Topic: [ADVICE]Boy Wins $46k from Sports Bet but Can't Tell Strict Religious Parents... - page 3. (Read 721 times)

There are very strict Muslim parents in the country I am living at. Not mine but I observed so many horror stories from friends. Well if I had strict religious parents that are totally against gambling I think I would have no option other than lying to them. Its far better if they don't know about it. Being 20 year old and above means you are totally independent person that can do anything he/she wants. Parents aren't our owners. Gambling is very fun activity. Money making is good.

Ok this is no big deal. That kid is clearly not religious as his parents, so might as well keep it a secret if he can actually do it. I mean what's the catch here? If he tells his parents they'll surely get mad, not even sure if they'll be happy with the amount of money their son have won.
So, just simply keep it secret and safe. Investing is also a good choice, but he can also save it for the latter especially when he has his own family, but inflation will kills it's value, so yeah go ahead and invest it (in bitcoin most probably) LOL!

Aside from that, growing up in a religious family, I certainly know what the boy felt because even if he's already old enough to make a decision on his own, he is still subjected to tell everything what is happening to his own parents as he is still living in the same roof in the first place. And so out of respect, the boy is obliged to say what he did.

Getting his own place might do him good but that comes after saying what he did and that he obtained money through gambling because going away from his parent's place without them knowing what happened is certainly not an answer because you will not have that same courage if it's not because of the money. Moreover, you already acted guilty if you will do that.

I agree with this boy decision.When you come from a strict religious family things will not go that well and will spark a huge discussion most likely.I have many friends who are religious here where I work from different religions and I can tell that they heat up real fast when discussing about rules and laws of their specific religion,each one defending the religion he follows.Since the boy here is of 20-23 of age a young man meaning not mature enough to face some adverse adversaries as this is what parents become against their children when being extremely religious,so better to keep it as a secret,perfect choice.

When I read the title "boy", I thought it is related to someone under 15. In fact he is more than 20 already which is an age where he should have known what he did and what to do for what he have just done. If I'm in his position, I'll not keep it as a secret and I'll just tell my parents the truth. No matter how religious my parents are and I'll tell them and I'll accept their opinion. If they do not want the money, I can simply use it for myself and use it for better thing in real life.

I also don't think they should. I mean, it is a life time lucky winning and perhaps the parents don't earn such per annum. So they will eventually give in and render advise to him on the better way to go or investment to go into. I would think the parents are not bitcoin enthusiast with their religious inclination otherwise to DCA on bitcoin will be fine for the lad while he use part for offline business and if he himself is an online person then he could learn some online courses of business development etc.

Just out of respect to the old ones, but since he know that he's parent will not like on where he got his money then best to keep it a secret so that there's no trouble will happen. He can keep that amount to his bank account or maybe just follow what you suggest so that he can move to his own place since as an adult so that he's parents would ever think that he is doing a right thing and he can already able to earn for his self. Once he show that for sure his parent will never be angry if they find out his winning amount and also with his gambling activity since they already know that their son is now already a independent person.

The first, the man is aware that what he has done has violated the rules imposed by his family. in fact, the man's parents were strongly against gambling on the grounds that they came from a family that adhered to a devout faith. whatever the reason, whether he is unemployed who has no income, or all kinds of reasons for it all, is just a justification. in fact, this man loves gambling. in fact, he made a bet for the women's world cup betting which incidentally is rarely a man who has extensive knowledge and insight into women's football. moreover, this is a world cup game. my guess is that this man really likes to gamble even though he always hides the fact from his family.

IMO, there is no better scenario, other than he is enjoying the results of his winnings, without his parents knowing. why do I say that, because actually this man really likes to gamble when referring to my thesis and analysis. Incidentally, this man was lucky and won a sizable victory. there is no other word, other than he can only use the money for himself. because, it would be very impossible to tell his parents. because the result, will complicate the harmony that occurs in his family. So, if this story is true.  just enjoy, these moments as a gift to do other things that might help him meet his needs.

We know that there are certain individuals on whose they do really respect out their parents and follow and obey on whatever the rules or things that they commanded out.Even though there are really things which arent supposed to be relying into those personal decisions that you would be making. Its true that with that amount you could really be able to find your own place and find some job on which you wont really be worrying about on you on being scolded on those winnings and on the time that you do able to sustain and survive out then you would be able to make your own living
but of course it would really be depending if you had finished out your studies but on the age of 22 then you have already graduated into this point and on the time that you had able to hit up
this win then its not a bad amount for you to have some good start up and become independent. It is really just basing up on pushing up yourself on doing so and there are ones who could
be able to do it and there are ones who are just simply afraid. This is why decisions and further steps would really vary.

I was going to say the same thing where there was indeed a similar story that was discussed here not so long time ago, and if I remember it correctly, it happened in Nigeria where they had the same situation that their family was both strict, religious and definitely won't support their gambling activities. The only difference is that the boy in this topic is still weighing his decision whether to tell his own family or not because he certainly knows what will come to him once he will say that he gambled yet won a very significant amount of money.

If I were that boy, I would say it to them and wait what would be my parent's verdict about it as even if I know that they are not going to be happy with it because of the reason where it came from, it is still much better to say it rather than making it as a secret because a lot can happen specially from a young age like that. In most cases, they might get lost as at that age, they don't know what to do with that kind of money and aside from that, they will be taken advantage if they will tell it to their friends or someone they trusted. And that is why it is preferred to say it all to your parents so that you will be guided, and that money will be poured to the right place, like for your education for instance.

