Topic: Are children born out of wedlock is still a blessing from God? (Read 487 times)

Such illegal or illegitimate tag that you referred to is beginning to go away especially on the third world countries that you mentioned. Europe and America have since moved on from this old way of thinking and now Africa has joined to accept every child born as legal, this is majorly because adoption is now becoming a practice well established lately .

 Children are an heritage of God. His gift. In the society we live in, it's important that a couple get married before children come in but what if they haven't and the child comes? Fine, they have sinned but that doesn't stop the reward from coming . For me, where it becomes a problem is when you did it before getting married and when you find you are with child as the woman, due to pressure, you terminate the baby. That's like committing two sins but since I'm not God, I can't say that person is beyond being forgiven. God's gifts makes rich and adds no sorrow so it don't matter whether the child was born out of wedlock or in marriage, all are still blessings.

So assuming the couple get married and there's no issue, are you trying to tell me their marriage was not blessed or what?

Regardless of religion it's considered as sin committed if children are born out of wedlock like extra marital afraid or live in relationship or even one night stand and the region where you live plays a vital role because if you are from countries like India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and other African or Arab nations then it becomes more difficult as there will be an "Illegitimate" tag attached but I would say it's fault of the parents who did this and not the children and they would not be differentiated in the view of god.   

Children born as a result of adultery should not be labeled as illegitimate children or despicable children born into this world. Basically the child doesn't know anything about his birth into the world. it would be very cruel if someone called it like that. There is still a polemic regarding the future status of the child born as a result of adultery. According to the teachings and what I understand in my religion. Based on the consensus of the ulama, a child who is born as a result of an adulterous relationship, the child's status will be assigned to the mother's child and not to the biological father, why is that because the relationship with the biological father is severed, including legally his inheritance. He only has the right to inherit from his mother and vice versa, his mother has the right to inherit from him.
and it is still a matter of discussion what the status of a child will be when he is an adult and who has the right to be his guardian? According to the ulama, the person who has the right to be the guardian of the child's marriage will be the judge's guardian because he cannot be related to his biological father because he grew up in a fetus and gave birth without prior marriage, inversely proportional to if the child grows up in the fetus of his parents who are married and has become her mahrom. Hopefully this will be educational so that it doesn't become a misunderstanding in the future, most children who are born as a result of their biological father's adultery are considered to be able to be their guardians, they are considered normal, they are considered the same as children born to non-adultery parents when they get married later, of course This violates the rules and violates the law in religion. For that reason, let's educate the environment and people around us so that young couples don't get pregnant out of wedlock. Of course I hope and pray for everyone to avoid the sin of adultery and always fear Allah, carry out all His commandments and stay away from all His prohibitions...

One possible disadvantage for children born out of wedlock is a lack of legal safeguards and rights. In a number of nations, children born outside of marriage may not have the same inheritance privileges or have access to social services as children born to married parents. This might put children at a drawback, making it more difficult for them to achieve in life. It can also have a psychological impact on them, causing them to struggle with emotions of neglect or being dismissed, as well as preventing them from forming healthy connections. So, I believe it is essential to examine the needs of the children in these kinds of circumstances and to ensure that they have a connection to the financial and emotional stability they require to survive in spite of being born outside of marriage.

I agree with you on your saying because some parents or should I say many people say it like having a child/children before marriage is an abomination or a cures. God who gave the child knows more than we all humans but people just take that word WEDLOCK in a different way, I don't get it, God give children and bless that which he has created and we humans come about it by discriminating it and speak ill about Gods' creation, that alone should be a punishment for those who don't accept what God has done the way it is.
The way I see it, those who don't take the child as God own creation are the ones who have sinned but they don't know, after all God works in a wonderful and mysterious ways.

The question you asked are children who are born out of wedlock still a blessing from God?And the answer to that question is YES.Children are gift and blessing from God.Whether a child was born out of wedlock or not,once a child is born there is this sinful nature of the child according to religion even the bible stated it clearly to the christains every child was conceived out of sin.So it is left for the child to work out his or her own salvation.And also we are in a society where children born out of wedlock (illegitimate child) are deprived from inheriting their father's right.And these children turn out to be great in the future that's where we see the blessings of God in the lives of illegitimate children, that means our God is a God of love He doesn't look at the background or status of a person before lifting up the person

No children are born out of wedlock; we simply did not intend to have children, especially if things were not going well for us. God does not discriminate based on our relationship status; everything happens for a reason, good or bad, as long as it is from God. Children are always blessings to us in some way.

I hate to break it to you but God didn't create any children. I know this might sound as if I don't believe in God but it's a fact. Just like the way God didn't tell rain to fall before it rains, or the sun to shine before the sun shines. Things have been programmed to happen a certain way and by nature, that's how they happen. One thing leads to the other.

God (or whatever you believe in) has made it so that if a man and a woman have sex and the sperm cells of the man fertilize the eggs of the woman she'll conceive and after 9 months when the child would be born. God didn't create the child and put it in the woman's womb. Something happened. Did God also create children to put in the womb of women who were raped? No! It's just nature. After dawn comes night and then dawn again. It's just nature.

If you plant a seed in good soil that fits that particular seed, it will grow. If that seed doesn't grow then something is wrong. Likewise the case of bearing children. If all that's to happen happens yet the woman doesn't conceive, then something is wrong. So I don't believe children are a blessing from God. Children are just a product of a sperm fertilizing an egg. If there's no fertilization, there will be pregnancy, meaning no kids.

Anyway, most of the things you talked about are even beginning to change even in African society so we don't even need to worry about them anymore.

