It doesn't matter if the attacker is known or not unless you know a way of censoring a miner.
It does matter, because if users will stop using a given coin, then it will lose its value. Guess what: some people tried to fork Bitcoin, and they reached 51% for a short period of time. What happened next? Well, people simply sold their ALTs for BTCs, and moved on. And the same thing can happen again: you get 51%, you reorg some valid blocks, mined by other miners, and then everyone will abandon your chain, so you will be left with a lot of worthless coins.
then the other 49% might as well stop mining because they will never get another block reward
It is never the case. Miners are long-term investors. They will rather mine an altcoin, than stop mining. Which means, that if some transactions will be censored, then miners will form just another altcoin, and users will join them, because then, they will have at least some confirmations, instead of constantly seeing zero confirmations in the attacker's chain.
Currently, there are some altcoins, which have something around 1% of double SHA-256 hashrate. And guess what: they are still maintained, there are still some users, and even though the value of their coins decreased, their altcoin is still actively used. And when they were attacked more heavily, they introduced more rules, like "max 10 blocks chain reorganization", and other consensus changes, which allowed them to keep running their chain, no matter how hard they are attacked.
So, to sum up: a silent attack has much more chances to succeed. For example: the latest testnet4 soft-fork was silent, and many blocks were produced, before people noticed, what happened, and triggered a huge chain reorg, to fix it. But eventually, everything went back to normal, and timewarp rules were enforced properly. Because
Bitcoin is not ruled by miners. And I know, that it is true, because it is not the first time, when I can see, that users can enforce their rules, and force miners to mine the blocks they want. Because miners are like entrepreneurs, making blocks, and selling them to users. And if you have 51%, and you use it for attacking, then nobody will buy your blocks, and they will lose their value immediately.