Topic: African Gender Inequality (Naija) (Read 362 times)

Even for this civilized era, some people still dey value male pikin pass and it's not good. E get one couple wey born twin, boy and girl. The way the papa dey take the boy pikin no be so e take the girl twin. The mother even told me that sometimes when the man dey ask of the children, na the boys e dey always ask of because he dey work in another state, I come dey wonder say person still dey behave like this. I feel for that man because be don't know what the future holds for the both twins.
I'm happy say, some people now dey enlightened now because of education and don't have that mindset that the male children are better than the female

No be say as African father need the male child no mean say the female child no follow or say the female no get value. Wetting dey cause that thing be say e don be heritage from there four-fathers to make sure say dem get male child to replace them  when them don't die or make the male child born piking wey go maintain there name, make there linage no comot. Because the female go mary and there children no go answer there grandfather name.Them dey see am say House wey male child dey people no fit attack them anyhow too so na these things make people dey act so wired if Dem no born Male child.



Although the truth be told, indirectly the femal gender
na temporal fixture. Because if she don't marry she don change name be that some self na like once in 2years you go see am depending on were she married. The husband people don't become here new home. All wetting she dey plan no for she with her husband. But that one no change our narrative of the topic. Despite all I still see the female gender more relevant in the society today.

For most Homes in Africa the male no dey get time to look after family, wetting Dem dey focus na there wife. to take care of mother and father na problem. But the female hadly forget were them come from. As the world fey civilize naso our afrimentality or narrative they change.

For Government aspect, nothing them fit do.

Our forefathers dem don do dia own pass and dem no force am put for our body say we must follow that style till death, and we really need to stop am as you talk because is like we no dy grow, we just dy one place dey expect change to happen. Me I no too blame our forefathers again nah our present papa dem because na dem dey make am hard for we the young ones, to me is like dem know say e no dey help other Dan mount pressure on us but dem still dey do am.


No be lie oh, one man seven wives thirteen girls but no boy pikin and dem see am as curse, no length wey dem no go go to find solution and if dem get one, just forget am.
Girl pikin get dia own role to play with boy pikin but I no know why e be say boy pikin con dy more important for some men eyes.

Before I go respond... I wan note say this thing from culture.
Our forefathers pass am to us and the worrying thing be say people wey dey practice am now dey prepare to pass am to future generation. But e need stop.

Those old days, our papa dem fit born upto 14 children where dem dey look for man pikin. Them go marry plenty wives dey find the one we go give them man pikin.
This don really change, girl pikin na better gift from God just like man pikin. See Ngozi Okonjo Iwela na....

The problem of gender inequality should be traced to the women in our society who are to fight against destroying the girl child self esteem and avoid configuring their mind negatively against their potential. With the recent development in Nigeria politics today, women are springing up to their right and what they can do in society. Today, it can not be said that gender inequality still exist in
the whole of  africa. We have seen women in different field showcasing their talent and skills in developing the society. If anything should be done for the girl child, it should be developing their self esteem and make them believe in the exceptional qualities they possess and how it can be harnessed to transform the society.

Well, just as cryptopreneurbrainboss has said, education has really changed some people's attitudes towards thinking that male Child is more important in the family than female Child. There is this slogan that "what a man can do, a woman can do better." In relating that statement to family, a woman child can do great things in the family, but that's if they are not disregarded as though they are less important in the family. I know in some African countries, not only Nigeria, some parents only send their male children to the university because they think their daughter will one day get married and leave the house, but that perception has changed a bit, and the only people that would be doing that now are just illiterates.

The topic of gender inequality in the society Nigeria as a case study, this topic have raised many intellectual arguments as to what basis of the society the girl child is placed in and how that has changed in recent times.

-In Nigeria and Africa of old, girls' children were viewed as less than their male counterparts, but with the increase in education and the prominent role that women and girls' children have played in society in recent times, the narration is changing and as a matter of fact, most fathers now prefer girls child to the male forks, at least as the first child, but the uneducated ones still may lack this understanding.

-I think Nigeria is now far better than other countries around the world that make separate rules for girls, but in Nigeria I we only have one constitution and there is no place for gender specifications, and that could be seen in the last concluded election were women several elective positions from their counterparts we now first elected female governor in a Northeast state of Nigeria (Adamawa).

-This to a great extent shows the level of equal treatment for all parties, and since the male vs female gender inequality thing is a psychological thing, we should erase it from our minds because we are all human with equal everything, give your child education and mould them to become who you want them to be regardless of gender

The old mentality is still what exists and na wetin dey make people for this our country nor dey use the same eye wey dem take dey look woman dey look man. The matter worse sef well well for some kind countries wey really get strict rules;

In Yemen, In the same Yemen,
In the Vatican City,
In saudia Arabia,
Ridiculous restrictions on women’s rights around the world

Small small all this things go dey change with time.