Regards to children and bearing kids, it is totally in the hands of God. You will see rich family without a child while a poor family has plenty of it and rejecting.

This is a dilemma to say the least but however, why I alluded that some of the things have started changing is that, in African society now, legal adoption of kids is now prevalent so no family has any excuse to give for not having a baby in the house after they have tried by themselves with no avail and the children from such adopted background are no longer stigmatized because almost in every extended family, you get to see a family member or someone close with adopted baby, so why the stigma and you see that is going away gradually.

Also in the past, there use to be segregation on the sex of a child because of certain benefits like being a heir to the father and inheritance purposes but now, in some states, county etc, they have really played down on those sex and even gender responsibilities because things have really changed and people have to move on, enjoying the good radiance of life. In some places in Africa, they now tell you a child is a child no matter the sex.

In Christan theology, a man born of a woman is being conceived and born a sinner. He/ she is under condemnation and is destined to go to hell fire except there is repentance, and declaring the Lord Jesus Christ His Lord and personal saviour. This gives salvation to the individual.
Again, sexual intercourse and it's attendant outcomes such as pregnancy and child birth are one of those dynamic forces of nature that occurs without recourse to secular ordinances but had been programmed by the Almighty God to occur whenever there is conjugation between male and female.
Moreover, out of wedlock or whatever it could be called as pre marital sex that definitely results to pregnancy is a sin before God. Though the child is innocent of the sexual act of the parents, all are sinners before God and guilty for condemnation. But all could be a blessing to God if repentance is effected on individual basis.
Therefore, no tribal ordinances nor philosophical praxis could declare that child illegitimate on the basis of the said outcome. Everyone is illegitimate before God except an individual repents of his/ her sins.

I believe children are supposed to be loved, protected and be taken care of, regardless they have been born inside or outside of wedlock.
Interestingly, because of the sexual freedom women have been able to claim in these lastest decades, it has become more common to see children being born outside marriage.
Even among people who are very religious and somehow end up having children outside marriage, they do not condem the conception of the children, instead, with enough time they are likely to accept the new blessing which have reached their lives and wont question whether what they did was wrong or not.
On the other hand, I have also seen people talking about abortion in the past, solely because of the stigma of getting pregnant before marriage. It gives me chills, really.
No children is guilty of being born, neither were we, so if something can be done, it would be the protectiong and caring of all children possible, not matter the status of their parents.

I never heard of such a tradition but sadly this is happening right now at our time, individuals should have their own choice when it comes to choosing their lifetime partner and they shouldn't be forced to marry someone just because their parents told them to do so or they are force to marry someone because of unpaid loans. I heard such kinds of stories in our community from my teacher and it wasn't really good for the woman because she didn't love the guy, she wasn't giving him what he wants at night, and the guy was forced to rape her and she got pregnant because of that. Then after she gets an idea where she befriends the guy until she gets an opportunity to work abroad which she does and never returns to him, she leaves both her child and her husband because she doesn't love him.

If no blessing for children born from wedlock I don't think the world will be where it is now, because if everyone trace from where we are coming from, our fore fathers and mother can be a product from wedlock . How a child was born has nothing to do with child,  children are  innocent and very special to Good almighty. Children are blessing can always do well, children can only have problem growing up based on the kind of lifestyle of their parents

I depends! You can't pass someone with a wide brush like that as a blessing or a curse nowadays because in this 3rd decade of 21st century our whole society is in a flux transitional mode worldwide. Nothing is stable now. Not even marriage as an old age institution.

I think the narrative related to your question is identifying if God is an angry God that punish the child because of the sins of the parents.  I believe that No.  He is not an angery God but a gracious one who sent His Son to serve and save the world and not to condemn it.

Hence, children who are born in wedlock may be a product of sin/s but not a curse and can also be considered a blessing (and a consequence of the actions of the parents at the same time).  It is wrong to blame the child that he/she was born unexpectedly and unplanned, it is the fault of the parents.

I still don't agree that children born out of wedlock are not blessings from God!.

 Children generally are blessings according to the bible, biblically we have records of children born through some ungodly circumstances who were later loved by God and used for lifelong purposes, people like Ishmael, Solomon etc.

In conclusion, every child is a blessing from God regardless of how they came into the world

All children are from God whether they are born from wdlock or not, we don't need to use circumstances to categorize innocent CV children because that's not the right way for us to judge people from different circumstances they might find themselves.
We need to see children as themselves whether they are from a rich family or poor family. Segregative lifestyle is not the best and we need to know what we are doing to prevent unnecessary drama.

Children born out of wedlock to me is a blessing from God, a better one for that matter and we shouldn't forget that no one knows tomorrow and what that child will become in future. Fine that act isn't good but haven't we have this thought that things might be changing for good, like those things we say ain't good is some how things that's suppose to be happening now. God knows why things happen the way they do and is not everyone who's suppose to give birth in marriage, some can only give birth in that manner (wedlock) and later get married and you'll see that the marriage is more blessed than those who waited till they got married before having children. Nobody knows how God plans things for us so to me that word and how people treat those who have children before marriage shouldn't be anymore.

Religionism has blindfolded some people to an extent that they don't want to even be enlightened. if you try to pass a better knowledge to them, you're immediately seen as an enemy or Antichrist.
Children are the nature extension of life whether it comes from unwanted pregnancy or not it's a fruit that most be kept well, according to the religious books children are blessings from God. In African culture there is nothing like wedlock it's a believe that was coined in the era of religion. I would have love to expand this knowledge but perhaps it's not worth blabbing unnecessarily.