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After a selfie with an explanation of the purchase while holding my ID which was difficult to hold up living alone
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Believe me, I feel your pain. For accessing certain services I need, for example, to provide location proof. And because of some silly politicians in my area, the address from my ID is not the same as in the utility bills (the street name has change !!! some 15 years ago !!! and the utility companies still didn't update it), so I have to go to bank and get a paper from them since they're the only ones with my proper address in their system. So as long as possible I avoid the services asking for proof of residence.
There are services more picky with the things you need to provide for identifying yourself/KYC and there are sites more lax about that.
There are services or sellers you can even find on bitcointalk. The fees also vary.
Nobody is perfect and as in every business there probably are some you'd find just fine for your needs too.
Unfortunately it's not easy to find the perfect one. So it may take quite some time or luck to find it!
TL;DR; Not all services are perfect for everybody. Research more, and ask more.