Na beta topic you carry come for here. Girl pikin get plenty limitations. No be for only African and Nigeria, even in the whole world. But wetin happen for Western countries be say dem don make some kind laws wey go protect female children rights.
But for we country dem no dey enforce those kind laws especially when e concern poor men.
Girl pikin dey too much vulnerable for we society. When you see guys wey dey plus up, na mostly girls dem dey use because we see them as weaker vessels.
But female piking like Okonjo Iwuala suppose make people understand say female pikin make sense pass some male pikin dem

E be lyk for dis current world wey we dey now, people don wise up and now dem don dey regard female children too, I dey talk about those wey want male and not female as their children. World dey evolve and na so things dey change follow, anybody wey still get dis Kind mindset never ready for life. Life go just treat your fuck up and God fit punish you for your actions too. Whether male or female pikin. All na blessings dem be and all of them to do well for their task given to them. I believe in gender equity but not gender equality.

Well I no dey really see much issues regarding Gender equality not of recent times and most times na the mentality wey ready dey instilled in us na e dey worry us and time don reach wey we suppose dey change the narratives. I believe say e get families wey dey wey still dey get some careless pressure over the gender of their pikin and that na very wrong issue we suppose to don fight to an end because at the end, just as the woman go marry comot, na so your man pikin no go wan remain for him papa house especially when him don grow reach some certain age, so why the preferences?
I don see situations wey man pikin abandon him family because of woman and na the daughter later at the long run come dey responsible for the family.
Moral lesson be say we all dey equal in the sight of God irrespective of age, qualifications and even gender but na mentality dey worry us.

I no dey blame the women but, I dey try talk say, the pen to use change this narrative dey there hand. Nobody talk say e go dey easy, no. E no possible say you ft get that kind change like that. The opportunities to enjoy watin women fell sayen dey enjoy dey wide open, you just hat take am, same way the men are having it and not hope it would be given to you.
It's natural say, women wants to be taken care of abi, make man dey pet you and without being told cef or maybe society don put am that way, women believe say them gays be the ones to put families together and be submissive abi... Na these ideas way don make them subordinate today, it's good but, na to agree to dey under be that.

Talking about recognition of who show you road, sometimes, you gats ignore acknowledent and take pride in the fact that, you don liberate person way no for allow your battery last for your phone, you don make person way go fit help another person and en family. Not being acknowledged no be watin go make you no help people.

For the support matter, I go tell you again say, women no follow. Na only to shout inequality many sabi. Them need sabi support themselves. Women population dey more than men and with that, in a good democratic society, them suppose dey at advantage but no, sentiment no go allow them support themselves and men too go always play a role to maintain there status.
E get why the word jealousy and envy dey peculiar to women. The why longggggg...

Romans 10:12 purely answer this your question.
Please make una no vex say I include bible for this matter because same bible tell us say there's no questions without an answer, Meaning say any questions wey you wan ask today dey inside bible na wetin make i answered from the bible but however, the world is a free nation were every man or woman can exercise their rights as an occupants or inhabitants of such geo political zone or region. Being recognized doesn't effects by government or any authority, whenever a woman or man creates values to world they are being recognized that's why today when you look at the music, and movie industry today you can also noticed they are making names as well, do we look at the sports and gaming industry women are also recognized but the issues there is that how relevant and creative you are to your country would makes them recognized you.

The males today are not helpful if they noticed they don't have any value to offer, both male or female they became valuable when they have something useful to proffer to the family
 Sorry to say, I have came across a family filled with the woman and those men there aren't making any efforts but their parents recognized those girls than the male sons.
As a matter of fact I myself values the females more to male because they mostly takes good care of their families when their parents are old while the male looks over their wives instead of their parents, so I don't think government have any power concerning this matter here rather the woman have to walk and work on themselves to be recognized in the nation just as our sister Ngozi okonjo iwala did. Today everyone talks about her because she creates values for herself and her household.

I come in peace ✌️
Udo

No be small thing o,the way our parents and our forefathers take this gender thing serious na wetin make una see say people for our generation dey take am personal. Another reason again be say for Igbo land,them believe say if you no born boy pikin your family linage in terms of surname go end,as no boy pikin to continue with the name and say girl pikin go born for another man and her pikin go get another man name.

The truth be say,e easy for mouth to talk say no gender discrimination for family which is fine but as a typical Nigerian,if you no born boy pikin u no go happy,abi na lie I talk? Life too sweet when you get both boy and girl pikin because you enjoy the both side of these two gender. Civilized people don't care about this and this is how it should be because nobody fit create anything so be satisfied with the gender of your child.

Wetin I get to talk be say na ignorance dey make people dey behave the way dem dey behave. Na God dey give person pikin and anyone wey you get train am well, give am good education irrespective of the sex, no dey reason am say the boy pikin go take good care of me when I don old more than the girl pikin or vice versa.

