

You need that balance since gambling is really addicting chances that you fall into deeper engagement is not impossible to happen, your love ones who really care about you are the people who will be there when you needed them the most, with the right balance and with good judgement, you'll be able to enjoy and be entertained without hurting or disregarding those people who cares.

Be that person and have that mentality to make sure that you will be able to move forward when things are not doing well. As long as you can handle this kind of situation, you are still on the good side of your gambling participation.

Well when it comes to these things, yes, you are right, the family can help you overcome the ugly things that a person may go through, but yes, you have to consider something, that not all people have a family, or person who make them get ahead, so when they don't have a family, what will they do? maybe losw amgios? Yes, it may be that friends are the ideal people to do it, but if that is not the case, then things should be and be done in other ways, and if it is a single person who does not have a family or friends, it is more The rare thing is difficult, when you have a family you can help them get ahead, although there are times when the same family sometimes turns its back on you in an impressive way, it is incredible but that happens, when it is not like that, what can The thing to do is that things can be different, that the person who is there in a casino helps them get out of their friends, but as I say, many people can tell you that they are your friends but in reality they are not, this type of things are the ones we must observe.

Now when things begin to happen this way we Can sense that when a Person is Completely alone , as it can be seen that it is more difficult, they have to have a lot of willpower to get ahead, so in this case the people who are in addiction and they are lonely people, who have no friends or anything because they have to see what they can do, if they seek professional help and how they can do it in a great way, because who is talking to these people ? Maybe because of intention , or I seek help through books, but it is something that we see that they have to do, it is difficult, whatever the case that addiction exists in people, we have to find a way to seek help, with family Friends, with professional help, these things are what should be done , this is what I Recommend , but for everything, Professional help is better, with a Psychologist or any person who can help.

You're right and i got your ideal point here, there are situations in life whereby a gambler will think about that he needs none of the family members help all because things are going well with them, but immediately they got into trouble then they discover that the first genuine help they will require is from the family members, now it's not about hiding your gambling kind of lifestyle away from the family members but being a true gambler who value everyone accordingly and knows how to balance both gambling and family together without any being affected.

Family plays a very important role in the general well being of any of its members most especially those that allow themselves to get involved in each other personal and private matters, while the one with the problem is looking for solutions to that problem most especially when the problem has to do with something as forceful as gambling addictions that need all the support needed to fight and defeat it on the long term base.

So those that have close loving family will indeed find things a little bit easier on their side since for at least they will be receiving some level of support from their family and being encouraged daily to overcome the addictions.

Gamblers are generally stubborn, especially if they are chasing losses over and over. This becomes their reality. Family can sometimes help, sometimes in unintended ways. For example, if the gambler is damaging their family with their actions....seeing the others suffer because of it, I think would be confronting. Die_empty was right though, it would generally be difficult for family to get through to a gambler as they would be doing so out of love, anger, frustration, concern, worry, etc...not out of a psychological method/understanding of the mind, which a professional counsellor would (hopefully) have to work with.

Without a doubt that should be the very basics if a person wants to gamble as there is no way to become a responsible gambler without following those rules, but we must also consider that people gamble in order to bring some excitement into their lives and the idea of gambling in this way does not appeal to them, as then any sort of risk seems to disappear if they do this, so they willingly ignore to take those precautions and while the majority can get away with it, there is a minority that will suffer greatly because of that decision.

Yes set Budget, have a break, avoid drugs & drink and self-control  is more important in gambling. By following these, no one will face any major losses in gambling. Gambling should be done very cool mind and tension free. I think all those who can make money from gambling and avoid losses follow these rules. Panic is the biggest problem with gambling losses. Gambling is a critical thing where panic means loss. So I agree with your points

The fact is that what we see is that when someone has become an addict they forget themselves, even as if they feel like they don't have a family so they care more about themselves and the pleasures of their own world, that's what happens when I see a serious addict who plays too far so he forgets his family. just to gamble, even when he wins, he never remembers to celebrate with his family, instead he spends money to have fun with female entertainers.

There are many cases like that, so always be in control when gambling and never forget the obligation to look after and protect your family, that is very important because they are the ones who will help us whenever we need it, especially if we gamble too far and the addiction is too deep, I believe that our families are the ones who are at the forefront of healing us from this addiction.

The 'will' is more preferable to call it that the mind. Some people have very low "will power' and as such cannot conquer certain challenges, not because they don't have the capacity but their will power leaves them handicapped at such matters. Those class of people pose more challenges for therapists who entertain their cases.

My first advice in this regard is for the person to fight by himself. You have to first admit that there is a problem and fight within you, that makes you a man. I Mention "man" not because this approach is not applicable to women too but to characterise the mind battle and winning as being manly. No one would help you more than you help yourself and I've seen a whole lot of addicted people who fought and won easily all by themselves just because they are serious and determined to do it.

This is mostly applicable to those who are of a strong mind, but if you are such that is of a weak mind, my advice for you is to quickly find help. You could tell friends or family or get entirely external help from a therapist.

But not everyone will care about what happens to us because they will also prioritize their personal interests rather than thinking about us which might only complicate things or cause a number of problems.
So far the family that might really care is the parents and if we are married then the one we can most rely on is wife, even though they will also be little disappointed with what happens because of the problem of gambling addiction.

Most gamblers don't want their families to know what they have been doing in gambling because when there is a feeling of disappointment it can make family members no longer want to sympathize.
But the role of the family is very important and as much as possible we must be able to protect it so that when something bad happens there are still people who care and want to help to solve all the problems that are happening.