Topic: Can old generation cause the habit of gambling in young generation ? - page 9. (Read 1368 times)

Make them understand the risk of gambling and of course encourage your older family member not to talk about gambling in front of the gambling especially if you are just living in the same house. The older family member should be more responsible and should be the first one to understand the risk of it, I’m also against to this and I hope that you can educate your Children as early as now so they wont try it.

Perhaps it would be enough to tell and agree with those people who are older not to talk about gambling in front of the youngest members of your family, assuming they are mature enough to understand the implications of a early introduction to gambling, then they will gladly be careful not to introduce a young member of the family into gambling, specially playing lottery.

In the case they underestimate the issue and are not willing to stop talking about it in front of children, then it would be more productive to tell children not to get close to those adult people in the family or even better: talk to the parents of the children so they will keep a tight supervision on them and won't let them to roam around and listen stuff they are not supposed to.

If you are really that caring about that someone whose really be able to listen when those adults been talking about gambling then if you are somewhat on older age
and pretty aware on how gambling works then telling him/her about complications of gambling would really be better on where she at least aware on what are those
risks. Gambling isnt bad but as much as possible it would be better that you do step away from it considering  that risks tolerance and addiction control would really
differ into each person on which means that habit could be mold up basing up on the surrounding or environment that you are living with.

In many cultures gambling is much like smoking. It's not something you'll go to jail for, but it's totally prohibitive to do it in front of the kids.
Just as kids are more likely to start smoking if their parents also do it obvious to them.

Thankfully gambling is easy to put within certain confines. So unless someone is a problem gambler that should seek help, they should be able to limit this activity to times when it is not inhibiting their interaction with children. This is the best practice according to many experts.

Are the old people rude or arrogant and don't listen to what is said to them? I believe old people know the language of love very well, and if someone asks them gently about this and tells them that they shouldn't talk about gambling or anything as such when there are kids around, they should easily understand that and avoid doing that in the future without any problems. If you become rude and tell them aggressively about this, it will hurt their feelings and that is not a good thing because older people are important and deserve respect.

So, the issue must be handled with care as it can become a sensitive issue if it's handled badly. There should be a way will make the elderly understand the concern and the kids will be safe from getting interested in gambling or betting and will focus on things that are important to them.

naturally young people will learn things that they see older people doing, they are curious about it and definitely want to know, so that's for parents, never allow your youngest family members to see adult things before their time, they are still in the learning stage, they want to grow up to be successful people in their education, if they have gambled at a young age then their grades will definitely be bad at school, I never show my activities when playing slots to my children, they have a high curiosity, I will destroy their mental state if they know how to play slots at a young age.

Do you trust that DNA can affect a person without any actions from the family? These behaviors are passed down to the kids through discussions, like OP's case. A child that's not exposed into gambling won't begin gambling just because his grandfather was a gambler. A catalyst must be added in the child's life, that'll push him into gambling activities, growing up. Kids tend to learn from their society; where they grew up. A child with parents or relatives that disdain gambling activities won't have any reason to venture into gambling, despite having a DNA of a gambler. I'm saying this because in psycho therapy, family rules matters, a child follows rules according to his family's love and hate for a specific thing or action. Children in environments where gambling are discussed, will think it's a normal rule of life to gamble. Hence, the problem with society why we have well trained children living a different life outside their family rules is peers association. They can influence themselves, if a child from a home where gambling is seen as a normal activity meets another child with hate for gambling, one person can be influenced. Hence the confusion sets in, and parents can conclude that something is beginning to change about the life of their child. So, the problem doesn't get solved completely by disassociating the kids from the gamblers. It requires strong self discipline for a child to be the influencer, and not the influenced. That's where your point of teaching our kids and guiding them on appropriate lifestyles, gets valid. Those kids won't remain in that compound forever, they also attend schools. To be on a safe side, closely monitoring our kids after school and asking them relevant questions is quite necessary. Through, their answers and behavior, parents can determine if their child is having a bad influence.

To be honest, in my experience, cases like this are difficult to find a solution for other than high awareness of these people. what I mean is, old people who still like to gamble. I remembered a thread discussing DNA and gen for gambling. in short, based on related threads. based on references to research results and scientific data, what our parents and ancestors did can be passed on to their descendants, including a love of gambling and so on. which means that without these old people discussing games and betting, these young people also have the potential to be interested in gambling maybe one day.