Concerning the society mata, I no disagree with the stat of the report, but I know say the level of gender discrimination for we country no dey like before as women don dey rise up to the challenge dey take up offices of recognition and dey do other jobs wey man dey do very well like mechanic, barbing, taxi etc. From the way things dey go, I hope to see more women involve in a lot of affairs in the family and societal level because all of us na one and there be no room for gender inequality.

Na true you talk because if you check am e get as e go be for some family wey be say nah the girl pikin go con become the overall in the sense that she go con dy do things wey the boy pikin suppose do, she go carry the family go the next level before you know favoritism don happen like so, papa go con like the girl pikin pass the boy pikin, con forget say him been say nah the boy be all and all, before you know jealousy don shake small body enter the matter. Sometimes these things dy happen but we no too dy pay attention to am.



Sometimes no blame woman oh because this thing na something wey be like scar for human body, it will only take the intervention (hehe, I speak big English there) of God to change that mindset. See eh I understand say if woman become the eye of any place, say nah she dy shine pass the others plus say everything nah she dy do well, e go cause plenty jealousy and bad belle and you no go expect other women to to body near that other woman, some women dy see am this way say if them show this person the way that person fit over shadow them so make them forget to carry them along.
The big question be say if them show them the way, them go gree acknowledge the fact say nah so so person help me? E hard oh and we get few persons too wey get that mindset and men too follow get this issue oh no be only women. ehn.

One fact way I like about this your thread be say, you no make am be about feminism. Na there e for just tire me but if na case of recognition and value, that na just based on the individual. Once you dey do well as a female child, them go according you the respect way you deserve. E get things way them no dey give person but, you fit commot come take am. If females feel say, them no dey give them enough, then take it. Person way hold something go always wan maintain control and like that, e no go give you nothing.

Another problem with women be say, women no dey support woman. If woman come out for something, other women go just commot for her back. Why? Most of them go feel jealous say, she go carry am make yanger for them later or e go be like say e don big pass them  na so them go con commot body. Like that eh, e go hard to break some kind barrier way hinder women.

The thing be say, man and woman get there place.
You go ever hear say man dey on maternity leave? Certain privileges dey get where e choke too.

Na true you talk, but the problem wey some men especially for North de see be say, female pikin go letter leave house one day do add up for some people house as a wife, while make pikn go de make house full because him go marry come d house and born children for d house again.
But no be say dem no de like d female pikin oo, dem de like dem as well just because dem go letter leave house go be family for anoder man house and family na im be d reason.


No be say I de argue wit you oo, but different societies get dem way of life.
Yes female pikin de get previlage wen it come to job opportunity, but still na anoder man house she go carry that benefit go, even if she go do something for her family e go be small because we no say she go born her pikin too and she go like take care of dem.

For North self, some men no de even allow dem wives go work outside, even though e de very wrong because d education go de useless, na why some parents self no de allow dem girl pikin go school pass secondary school because dem know say dem no go too benefit from her unlike the boy pikin.

This gender inequality no really start today, even right from creation, even for Bible you see am say baba God even create man before en go form woman for the ribs of the man, then en come tag the woman a suitable helper to the man, to me self na there the gender inequality start from,

FAMILY,
To me this gender inequality for family really depends on the kind and type of understanding wey the parents of that family Dem get, mostly the father of the house, though I dey see say for many African homes wey be say na only girl children wey them get, the matter dey really bring issues oo, some dey even cause quarrel and even divorce, because some papa Dem no dey fit get patience again, some of Dem go even leave their wife for house go play away match just because Dem dey find male pikin,

But I still don see a man for my area too wey get only female children and sincerely en dey satisfied, but I no know if him and en wife dey quarrel or fight inside house when people no dey oo, why I dey talk like this be say the man na my father friend and my father relationship with the man come link both families together so we come become family friends, and I dey hear when the man dey always talk say as God give am only female children (5 girls)say en go accept am like that, say God know why e happen like that say himself en know say en female children nai go even take care of him and en wife well well when dem don old, say na en female children en go share en properties to, say even if God bless am then en still get Male pikin say en go still give en female children better portion of his properties..

But as for me I go treat my male and female children equal oo, nai make I still talk say e depends on the family, nothing like gender inequality go dey for my family, the both genders of children na God give me am and Dem go sure get equal treatments from me wey be their papa..

SOCIETY.
for society it's always seen say the male dey always dey educated pass the female, but the female dey always dey opportuned for job employments pass the male,
Na so e dey always be, maybe because as you talk some of this managers dey feel say this female workers go do more of the marketing to attract customers to their company, while some managers dey get interest to even date the female workers them, yes una know say na truth I dey talk, so nai make Dem dey always prefer female workers in marketing pass male workers...
Na so me I see am oo,

No be lie you drop there but e get as we fit do this thing make e balance cos this our government self nah wetin them dy do sometimes dy influence the mind of some of we the youth... E hard to get better governance oh, na big work wey we need do.
E fit work out if something like wetin our govoh talk last year here if something like that dy always happen e fit work oh