Why as an adult he feels he should tell his parents is the real question. Is it a my house my rules type of situation? If so, I would think this win is more than enough for him to get his own place and start getting his life together. $46K would get him a couple years on his own and hopefully he could find a job and stop being a freeloader. I promise you his parents won’t be upset.

Going against your parent will doesn't mean that you don't care about them. Especially when it comes to something that wouldn't bring a problem home. Maybe the boy has seen gambling as fun and felt that he needs to entertain himself with it regardless the commitment of his parent in their religious lives.

The parent of the boy will only get mad at him and will still take him as their son in the nearest future,if they were upset with him and tell him to return back the money and the boy refuses and for that reason he left the house or they sent him out of the house. Blood is thicker than water and one shouldn't allow our religion to make us sin against God. One shouldn't because of his religious belief and disown his child because forgiveness plays a major role in religious practice.

If the boy cared about his parents and didn't want to upset him because of his juvenile delinquency, then he should never have gambled. OK gambling is great for fun, but if you do win a lot of "tens of thousands of dollars" one day, then you shouldn't owe anyone for advice on how you should spend it.

Have fun, throw a party or have a great vacation to several countries and those are just the options that might be worth thinking about. While the boy can also spend it on something that is beneficial to him even though it is not for food costs, but for example something else.

Most of the time, parents who think like these (Gambling isn't a fair and true vocation, so you shouldn't be earning shit from it is also at the same time haters of trading, investing and other stuff that doesn't involve you working 9-5. I've had relatives like that who always judged me since I work in cryptocurrency and I rarely ever go out so they think I'm unemployed but now that they see the fruits of my labor they wish they can get in on it. I don't blame OP for keeping another lie on top of another lie cause at the end of the day, had these parents been more supportive of their children it wouldn't come to a point where their kid is afraid/embarrassed to share his aspirations, successes, and dreams with them.

Throwing the religion topic out of the window since gambling is strictly prohibited in most sacred texts, I believe that it's what you do with your money that makes it evil or good, not how you obtained them at least in some situations like you winning big on a gamble.

Such mistake I don't know if it is a good mistake or bad mistake but the important thing is that he already has a source of livelihood with him. He is lucky to win that huge sum of money capable to change his life for good. If he invest the money rightly in a profitable venture, his parents one day will forgive him after all he didn't steal it or used gun to rub from off their money. They are still family and family is always a family, things as such will not cause them apart and huge money is involved that is enough to still put smile on their faces on the long run depending on the economic status.

Some time ago, there was a similar thread that was discussing a guy who won a significantly high amount from gambling and his father didn't accept the money and told him to return the money and the money won't come into his house, the reason for that was also most probably because the father was either religious or his moral values didn't allow him to accept the money since it was from gambling and he probably doesn't consider gambling a good thing.

If it's a different story than that, then I would say that he should let them know first, and if they get mad and say that the money won't be used in their house, he should go ahead and invest the money into something maybe Bitcoin or start a business for himself and earn money from that to live his life with ease.

First of all, what he did was wrong because he didn't follow the order of his parent's but now that he already committed the mistake, I think it will now be easy for him to commit another mistake which is to lie, just in case his parents find out about the money. Im sure there must be other profitable activity that is allowed in his country like investing or trading. He can just say that he got the money from those sources. There might still be people who can feel guilty right after making one mistake and they will confess it right away. They think this will lessen the punishment that they will be getting.

Our parents are important because without them, we won't exist but without god there's also no people that will exist. There's even a saying that "god must come first". Maybe it's fine to dis-obey our parent's as long as what they are telling to us is not the same as what is written in the bible.

In every country it is different, if in Asia maybe aged 20-23 years most of them still live with their parents whereas outside Asia I think they have been taught to be independent from an early age so that at that age parents want their children to go out of the house and look for their own life or find a side job to make a living instead of living with parents and still bothering parents.

I also think that if a child tells the truth maybe it won't make his parents angry, besides, parents who are religiously devout will also understand and have experienced their youth so they need to be introduced to religion and still make mistakes, that's only natural, so I don't think there is anything problem as long as it's honest and I'm sure the child's parents won't scold him. it's true 20 - 23 years old unemployed and living with parents is not a good combination.

Each has its own price. "What money can't buy can be bought with a lot of money."
I'm sure the OP's case is exactly that. Yes, religion forbids this and that, but we are humans, and we are all sinners. And so the temptation of such money will find an excuse for the guy. You can imagine winning from several positions. The guy did not steal this money; he was lucky, and if you start from the foundations of religion, then nothing in this world happens without the blessing of God. That is, winning is precisely a gift, and refusing it will be a denial of a gift from the Higher Forces.
I don't think there are any parents in the world who, because of religion, would wish their son a worse life than it could be with this money.
Well, if there are such fathers, then I feel very sorry for their children.

There is nothing wrong in sharing the joy with and winnings with the parents.  I would definitely tell my parents about the wins since it does not affect me negatively and at the same time that I will apologize and make a promise that  I will avoid gambling to the best of my ability to make the minds of my parents at peace.  I will accept any scolding or punishment my parents will give me since I am sure that they won't kill me for gambling.  Besides I am already at the legal age and can decide on things I wanted to do.  Though promising them about avoiding gambling is for the respect and assurance that I am still heading their advice.