But the point of what we are discussing is not that, but what the solution is for the case that occurred in this post. and as I said at the beginning, a high awareness of not discussing things that younger people, especially those still in education, should not hear is the main thing. whatever it is, it's not just about gambling.
With high awareness, let's say we are an example, we will not show our children playing slots, or even talk about betting on football or cricket. Do things that are appropriate in front of our children, or those that still need guidance. So, that's the point. Second point, invite our children only to the part that is their focus. for example learning, or what can be understood at his age. Thus, what you don't want is at least a precautionary measure. anyway, I'm sure there are much better suggestions from the community.

Indeed, playing will not always yield to addiction 'coz it is dependent to what kind of a person you are. To any kind of game, greed will be the underlying factor towards addiction. If they are playing cricket betting and they happened to be profitable in such way, the it would be fine adopting such habit especially if the individual to learn such behavior is no longer a minor; therefore he already has is own decision with almost everything. But if it is somehow a negative activity to ones who are doing it first, then I see no reason why it should be passed down to younger ones.

I think that to avoid having situations where an elderly person in your family who is a regular at gambling leads to more games in your family playing games as well, you will need to look at their age first, then you need to look at what activities they all the days these young people have been doing, and where do they get money from and what is the maximum amount of money that these young people in your family can have per month. Let's imagine that in the first case you know that your young relatives are minors, in this case you could tell your parents so that they can inform the elderly person that they are involved in gambling so that they don't play in front of underage children. , I think that the elderly will have to respect the decisions of the parents of minors

In the second scenario you discover that the young people in your family are of legal age and unemployed and that their sources of money come from their parents' pockets, so you can talk to the elderly person so that he doesn't say anything to the young people about gambling anyway. Don't make young people start gambling and lose the little money their parents give them and then start selling their parents' goods to gamble. because we need to realize that getting a job is very difficult nowadays and everyone wants to earn a lot of money quickly and easily, young people because they are unemployed and in despair due to lack of money, they used all means to continue playing because they thought that you will be able to make a lot of money quickly

In the third scenario, you would know that all the young people in your family have jobs and wives, so you wouldn't have much to do other than give a warning to the elderly person not to say anything to the young people about gambling in the case of young people already are involved in gambling, then you can sit down with them and talk to them about the importance of not looking at gambling as a way of getting rich quick or a fixed income. You could also tell them about the risk of them becoming addicted and losing everything: money, jobs and wives

Hardly can you solve problems these days aggressively. The elderly people will feel harried, due to the hard thoughts of leaving a house, where to go, etc. When solving a problem, endeavor to amicably settle dispute for both parties to remain friends. If Op applies your haughty advise, the chaos can lead the older people to a heartbreak. First they need to be told, about the future impact of their discussion on the kids. Only a feeble-minded person will drive his relatives, neighbors or whoever they're to OP, away without prior warning. You've got nice decision, anything is worth it for the safety of those kids, but they're stages to every action. The two above can be applied when they're too stubborn and doesn't want to stop despite being warned by the OP. Remember freedom of speech. They didn't bully the kids. The old people only are having such discussions, ignorantly. Not everybody is privileged to be as intelligent as you're regarding the effects of discussing about gambling around kids. What if these kids hear similar conversations amongst school peers, without Op's knowledge, he'll be helpless. He should be thankful he's aware of the occurrence of such an open discussions. The aim is to change both the adults and the kids, hence it's crucial to be rational whenever we are hurt and wish to make decisions. Dialogue solves lots of problems, not even daffy behaviors of those elderly people can be exempted. Aggression, worsen issues, and we end up achieving grief, hatred and harebrained results.

Why do you want the younger generations of your family to focus only in studies? It's not healthy for anyone to focus only in one aspect of their lives, especially studies, which is a very stressing and exhausting one, which naturally demans the individual to focus on another matters to relief and relax through entertaining activities, including gambling, so they don't get exhausted, neither develop further diseases for that reason. There is not problem in being a studious person, while taking some breaks from times to times to gamble or do any other leisure activity.

