Topic: Chinese Men need to spend a huge money to get married. Most cannot get married (Read 204 times)

“self-esteem must be really low”  i must say that your sentence is particularly accurate.

In a society where men are 20% more than women, in a society where all people are only children in a family , the family rights are the women-dominated society .and so on.......


When the market is biased toward the seller, the buyer  it must be  low self-esteem , and the right to choose is reduced.

If the product is too expensive, don't buy, look elsewhere for a better value.

Why would you want to pay for a wife?  Isn't it a form of prostitution; except you are buying in bulk?

Your self-esteem must be really low if you are willing to pay for sex and are fine with it.

So I have to say something more hurtful, maybe these words many women can not accept, but I'm still more rational.

In China, men are 20% more than women. Women are scarce. Women once had less rights than men. but  because of the scarcity of women, women’s rights are already equal to men’s. I think it’s easy to understand.

However, influenced by the international community, more and more Chinese women are beginning to believe in feminism. This is an unreasonable feminist word of mouth. It is not the same as the feminism of the international community.

Maybe my understanding is biased, but I think that feminism should be that women can work and start their own business like men. By doing so, they can get the same social resources as men and thus gain the same respect as men.
What feminism pursues is no difference from men in rights and duties，BUT .... MANY chinese WOMEN Choose to ignore duties

From the marriage you can see that men have to pay all to get a woman, which in itself is unfair.
Women’s power in the family was far higher than that of men. It was a common situation to get nothing.
You know that taking care of children and cleaning up the house are all jobs. I think this is the same as men working outside.
However, these jobs appear to Chinese women as a violation of their rights.

To put it bluntly, only giving them enough money to keep them from without working and playing all the time is to respect them.
Allowing them to take care of children is trampling on their rights. Men need to do cooking and cleaning up the house. Men need to go out to make money and women do not make.

Under such circumstances, how can society pay attention to women?
Women want rights. First of all, women do the work you should do instead of doing parasites at home. You should work together like men to work hard, instead of enjoying the sense of superiority that Chinese women have.

O.M.G i didin't know this was what you have to pass through in China before you can get married. I know this is a great law to abide but trust me most folks cannot afford the pricing you have to go through before. Marriage bride price has to be made flexible so that each and everyone can afford this . This would increase high rate of singles in the country.  Men won't be able to live with their gilrfriends until it turns to marriage. Switching from one girlfriend to the other would be a behavior. I hope something can be done about this.

This is quite a funny thread. Sadly, the original post is not funny at all. When I visited China I heard about many of this problems. It seems like the OP has great English. This should be a good thing. I think it may be better to look outside of China. There are actually many countries that have more women than men. You can check this website: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_sex_ratio. Russia and Ukraine, for example, have much more women than men. It may be difficult to get them to go live in China, but it's certainly possible. Many Russians already live in China. They won't expect so much money.

Great topic for myself because a few days ago I was reading about the history of infanticide throughout human cultures https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Infanticide and in the China section it shows  that there are 120 males per 100 females.



In some culture having a boy is more prestigious, and that drove me nuts because it's setting up the boy population for frustration, having to fight harder for female.

By getting rid of girls, they are actually giving the surviving girls more power, because landing one becomes harder. Kind of reminds me of crypto, and value.

If you are Chinese, and you are ready for marrying an Indian girl without a dowry, then on average you will get a girl who looks like this:



If you can spend $10,000, then you will get a girl who looks like this:



If you could spend $100,000, then you will get a girl who looks like this:



But why stick with India? You will get far better deals in Thailand.

Because China's housing prices are very high, and Chinese people's wages are very low!

It's hard for ordinary people to buy a house, and a man who wants to get married will spend his parents' money forever!

And there are more men than women in China, and sometimes men in poor areas have to go to Vietnam to buy Vietnamese girls to get married!

I do not know whether such marriage is a tradition or indeed as a rule in your country. I am grateful that my country is not. Every citizen has its own way according to religion and belief. My country is multi-faith and all are recognized by state regulations, and on average they do not incriminate any party to marry.

Hahaha... if you spend $1 million, then you can get at least 100 women. There are a lot of impoverished areas in India and if you could spend $5000 or $10,000 on the family, then they will happily marry-off the daughter to you. But I really doubt whether Chinese men require to pay money to get married in India. Like I said earlier, fair skinned grooms are in huge demand and normally the brides need to pay a dowry for marriage.

Marriage is an agreement. Sometimes it is an agreement between two families that a couple get married. This is an arranged marriage. Another example of an arranged marriage is when a government authorizes a marriage.

Most marriages are made by agreement between the man and woman wanting to get married. If they agree that tradition or government rules are binding in their marriage, then the marriage hasn't been finalized until tradition or legalities have been fulfilled.

If you are a slave in China - most all citizens of China are slaves to the Chinese Government - you might have to abide by the legal laws of the Government. If you are "slaves" to the traditions of your families or a religion, you might have to abide by the legalities of the traditions or the religion.

If you are free people in China or anywhere in the world, get married by agreement. If the man and the woman make the agreement to be married, they are married. To make it formal, write it down on paper, and sign it in front of witnesses. If you don't know how to read and write, then put your thumb prints on the document. File the signed document in some publicly available place so that people can go and look to see that you made the agreement.

The real marriage comes about by agreement.

I feel for you man, I do not know enough about Chinese culture so I can't say much, in my country, it's all about finding the right woman and the costs must be paid by both parties, I wish you can find a woman like that someday and you both can live happily together, working hard and suffering together, I believe that's all that love is about. I respect Chinese culture a lot but I believe sometimes they overwork the men too much, but I also don't know where is fine changing or not... Anyway, good luck!

Yeah... India would be a good option, as there is a good demand for fair-skinned grooms in all parts of India. But the language barrier will be a problem, and we should not forget the fact that there is a shortage of brides in India as well (especially in states such as Haryana and Punjab).

You can go to Paris or America to look for work and look for your future wife there marriage depends on how the of you decided and how your life will be, if you can find your partners because of money then try to be in other places, there you may find your true love and you'll get married when the of you have enough budget to spend on your marriage.

AWALT (proofed and confirmed using among others, scientific methods).

Getting married has become on of the most difficult tasks to accomplish recently because the demand for money to marry continues to increase periodically. What you're saying is also same in my culture/country. The man will pay the 'bride price' and also would need to be very stable (house-preferably, car-preferably, well-paying job- mandatory) and so much more.

Yep I have witnessed so many situations of that sort and the new couple (especially the man) will be in hot waters to find money to settle the debt asap!

That shouldn't be the case. There is much to do and spend after marriage. An average man who spends a lot at the beginning of marriage might lose a lot.
What then will be used for housekeeping at the beginning of the marriage if all has been spent. If most are not getting married, then fornication will be on the rise, causing abortion to increase as well.

I never agree to this type of tradition. Marriage depend on the capability of the couple. A simple marriage is not so bad and this will not determine the relationship of the couple. There is no need to spend your entire fortune just to get married and get poor paying the debts afterwards. I think that the family of both parties are being selfish and what they only care about is what other people will say about the marriage. Marriage should be sacred and sincere, not extravagant or expensive.

This is a very common trnend where people spend a whole lot of money just to get married but I don’t think that this should be the norm. Most people borrow money to have a lavish wedding and it’s mostly the bride that convinces the groom to do that.

metropolitan regions suck maybe you should use blessing of online tech and move to rural india/china

dont get raped by those urban property investment punks and their rent desires... they will drain of your life like vampires