You just have to guide the younger generations of your family to do this in a balanced way, explaining them the importance of the studies and the importance of having a moment of pleasure between the duties of daily life. Also, explain the risks of gambling and enlight them about the fact it's not a money making method, therefore, the older generations of the family must be losing money on long term. Is that what they want for their lives as well? I don't think so.

I want you to stop for a moment and think about this- all the older people in your family who play these fantastic game addicted to it? How is their lifestyle are there in depth because of these games how about their relationship with their spouse and their kids? If everything is okay with them I see no reason why you should act as a gatekeeper to prevent the younger ones from learning a thing or two from them.

Your take on family gambling and generational interactions is great. It ignores implicit learning's importance. While young people rarely engage in gambling talks, what about the subtle cues? Body language, excitement, and disappointment during debates are powerful teachers. Young people are often aware of environmental undercurrents even when not actively engaged.

Think about it: Lack of direct conversation doesnt mean no influence. Thinking ethics will prevent youth from embracing such practices is naive. Unspoken lessons in their environment can be equally influential, if not more so. While studying is important, can we disregard the ambient impacts of such familial habits? Isnt it harder to create an environment where healthy habits are modeled and discussed?

It is their fault of the elderly person in your family which are talking in front of the young generation.I think the young generation needs to be preserved very well from bad habits which honestly nowadays in the time where we live are in a lot of places.If we do not keep them safe by talking openly in front of them for bad things it is normally that they will be impacted and there is no escape from this.I think the elderly should talk about how studies will help you achieve a better life overall compared as if you do not study and end up doing really ordinary random jobs and not good ones,that is what elderly should do and not talk about cricket fantasy games.

I suppose "playing" was what you mean where you said "paying" right! By the ways, why do you dislike the cricket so much or you just want to break that generational bond from your kids?

Sports doesn't lies inside the gene, it's a physical appearance of it that makes people to fall in love with it. If you want your own children not follow the same pattern of love for cricket, you have to learn to make the kids stay away from them, it's might look like too odd but that is what I think is the best for the children because they are easily influence by what they see around and hear about. You may also talk to the elders not to say such things when you children are around, they will do as you say for the sake of them.

You might also want to start teaching them to love other new sports that you think might not affect them. It's not that hard, all you need is to spend more of your time with the children and give them all the attention they need to stay focus on what you want them to learn. You might also want to enroll them into other sports that doesn't involve them into gambling such as racing and other out door activities.

It is true that little boys and girls can retain everything they see in their brains. Here your family talks about gambling in front of young boys and girls I think that gambling and sports betting should never be exposed to young boys and girls because they will eventually become interested in gambling after hearing this. To stop all of this I would advise everyone in your family to keep the conversation away from small children. After that, they should not have such discussions with small boys and girls. It is good to discuss anything related to studies in front of the children to make them focus on studies.

Why not tell your older family members to only speak about gambling when the kids aren't around? I think within a family it should be possible to talk openly about issues and that there is the respect to not influence the upbringing of your kids. For me it all depends on the age of the kids, it's fine if the grand parents take their 14 year old grand children to play lottery or scratch cards. Also, isn't it possible to play fantasy league sports without betting real money on it? My experience with fantasy sport is very limited, but I think we can make a difference between the sport itself and the money being placed on their games. My grand dad gambled a lot and took me with him when he played the lottery every week and it didn't have a big impact on my own gambling. These days I rarely play the lottery and it's probably my least favorite game to play for money. Just be open with your family and tell them not to influence your underage children.

Well, sometimes the old people are right in their opinion because they have more experience and they are telling things based on their experiences. The new gamblers may not know about the things which the experienced gamblers know and therefore we can say that there is no alternative to experience.


Of course, if you talk about gambling in front of kids, sooner or later they will get to know about it and may get influenced to gamble if their elders are gambling and are much involved in gambling. Kids won't care about the end result or outcome of gambling, if they found their parents and elders brother sisters involved in gambling, they will just want to do the same and may force their parents to give them a chance to play and gamble.

I think that will starts from you if you want to alter that situation. If you're into an extended family I think the head should be the one to enforce that gambling is prohibited even to be talked while at home but if the head is the one that initiates it, that's a real problem. Being apart from those who do gambling will stop it.